Micheal West
I read a report recently where it was claimed that men now prefer rich older women for relationship and marriage than going for single, struggling and low income earning women.
They attributed this trend to economic factor which has resulted in mass unemployment of many skilled, literate and unlearned men. I noticed that women poured venoms and sarcastic remarks on men for choosing that option by hinging their reasons on laziness and craze for easier routes to comfortable lifestyle on the part of such men.
It is traditionally believed that men should be more financially empowered than their women. The man is obliged to provide for the home, care for both his wife and children, provide shelter and security including medicare for his household. With these chain of responsibilities, the man that lives up to his expectation will naturally enjoy respect, peace, faithfulness and support of his wife.
The Bible also makes it mandatory that every man should provide for his own immediate family as a matter of priority. Whoever fails to do this, the Word says he’s “denied the faith, and he’s worse than an infidel.” In view of this divine order, every human society has come to embrace the norm. However, the reality of economic climate these days apparently is demanding, not a reversal of this natural order but a mutual understanding, cooperation and support from women in relationship or marriage.
There are several cultural and traditional injustices done to women in this age; many of these are aberration against humanity and divine ethics. For instance, while the society tolerates infidelity by men, it vehemently frowns at it with serious punitive sanctions if the same offence is committed by women.
Culturally, widows, especially older women are shared out like items in heritance but not so with widowers. It is a taboo to sleep with a Queen (a royal father’s wife) or the wife of some ‘powerful’ men but these class of men in turn can sleep around, use women as pastime and fun. And in case of separation, their women would need some rituals for cleansing before she can have sexual dealings with other men but conversely, not so with the men.
I watched a short video where an interment took place. It depicted an oriental culture where the wife of a late local chief or head of a clan must be buried with his wife alive. The woman was made to lie down inside the grave, then a six-foot plank was placed on top of her as she cried, wept and lamented her unfortunate destiny.
The dead body of her husband was laid on the plank and finally, another plank was be placed on the corpse before the mourners began to cover the grave with sand. Unfortunately, the woman died a painful death. Therefore, I feel so much for women in abusive relationships, hostile family environment; most especially, those despised, rejected, dejected, lonely and vulnerable mothers who are potential suspects in every death of their husbands or children.
In spite of these societal, cultural deprivations as well as privileges and rights bestowed women, rich women still crave for love and home. One of the cardinal desires of every woman is to be married, stay married and become mothers of beautiful, healthy and potentially great children.
But hey, there’s a problem here, women with good or well-paid jobs, affluent background or successful in business often look down on men with less financial ability. They view every suitor through the lens of money, brand of cars and class of family background. Do I blame them? Yes! I do because many of them are wasting and playing away their precious time waiting for their own Mr. Bill Gates or Cristiano Ronaldo whose bank accounts would dwarf their own as husbands.
I know there are men who perch on such women like parasites but that is not enough reason to shut down their hearts to genuine love completely.
Prospecting for celebrities that would attract media attention at every turn is keeping many of them perpetually single. Like I did admonish Linda Ikeji and her ilk in May 19, 2017 edition, I counseled that for me, I think Linda and her ilk are merely paying lip service to the desire for marriage. They surely know what to do if, indeed, they want to settle down into blissful matrimony. She lamented that she was busy developing her career in blogging while completely allowing her love life to suffer. Now that she had made the money, she is in need of what money cannot practically buy – a husband!
Let the truth be told, the only dowry rich women either young or older women have to offer in marriage is their money. Nobody is saying rich babes should marry jobless, lazy or indigent suitors but seeing every man coming their way as potential gold-diggers is preposterous. Marriage, like life itself, is give-and-take. Candidly, such women should live with the reality that as long as they hole up in their comfort zone of luxury and ostentation, they will remain incommunicado, unreachable, and unattainable to those that genuinely desire them for marriage. For them to keep prospecting for richer guys like Mark Zuckerberg, Lionel Messi or Bill Gate, they may have to wait till eternity.
Part of the reality is that there are few available responsible men with sustainable means of income to keep a home. Gone are the days when men were exchanging blows over women. There’s scarcity of men who are husband materials in the market these days. This is necessitating the turn of the table in the opposite direction as rich women now deplore what they have (money) to get what they need. Enough of pretence, please!