Popular singer, Timi Dakolo has revealed that he told his children about their mother’s rape ordeal. The ‘Everything’(Amen) crooner made this known during in an interview with media personality, Toke Makinwa on her ‘Toke Moments’ show.
According to him:” I raised my kids differently. A child expressing themselves is not disrespect. One of the problems we had as children is that we cannot tell our parents how we felt about certain things. I had to make them know that their mother is a super hero.I told them a very painful experience happened to their mom when she was young.I told them, sometimes when mummy is quiet, just leave her. They understood, they might not know the gravity of what it is, but they understood that something was up. So anytime they come to mummy, it is to hug her”.
Asked how he felt when his wife told him about her rape ordeal, Dakolo said:” When she told me, I was very quiet”.
Speaking further, Dakolo stated that people put too much religiosity around the concept of marriage.
“I think we are placing too many religion in front of this thing called marriage. Let me give you an instance, it is not every time the husband talks that the wife shouldn’t talk. I don’t know who ever sat down to say that thing. I can still be silent and still be stubborn. It’s not every time love is in its highest. Forever is such a long time for you to make a mistake. People need to sit down and say ‘This is how it is with me’, without an external input first. Let them lay the basis of what this thing is going to be. Everything should be based on truth. A lot of people married the concept of marriage and not the human being. Human beings will fail you, at some point they will let you down. We are prone to make mistakes. You must give off a part of your ego to stay in marriage. There are things that you will not like that this person does, but you have to meet them somewhere”.