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  • My wife squandered N2m I gave her for business – Man tells court

    My wife squandered N2m I gave her for business – Man tells court

    A Civil Servant, Ibe Kufu, on Thursday prayed a Customary Court in Jikwoyi, Abuja, to grant him divorce on grounds that his wife squandered the N2 million he gave her to start a business

    The petitioner who resides in Abuja, said this in a divorce petition he filed against his wife before the court.

    “My wife is a reckless spender. She is unable to account for the N2 million I gave her for a business,” he said.

    The petitioner also told the court that his wife has been trying to kill him.

    “My wife has been trying so hard to kill me. She has told me several times that she will kill me,’’ he said.

    He also alleged that his wife brings her boyfriend into their matrimonial home, whenever he travels.

    He begged the court to save his life by granting him divorce and custody of the children of the marriage.

    The respondent, Oma, who is a businesswoman was not present in court.

    The presiding judge, Labaran Gusau, adjourned the matter until March 24 for further hearing.

  • Dissolving my marriage toughest decision this year – BBNaija star, Ka3na

    Dissolving my marriage toughest decision this year – BBNaija star, Ka3na

    Big Brother Nigeria (BBNaija), Ka3na has said dissolving her marriage and moving abroad has been the toughest decision for her so far this year.

    TheNewsGuru.com (TNG) reports Ka3na made this known via her verified Instagram handle on Sunday, saying she did not get the support of her family and friends in the process.

    “Dissolving my marriage and moving abroad so far has been the toughest decision this year without the support of my family and friends.

    “As some women here may have experienced..Pressing the RESTART button is always the most dreaded action button when considering a divorce.

    “But I take a stand with —Nathan W. Morris; “Life Is A Master Piece. Edit It Frequently And RUTHLESSLY,” she captioned a photo of her and her daughter on Instagram.

    TNG reports Ka3na recently called it quit with her 65-year-old white husband, Mr Jones, and relocated abroad with their only child.

    Ka3na had been married to the white man, whose whole identity is scarcely known, for over six (6) years.

    Before the divorce, Ka3na and her now ex-husband celebrated their 6th year marriage anniversary together. She specifically expressed joy in being with him.

    The former BBNaija housemate also shared some erotic details of how she spent her wedding anniversary.

    Ka3na revealed she gave Mr Jones the best blow job ever known to man.

  • Emotional Divorce: A Catalyst for Marital Breakup – By Michael West

    Emotional Divorce: A Catalyst for Marital Breakup – By Michael West

    By Michael West

    “Sir, I want to walk away from my marriage now before something tragic happens. I had wanted to quit February 2021 but people mounted pressure on me to stay back. They said I should try and pray more saying the situation was not beyond remedy. I agreed not because I hope that anything positive would ensue but just to satisfy those who intervened. More so I didn’t want to portray myself as being rigid or as having a hidden plan for my action. Now it is one year after but the situation has rather gone from bad to worse. Because of that, I stopped having sexual intimacy with him for months till date. It’s getting to a dangerous level that hearing his voice usually stoke hatred and bitterness in me. He, too, told me last week that he’s feeling like harming me. My life is no longer safe with him in the house. I’m emotionally disconnected from him. Touching me is so hurting and irritating that it wells up anger within me. I think it is better we go our separate ways before the unthinkable happens!”

    That was a caller’s complaint to me last weekend. Since the beginning of this year, I have weighed in on a number of emotionally disconnected cases. Before a marital conflict could degenerate to physical separation, emotional divorce must have taken place. To stay together in a relationship, people must get emotionally connected. Some people call it “body chemistry.” Nobody can live or share stuff with someone they feel repulsive about their presence. It takes emotional stimulation and psychological appeal to feel attracted and attached to a partner. These are parts of natural indicators of compatibility. Emotional and communication walls are the first to break down in a relationship before a separation or divorce can take place. These are the pivots on which every purposeful and sustainable relationship revolves.

    Higher percentage of troubled marriages are already in emotional divorce. Several of them are struggling with fitful communication issues. Reasons for these are as many as one can deduce based on experiences and the reality of situations. Disputing couples can share the same bed for months and years without body contact or sexual intimacy. That’s the zenith of emotional disconnect. If the situation is not addressed in good time, malice, rejection and deep-seated animosity would ensue.

    Emotional divorce often precedes a legal divorce. It is a psychological mechanism some spouses use to separate their emotions from the marriage when they feel the relationship has become a threat to their well-being. It is a marital relationship in which the partners live separate lives, with an absence of normal interaction between them. If a partner has decided to go for divorce, they will first attain emotional distancing; as convenient this may seem, it is usually a traumatic experience. Going through an emotional divorce means you’re distancing yourself emotionally from your partner. For some spouses, this happens before the divorce. For others, it doesn’t happen until after the divorce process.

    According to Virginia Williamson, an American licensed marriage and family therapist, “An emotional divorce is just as it sounds,” essentially emotionally exiting the marriage. During an emotional divorce, a spouse divests from trying to work on or repair the marriage and typically moves through the stages of grief in an effort to let the marriage and their partner go.”

    In practical terms, most divorce cases are one-sided. It is in rare cases will a couple mutually arrive at a decision to divorce. Usually, it is the spouse who has already separated themselves emotionally from the marriage that requests for a divorce. Already, the spouse that has gone through an “emotional divorce” now plans to be legally divorced from their spouse. And while divorce is certainly difficult on both sides, the partner who has gone through emotional divorce before taking seeking a legal divorce may find the process easier than the partner who is feeling rejected and shocked by the development.

    Some spouses struggle for years with feelings of emotional distance before they realize that divorce is the solution. These spouses are commonly referred to as a “walk-away spouse.” A walk-away spouse may become emotionally detached for a variety of reasons. Emotionally divorcing a spouse helps the person maintain a sense of psychological integrity if faced with what they feel is an emotionally demanding situation. The spouse who is left to deal with their emotions after the legal divorce is commonly referred to as the “left-behind spouse.”

    In a post on ‘emotional divorce’ during the week, a United States based counsellor, singer and gospel minister, Olubukola Adediran aka Sister Bukky, stated that “A lot of couples are emotionally divorced. This is a dangerous situation. One spouse has emotionally moved on while the other is suffering or still thinking, hoping and praying that things will change for the better. Husband and wife have moved on; they are both emotionally detached and disconnected from each other in the marriage. In fact, they live like flat mates. They engage each other only when things they own in common need attention or they have decisions to make regarding shared bills or facilities.

    “God created the beautiful institution of marriage but from the inception, it is a known fact that it is not devoid of problems. The very first union that produced you and I had problems. People often concern themselves with physical separation via formal divorce processes, but many more people are emotionally divorced, psychologically detached and mentally disconnected from one another. No feelings, no affection, no urges for sexual intimacy, no unity of purpose, no mutual understanding or agreements, and nothing in their union that typifies oneness in marriage. It is strictly business because there are financial obligations involved in running the home as well as care for the children.

    “Who are we deceiving? Couples like these are merely pretending as they consciously race on the slippery ground until the inevitable happens. Are relationships like this redeemable? YES, to some and NO, to some. It all depends on individual situation. The only people who determine redeemability are those involved, and most importantly – what God is saying or what He has said concerning the situation.

    “Society is often a very big problem. Religion without commonsense and knowledge, spirituality without insight or direction are serious problems. External interests, not considering the interests of the people involved in distressed marriages, are also part of the problems we have – ‘what will people say!’ This post does not oppose divorce and neither does it promote divorce. It strongly suggests that knowing what the problem is, you should deal with it appropriately. We should note that a good marriage is not one without problems! Marriage takes a lot of work. Forgiveness plays a great role. So, a right marriage may still have issues. Yes, serious issues at that. In turbulent marriages, some of God’s children have gone home untimely, families have lost sons and daughters unduly and prematurely, too. Individuals have lost direction and are struggling to get a life in life and find a path to rediscover and understand themselves.

    “Don’t overhype your problem, it may be dangerous. Calm down! Your situation may still be redeemable. Don’t underhype your problem either. See it as it is. Face it or face out! Get help! Seek the face of God. Be real! Know what you want and do what’s best in your situation. Be bold! Be strong! You deserve to live and be who you were destined to be. You are important! Yes! You’re!”

    “Emotional and communication walls are the first to break down in a relationship before a separation or divorce can take place. These are the pivots on which every purposeful and sustainable relationship revolves.”

    • West wrote via

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  • Kim Kardashian legally divorces Kanye West

    Kim Kardashian legally divorces Kanye West

    A Los Angeles judge has granted reality TV star, Kim Kardashian’s request to be declared legally single from rapper Kanye West, after nearly eight years of marriage.

    The businesswoman and star of “Keeping Up with the Kardashians” filed for divorce a year ago, citing irreconcilable differences with West, who had legally changed his name to Ye.

    The couple have four children from ages two to eight.

    West, 44, had objected to the divorce and publicly appealed for his wife to return to their marriage.

    In recent Instagram posts, he criticised her parenting and her new relationship with “Saturday Night Live” actor Pete Davidson.

    Los Angeles Superior Court Judge Steve Cochran approved Kardashian’s petition to end the marriage through a bifurcation proceeding, which allowed for a change in marital status while other issues were addressed.

    “The Court grants termination of the marital status,” the judge said in a written order issued after a public hearing.

    A representative for West did not respond to a request for comment.

    West and Kardashian, 41, married in May 2014, making them one of the most talked about celebrity couples in Hollywood, popularly known as “Kimye.”

    The couple’s relationship became strained in 2020 when West, who suffered from bipolar disorder, ran an unsuccessful campaign marked by erratic statements to be elected U.S. president under his self-styled Birthday Party.

    The pair grew further apart with the 21-time Grammy winner spending most of his time at his ranch in Wyoming and Kardashian remaining in their Calabasas, California, mansion outside Los Angeles.

    Kardashian released a statement urging compassion for West’s mental heath struggles.

    The marriage was the first for West and the third for Kardashian after she had brief marriages with basketball player Kris Humphries and music producer Damon Thomas.

  • Bad marriage: Women are wailing, men are dying! – By Michael West

    Bad marriage: Women are wailing, men are dying! – By Michael West

    By Michael West

    A foremost Christian faith father expressed his grave concern about the dangerous trend of increasing rate of divorce in the society, and in particular, among Christian couples which is the consequence of bad marriages. In a tone depicting a deep concern, the popular clergy believes that both sexes are endangered species in marital crisis situation that has been leading to tragic deaths of warring spouses.

    “I don’t miss any of your articles on marriage and societal ills. It is appalling to see what the institution of holy matrimony has turned to. By the privileged position some of us occupy in the Body of Christ, I can confirm to you that many men are also suffering, in fact, some are dying in silence. It is women’s ordeals that we get to hear more but many men are languishing in pains and regrets in their matrimonial homes,” he said.

    When I reminded him of the miserable condition and danger inherent in making wrong choices as the root cause of bad marriages, he said his concern was how best to intervene and curtail the sad cases of spousal murders which are becoming rampart these days. Like those who have expressed deep pity for spouses stuck in bad marriages, he restrained himself from recommending divorce as a possible solution but he’s of view that separation that would give room for peace during which contending issues can be resolved was preferable.

    Religious tenets, cultural and societal values will rather work to preserve homes than allow separation or divorce. The truth is that nobody ever wishes to experience broken home! It is harrowing especially when children are involved. But now that acrimonious marriages have become shorter routes to the grave, something urgent and feasible has to be done.

    I have listened to several marriage counsellors and relationship coaches giving analytical prognoses and offer solutions to diverse marital issues. However, where the causes of disputes are fundamental or spiritual, such troubled marriages do not respond to prescribed solutions. But in families where their issues are neither spiritual nor fundamental, then, those academic, professional and experiential approaches to character modification and attitudinal adjustment would work well.

    Beyond sexual immorality, factors leading to divorce these days are many. The choice of life partners we make is key. Whoever ends up with a wrong choice should not should not hesitate to quit when their life or health is in jeopardy. That is not to say good and promising marriages won’t have their own fair share of challenges; of course they do but it will be workable, amendable and bearable without regrets or much pains. It is in such a situation that God wants us to learn patience, endurance, increased faith in God, appreciating each other better and understanding love languages, working on self to become better, less snappy but more tolerant as well as interceding in prayers for the home.

    Leaders are often evasive in their responses whenever they talk about bad marriage. Save expressing pity and compassion on the victims, they’re cautious in offering suggestions on the way out of bad marriage. Sadly if the unexpected happens, people will blame the dead for staying put in a life threatening marriage whereas if the late had attempted to quit, it is the same set of people that would mount pressure on the person to stay back. They will use all kinds of reasons and sentiments including children, fear of the unknown out there, the religious and societal stigma etc until it becomes too late to help.

    Pastor E. A. Adeboye of the Redeemed Christian Church of God in a sermon that went viral on the internet said: “It is better to be single than marry the wrong person. If you marry the wrong person your hell begins on earth. It takes only the supernatural intervention of the Almighty God to rescue you if you marry the wrong fellow.” This is perfect! Absolute truth! It takes only God to RESCUE the victim! My question is how will the rescue operation take place? Certainly it is not safe to remain in the troubled or jinxed marriage and neither separation nor divorce was suggested, I’m sure death is not the rescue that Daddy G. O was referring to here, neither was it the rapture. I will leave the rest to your judgment.

    This is one of the reasons I’m advocating for a solemn assembly of God’s Generals in this generation to come together and review the institution of marriage in view of the existing reality in order to stop spousal murders and curtail incessant marital breakups. In the days of the Apostles, knotty issues were tabled for robust debate and consideration in Jerusalem from where solid and acceptable decisions were made for the Church. Such resolutions are still binding on all believers till date. As representatives of Christ, the Church leaders have such mandate under the leading of the Holy Spirit to painstakingly juxtapose the reality of our situation in line with the scriptures to come up with new rules and guidelines regarding holy matrimony for us. Shying away from frontally tackling the problem is cowardly and it’s not helpful at all.

    For real, some men are not fortunate with good wives. No matter how hard they try, the little support they need from their wives to achieve something for the family is denied. Some women would rather spend their money on aso ebi, makeup kits and other frivolities than cooperate with their men for the good of the family. Such callous women hardly last in marriage. A number of men had died prematurely due to marital problems but they’re unsung victims because they are not women. Many are still weeping in their closets without anyone to comfort them. In case they choose to speak out, who will listen to or even believe their stories? Single dads are more in pains than single moms. Let’s be kind to each other in marriage please! Men are dying silently but nobody cares!

    I do receive calls at least three to four times a week from people complaining about the kind of ugly situation they found themselves in their marriages. Beyond the acts of infidelity and sexual immorality, women complain more about uncaring and gross irresponsible attitudes of their men. Candidly, stingy men are worse than philanderers! I have lost count of cases I could mention here but more homes have broken due to acts of irresponsibility as demonstrated by stingy and selfish behaviours than infidelity. A miser is a killer! He would rather watch his spouse being overwhelmed by financial challenges than part with his money to save her situation. Stingy men and violent husbands are the same. While one kills with punches the other kills with neglect and callousness. Misers are shameless lot who would not mind being fed by their wives even when they have money to give but they withhold it. They ignore and laugh off insults hauled at them provided their money remains in their pockets. Only a limited number of them are moved by the needs of their children. They smartly abdicate their responsibilities by pushing their primary responsibilities to their wives or at best share the bills. I’m not referring to jobless, struggling or needy men who have little to offer, no, I mean men that are able but unwilling. You know what? Such niggards are horse riders in the bedrooms who are always in the mood for their women’s attention. This is one of the reasons they quarrel often. Bad guys!

    ‘We’re all work in progress’

    Last week’s edition elicited widespread responses from far and near. I forwarded most of the responses to her. Emails are still dropping as I wrap up this column yesterday. As divergent as the views and opinions canvassed were, they’re all valuable even when some were judgmental. She sent in a word of appreciation to readers who took time to communicate their responses. She also spoke with some persons who had genuine reasons to contact her through me. Her message reads:

    “I wish to express immense appreciation to everyone who reacted/responded to my story. I patiently read all the analyses, suggestions and the criticisms. I do appreciate all. I intend to apply the useful pieces of advice to chart a course for the future, with God on my side. We’re all work in progress in the hands of our Creator. I believe in Him for the best in all things. Thanks so much good people and God bless you all. From Mrs. I. Anthony”

    • West wrote via mikeawe@yahoo.co.uk

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    08059964446

  • Nollywood actor Jim Iyke opens up on failed marriage

    Nollywood actor Jim Iyke opens up on failed marriage

    Nollywood actor Jim Iyke has openly confessed that he had a failed marriage nobody knows about. The film star, in a chat with Chude Jideonwo, the media entrepreneur, said he keeps his personal life private.

    Iyke stated that he hates to be figured out, hence his reason for keeping his marital life out of public scrutiny.

    “I’ve had a failed marriage. I have two, three beautiful kids. How are you going to know? You can’t follow my partner. You’ll never understand. Even people who live in my space don’t know how I move,” he said.

    “I hate to be figured out. Once you figure me out, I have nothing else to offer. So that’s the potency in it. I refuse to be figured out. I refuse to be tamed.”

    In 2013, a video showing Iyke in a deliverance session at the Synagogue Church of all Nations had surfaced online.

    Iyke touched on how the subsequent death of his mother, for whom he had sought spiritual healing, crushed him.

    “When I lost my mum, I couldn’t find my feet for years. There’s an understanding, spirituality, and connection that I lost. People always wondered how I rise from things that were supposed to bury me,” he said, wiping his tears.

    “My mum was lying in a hospital bed in a coma but they were saying I’m playing theatrics. I said, ‘I will live in this church for two years if you heal my mum.’ What happened, I don’t know. I saw the video and said it’s not me.

    “But that’s me. I’m not an island of knowledge. I’ve done my part but one thing you can take to the bank is that, until I die, I’m the true son of Gladys.”

    The movie star also talked about trying his hands on several businesses that eventually failed.

    “I’m expeditious in opening gates but I just don’t know how to man the gates,” Iyke added.

  • ‘My hubby is lazy, I want to quit!’

    ‘My hubby is lazy, I want to quit!’

    By Michael West

    The reality is staring at us in the face about complicated marital issues bedeviling many homes these days. In the ages gone by, divorce was nearly a taboo. It was like a stigma which was considered a dent on the family name and as an aberration against the conjugal institution. Beyond sexual immorality as a ground for divorce, today, the reality is that other issues like physical and verbal assaults, domestic violence, neglect, nagging, hot jealousy, bitterness, infidelity and acts of irresponsibility as well as frustrating one’s purpose or vision are recurring factors that engender increasing cases of divorce. Society and religion unknowingly are fertilizing grounds for spousal murders because when warring couples ought to have given themselves a space for peace and later reconciliation, ‘forcing’ them to live together for religious and societal correctness could lead to death of either of them. Again, sentiment about children is not helpful either. It takes a living parent to take care of children but when the parent dies prematurely in marital crisis who will then care for the children? To avoid another spousal tragedy triggered by bitterness and bottled up anger is the reason an avowed reader of this column, Mrs. Iyanuoluwa Anthony from Surulere, Lagos, sent in her story which I publish with her consent. Read on:

    “Dear Sir, please permit me to vent. Recently, the elegant stallion, Onyeka Onwenu came to the open about the circumstances that led to her divorce and I saw myself clearly in her story.

    “I have been married for more than 20 years. I met my husband in the university where we both graduated same year. I had always made it known that I would further my studies and I did encourage him to do same and he agreed. I probably chose him out of sheer innocence and naivety because with the benefit of hindsight, the telltale signs of the man he later became were all there ab initio. When we started our family life, I gave my husband all the support I thought was right including paying the house rent and giving him my first car while I went to work by public transport. I did that because from day one, I had always earned higher than him. I did all these in the belief that I had to submit all to him as a Christian wife and I also believed that a better future awaited us. I have always been a stern believer in delayed gratification.

    “Well, time came and I went back to school and I earned three Master’s degrees in addition to my first degree. I encouraged my husband to also acquire more education because the future belongs to the educated. Of course, my husband didn’t budge. At some point, an uncle of mine even obtained a scratch card of a foremost university for him in order to go for a Master’s degree, the card expired eventually because he didn’t even bother to go to the school to apply for admission. I worked with a bank and the fact that I had those degrees facilitated my rapid promotion at work. I kept progressing and even moved across the banking industry rapidly, each time with higher remunerations.

    “By this time, it had become normal for me to pay our children’s fees and pick virtually all the bills at home. I also bought a land in our names and built the house while my husband looked on. If I tell the story of the building, some details would make it appear like scenes in a fictional movie. He knows how much I earn and so the complacency became heightened. At some point, depression set in despite maintaining a stoic silence about my woes in the burdensome marriage. Then, I began to talk and nag. Well, this cast me in a bad light among my people who thought I had become arrogant because they said I was “luckier than him.” I would weep at the drop of a hat, lay awake all night (even till this moment that I’m writing). They thought I was disrespecting him because up until I began to talk, people saw us as a perfect couple.

    “About two years ago, he got sacked at the small company where he had worked for 26 years without adding even a single diploma to his first degree. The company sent him packing because it had evolved and no longer needed dead woods! Now, he stays home permanently while I go to work and bring food to the table for him to eat. When his dresses get worn, I also make it a point of duty to buy new ones for him because I do not want him to bring shame to me and our children. I set him up in a business after he lost his job but he spent the capital on gambling, games and betting apps. Now, he stays at home all day loitering and eating food he does not provide. He occupies his time with television viewing all day without knowing how cable TV subscription is paid. Our children are now adults and they are angry because they see the difference between their dad and their friends’ daddies.

    “Dear Sir, I have endured all these with equanimity for years and now I am tired, frustrated and infuriated. Anytime I come back home and meet him watching television, I weep. I’m foot dragging on filing for divorce partially because of certain considerations. However, I have asked myself time and again if this is how I intend to live the rest of my life. Anytime I attend wedding ceremonies, I wonder what ‘nonsense’ the couples are entering into because marriage has lost its value in my estimation. I find myself envying widows now because, at least, they are free from the woes of this over-hyped institution.

    “The sadness I feel every time I come back home to see him glued to the television screen can sink a ship but he carries on as if we have a perfect relationship. I am so bitter because I know I am hurting myself. I am dying inside while the world thinks all is well with me. He is also fond of boasting to people about the schools our children attend and how the house was built whereas he added not a dime to anything, all he does is to tag along with whatever I do. I would have been happy if he has a job that enables him to function as a family man no matter how small. I would celebrate him if he does that and makes himself a good example to the children. I am not expecting to make a Dangote out of him, all I want is a man who recognises his roles and carries them out without leaving the rudder of his family to his wife alone! The financial, emotional and physical pressures are eating me up. His presence in the house does more harm to my psyche than good. At work, I’m usually cheerful and happy but returning home after close of work becomes a heartache. His siblings are aware and they keep begging and praying for me. Sometimes when I lose my cool with him, he begs me and tells me how much he appreciates my efforts.

    “Aside his acute indolence and complacency, he is a man of prayer. He can fast for a whole year but is that what makes a responsible husband? Does the Bible not describe a man who does not take care of his household worse than an infidel? (1 Timothy 5:8). Does the Bible not say that he that does not work should not eat? (2 Thessalonians 3:10). Is this how we would remain until we grow old?

    “I have long lost the sense of being married. I feel so single and lonely especially since we don’t even have sexual intimacy again. I think we have had sex only four times in the last four years – that is a generous one time per year! Sex is the last thing on my mind as it has paled significantly in the light of the burdens I bear. How can I get out of this? Please help me before I go real crazy. Thank you sir.”

    Please respond to her story by suggesting the way forward for her as deem appropriate. Happy weekend.

    • West wrote via mikeawe@yahoo.co.uk

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  • Atiku Abubakar’s third wife, .Jennifer breaks silence, gives reasons why they are divorcing

    Atiku Abubakar’s third wife, .Jennifer breaks silence, gives reasons why they are divorcing

    The third wife of former Vice President Atiku Abubakar, Jennifer Abubakar has opened up on her divorce with the 2019 presidential candidate of the People’s Democratic Party (PDP).

    Jennifer in an exclusive statement to The Trent gave insights into her marriage, the ongoing divorce saga and the circumstances concerning their estrangement.

    Jennifer, who originally hails from Onitsha, Anambra, while replying to the newspaper’s enquiry on circulating rumours on social media accusing her of disposing of the couple’s Dubai real estate illegally, among other allegations mentioned that she requested for the divorce from her husband and mentioned prominent Nigerians who had mediated in their relationship crisis.

    The full statement, delivered to The Trent by Dr Abubakar is reproduced below:

    For some time now, especially in the last few weeks, there has been a whole lot of rumours and in circulation about the state of my marriage to his Excellency Alhaji Atiku Abubakar, the Waziri Adamawa, GCON. The stories got more vicious as they continued to circulate. I deem it necessary to defend myself against the calculated propaganda to malign my character and position me in a bad light and damage my name. Without resorting to nonsensical talk, I would address the two key issues at hand:

    (1) That I asked for a divorce because His Excellency got married again.

    (2) That I sold his Excellency’s house in Dubai.

    That I asked for a divorce because His Excellency got married again

    • On June. 26, 2021, I asked His Excellency to grant me a divorce in light of the breakdown of our marriage. And, during that period, I told his Excellency that I remain at his Excellency’s service to continue to assist him in his activities even If I am no longer married to him. Suffice it to say that several friends of his Excellency tried to mediate in this matter. I thank them most graciously and remain grateful for their efforts, Peter Okocha, Senator Ben Obi, Tunde Ayeni, Captain Yahaya and Senator Ben Bruce.

    • The core reason for the divorce was disagreement over my continued stay in the United Kingdom, to look after my children and several other long-standing issues. I needed to play the role of a mother at this time to the children who have gone through the absence of both father and mother growing up; especially, with the passage of my elder sister who used to look after them. Furthermore, in light of COVID times, choosing to stay with the children was nonnegotiable. And, in line with Northern culture, the new wife takes up the baton so I can also focus on giving the kids more care.

    • Despite not informing us officially according to northern/Islamic culture, I knew about his Excellency’s new wife from the time Excellency was dating her and when his Excellency eventually married her. I have graciously invited our new wife to my son’s wedding in Dubai in 2018 without any ill feelings and congratulated his Excellency when our new wife put to bed.

    • I was already aware that His Excellency had gotten married to our new wife but that did not deter me from supporting His Excellency and indeed, we went through a most rigorous electioneering campaign and garnered massive support for his election in 2019.

    • That His Excellency married a new wife was never the cause of our problem as many have said. His Excellency is a Moslem and I have never questioned him about his wives or intended.

    I hope this brings this issue to rest as I did not leave the house because of his new marriage.

    Moving out of the matrimonial Home in Asokoro and Yola

    • The Matrimonial home in Asokoro which we reside was gifted to me by him even before we moved into that home from a previous residence. Indeed, His Excellency caused his Private Secretary to process the DEED of assignment documents for the house, which he did and handed. me the documents. I then commenced processing the title to the property.

    • During the initial mediation discussion, Excellency denied that he gifted the house even after I showed him

    the document with the signatures of his aide, his Excellency asked me to give him the deed of gift. “When I asked him, where will me and the kids stay when we come to Nigeria?”, he told me that since I am the one that asked for a divorce, I should find a place to stay and subsequently, I moved out.

    • His Excellency further gave orders to have my nephews living with me in the house ejected within an hour of his order and gave orders that I and my family members are not allowed to enter the house. Hence, during my last visit to Nigeria in December, 2021, I stayed at a hotel. I have long released these assets to him and hereby reiterate that thee titles are at his disposal to pick up whenever he deems fit.

    Dubai Home

    • There has been a lot of speculation on the Dubai home. For a while now, I had purposely stayed away the Dubai until I took custody of that property September 2021 after his Excellency reneged on his word to give the current value of the said property in exchange. When I came to Nigeria, in early September, 2021. I asked to have a private conversation with His Excellency. During that conversation, I informed his Excellency that once I get back to the United Kingdom, I will go to Dubai and take over the house. He subsequently departed for his medical trip to Germany refusing to address any of the issues I privately wanted to conclude with him outside of third parties.

    • I subsequently travelled to Dubai, and took custody of the said property. Once I did that, on 18 September 2021, His Excellency sent me a text and I quote: “I hear you have moved to Dubai to takeover the house. I am still in Germany for my medicals. Make sure all my properties including (redacted) are intact so I can collect all my properties. I wish you well’.

    • I responded to him: “ Excellency, I am left with no other option as we need to get on with our lives amicably. I hope your medicals are coming up good. I wish you well too’.

    • On 19th September, 2021 in response to his text that I am not being amicable and I quote ”Good morning, with due respect, Excellency, I told you on Saturday before you left for Germany, that I was going back to UK, take [our son]back for his test, then come to Dubai. I reiterated that day the need for an amicable resolution. I maintain that stance and remain at your service Your Excellency’.

    • Further on Tuesday, 21 September, 2021, I asked His Excellency in another text whether he wanted me to pack up his clothes and give to Rahim (his driver) since the driver on his instructions was moving his cars. I also asked Excellency in that text whether he wanted me to have Rahim pack up his office. Then his Excellency sent me a text back and asked: ‘So its true you have sold the villa?’

    • Subsequently, His Excellency sent the driver to take possession of all the cars.

    The truth subsists with regard to the Dubai house. I will make no further comments on it because it is the subject of litigation filed by his Excellency against me.

    I need to also put on record that if I wanted to take His Excellency assets, I would not have returned to him his property documents in Abuja and Jos and document, allowed the driver to collect his cars, gave up the house in Asokoro and Yola.

    The last time I was in Nigeria I called to have the Asokoro and Yola documents delivered to him. It was never picked up and I still state that Excellency is free to send someone to have the documents picked up anytime he deems fit.

    Threats/Intimidation

    • Since this incident, I fear for my safety and that of my kids. His Excellency’s security operatives especially Ibro and others have making threats and calling my relatives, friends and staff and searching for my assets to seize and monitoring my phone calls and those of friends and relatiives. For that reason, I have exited my law firm and sold all my assets and moved abroad until peace reigns.

    • I have done nothing wrong except to ask for a divorce and it pains me that I have to use this medium to address thorny issues but fear that at this point, I would have to put my side of the story on record. It is obvious that a campaign of calumny to total discredit and put me in bad light has begun.

    Despite all that has happened, I reiterate that I asked for a quiet divorce which had if it had been granted, we would not be where we are today. Divorce is never an easy process for both parties. I reiterate that I hope we can settle our issues privately and I would remain at His Excellency’s service should he need my help, anytime.

  • Woman demands divorce, says husband lasts only one minute in bed

    Woman demands divorce, says husband lasts only one minute in bed

    A 32-year-old housewife, Zainab Shehu, yesterday prayed a Shari’a court sitting at Rigasa, Kaduna state to dissolve her marriage over the alleged inability of her husband, Faisal Yahaya, to satisfy her sexually, saying that her husband is a one-minute man in bed.

    Shehu, who resides in the Rigasa area of Kaduna, said: “my husband is a one-minute man in bed.
    “I have advised him to seek medical help. He agreed and took some herbs but later stopped taking it.

    “I don’t want to sin against God that is why I want a divorce so that I can remarry a healthier man”, she said.

    On his part, Yahaya, 60, is denied the claims, saying he was fit and healthy.
    The judge, Malam Abubakar Salisu-Tureta ordered the couple to go to the hospital for a check-up for Yahaya to know the cause of his predicament.
    He adjourned until Feb. 3 for the hospital test results to be reported.

  • Pastor ends 23-year-old marriage with wife in Lagos over differences

    Pastor ends 23-year-old marriage with wife in Lagos over differences

    An Igando Customary Court in Lagos on Thursday, dissolved a 23-year-old marriage between a clergy, Pastor Dele Adewale and his wife, Favour over irreconcilable differences.

    The President of the Court, Mr Adeniyi Koledoye, who granted Adewale’s request for divorce, held that the dissolution for lack of compatibility.

    “The court has come to the conclusion that the marriage between the couple had broken down irretrievable therefore, the dissolution of their marriage is successful.

    “It is proper for both parties to go their separate ways since they are tired of the marriage and all efforts to reconcile them failed.

    “The court hereby pronounces the marriage between Dele and Favour Adewale dissolved today. Both of you henceforth cease to be husband and wife,” he held/

    Koledoye gave custody of the third and fourth children to Favour and ordered Adewale to pay N10, 000 monthly for their feeding.

    He also ordered Adewale to pay a severance allowance of N150,000 to his wife and also pay N200,000 to enable her get an apartment.

    Adewale, 52, told the court that his wife of 23 years, wanted him dead.

    ”She poisoned my food twice. My wife forced me to abandon my house due to her threat to kill me.

    “She is violent in nature. She hits me,” he said.

    Favour denied poisoning her husband’s food.

    “I never poisoned his food nor hit him,” she said.

    The 48-year-old trader said that her husband was an irresponsible father.

    The mother of four said that her husband abandoned their matrimonial home for two years.