Kaffy, the popular Nigerian dancer whose real name is Kafayat Oluwatoyin Shafau, has shared a shocking story about her childhood.
She revealed that when she was just 13 years old, her mother accused her of having an affair with one of her boyfriends.
Speaking on the podcast The Honest Bunch, Kaffy explained that after her parents’ divorce, her mother dated several men.
Kaffy and her siblings were close to these men, even calling them “daddies,” as they were missing a father figure in their lives. However, Kaffy’s mother was insecure about how close the children were to her boyfriends and suspected them of having secret affairs.
Kaffy recounted a particularly traumatic incident. One day, she was trying to help one of her mother’s boyfriends clean a cut on his face that he got while shaving. Her mother walked into the room and misinterpreted what she saw. In a fit of suspicion, her mother stripped Kaffy naked and flogged her in front of everyone in their living room.
“I was 13 when my mother started suspecting me with her own men,” Kaffy stated. She described how this experience was deeply traumatizing. “That had its own traumatizing effect on the mind on its own. But then you are thinking, ‘But that’s my mother, would I do that to my mother? Why would my mother even think of that of me, the daughter?'”
She added that this event created a cycle of insecurity, transferring her mother’s fears to her. Kaffy said that this childhood trauma and the “emotional abuse” from her parent motivated her to break free and become the successful woman she is today.
