Exceptional female drummer, Aralola Olumuyiwa, popularly called Ara stunned many of her fans when she recently revealed that she cannot state the qualities she desires in a man she would get married to.
Speaking during an instagram live session with veteran journalist, Azuh Arinze she said: “When you are in the spotlight you are a target. People can go online, read your interviews, target you, study what you like and use you as a casestudy.I just hope that there are still people who have integrity out there. If I wanted to break people’s home, I would have gotten married. I have a very loud conscience, I am very careful and I know God will give me my own. I am patient. I am a lover girl, I am not moved by material things. I am deep. I am not telling you what I want in a man, when I see him I will know him. This aspect of saying what I want in a man is what they use to come and get me.When I see him, my God will show me.I am not talking about those things again”.
Ara also recounted that at some point in her career a father figure let her down.
“One person I thought I could hold on to as a friend as a father let me down. My mother came to my rescue at some point”.
When asked about the lessons she learnt from that phase of her life, she answered: “Nobody can make you a star unless God makes you a star. But God will not come down, he will send people to position you. I learnt to trust fully in God. Because in those moments where it was just me and my head, I decided to have an imaginary friend that I spoke to.I also learnt to guide my mental space. People should guide their mental space. I see people break down, they are not guiding their mental space. They allow people to finger their brains. Although it’s difficult to know sometimes”.