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  • Domestic violence in marriage: Way out – By Chima Nwosu

    Domestic violence in marriage: Way out – By Chima Nwosu

    Domestic violence/abuse is when one person in a marriage or intimate relationship tries to dominate, or excessively control the other. An abuser is someone who treats another person in a cruel, violent or unfair way. An abuser uses dominance, humiliation, isolation, threats, intimidation, denial and blames, etc. to get control over his/her victim. An abuser can be a man or a woman. Usually, it starts from threats, verbal assault, to physical violence.

    Abuse can be physical, emotional, psychological, etc. The physical injury may pose as the greatest danger. But the emotional and psychological aspects are also very damaging. It can destroy the victim’s self worth, lead to anxiety and depression, can make one feel helpless and alone; which can also be suicidal. Men, as well as women, also suffer these kind of abuses. But most times, women tend to be victims of physical abuse more.

    Most people in abusive marriages may not know. Some feel they’re the reason why their spouses are abusing them. So they try everything possible to please their spouse, which in most cases, they’re difficult to please.

    Signs of abusive marriage

    1. You’re scared of your spouse anytime s/he is around.
    2. You avoid certain topics or discussions because you don’t want to offend your spouse.
    3. Always afraid to talk to your spouse or make a request.
    4. You feel you are the one always at fault. Anytime you’re abused, you caused it.
    5. You feel you are not good enough for your spouse.
    6. Rather than appreciate you when you deserve it, your spouse belittles or criticizes you.
    7. You feel embarrassed to meet your friends and family members because of what you’ve been reduced to.
    8. Your spouse blames you for their abusive behaviour.
    9. S/he feels threatened by your achievements.
    10. Limits your access to family, friends, money, phone, car, etc.

    Way out of abusive marriage

    One major way out of an abusive marriage is to involve both families if dialogue with your spouse has failed. That is the reason why marriages involve both families from day one.

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    But where there is a serious threat to your life, take a time out. Taking time out does not mean divorce. It’s a healing process. It can help both parties to heal and have a change of behaviour. It’s only the living that celebrates Marriage/ Wedding Anniversaries.

    By the grace of God, we will gradually get it right and have healthy and enjoyable marriages.

  • Osinachi’s death: I’m suffering for what I do not know – Husband, Peter cries out

    Osinachi’s death: I’m suffering for what I do not know – Husband, Peter cries out

    Peter Nwachukwu, the husband of late gospel singer, Osinachi Nwachukwu has cried out saying he is suffering for what he does not know about.

    TheNewsGuru.com (TNG) reports Peter said this on Friday as he was being moved along after he was ordered to be remanded in Kuje Correctional Centre.

    “Let me tell the whole world, I have suffered a lot. I have been abandoned. What killed my wife was cancer of the lungs, I didn’t hit my wife.

    “Cancer of the lungs killed my wife, Osinachi Nwachukwu, so I’m suffering for what I do not know,“ he said.

    Peter was remanded pending the hearing and determination of the alleged homicide charge filed against him by the Attorney-General of the Federation.

    Justice Njideka Nwosu-Iheme gave the order following the defendant’s not guilty plea to the  23-count charge bordering on domestic violence and homicide instituted against him.

    The judge also said that the matter would be given an accelerated hearing. She adjourned the matter until June 16 and 17 by 12 noon and 9 am respectively.

    Recall that Peter was arrested by the Nigeria Police after his wife died on April 8 following wide spread allegations by their children, family and colleagues that he battered her leading to her death.

    According to the charge, the crime he allegedly committed contravenes Sections 104 and 379 of the Administration of Criminal Justice Act, (ACJA) 2015, Section 221 of the Penal Code and the Violence Against Person’s Prohibition Act (VAPP) 2015.

    The charge read in part: “That you Peter Nwachukwu, 56, male, on the April 8 at Aco Estate, opposite Police Station, Lugbe, Abuja, FCT, within the jurisdiction of this court, did commit an offence to with: culpable homicide punishable with death in that you caused the death of Osinachi N.

    “This was caused by your various acts of violence and aggravated assault with the knowledge that her death would be the probable consequence of your act.

    “Particulars of offence: That you, Peter Nwachukwu, male, sometime between  Nov. 14, 2009 and April 2022 at Aco Estate, opposite Police Station, Lugbe, Abuja, FCT, within the jurisdiction of this court, did commit an offence to wit: emotional, verbal and psychological abuse on Mrs Osinachi Nwachukwu (deceased).

    “This was caused  by humiliating her and making utterances like ‘you are smelling,’ ‘you are mad,’ to her in the presence of her music crew members.”

    The statement of offence bordered on emotional, verbal and psychological abuse contrary to Section 14(1) of the Violence Against Persons (Prohibition) Act, 2015 and punishable under the same section of the Act.

    TNG reports the late gospel singer was popularly known for her song “Ekwueme”.

  • Warri man, Fregene beats lover to pulp

    A Warri man, Patrick Fregene, has beaten his 19-year-old lover to pulp, in Delta State.

     

    The teenager is in critical condition after receiving the beating of her life by her boyfriend.

     

    The young lady is claimed to have met Fregene, via the internet.

     

    He reportedly invited her to Warri and has ever since turned her into a punching bag.

     

    “He has been locking her indoor and beating her continuously without his neighbors knowing.

     

    “Thank God for the intervention of his elder brother who heard her crying at night and broke down the door only to discover her like this.

     

    “She has been taken to the nearest hospital for treatment.” a source narrated.

     

    Human rights activist, Comrade Israel Joe, who shared a video of the victim on Facebook, revealed the lady’s boyfriend is currently on the run.

     

    “A quick visit this morning to the 19 years old akwa-Ibom state lady, beaten to a pulp by her boyfriend in Ugboroke, Uvwie, Delta State. There is no justification for such action against anyone and the law would take its course even if the said suspect is on the run,” he wrote.

     

    In another development, a 10-year-old girl who was allegedly trafficked from Enugu to Abuja to work as house help for a couple has been rescued by a Nigerian lawyer.

     

    The lawyer, Mr. Archbong, who identified the minor as Onyebube, testified that she was subjected to physical abuse by her boss’s husband for bedwetting.

     

    According to Mr. Archbong, the incident happened at Range View Estate, News Engineering, in Abuja.

     

    Sharing a video showing the young girl with bruises on her back, the lawyer revealed that the man who subjected the little girl to such torture has been arrested.

  • Some women are witches, men are going through a lot – Omoni Oboli fumes

    Some women are witches, men are going through a lot – Omoni Oboli fumes

    Nigerian actress and filmmaker, Omoni Oboli has weighed in on the public discourse of domestic violence in marriage and stressed that men are going through a lot and that some women are witches.

    TheNewsGuru.com (TNG) reports Oboli made this known amidst the wave of the cases of domestic violence that has been reported to the point of saturation very recently.

    The filmmaker noted that she is the mother of boys and that he will not allow his boys to pass through any form of abuse when they eventually start having relationships or even in their marriage.

    “Men are going through a lot too! Some women are witches! I’m a mom of boys. I’m the sweetest person. My sons’ girlfriends and wives will enjoy me immensely but if you try to hurt my son, my sister in the lord! You will see a LION,” Oboli posted on her Instagram story.

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    Some women are witches, men are going through a lot - Omoni Oboli fumes

  • 2nd wife better than domestic violence – Princess

    2nd wife better than domestic violence – Princess

    Following the second-wife saga of Nollywood actor Yul Edochie, former Big Brother Naija housemate, Princess Francis has shared her thoughts on the issue.

    Princess who wrote on her Insterstory on Friday said, “Second wife is better than domestic violence. Nobody holy pass.”

    Yul welcomed a bouncing baby with his colleague turned baby mama, Judy in 2021.

    The rumour had spread, but the actor made the official announcement on his Instagram page on Wednesday, where he shared pictures of himself and his son.

    He added that he loves the child as much as he loved his older four children, which he shared with his first wife, May.

  • Osinachi’s death: Apostle Suleman sends strong warning to church members

    Osinachi’s death: Apostle Suleman sends strong warning to church members

    Apostle Johnson Suleman, the General Overseer of Omega Fire Ministries International has sent strong warning to his church members, following the death of popular gospel singer, Osinachi Nwachukwu.

    TheNewsGuru.com (TNG) reports Apostle Suleman gave the warning during a sermon in his church on Sunday, while advising women in abusive marriages to leave while they are still alive.

    Suleman chastised husbands who beat or maltreat their spouses in any way, stressing that there are some marriages that should break.

    He especially warned his church members against beating or maltreating their spouses, adding that if any wife should report her husband, he will gather brothers in the church to beat such man up.

    “All those women that their husbands are beating, don’t they have brothers? If they don’t have biological brothers, they have Christian brothers.

    “If you are in this church and you are beating your wife, stop it. If she reports you to me, we will beat you.

    “I will go to the police station and take permission before I gather brothers in this church to beat you,” he said.

    TNG reports Suleman’s warning is coming following the death of Osinachi. The Ekwueme singer was said to have died as a result of alleged domestic violence suffered in the hands of her husband, Peter Nwachukwu.

  • Toxic women destroy good men too – Actress, Dayo Amusa confesses

    Toxic women destroy good men too – Actress, Dayo Amusa confesses

    Nollywood actress, Dayo Amusa, has shared her view about what leads to domestic violence and the reason marriages crash. She confessed that toxic women destroy good men too.

    Amusa pointed out that asides toxic men who destroy good women, toxic women also destroy good men.

    She tweeted: ”Toxic women destroy good men too but we barely talk about that”

    Since the death of gospel Singer, Osinachi, allegedly from domestic violence, the media have been awash with opinion and views which mostly condemned men who batter their wives. The impression then given is that most, if not all domestic violence issues, men are the guilty party.

    Amusa’s views, in her tweets, have tended now to urge a full consideration of domestic violence.

  • Osinachi: We won’t make her autopsy result public – National Hospital

    Osinachi: We won’t make her autopsy result public – National Hospital

    The National Hospital, Abuja has said the report of the autopsy of Osinachi Nwachukwu conducted on her body will not be made public.

    The hospital management insisted the procedure is to make it available to the police.

    The surgical procedure to determine the cause, mode and manner of death of the late lead chorister of Dunamis International Gospel Centre, was ongoing.

    The Chief Medical Director of National Hospital, Abuja, Dr Jeff Momoh, said on a telephone, Saturday, that the report of the autopsy would be released to the Nigeria Police, which he said, made a request for the post-mortem examination.

    “The report is going to the people who made the request, it won’t be disclosed to the public at all,” Momoh said, refusing to talk more.

    Recall that acting on the demand of Osinachi’s family, the Federal Capital Territory, FCT Police Command, had requested a post-mortem examination on the body of the deceased from the hospital where she reportedly died.

    The family had alleged that the singer died as a result of domestic violence she suffered at the hands of her husband and manager, Mr Peter Nwachukwu.

    The accused, who was promptly picked up by the police, following the allegation, is undergoing interrogation in the custody of the law enforcement agency.

    TheNewsGuru.com (TNG) recalls that the husband had equally denied culpability, that his hands are clean insisting he was not the one that killed his wife.

    But his children during interrogation had alleged that their father was fond of beating their mum.

  • Late Osinachi Nwachukwu’s producer, Sunny Pee releases last WhatsApp chat with her

    Late Osinachi Nwachukwu’s producer, Sunny Pee releases last WhatsApp chat with her

    Sunny Pee, the producer of the late Osinachi Nwachukwu, has shared a WhatsApp chat confirming the domestic violence reports faced by the singer before her death, stressing that the husband of the deceased, Peter, was extremely possessive of her returns made on every song and show attended.

     

    According to Sunny Pee, Osinachi’s husband was jealous of her career and efforts to save the singer from the marriage proved abortive as she deemed it on herself to make her marriage work.

     

    While sharing the screenshot of their last conversation, the producer wrote; “So much to say about this unfortunate situation but this space is not the right place!!! When you make money and your husband collects all the money and leaves you penniless!

     

    “When your husband brings you to the studio gets angry and leaves you in the studio without even transportation to return home. I’ve personally told this woman to leave this marriage but she kept making excuses for the monster!

     

    “The last song we recorded, was our chat below! We were recording a song that she doesn’t want her husband to know. The last time I told her to leave the marriage, she asked me to help her talk to her Pastor which was difficult for me because I don’t have a relationship with him!

     

    “Before you say why didn’t we say it early, you can’t help a person who’s not ready to be helped! The last time I spoke about the husband on Facebook here, He went on his wall and made a lot of senseless statements!!

     

    Mrs Osinachi Nwachukwu is an example of a typical Nigerian woman who always feels it’s their responsibility to make a marriage work even when their life is at risk! God Rest Her Soul.”

  • Nigerian lady calls off wedding to hold on Saturday over fiance’s abusive nature

    Nigerian lady calls off wedding to hold on Saturday over fiance’s abusive nature

    A Nigerian lady identifed as Ada Uburu has called off her wedding slated this Saturday 16th, April 2022 following her fiance’s abusive nature.

     

    Narrating her ordeal on Facebook, the embattled lady noted that being beaten was not part of the agreement in the scheduled marriage.

     

    “I AM CALLING OFF THE WEDDING AND TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE (IGBA NGWU) BETWEEN ME AND DAVID OKIKE that supposed to hold on this Saturday 16th, April 2022,” she posted.

     

    Her lengthy post on Facebook has since garnered thousands of reactions.

     

    According to the lady: “I never wanted to bring this here but I have to, I am a type of person who likes to keep my relationship away from social media but this is for clarification purposes.

     

    “This was my secondary school classmate who I thought I knew to an extent. On December 28, 2020 he did the 1st and 2nd stage in my family marriage list which bride price happened to be on the 2nd stage which he paid. After he paid my bride price he started maltreating me.

     

    “2021 was hell for me that at some point I left home, after everything we settled around November 2021 which he promised he will never beat me again. But still nothing CHANGED.

     

    “This is my reason why I am CALLING OFF the Traditional Marriage (Igba Ngwu) and White Wedding ceremony between me and DAVID OKIKE OFF. (Beating me was not part of the agreement in our Marriage).

     

    “This Saturday should have been my traditional and white wedding ceremony day…. I supposed to be happy but I am not.

     

    “For couple of months now I have been going through a lot.

     

    “I have been in a TOXIC RELATIONSHIP for OVER a YEAR now.. I am aware that this may be a shock to many people, especially people from my Home Town. My supposed husband HIT and ABUSE me in any slightest provocation, just small misunderstanding without minding what condition I am into.

     

    “Because I have chosen ME and I will not live my entire life facing DOMESTIC VIOLENCE. My supposed husband is full of RAGE, BEATING me with his Belt, Stick, Broom is his DAILY ROUTINE, Many a times he had lifted his hammer ? on me and this Monday last week just because of little misunderstanding he beat me mercilessly and on the process of it he rushed into his mother’s kitchen for a cutlass, when I noticed he’s going for a weapon I locked the door behind him which he forcefully opened, both his mother and Sisters and some neighbors were begging him not to cut me with the cutlass … With all these things and more I am fed up.

     

    “Please to my family and friends I am so sorry for any inconvenience this may have caused you ??.

     

    “But I will not end up with a man who always promise that if I didn’t kill him, that he will kill me.

     

    “I am still suffering from unstoppable headache I sustained from the head injury he gave me 3 weeks ago.

     

    “The “bride price paid” will be Returned in due time. Please Respect my choices. Thanks and God bless you all.©ADA UBURU.”