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  • Witchcraft, infidelity myth busted

    Witchcraft, infidelity myth busted

    A myth related to witchcraft and infidelity has been busted by Dr Seidu Bello, Director of Cleft and Facial Deformity Foundation, Abuja.

    Dr Bello busted the myth during a training, which has “The Role of the Media as a Tool for Reporting Cleft” as its theme.

    He explained that orofacial cleft, also known as cleft lip and cleft palate, openings or splits in the roof of the mouth and lip was a medical abnormality.

    Bello said the medical abnormality occurs when certain body parts and structures do not fuse during foetal development.

    “It is a medical abnormality and not an act of witchcraft, infidelity and other myths,” Bello said on Tuesday in Keffi, Nasarawa State.

    Bello further explained that the medical abnormally usually occurs within the first three months of pregnancy.

    According to him, the major cause of Orofacial cleft is unknown.

    “What is certain is that there are predisposing factors which are either genetic or environmental,” he said.

    Bello further revealed that there were two types of cleft: the typical and atypical, adding that both could be repaired through surgery.

    The two-day training organised by SmileTrain is focused on enhancing journalists’ knowledge and understanding of basic concepts of cleft lip, their differences, among others.

    SmileTrain has 54 surgical partners across the six geopolitical zones of Nigeria who provide free comprehensive cleft care and surgery in their own communities.

  • INFIDELITY SCANDAL: I do not invite women into my matrimonial home-Oritsefemi

    INFIDELITY SCANDAL: I do not invite women into my matrimonial home-Oritsefemi

    Afropop singer, Oritsefemi has reacted to allegations that he cheats on his wife and sleeps with unknown women in his matrimonial home.

    The speculation started when his wife, Nabila Fash, took to her social media account stating that a woman comes into her house to have sex whenever she goes to work.

    She wrote on Twitter, “Whoever the imbecile is that came to my house while I was away at work to have sex, you need to identify yourself. It was shocking news when it was posted a few months back, but now I can confirm. On a Monday morning, when people are out to look for daily bread some people, it is sex that is their problem.”

    In the same vein, Fash further went to her Instagram story to rant. She wrote, “Women it is not wrong to love! It is not wrong to give a second chance! It is not wrong to want to protect your home/marriage! What is wrong is to continue to be a fool and not know your worth,” she wrote.

    After she shared the post on social media, many assumed he was accusing her husband of infidelity.

    Oritsefemi has however denied such claims.

    According to him: “I have seen all the news reports about me online and I do not understand what it is all about. My wife went online to write some things but they are not about me. I do not invite women into my matrimonial home. My wife’s post is not about me. It is about my friend, my very close friend that came in from London. He stayed with me and she was upset that I allowed my friend to bring women into our house.

    “I have explained to her that he is my very good friend and he accommodated me anytime I travel out of the country. Because of this issue, I had to ask my friend to leave. In fact, I also had to chase all the boys living with me even though they know nothing about this incident. I do not cheat on my wife. My wife and I do not have an issue, everything is cool at home; in fact, she left for work not so long ago,” the singer told Punch.

  • DNA: Nemesis of Infidelity, Agony of Innocence – Michael West

    DNA: Nemesis of Infidelity, Agony of Innocence – Michael West

    By Michael West

    Unfolding dramas of paternity frauds seem to be endless. While we are still grappling with the Late Tunde and Moyo Thomas’ issue, several others are surfacing. It is becoming so scary that a reader told me on Tuesday that “Though I have no reason to doubt or suspect my wife but the fearful revelations coming out these days from different angles tend to make every woman a suspect.”

    Short videos reeling out shocking revelations and confessions in which adults in their 30s were being told point blank that they were actually fathered by men other than who they grew up to know as their ‘biological’ dads are still going viral on social media. These unholy scenarios happened across races, colours, nations and tongues. The surprising thing is that Nigerians featured in one of such videos where a well-suited 30-something year-old Nigerian man who said his mother had called him on telephone earlier to say she has a confession to make regarding his paternity. He was shattered when his DNA result was announced that the man he knew as his father from birth was not his biological father. The stout, good looking dad in his 60s broke down into inconsolable tears on a television show. What a pain!

    In another DNA live television show, a young woman of about 29 or 32 years old burst into tears when the DNA result showed that her dad from birth was not her biological dad. While consolidating her devastated and chubby daughter, her mom admitted knowing her “real” father when the show host asked if she knew who was responsible for her pregnancy. Surprisingly, she wasn’t remorseful about her action. The white mother in her late 50s had kept the secret till when her estranged husband has waxed too old to venture into baby making business. The old man was seeing collapsing on the sofa where he was watching the oddity on the television. All these videos emanated from live television series in Europe and America.

    In 2016, a Jamaican beheaded his wife, Karen Rainford, when he discovered through DNA test results that none of the six children was his. Karen, according to media reports, confessed to infidelity which produced the entire six children and begged for forgiveness. Maybe Mr. Rainford would have forgiven his promiscuous wife but when he remembered how she pestered and embarrassed him several times in public over the care and welfare of the children, he decided to judge the case in his own gruesome and fatal way by beheading his unfaithful wife.

    Back home in Nigeria, the story may not be any different. A man died two years ago on account of discovering that his wife was not only cheating on him but told him pointedly during a brawl that “It is better for you to look for another woman that will give you children while you still have the strength to make babies.” She said so because “Latter day discovery that will shock you is under your roof.” He asked to know what his wife actually meant. One day, someone called to ask if his family wanted to relocate overseas because he saw his wife with the children at the embassy. Confronting his wife over her visit to the embassy without his knowledge was the genesis of their separation. He later discovered that none of the four children was his. He couldn’t recover from the shock before his health condition worsened and he died five years later.

    DNA test results have been a source of deep-seated hostility and intense acrimony in some large and polygamous families. Sometimes men of old knew when they were being cheated by their wives who gave them pregnancies that were not theirs. They feigned ignorance of the ‘smartness’ displayed by their women by playing along calmly in wisdom and maturity just to protect their name, status and public image. And, also to avoid rancour in their homes during their lifetime. By so doing, they staved off controversy and scandal that could rubbish their public images. They usually bare their minds either in written documents or by the way they shared their estates. These are some of the reasons some wills are subjects of litigation in the courts of law.

    I have read some scientific reports flying around on why some negative DNA results could be misleading. There’s also another explanation on the possibility of how negative DNA results could not mean illegitimacy of the child whose paternity is under investigation. According to one of such scientific analyses, there’s a particular condition called “Chimerism.” It’s just one of those flukes of nature. This condition makes whoever that has it to have two different sets of DNA in them. When a woman is pregnant with twins, if the twins are fraternal twins, i.e they were fertilized from two different eggs, sometimes, one of these embryo dies early in the womb and the surviving embryo then absorbs his or her twin’s cells, making the surviving twin to be born as a single baby carrying its own DNA and that of the twin that didn’t survive.

    The pregnant woman and her husband will never know that the single child born to them was actually a fraternal twin whose brother or sister didn’t survive but whose DNA and cells were absorbed by the surviving child. Such individuals are called “Chimeras.”

    Now if such an individual grows up and has a child, it’s very possible that the child will not take his or her own DNA but that of the other twin that has been absorbed. So if a DNA test is done for the child born by a Chimera, it will turn negative whereas he is the authentic parent! The Chimeras are not so common but they exist in their numbers, nonetheless. Who knows if a few of the cases shrouded in mystery are indeed those of Chimeras?

    In response to last week’s column, some readers asked if I was telling men to just accept any child as theirs because I advised men against “chasing shadows” in their bid to ascertain the paternity of their children. My take on it is that we have just one life to live. We should not allow anything that can lead us to early grave to exist in our lives. I agree that adoption is a different matter entirely because it is consensual. On both cases cited above, the betrayed dads promised to remain the real dads to their children regardless of the DNA results. That’s the way to go. It was a decision and pronouncement made in tears and in resolute conviction but that was the best way to respond to such heart-breaking discoveries. However, there’s a way to identify innocent women whose children’s DNA results turn negative. That gist is available for those who find themselves in such dilemma.

    On the final note, the decisions of adult children caught in the web of paternity quagmires are the most important and ultimate determinant. Thousands of DNA results cannot change the choices of grownups about who they accept as dads. This is where the consolation lies. Yoruba says “eni omo si lo bimo” literally means ‘the real parent is the person who is accorded a befitting burial in death.’ This has nothing to do with biological link or blood line. There are many great parents in our society who enjoy immense care in cash, kind, warmth and presence including diverse celebrations just for being foster parents to many great and grateful children. There’s more to life than DNA results.
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    “The decisions of the adult children caught in the web of paternity quagmires are the most important and ultimate determinant. Thousands of DNA results cannot change the choices of grownups about who they accept as dads. This is where the consolation lies.”

    West wrote via mikeawe@yahoo.co.uk 08059964446

  • Infidelity: ‘My Wife Caused It’, By Michael West

    By Michael West

     

    Not many women, single moms in particular, are sincere and humble enough to admit their need of men or companions in their lives. There are those who even solicit and crave for nexus to potential male partners through friends, colleagues, family members and even patronise online dating sites to get mates. I appreciate such women for their sincerity and efforts.

     

    Conversely, those who pretend and shy away from the reality of their need of conjugal fulfilment by citing sundry reasons to console themselves with excuses to embrace staying single. Whereas deeply in their hearts, they groan for love, companionship and emotional stability. Rather, they feign to be “okay” the way they are without “men and their stress.” They usually claim “all that matters” to them is to be “financially stable” and their problems will be over. This is the situation with many women whose marital status as single deserve to change.

     

    Some of the responses to last week’s topic by female readers cited infidelity by men as a factor why they choose to stay away from relationships. “While dating, they have other women by the side. In marriage, they increase the number of their sex partners to include the married. They always do things that will hurt you. Some will admit and apologise but they will still indulge in it, while the chronic cheaters will pick up a quarrel with you and threaten to quit the relationship. You now ask yourself, if you quit this one what do you think we will meet in another guy out there? I have broken up with four men not just because they are unrepentant cheats but they were becoming abusive and violent whenever I challenge them over their irresponsible behaviour. I don’t agree that all men are the same but largely, many of them behave alike,” she said.

     

    Men, in no small measure, have contributed to why several women have lost interest in their pursuit of marital adventures. Many single men are not serious with their relationships. They enjoy having sex partners than having committed affairs that would ultimately lead to marriage. Citing what a single dad referred to as “competing options and choices,” the women available for experimental or trial marriage are so many. “Everywhere we turn, there are women available for you. It doesn’t matter whether you’re serious or not. For example, each time I was about deciding on a particular woman, I always come across a more attractive and better choice. This has happened three times now. I’m beginning to sense that probably I’m having a problem of indecision.”

     

    Among the men that reacted to last week’s issue, there’s a man whose case needs an attention. He sent a mail detailing the situation he’s facing in his matrimony whenever he has financial challenges. He does not want the situation to drive him into frustration or his wife to stray into committing sexual immorality in desperate need for financial assistance. The mail reads:

     

    “I read your write-up on infidelity, and I trust that you are a good counsellor, that’s why I wanted to share my issues with you and seek a way out. I have been married for over eight years but we are yet to have children till date. I started having issues with my wife about three years ago when my business was not doing well again. I usually get soft loans at regular intervals from her business to finance my business proposals most of which have resulted in debts. My debt profile is way beyond my imagination as we speak because I always do the needful as a family man. Ever since my financial crisis started, my family life is no longer rosy. To have sex with my wife has become a serious issue. Sometimes, it may be once in a month or even once in two months that she will allow me to have her in the bedroom as my wife. And I am not a drinking type, whenever I’m disturbed both mentally and emotionally if I have sex I will be balance and stable again but my wife always deny me this right. Truthfully, I’m aware that I have seriously affected her business through the unpaid loans but she knows is not my fault at all. It’s just a coincidence. Only God knows the root cause of my issue because I’m always very careful. However, I have a girlfriend that I didn’t give attention for about five years now because of my wife in order to avoid the possibility of having children outside my marriage. I told my girlfriend that I love my wife so much that I can’t afford to hurt her. Even my wife can truly confirm this. But accidentally, the girlfriend got pregnant for me two years ago. It was shocking and surprising to me, and since that incident over two years now, I have been consistently begging, pleading with my wife but she is adamant. I so much love her and I don’t want her people to mock her. This incident happened because she denied me of sex those times but I can’t hold that as excuse for my misbehaviour. Please I don’t know what to do again to make her forgive and love me again. As at present, I don’t have money at all to pacify her. Kindly suggest a way out for me, sir. Thank you.”

     

    The way out this man’s problem lies in your wise counsel. Please advise him on how best to handle it. I will send your responses to him. Thanks.

     

    From the Mailbox

     

    Re: Infidelity: Agony of Betrayal

     

    Infidelity is caused by so many factors. Either the husband continues to deny his wife sex or the wife keeps rendering excuses at nights saying she is tired. This is mostly responsible for the birth of children outside matrimonial homes. Single mothers usually capitalise on such circumstances get pregnant for their male friends against their (male) will. Where this happens the woman needs to accept without any protest. This denial of responsibilities on the part of the womenfolk should always form the basis of matrimonial mentoring during courtship. Even where such counselling was given, the counsel is often forgotten later in marriage. Believe it or not, this is one of the problems in many marriages. – Okoruwa A. Patrick, Lagos

     

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    “I have been consistently begging, pleading with my wife but she is adamant. I so much love her and I don’t want her people to mock her. This incident happened because she denied me of sex those times but I can’t hold that an excuse for my misbehaviour. Please I don’t know what to do again to make her forgive and love me again.”

  • Infidelity: Enduring Agony of Spousal Betrayal, By Michael West

    Infidelity: Enduring Agony of Spousal Betrayal, By Michael West

    By Michael West

     

     

    It is not every broken heart that can easily be mended. In fact, some may never be fixed and refuse to heal because of the quantum of emotional damage and hurt they went through. How do you console a man whose “faithful” wife voluntarily confessed to him that she slept with one his friends? The secret affair was said to have produced a four-year-old boy whose paternity the husband is now rejecting.

     

    This is not an imaginative story or a movie but a true-life story of a Nigerian couple in Europe. The man and his wife broke down in tears at intervals while the conversation was ongoing on a Facebook live show. To her embarrassment, the woman became jolted when the counsellor cum anchor disclosed to her that the conversation was live.

     

    Reluctantly though, the man agreed to keep and forgive his wife after persuasive appeals, begging and words of encouragement from the anchor. He was told about a couple whose first child does not belong to the man biologically. He also learnt about a couple who are having a more heart-rending and emotionally devastating situation than their own. He was encouraged on the fact that his wife is genuinely “repentant” for confessing without being forced or caught in the act. The anchor therefore consoled the couple that the man’s friend who slept with his wife must have used a spell to charm her.

     

    “How do you explain a man who came in to sleep with your wife on your matrimonial bed without fear?” The anchor queried, adding that his aim must have been to destroy the home. Apparently, the narrative seemed to have calmed the weeping man and remorseful wife. The incident actually happened five years ago while the boy is four years old but the confession was made last week.

     

    Infidelity is a grievous and sacrilegious moral infraction in marriage. As bad as adultery is, it is a rampant crime committed by the married. It has no boundary, class or age limits. It is a deadly indulgence that kills slowly like poisons. Sleeping with another person’s spouse is an act of foolishness and self-destruction. A lot of spiritual exchanges do take place while committing adultery. More often than not, it usually ends in regrets. When the woman in this scandal was indulging in the secret affair, only God knows what was driving her into it. That she willingly confessed to her husband without prompting or suspicion is perhaps a good reason to think that she was possibly bewitched.

     

    Quite a number people are guilty of this marital aberration. There are women who have decided to go to the grave with their guilt for giving their husbands children that are not biologically theirs than to confess for fear of shame and possible loss of their homes. Likewise, several men have children that are being raised in other homes unknowingly. There are unclaimed or denied children outside apart from those born by adulterous married women; such children especially by unmarried women have swelled the number of single mothers in the society. The products of infidelity are many in family circles.

     

    There have been reported cases of suicide and spousal murder as a result of the sinful indulgence. Reasons adduced for indulging in extramarital sex may sometimes appear “understandable” to human reasoning but I think two wrongs cannot right the wrong because the consequences are usually unpalatable.

     

    In a situation like this, what should the offended party do? What remedy or appeasement should the erred partner apply to keep the home and heal the hurt? Can the betrayed trust be earned again? How about the products (children) of such illicit affairs? How do we stem the increasing acts of sacrilege among couples? Providing feasible answers to these and other questions would go a long way in addressing the agony of betrayed spouses and their jinxed relationships.

     

    One thing is certain, the offended party is hurt, disappointed and betrayed. It takes wisdom, maturity and godly mindset to stay calm and endure the trauma. It is not funny at all. At this stage, depending on the maturity of the persons involved, a third party like parents, trusted friends, spiritual leaders or counsellors are needed to wade in. In a tensed circumstance such as this, those who are emotionally strong might go into depression while the feeble-minded might contemplate suicide or any other dastardly acts. It is the height of frustration occasioned by acts of betrayal by trusted spouses.

     

    First, the wronged partner needs to calm down in order to respond rightly and wisely. Being calm is not a sign of weakness, rather, it is an attribute of strength. The cheated partner should reason widely by factoring everything and everyone into consideration on the scale of their reaction or decision. Doing this will engender a moderate, bearable and likely acceptable response to the issue.

     

    I know a family who went through this kind of challenge twice. The woman was able to handle the situation with less fuss. She said: “I realised that the aim of this disappointing behaviour by my husband was to scatter my home. Do I want that achieved? I said no. Then, I decided to accept my husband’s apologies and we moved on. This harrowing experience happened to me twice. Naturally I found it difficult to pretend that I was not hurt, but, hey, it’s real. The two lovely children are now living with us. I personally went to collect them from their mothers when they were two years old. Our children share everything together. They’re all mine. I became fond of them such that nobody will ever imagine they are not my biological sons. Their moms were initially sceptical about releasing the boys to me. I went with my husband’s parents and assured them of their safety, proper care and love. I did that so they won’t grow up feeling like outsiders among their half brothers and sisters. It will also afford them to enjoy the care and warmth of their father’s presence. It is not easy but I did it.”

     

    The erred partner should be humble and apologetic in attitude. The offender should demonstrate sufficient penitent and remorseful behaviour to assuage the hurt inflicted on their partner. The most important thing to do is never to allow a repeat of such mistake. I have seen a few men who, rather than apologise, began to grandstand. They claimed it was men’s place to have more than one women. Yet, they lack what it takes to maintain more than one woman much less polygamous homes. They should strive to regain their partner’s confidence. They should surprise them with gifts, go out together regularly, identify with their interests, lay bare your cards on the table and carry them a long in your activities. With these, over time, you may begin to earn their trust again.

     

    Lastly, never be hostile to the children outside. Destiny may have connected you together. God is the ultimate judge in cases of infidelity, betrayal and malice. Allow Him to compensate you and not to condemn you. The Holy Book says we should not repay evil with evil. Believe that the innocent souls (children) have destinies to fulfil in life and you are blessed to be a channel of grace to them.

     

    From The Mailbox

    Re: The Lonely ‘World of the Widow’

    This write up really made my day! I’m a widow of more than 13 years now. I could remember when my landlord reluctantly accepted me as his tenant. What about the time my daughter was sent out of school hostel because I turned down the proprietor’s advances? He did it at a crucial moment like a day to JAMB. Today, I have changed some men’s mindset about widows and single moms that we can actually live a decent and responsible life in trying period. I’m a living testimony. Kenny, O. Lagos.

  • Just in: Why I kept silent on my wife’s infidelity, ‘madness’ for 7 years – Fani-Kayode

    Just in: Why I kept silent on my wife’s infidelity, ‘madness’ for 7 years – Fani-Kayode

    Former Minister of Aviation, Femi Fani-Kayode, has said his kids stopped him from exposing his wife’s alleged infidelity.

    The PDP chieftain who warned his estranged wife to stop releasing damaging scandals geared towards the destruction of their children’s future said he was pushed to open up on her alleged infidelity on Saturday.

    Recall that Fani-Kayode had alleged that he caught his wife in bed with a married man. He said this while responding to a video which surfaced online of him allegedly abusing his estranged wife.

    However, in a series of tweet on Sunday, Fani-Kayode said there were facts, witnesses, and evidence available for the courts.

    “I have chosen to take the high horse and I refuse to allow my estranged wife to turn the affairs of my personal life into a public circus. If she has any issues, let her use the right medium as a responsible adult and mother and stop secretly feeding the media with damaging scandals geared towards the destruction of our children’s future.

    “I have kept quite in order to protect my children, I have covered all her madness over the past 7 years & not once did I expose her. But the facts are there & the witnesses & evidence are readily available for the courts.

    “I broke my silence yesterday only because my hand has been forced. Rather than focusing on the problem of brutality & evil plaguing our country, or the myriad of other issues holding citizens hostage, some people would prefer to spread and partake in what amounts to celebrity gossip & chopped videos. Who in Nigeria does this benefit? What is the use?

    “Those involved in this smear campaign are begging for further responses which I will not give them. My private relationship & any disagreements therein are just that: PRIVATE.

    “I have learned my lesson on feeding into parasocial media culture.

    My children & their dignity comes first & I refuse to help these individuals tarnish their image any further. The ringleader of this media scandal and his/her collaborators may continue polluting news.”

  • GRAPHIC PHOTOS: Man kills wife over alleged infidelity, commits suicide in Cross River

    GRAPHIC PHOTOS: Man kills wife over alleged infidelity, commits suicide in Cross River

    A middle-aged man whose name was simply given as Akpan shot his wife dead on allegation of infidelity before hanging himself over the weekend in Cross River State.

    The incident happened in the village of Bashua in Boki Local Government Area in the Central Senatorial District of the state where the man and his wife who are said to be indigenes of Akwa Ibom State sojourned to do farm work.

    A source in the village Elias Ejue told newsmen that the couple had an argument following an accusation by the man that his wife was cheating on him and tempers flared leading the man to bring out his gun to shoot the woman killing her on the spot.

    “After shooting his wife the man fled into the forest and we organized a search party since Saturday. It was on Monday that we found his body hanging on a tree in the forest”. Ejue said He narrated that the man and the wife had lived in the village for many years and have five boys before the ugly incident at the weekend and that it is a taboo for someone to kill another in the community or even commit suicide.

    “One of his hands was clutching a branch of the tree he committed suicide perhaps he had an afterthought and was trying to free himself. We buried him right on the spot where he hung himself in accordance to the tradition of our community ”.

    DSP Irene Ugbo, the Cross River State Police Command spokesman said she is yet to be briefed on the incident. “I will speak with the DPO of the area and get back to you”; she said

  • Customs rakes in N17bn in 6 months

    Customs rakes in N17bn in 6 months

    The Federal Operations Unit (FoU), Zone A, of the Nigeria Customs Service (NCS) over the weekend intercepted contraband, and raised debit notes worth N17 billion on importers between January to June 2020.

    While contraband intercepted by the unit was from smugglers terrorising the South Western states of the country, it includes items such as used vehicles, pharmaceuticals, textiles, foreign parboiled rice, tomato paste, second hand clothing among others. The debit notes were raised on importers who under-declared their cargoes for lesser Customs duty.

    Addressing newsmen, the Customs Area Controller of the unit, acting Comptoller Usman Yahaya, said N15.6 billion was generated from contraband seized from smugglers, while N1.4billion was raised from wrong classification, transfer of value and false declaration of cargoes. His words: “The total duty paid value of N15.6billion was premised on seized contraband while the N1.3billion was the revenue from the unit interventions arising from wrong classifications, transfer of value and false declarations by importers. So, a total of N17billion was recovered for the Federal Government in the period under review.”

    According to him, the unit also intercepted a truckload of banned textile materials worth N565million imported from Benin Republic. He also disclosed that 18,760 bags of foreign parboiled rice smuggled into the country from Benin Republic and 64 units of exotic vehicles were intercepted and detained for duty evasion and under-payment.

    He added: “A quick glance of our spectacular seizure reports from January 7, 2020, shows 64 exotic vehicles including two bullet proofs, 18,760 bags of 50kg of foreign parboiled rice valued at N469 million, 1,338kg of Indian Hemp N201 million, and 147 sacks (9,504kg) of Pangolin scales worth N10.4 billion.

    “Others are 3,059 cartons of tomato paste, 10,653 cartons of frozen poultry products, 5,423 kegs of 25 litres each of vegetable oil, 56,472 bundles of Printed Textiles valued at N565 million, 66 packs of Tramadol, 872 bales of Second hand clothing worth N61 million, 11,077 cartons of frozen products worth N177 million.”

  • My husband has to have a girlfriend when I get married– Actress Kudirat Ogunro

    The topic of infidelity and cheating spouses in marriages gets attention whenever it is discussed. We hear about it frequently in the media and have seen the marriages of friends or relatives that have been devastated by infidelity.
     
    Many couple internally ask the question, “How would I cope with such a situation if it were to happen to me?”
    Budding actress, Kudirat Ogunro recently stated that she doesn’t have issues with her husband having a girlfriend after their marriage, adding that it is the way her home can be settled.
    Kudirat made this known in a recent chat with The Sun.
    “I’m not a jealous lover. In fact, when I get married, my husband has to have a girlfriend. .
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    That’s how my home can be settled and peaceful instead of him telling me ‘it’s only you baby’. No, I don’t believe in those words. I’m very serious. Men are polygamous by nature; so don’t let us fool ourselves.”
    Her statement has sparked diverse reactions, with many women condemning her stance on marriage infidelity.

  • Infidelity allegation: Wife stabs husband to death in Lagos

    Infidelity allegation: Wife stabs husband to death in Lagos

    A woman, Damilola Ayeni, has been arrested by the police for allegedly stabbing her husband, Olumide Ayeni (36), in the chest, which led to his death. The incident occurred on Saturday night at No 78, Bamgbose Street, Lagos Island, Lagos.

    It was learnt that the woman was the third wife of the deceased.

    According to friends of the deceased, who have two children, Damilola and Olumide are planning to celebrate their ‘marriage’ anniversary in a few months’ time. Damilola was said to have started a fight with her husband when Olumide got home.

    The woman reportedly stabbed the man during the fight. The injured Olumide was rushed to a hospital close to Lagos Island General Hospital, where he eventually bled to death.

    The state Police Public Relations Officer (PPRO), CSP Chike Oti, said that Damilola had been arrested while the victim’s body was deposited at the morgue of the same hospital for autopsy. Oti said that preliminary investigation was in progress with a view to transferring the case to the State Criminal Investigation and Intelligence Department (SCIID), Panti, Yaba, for discreet investigation.

    The PPRO noted that a man, Sunday Ayeni Omowale, of No 8, Bamgbose Street, Lagos Island, reported at Lion Building Police Station that his son, Olumide Ayeni, of No 78, Bamgbose Street, Lagos Island, was allegedly stabbed by his wife with a knife in the left side of the chest.

    Oti added that according to Damilola, the deceased called her on the phone earlier in the evening but she missed his call. “When he came back home about 1a.m., he queried her whereabouts when he called her phone in the evening.

    He accused her of infidelity and charged towards her with a knife. She then picked the kitchen knife and stabbed him in self-defence,” the PPRO quoted the woman as saying.