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  • Love is better than sacrifice and offerings – Femi Aribisala

    By Femi Aribisala

    Let me tell you my version of the parable of the Prodigal Son.He stole money from his Father and ran away to a far country. But after a few years, he started looking for a way to be reconciled back to his Father.

    So, he sought the counsel of men. They advised him to soften his Father’s heart by sending Him gifts. So, he started sending his Father expensive gifts. He sent cows and goats. He sent expensive clothes and shoes. On one occasion, he even sent a Lexus Jeep.

    But the gifts never got to his Father. They never even left the far country where he was; they were simply cornered by his mentors. They continued to advise him to send more and more gifts to his Father, claiming they were necessary to appease Him. But in fact, his counsellors wanted the gifts for themselves.

    They warned him that if he ever went back home, his father would have him arrested. They told him if he went home, his Father would kill him. But if he could only send more expensive gifts, his Father would surely have a change of heart.

    It just so happened that the gifts they suggested were the very things they needed to build up their own homes and businesses. In fact, the Prodigal Son could have sworn that the Jeep he saw with one of them was the same one he had sent to his Father.

    Thanks to their threats and warnings, the Prodigal was scared to death of his Father. He had nightmares of his Father’s wrath and swore he would never go back home.

    Ultimate sacrifice

    But one day, things went beyond his control. His business went south and he lost everything. He thought about it and concluded that he had no choice but to go back home. If he did not, he would die of starvation. But how could he go back without a gift? What gift could he take back home now that he was penniless?

    So, he decided to go back home with the ultimate sacrifice. He would offer as a sacrifice his status as a son and ask to be made a servant. He felt confident, from what his mentors had been telling him, that his sacrifice would be acceptable. After all, his Father seems to have a great weakness for gifts and sacrifices.

    But when he went back home, he had the surprise of his life. To his amazement, his Father was extremely glad to see him. He did not allow him to finish his prepared speech, plea-bargaining to be accepted back as a servant. His Father jumped on his neck and gave him a tight embrace.

    He did not have him arrested and he did not have him killed. He did not even ask him if he brought Him any cows. Instead, the Father killed the fatted calf in his honour and threw a lavish homecoming party for him.

    What is the moral of this parable? Some people had given the Prodigal Son a false impression of his Father. They told him his Father would have him arrested or even killed. They told him he would need to appease his Father’s wrath with gifts upon gifts.

    But on his return home, he was not confronted with his Father’s wrath. On his return, he was overwhelmed by his Father’s love. He discovered to his surprise that his Father was far more loving and forgiving than he had ever imagined.

    Who were the counsellors of this Prodigal Son who had given him such a false impression of his Father? Who were the counsellors who profited from his ignorance of his Father’s love? You have guessed it: they were the pastors, bishops, popes, and cardinals of the churches.

    God is not Mammon

    What God desires is love and not sacrifices. He says: “My son, give me your heart.” (Proverbs 23:26). He does not say: “My son, give me your money.”

    But what pastors and the religious leaders insist on are sacrifices and not love. Indeed, sacrifice is another name for religion. The religious man has always seen sacrifice as a means of appeasing deities, and pastors are quintessentially religious. But the true God is not an idol and Christians should not be made to act like idol-worshippers.

    When God finally sent his Son Jesus as His one true and faithful witness, He repeated God’s assertion in the Old Testament: “I desire mercy and not sacrifice, and the knowledge of God more than burnt offerings.” (Hosea 6:6). Jesus says: “Go and learn what this means: ‘I desire mercy and not sacrifice.’” (Matthew 9:13).

    Today’s pastors have refused to learn what this means because it is not in their selfish interest to do so. Tithes and offerings provide them with free lunches. They use them to finance lavish personal lifestyles. They use them to bank-roll the religious empires they build in their illusions of grandeur.

    A Nigerian pastor even went as far as instructing his church-members: “Anyone who is not paying his tithe is not going to heaven. Full stop.” That is balderdash. The payment of tithes and offerings will not guarantee anyone’s place in heaven. But it will ensure that men will be in the good books of their pastors.

    Therefore, these latter-day Pharisees are subject to the verdict of Isaiah: “They are as greedy as dogs, never satisfied; they are stupid pastors who only look after their own interest, each trying to get as much as he can for himself from every possible source.” (Isaiah 56:11).

    God is love

    Sacrifices and offerings do not and cannot motivate God. God is love; therefore, he loves unreservedly. His love cannot be bought.

    Since God loved us when we were his enemies, then it is certain He loves us now that we are His sons through Christ. That means He loves us whether or not we pay tithes and give offerings. In any case, who has ever heard of a son giving offerings to his Father?

    Jesus asked Peter: “‘What do you think, Simon? From whom do the kings of the earth collect duty and taxes- from their own sons or from others?’ ‘From others,’ Peter answered. ‘Then the sons are exempt,’ Jesus said to him.” (Matthew 17:25-26).

    This shows a son of God should not give offerings to God, his Father. Everything the Father has belongs to the son and everything the son has belongs to the Father.

    Pastors have led men to believe that God is worshipped with men’s hands and not with our hearts. They maintain the more we give to a church, the greater our worship.

    However, the one true God is self-sufficient. He does not need anything. He does not need our money to build his church. Jesus says: “I will build My church” (Matthew 16:18). He does not need pastors to build it for him.

    What believers are is far more important to God than what we have. God loves us because of who He is. He is our Father and we are his children. He says: “I AM WHO I AM.” (Exodus 3:14). He does not say like men: “I AM WHAT I HAVE.”

  • After two failed attempts, Shan George finds love at 50!

    After two failed attempts, Shan George finds love at 50!

    Veteran actress, Shan George, has announced her engagement, saying it’s never too late to give love another try.

    The Nollywood star, 50, took to her Instagram page on Wednesday to share a photo of her engagement ring, in the caption of which she described her lover as being a friend and an available shoulder to cry on.

    “As Scared and Sceptical as I’ve been all these past years, based on unfavourable past experiences, this one seem to be just too right to be afraid of or to Hide. So I SAID YES!!” the actress wrote.

    “To my best friend, partner, business associate, fellow crossrivarian, my ride or die since 1800, my available shoulder to cry on always. Let’s try again this one last time. It’s never too late.”

    TheNewsGuru recalls that
    George had been married and divorced on two occasions.

     

  • BBNaija: Kudos, knocks trail love letter Ozo writes to Nengi

    BBNaija: Kudos, knocks trail love letter Ozo writes to Nengi

    A cross section of Nigerians on social media have reacted to the love letter Ozo wrote to Nengi earlier today.

    The infatuated housemate appeared to be falling deeper in love despite Nengi’s insistence that she is not interested in a relationship with him.

    The male housemate penned down his feelings for the Bayelsa born on a serviett using lipstick.

    His letter read: “I know I love you because none other has made me feel this way.

     

     

    “You are a blessing and a kind person. I can watch you for a lifetime. You are my favorite movie.”

    This sparked various reactions from Nigerians on social media.

     

    https://www.instagram.com/p/CE4BXE1pyZd/

     

    Read the reactions below:

    @DeejayNeptune: Ozo oo reminding me of them old days men used to write love letters with golden pen

    @Shawnfaqua: OZO: 1st, 2nd and 3rd Epistle

    NENGI: Awwwww, you’re so sweet.

    Prayer: Lord Almighty, everytime waster spirit, die by faya

    @RobyEkpo: Ozo!! Kai!! This is ad mehn! He has suffer more than 600 years…

    @Jeffreyjeffrey: Her reply later will be like; do you want crayfish or should I warm the soup for you

    @Meelahmalia: Man like ozo, this two are well trained they love each other but don’t want to disgrace themselves on national television I can see true love ❤️. Ozo we die there no retreat no surrender my vote is for u am team nengi

    @Precioussalvation: Ozo to nenggi: I love you ,nenggi to ozo thank you

    @JJC: Who use this bros destiny take wrap weed na ?

     

     

  • Love, sex, money important in a relationship- Zeeter

    Love, sex, money important in a relationship- Zeeter

    Rising singer, Zeeter opens up on her love for music, challenges of being an indie artiste, sexual harassment, amongst other issues in this chat with THENEWSGURU.

    Can you briefly tell us about yourself?

     

    I’m Zeeter Zainab Oliver born in Kaduna raised in Ikoyi Lagos. My Dad is Igbo and my mother Idoma. I started my career as a teenager with the support of my mother. I have been an independent artiste throughout my entire career. I currently live in Abuja Nigeria.I have a new EP titled Nostalgia. My friends refer to my music as Afro-house. I’m working on a talk show about People, Passions and Power in Africa.

     

    How long have you been singing?

    I have been singing since I was a teenager. I however launched out as a professional, 6 years ago.

     

     

    What inspired your Nostalgia EP?

    My love for throwback songs inspired the EP. The songs in this EP gives you a nostalgia vibe

     

    What were the challenges you faced at the early stage?

    People didn’t take me serious when I started out. Maybe they just assumed I am just a pretty face.

     

    How did you overcome them?

    Going into the studio and recording good music made me overcome the challenges. I believe an artiste’s work speaks for itself. So I’m developing my craft every day I record a new song.

     

    Sexual harassment is a common trend in the industry, how did you scale through?

    It’s an ongoing experience. In nearly every working environment a woman is harassed for one reason or the other. If you are pretty you would be harassed, if you are not pretty you would still face some kind of intimidation. We are soon going to level the playing field for now, we are standing together “women for equality.”

     

     

    What part of your body gets you the most attention?

    Maybe my eyes I wouldn’t know for certain.

     

    Can you cope with a habitual liar in a relationship?

    Lies breed mistrust and disloyalty. Both of which I take seriously

     

    Was there a time you wanted to give up on music?

    Yes that’s an ongoing battle

     

     

    What makes you cry?

    Disappointment and grief makes me cry.

     

    Is being sexy an advantage

     

    Being sexy serving as an advantage yes it does.At times if you are not attractive you will not be noticed enough to be heard or listened to .Your looks matters, you are your brand.

     

    What do you look for in a relationship love sex or money?

    All of the mentioned above are important in a relationship and maybe more. I will pick love first, because love for me comes with friendship and understanding. My lover must be my best friend.

     

  • Love, Betrayal and Hushpuppi, By Michael West

    Love, Betrayal and Hushpuppi, By Michael West

    By Michael West
    Reactions to last week’s topic reflect shades of opinions and varied perspectives on the issue. Readers crave to know what can be done to ward off such heartbreaking occurrences and in a situation where it happens, what is the way forward. I will address the issues as requested because, to my amazement, several people called to share their bitter experiences of betrayal and ditching by partners they have built their entire worlds around.
    To start with, any man that drops you for another woman or vice versa does not deserve to have you. To put it succinctly, the insatiable partner does not worth your standard. He may be more privileged or better placed than you, but the virtue you possess cannot be quantified in monetary terms. Even if such a partner tries to retrace their steps, It is risky to give them a chance because their second exit maybe more devastating. I see such characters as fair-weather friends who are in your life for what they enjoy or benefit from you. More often than not, they are parasitic in nature, sly in character and selfish in demands.
    Relationship is about mutual interests, aspirations and benefits of those involved in it. That’s why selfish partners hardly have lasting relationship. They are viewed from the prism of self-centredness. They are happy and romantic only when the milk is flowing and honeycomb is dripping. They are pretenders whose love language is money and what they stand to gain in order to advance their careers, pursuits and ambitions through you. In a twinkle of an eye, they will disappear on your radar of friendship when there’s nothing to benefit from you again. Such people are capable of ditching their partners for another with or without external influence or pressure.
    I discovered that those who jilt their partners without valid reasons are in the category of people one should be wary of. Last minutes disappointment could be shattering, suicidal and devastating. Let’s asume that you find your partner’s friend or relation more appealing or befitting, you should see beyond transient beauty in your partner whose future you cannot predict. One has to be disciplined in areas that will define your integrity and image. No matter how beautiful or handsome your partner is, you will always find a more beautiful person elsewhere. Even talents, skills and brilliance are in levels. Just be contented with the person in your life provided you’re at peace and not enduring or struggling to stay in the relationship.
    Peradventure they do not understand that peace and trust are what matter the most in relationship and ultimately in marriage. Peace of mind is basic. Trust engenders peace while peace breeds prosperity, good health and enhanced productivity. The Word says that a home where peace reigns is much more desirable than a home filled with riches but always in conflict, acrimony and bitterness. This accounts for why many so-called rich families are in shambles. In view of the apparent comfort, yet, separation, divorce and crises are common denominators in their families. Family life goes beyond having money, posh cars, exquisite houses and being fashionable. These luxuries cannot placate sadness, bitterness and regret in marriage. Wealth without the inner peace will result to frustration. Happiness displayed in public by warring couples is feigned and superficial.
    Investing in relationship is a serious business because it is done with the intention of building a future together. It is a good idea to cooperate with your life partner on such worthy ventures provided the trust is assured, but doing that with a greedy, flashy and insatiable partner will be a fruitless effort. When fair-weather friends quit your life, please don’t mourn their exit. You will be better off in the end.
    A Yoruba ideology is that a spouse that will remain with you won’t be a thorn in your flesh. Sometimes the exit of ‘walk-away’ friends are actually answers to prayers. I remember a couple whose wedding was a few days away when the groom-to-be took a walk out of the commitment. Every effort was geared towards ensuring that the wedding took place and it did happen. The following weekend, armed robbers raided their apartment and when the robbers couldn’t find money or much valuable things to cart away, their gang leader decided to rape the wife. In protest, the husband resisted the dare-devil robbers. Without blinking an eyelid, he was shot dead instantly. They also threatened to kill the wife if she screamed. She was gang-raped and they left the young home in ruins. If they had allowed the man to go when he quit and they sought the face of God rather than being emotional and desperate about it, the man might have escaped the untimely death. In this wise, some acts of disappointment could indeed be a blessing in disguise.
    If a partner decides to walk away at any point despite the commitment, and attempts made at reconciliation fail (in case there’s any issue involved) the estranged should be allowed to go. Only God knows what nobody knows. Accept the situation as an opportunity to make a better choice. May the perfect will of God be done. Amen.
    The name, Hushpuppi, was strange to me. I have never heard it until he was arrested by Interpo in Dubai. I started asking around who is Hushpuppi and what is he into. My children gave me information they know about him. I still did not show much interest in his case because it is a sad saga to me as a parent.
    I learnt he has a very humble background. He had vowed to defeat poverty in his life at all cost. Knowing how difficult it is to make it and ‘blow’ in a big way in Nigeria, employment, skilled vocation or contracts will only earn you a little above average living. The chubby guy took to Internet crime. No matter how profitable illegitimate sources of wealth might be, a day of retribution will surely come. Hushpuppi’s own has come.
    Because of the way he acquired his stupendous wealth, ostentatious lifestyle catapulted him into the spotlight for scrutiny. He is Internet savvy. How he was able to breakthrough the brick walls of digital security to hack international bodies’, corporate and individual’s accounts is amazing. I’m of the opinion that Hushpuppi represents a misused energy, misdirected talent and perverted digital wizard.
    Three factors, in my view, are largely responsible for the making of an Hushpuppi in a family. Namely, parental failure, bad peer influence and desperation. An average Nigerian youth does not believe in hard work as a means to prosperity. That’s why online scams powered by diabolical manipulations code-named “Yahoo Plus” became rampant among them. “Who does hard work epp (help)?” Is the watchword on the lips of our youths. To such youths, Hushpuppi is a role model.
    Parental failure occurs through negligence, indulgence and recalcitrance by the ward. “Teach a child the way to go, when he becomes an adult, he will not deviate from the path of honour” says the book of Proverbs. We are also enjoined to instill discipline in our children especially in their formative years. Parental negligence or indulgence at this critical period in the life of children will ultimately define their adulthood.
    However, some notoriously stubborn children become wayward through the negative influence of the company of friends they keep. Some fraudsters have disciplined parents and decent backgrounds. The mixed multitudes that instigated the Israelites to become rebellious in the Bible days are still responsible for moral decadence among the youths. The hub for misdemeanours is usually in academic and social circles.
    Let parents stop overlooking manifest moral compromises in their wards. The ethos of legitimate means of earning a living should be reaffirmed. Never encourage children into crime by celebrating unverified source of ostentatious lifestyle of other people’s children. Encourage them to study, work hard, live right and pray more so that families will stop being a breeding grounds for Hushpuppis.
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    “Selfish partners hardly have lasting relationship. They are viewed from the prism of self-centredness. They are happy and romantic only when the milk is flowing and honeycomb is dripping.”
  • Filipino lady searches for love to Nigeria, ends up in tatters in Enugu

    Filipino lady searches for love to Nigeria, ends up in tatters in Enugu

    The Police in Enugu State have rescued a Filipino lady, who searched for love to Nigeria, from the hands of her abductor, one Chukwudi Odo.

    TheNewsGuru.com (TNG) reports the Filipino lady, identified as Irene Torento Panas, was rescued by police operatives attached to the Unity Police Division, Ibegwa Nike in Enugu.

    Irene, 40-year-old, was rescued six months after she arrived in Nigeria from the Philippines in an apparent but unsuccessful search for love.

    According to findings, the Filipino lady, who arrived in Nigeria on November 22, 2019, is an accountant by profession and a native of Manila in the Philippines.

    She met 54-year-old Odo, who is from Enugu Ezike in Igbo-Eze North LGA of Enugu, on Facebook on 8th March, 2017.

    The visit which was originally intended to be for 10-days, however, turned out to be a full case of abduction following Odo’s refusal to allow her return to her country against her will.

    She was held incommunicado by the suspect, Odo, and was critically ill at the time of rescue, TNG learnt.

    The Police have arrested the suspect in a raid led by the DPO, SP Siga Malgwi, following a tip-off from some members of the public in the area.

    Irene was immediately taken to the hospital for medical attention where she was admitted from 5th June to 16th June.

    Preliminary investigations revealed that the suspect, Odo deliberately lured the victim into the country with the aim of confining her, sexually abusing, and extorting money from her.

    Meanwhile, the Inspector-General of Police, IGP M. A. Adamu has advised on a more cautious use of social media by members of the public.

    The IGP, while enjoining members of the public to tread cautiously in their use of the social media, warned against any abuse of the cyberspace noting that such criminal acts will not go undetected and unpunished by the Force.

    Meanwhile, the Force said it was already in contact with the Embassy of the Philippines in Nigeria so as to reunite the victim with members of her family.

  • Why I Love Governor Udom Emmanuel, By Udeme Nana

    It’s a milestone season and it is usual for one to take stock. Some would review and measure different eras , different persons and styles with a view to handing down verdicts. Others might focus on key performance indices as a basis for their judgements while a biased columnist like me , an incurable optimist and positivist would characteristically look at the beautiful side of the moon , always.
    One would like to start by way of a full disclosure.I did not start out as one of his fans simply because the
    medium of his arrival at the Hilltop mansion did not amuse me at all.One was alarmed and miffed by the fact that his ‘political father’ , perceived rightly or wrongly as the worst nightmare ever experienced in reality by discerning minds brought him into the saddle. But as days turned into weeks , weeks into months and months into years , I, like others, had what could be likened to the ‘Saul on the way to Damascus’ experience !
    One realized that there are instances where a child who lost his way in the family has sired a reputable Reverend Father.One has also seen the son of an unapologetic witch – doctor become a fire eating Christian Evangelist winning souls for Christ. To stretch those examples , one’s eyes opened on a discovery that a thorough and an objective close reading of the genealogy of The Lord Jesus Christ traced his family tree to Rahab , a practitioner of the legendary oldest profession in the world !.
    Now the assignment is for our fathers of faith and religious scholars to determine if the verdict of The Lord Jesus Christ “let him who has no sin cast the first stone’ had anything to do with the Lord Jesus Christ’s consciousness of that famous ‘family’ background.
    The lesson there is that good could come from bad just as the worst could come straight from the loins of the best.Such is life !
    Definitely ,this explains why the Governor has briddled his tongue against talking about the world heavy , neck – breaking debt burden which has put a leash on his development agenda ?
    From my observatory, one is cock – sure that if Governor Emmanuel spilled the beans on the mindless financial recklessness and mess which pressed him down from the beginning and which still hangs on his neck like an albatross, most Akwa Ibom people would gladly pick up stones and head in search of his ‘political father’ to punish him for financial indiscretions.
    So firstly , I love him for carrying that heavyweight financial sins graciously like a good political son. It is an uncommon display of courage and loyalty because its not a light and easy load trying to grapple with such empty shells like that football pitch along Goodluck Jonathan Boulevard , which most people wrongly call an International stadium. There is much more to a standard stadium than a football pitch. The 4 – Point Sheraton , the Ibom Specialist Hospital, the Tropicana and cinemaplex, Conference Centre and 5 – star hotel in that location , unpaid gratuities and the Uyo – Ikot Ekpene highway to mention but a few that only people outside government can see.
    Another action which has endeared the Governor to me was his decision to grant my own political father , Obong Attah, the father of modern Akwa Ibom State, that old man’s greatest wish in his lifetime.In renaming the Akwa Ibom Airport in honour of Obong Attah , the man who envisioned and put it on the ground , Governor Udom Emmanuel can do no wrong where I sit in judgement. That decision showed love, sowed love , respect and was a display of statesmanship which Governor Emmanuel would also harvest in due season.
    Let me be personal in a moment ; the Ikpe Ikot Nkon – Arochukwu road project in INI , my Local government area of origin had defied all previous efforts to construct before now , but with its construction by Governor Emmanuel, there is a fresh breath in the entire landscape. The rice and cocoa farms in that food basket community had existed as tales told many times across generations since the collapse of the Eastern region but as one writes , there is a resurgence and a motivation to embrace Agriculture. The Governor has also solved an age – long political problem there too by giving my ODORO – IKONO homestead , a much marginalised locality in INI , a deserving clan of its own.Although the ‘INI proper’ indigenes have cornered all the major political positions for themselves , someday a Daniel will come to judgement on that matter.
    As a public servant , one is much in love with Governor Udom Emmanuel for being workers friendly.People forget too soon.There was an era with so much money but salaries were paid sometimes two weeks into a new month. Under the present administration, workers get paid as at when due.Like the transportation system in developed countries ; salary “alerts” are ‘on time’ or as Lawyers would put it , ‘timeous’ !
    The impact of this policy of making workers salaries the first monthly expenditure includes better planning, workers can borrow and pay back on schedule .They can buy on credit and pay at month end.This has restored the self respect of workers , their dignity and integrity.There are more things to a happier life but those little things matter as they engender a more peaceful , relaxed and sunnier existence.
    A transformation which a lot of folks still find difficult to come to terms with is the inflow of foreign direct investment , (FDI) into the state under the watch of the Governor.The questions people ask are the benefiting sectors , the total worth in United States Dollars or Naira and kobo , origin of the inflows and the reasons for the welcome development.It is pertinent to underscore that serious global investors constitute a cartel and being human beings , they also whisper among themselves; they gossip , they share information , experiences and fears.They do serious background checks on leaders and prospective environments which beckon to them and apart from infrastructure, they look at security , corporate governance issues and tax regimes.They look at ‘ease of doing business’ issues. Perception is now a huge capital which ranks very high on decisions regarding the most conducive location to venture into and to this writer , Governor Udom Emmanuel ticks right in all the considerations which investors consider.
    The Ibom Airline ,The Syringe and Electricity meter companies are laudable initiatives of the Governor.
    It was Peter Thiel and Blake Masters who wrote that ‘every moment in business happens only once.The next Bill Gates will not build an operating system.The next Larry Page or Sergy Brin won’t make a search engine. And the next Mark Zukerberg won’t create a social network” .
    Their argument is that others who would come after those ones would have models and examples to build on and that it is much easier to build on an existing foundation than to create something completely new ; out of nothing.
    This writer sees Governor Emmanuel as one who has created entirely new landmarks from absolutely nothing – the aforementioned industries and several others including the Fertiliser and Flour firms , the glittering 21 – storey smart office complex, the world class isolation facility at Methodist Hospital , Ituk Mbang. Indeed , his regime has restored Akwa Ibom as an oasis of peace in the South South zone of Nigeria.
    This Columnist celebrates Governor Udom Emmanuel, a Church centred leader for banning cult groups which wreaked unconscionable violence across the state.He has steered the state away from a ‘point and kill’ era where human life was so cheap and the common question on the lips of everyone was ‘who is it this time’.
    Yes , I love the Governor because like me , he is a man of peace.Another full disclosure here ; I am also ‘Church centred’ !
    The Governor’s prudence comes with the territory given his professional training and work experience.His insistence on value for money may not sit well with professional politicians but those of us who are professionals know that money must be earned as money not earned loses value and is easily wasted on frivolities.
    Nevertheless, much as one loves him , one implores him to make sure that he completes the second and third ring roads and the Nnung – Oku Ikono fly – over and highway to Etinan including infrastructures in Eket. The post Covid – 19 economy would try his soul and capacity but his professional background makes him the man for this time . He should also perish the idea of a reduction of workers salaries because mopping the increases will not boost the revenue profile of the state drastically. Rather , leaving that item would endear him to the largest segment of Akwa Ibom people . Afterall, the internally generated revenue (IGR) of the state has also increased in leaps.
    His fairlure to complete and showcase Ring roads 2 and 3 projects would dent his legacy.It would have been better if he did not start work on them than leave them uncompleted.That is a tough call indeed.
    However , a toast to him on his Fifth anniversary is that God should help him to ‘see’ more clearly so he doesn’t become a lameduck with a feet of clay as he embarks on his home run.

  • Wuhan With Love, By Jefferson Uwoghiren

    Wuhan With Love, By Jefferson Uwoghiren

    Yesterday I walked into the lairs of quixotic air checking in on a terminally ill friend at the University of Benin Teaching Hospital, Benin City. With the agony of uncertainty, hanging and pervading the air , a visit to a confirmed corona management centre, collapsed and complicated my sturdy nerves and making my hair on end. I wasn’t scared though, but was sufficiently petrified of ensnaring claws of tiny monsters floating blissfully and suzeraintly.
    At the accident and emergency unit, right at the entrance of the hospital, death and hope have never seemed at peace and war. Healthcare workers in restrained haste, patients howling in unrestrained anguish and relations of the sick, in glances and sighs that express and suppress hope, disaster, fear and ennui. A scene of shifting emotions and cascading cultural watershed.
    As Africans we never die alone. When we choose to exist, it is usually in the presence of kindred and floating ancestral spirits, forming a guide, guard and smooth transition from the physical to the spiritual. We never die alone but sleep in the deep profundity of fecund graves, unlike animals- usually the domesticated ones, that end up in a hole. It is all deception and double speak. A grave is a hole, but it’s so called a grave, because we can’t bear to describe the final terminus of our love ones, as a hole, full of waiting insects, rodents and suffocating gas. We managed death so blissfully, so alluringly that, illnesses, deaths and burials have ritualistic, cultural and religious processes all executed with warmth, affections and sighs. All that is about to change.
    Yesterday, at the U.B.T.H, in the face of agonizing distrust, I saw health workers, express emotions ranging from horror and pity as tragedies mixed with triumphs. It was obvious that they are fighting an asymmetrical war in a constantly shifting battleground. They are fighting a virus that is merciless against interlocutors and interpleaders .They are fighting against microbes who aren’t hiding or lurking, but are on the attack, against human prey. They are frenetically battling against tiny mosters ,who have no respect for medical doctors and nurses. They are fighting against inexustably dangerous virus, protesting intrusion of their environments by scientists in search of laurels. A sordid case of trouble go sleep yanga go wake am. These viruses have always existed in their world until we invaded their habitats. Like bees in a calm beehive, they never bothered men. We invaded their environment, intruded their sphere and became infected, providing these mutating idiots new opportunities for epidemic fame and media attention.
    Yesterday at U.B.T.H, I saw frightened doctors. I saw worried nurses. I saw defanged soldiers poised in battle with dangerous and extremely hazardous infectious enemies with the poorest of containment ammunition. Doctors and Nurses are paying a heavy price for the sins of their silly sick laboratory quarantined colleagues. Patients are dying not from Corona, but from their shocking fall from grace. They have become moving time bombs, pathogenic persons, stripped of humanity and all worldly acclaims. They are dying alone and massively dumped into holes, like domesticated animals, without farewell, thanks to the invaders of Wuhan.

    Jefferson Uwoghiren Esq
    Benin City.
    5th May, 2020

  • I love hard, forgive easily but…- Tonto Dikeh

    I love hard, forgive easily but…- Tonto Dikeh

    Individuals probably have the wrong notion about Humanitarian and actor Tonto Dikeh as she has revealed in a new post.

    Tonto said although she never gives anyone who hurts her a second chance, she rather forgives easily.

    ”I Love Hard,
    I Forgive Easily,
    I NEVER EVER GIVE A 2nd CHANCE.
    If you gat me now, Treat me right cause it’s a thin Line..
    ☀️?☀️?☀️?☀️?
    (This Philosophy of mine has made some many think I’m hateful and hardened BUT CHARLEY I LOVE ME MOREEEE…..” she disclosed.

    The CEO of the Tonto Dikeh Foundation is the third of five children. She was raised by her step-mother, after losing her mum at age 3.

    Tonto is of Ikwerre descent and her family is from Obio-Akpor local government in Rivers State. She studied petrochemical engineering at the Rivers State University of Science and Technology.

    34 year old Dikeh married Oladunni Churchill in August 2015. The duo who have now gone their separate ways
    share a son Andre Omodayo Churchill.

  • Marriage na scam – Francis Ewherido

    By Francis Ewherido

    Many young people are increasingly getting disillusioned with the institution of matrimony. Some have seen situations in other marriages, and even in their young marriages, that they did not bargain for and they tell you that marriage is a scam or fraud.

    Today, we want to interrogate marriage and find out if it is actually a scam.

    Many years ago, a man was obsessed with a beautiful young girl. From age 14, he started hovering over the girl. He was worried that another man would deflower her! More worrisome to him was the fear of another man marrying her. By the time she was 18 and out of secondary school, he managed to convince the parents to give her out in marriage to him.

    He promised to fulfil the wish of the parents to send her to the university. Once they got married, the first pregnancy came, followed by another and four subsequently. The song then changed to “if you go to school, who will take care of the children?”

    By the time she got her first degree, she was already in her late 40s. Her father did not live to see her as a graduate. In fact, her first two children graduated before her. What do you call the husband’s action? Deceit, which is another name for scam.

    Some Nigerians, who currently live abroad, did arrangee marriages to get their legal status, sometimes with the consent of the legal wives they left in Nigeria. For some, it worked; they are presently citizens of those countries and living happily with the wife and family they initially left in Nigeria. But for others, play, play don turn to eat and go; the arrangee wives have become real wives and the wives they left in Nigeria are left in the lurch to rue their failed gamble. For the latter group, whatever the original intentions of their spouses, marriage has become a scam.

    There is a company with a relatively high divorce rate among female employees; what happened? These women joined the company as fresh graduates and young wives. Over the last 15 years or more, they have climbed the ladder and now earn humongous salaries. Meanwhile, the husbands of some of these women have either lost their jobs or retired. Some of the husbands in private businesses are not doing as well as they did when they were newly married and they were the breadwinners. Now there is a role reversal and the women are the main providers or the breadwinners. Inability to manage the role reversals is what led to the collapse of their marriages. Will you say their marriages were scams? I do not think so.

    Good courtship gives marriages a good chance of survival. But no courtship can reveal everything about your fiancé/fiancée. Some people are adept at deceit and will hide certain traits from you, especially if they are coming into the marriage with a preconceived game plan, not an open mind. Such spouses are scammers. But there are certain traits of spouses that will become manifest due to changes in circumstances. Even the spouse with the traits might not be conscious of them. Let us take two examples.

    It is often said that give a man (woman) power and you will see his/her true colours. We have seen many examples of it in the past 20 years since the return to civilian rule. That is how it is on the home front also. A man becomes incapacitated and power shifts to the wife and you see a different woman. The other one is money. Riches bring out the true colour of some people. When they come by money, you find out that the person is very arrogant brat and was only humble all this while because of lack. If it is the husband, all of a sudden, the wife of many years is no longer good enough; she is not polished and sophisticated. For some women, they begin to wonder how on earth they married their husbands.

    They wonder whether they were under a spell. Are such marriages scams? No, circumstances changed and the dark side of the spouses manifested.
    Again, these days, some young people are going into marriage as a stepping stone. Some marry to get a pie of their spouses’ family wealth. Some marry to get to a certain social status or get into a particular social circle. Some marry their spouses to get the good education that their poor families background denied them. Once they get to that destination, they discard their spouses like used tissue paper. These are pure scams, not marriages.

    The other reason why some young people feel marriage is a scam is because of illusory expectations and perception of marriage. Some think that after you get married, you live happily thereafter. Who told you marriage is a bed of roses? Even if it is, roses have prickles (shukushuku). Sweetest-smelling marriages also have prickles and couples have to deal with the occasional prickling. The problem with some marriages is that the prickling is not occasional, but the order of the day, making the marriages hellish.
    Now let us look at a scenario of a young couple. They do lovey-lovey and get married. Soon after the wife gets pregnant. Pregnancy hits some women hard. They vomit and spit all over the place; who is supposed to clean the mess? The husband, of course. No be your pikin she carry? Can you do lovey-lovey with a woman in such circumstances? Yes, of course, but not the regular mind-blowing sex you were having before the pregnancy. Now, you need to prepare food for her that she might not even eat; clean the floor if she throws up on it, provide and empty the bowl she will spit into, run water for her to have her bath and generally be there for her. That is part of the “for worse” aspect of the “for better, for worse” vow you took during your marriage.

    Some young husbands did not prepare themselves for this. They abandon their wives and go and hang out with the boys. Then when the baby is born, you want to hang around as the proud father. And you think your wife will forget that you abandoned her in her moment of need? Then later you want her to get pregnant for a second baby. I have had to settle disputes among young couples over having more children. This is one of the reasons.

    Also, some young men are fixated on the external beauty of their girlfriends/fiancées. We all like beautiful women, but you must realise that external beauty is ephemeral. Have you seen the photos of some of these “ugly” old mamas (some people dare call them “old witches”) when they were young? They were stunning beauties. The “deterioration” starts once wives start having babies. The first two casualties are their flat tummies and breasts. How a pouch forms in the tummy and how the breasts suddenly collapse is still magic to some young husbands. Men also undergo changes that their wives have to cope with. These are some of the changes, which some young people did not prepare for before getting married, that are making marriage look like a scam to them.

    Now this is my take on the matter. The marital institution is not a scam. It was created by God and everything God created is good. But like many of other God’s creations, the marital institution has been polluted by humans. So, some marriages are actually scams, pure deceits. It is the responsibility of everyone going into marriage to shine his/her eyes to ensure he/she is not scammed. Unfortunately, many people going into marriage are beclouded by lust during courtship and are unable to shine their eyes.