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  • The mistake of Abram – Francis Ewherido

    The mistake of Abram – Francis Ewherido

    By Francis Ewherido

    And it happened that Abram (later Abraham) had to temporarily relocate to Egypt with his wife, Sarai (later Sarah), due to famine in Canaan. Just before they got to Egypt, Abram became worried that the Egyptians could kill him if they knew Sarai was his wife because she was beautiful. And it was not uncommon in Egypt at that time for a man, who desired another man’s beautiful wife, to do a hostile takeover (kill the husband and take the wife). So Abram lied to the Egyptians that Sarai was not his wife, but his sister (and it was partly true because Sarai was actually his half-sister). But at that time, they were together as husband and wife and this spousal relationship was what counted. As expected, Pharaoh found Sarai very beautiful and she became part of Pharaoh’s harem. But God got angry and visited Pharaoh and his household with plagues. Pharaoh had to let go of Sarai like a hot iron (Gen. 12:10-20).

    Sometimes, man does not learn from history, so the mistake of Abram caught up with a young man in Lagos recently. According to the news story, he introduced his girlfriend to his friend as his sister. The friend was living (squatting) with him. Later the girlfriend also came to live with him. In the morning, our man would leave his girlfriend and his friend together at home and go to work. This continued for a while until one day when he got back from work and met an empty house.

    Since then, he had been discreetly looking for them until he traced them to Ajah. When he saw them, the girlfriend was already pregnant for his friend. What brought the matter to public knowledge was his insistence that the girl must come to live with him and the ensuing altercation he had with his estranged friend. I have thought about this matter since I read about it. One, like Abram, why did he have to lie that his girlfriend is his sister. In the case of Abram, God intervened, but in his own case, God did not and could not have intervened because God has no place for co-habitation. I have previously shared my thoughts on co-habitation in this column:

    Cohabitation is putting the cart before the horse. When a man and a woman meet and decide to have a relationship that can lead to marriage, they date. Dating is a period when you get to know a potential spouse better to enable you make up your mind whether or not you want to spend the rest of your life with him/her. Marriage is a turning point, either for good or for bad, in many people’s lives. Therefore, the decision to get married to someone is not something you trifle with. You need prayers, you need fasting; you need to be very close to God to get the divine guidance of the author of marriage. Co-habitation inhibits your prayer life and Godly living.

    When both parties are satisfied that they are meant for each other, the man formally proposes to the woman. Thereafter, he makes arrangements to meet with the girl’s family to make his intention known. And the process culminating in marriage continues from there. After marriage, they can now begin to live together. Women, if any man wants to live with you, let him first of all go to your family and perform the necessary marriage rites. That is class. Do not sell yourself cheap. Also, give your father that honour and your mother, the joy. You disrespect your parents and family by engaging in cohabitation.

    As I said earlier, our man was insisting that the girl should come with him. Come with him while carrying another man’s baby? What is the basis for that insistence? In Africa, the only basis to lay claim to a woman is if you have done introduction (limited claim), traditional marriage, civil marriage or church marriage. You do not lay claim to a girl if you have not done any of these. So, the insistence of our man is baseless.
    The next issue is the shocking naivety of our man. Even if he lied to his friend, deep down, he knew that the girl was his girlfriend, not sister. Why leave her and his friend alone day in, day out, week in, week out and over time before they eloped. I have said it a few times. Man and woman are magnet and iron. Bring them too close and they cling together. So when you leave your girlfriend and friend all alone at home, what can go wrong may go wrong and it certainly went wrong. Some men have no dick control. An Urhobo proverb says that “Odie kokekoke osho vwo rharen yovworu’evu r’ohoro. Evo or’ephe. Oriwovwo karophiyo n’omana je nabogba je ro” (not every erection is meant for sex. Some erections are meant to remind you to go and empty your bladder, while others remind you that you are still virile). For some men, every erection seems to be meant for sex. That is partly why rape and incest are rampant

    But I cannot say that the friend in the eye of the storm is weak. Very few men, other than angels, would spend so much private time with a woman, not
    related to them, and not cave in. Perhaps, when the feelings started running high, like Joseph did with Potiphar’s wife, he should have fled Gen. 39:12). But apparently, he did not. I congratulate him for keeping the pregnancy. Some people in his shoes would have aborted the pregnancy to deceive the friend and maintain the good relationship, while straining their relationship with God. Divine relationship takes precedence over earthly relationships, but our human failings sometimes make us to do the contrary. I also commend him for his refusal to let go of the girl. She is carrying his baby, so she goes nowhere. If after delivery, the girl is still interested in going back to his former boyfriend, she should drop the baby for the father and go. But knowing women, the girl will not leave her baby, not immediately.

    But he (squatter) betrayed his friend. Someone trusted you and let you into his home when you were stranded. And the only way to repay him for his magnanimity was to impregnate his girlfriend. Whether the girl is his sister or girlfriend, he should have refrained. He cannot use the excuse that he thought she was his friend’s sister as a basis to justify this betrayal. It is just not right. Sister, daughter, wife or girlfriend, stay away from women associated with your host.

    Finally, for our man, I will advise him to move on and get himself another girl (wife). He should just learn the valuable lessons that come with this painful experience. But if he insists on having his girlfriend back, he should wait until she has had the baby. But will the feeling of coming back together be mutual?

  • Ondo2020: Man stabbed at polling unit in Akure

    Ondo2020: Man stabbed at polling unit in Akure

    An unknown man has been stabbed by hoodlums at a polling unit in Akure, the Ondo State capital where the governorship election is holding today.

    TheNewsGuru gathered that the incident occurred at Ward 4, Polling Unit 002 in the Ijomu part of the Akure South Local Government Area.

    Deputy Commissioner of Police, Investigation, Ondo State, Lanre Bankole, confirmed the incident.

    Bankole said the victim has been rushed to a hospital, adding that two men have been arrested in connection to the crime.

    He said, “He is alive, he is in stable condition. I visited him at the hospital where he is being treated.”

    Recounting what transpired, Bankole said, “This morning, the victim, who is a registered voter at the polling where he was attacked, said that he was attacked by men he could identify and he has given us the details of those who attacked him.

    “Investigation is ongoing and as soon as we conclude investigation, we will be able to determine what actually transpired but what we have for now is that the man was attacked by people he could identify.

    “We have two men in our custody for now and they are helping us with our investigation.”

     

     

     

  • Man imprisoned eight months for stealing phone

    Man imprisoned eight months for stealing phone

    A Karmo Grade 1 Area Court in Abuja on Tuesday sentenced 37-year-old Chukwu Ndukwu to eight months imprisonment for stealing a cell phone.

    The Judge, Mr Inuwa Maiwada, however, gave the convict option of N11, 000 fine, warning him to be of good behaviour.

    Maiwada also ordered him to pay N60,000 as compensation to the plaintiff, Mr Precious Nwaneri.

    The convict had admitted committing the offences and begged the court to temper justice with mercy.

    He had told the court that he did not know what came over him when he committed the crime.

    Formerly, prosecutor Ijeoma Ukagha told the court that Nwaneri of Karmo reported the matter at the Utako Police Station, Abuja, on Sept. 9, adding that on the same date, the convict and one other now at large, snatched the complainant’s LG phone valued at N90,000 and Zte phone valued at N10,000.

     

  • Man narrates how his wife beats him at slightest provocation

    Man narrates how his wife beats him at slightest provocation

    Olumayowa Afolabi, an auto mechanic, who lives at Odeyan-Akanran road in Ibadan, Oyo State has narrated how his wife beats him at any slightest misunderstanding.

    On Tuesday, he asked an Ile-Tuntun Customary Court in Ibadan to dissolve his 17-year-old marriage to his estranged wife, Mojisola on grounds of disrespect, threat to life and frequent assault.

    In his testimony before the court, the petitioner said he was no longer willing to continue in the marriage with his wife so as to save himself the embarrassment of constant beating.

    “My lord, if someone had told me that Mojisola would turn out to be beating me, I would have argued that it was impossible.

    “It all began in 2018 when she first gave me a deafening slap when I challenged the bad role she played in the fight among four young teachers living in our house.

    “Ever since that time, Mojisola does not hesitate to slap me anytime there was an issue between both of us.

    “In fact, she got so used to slapping me that she even did it in the presence of her younger siblings who themselves complained against it,” he narrated.

    Olumayowa said that her misbehaviour climaxed on January 1st, during the crossover service in church when Mojisola humiliated him by pushing him away in front of the congregation when spouses were exchanging greetings.

    “Worst still, she stripped me naked and beat the hell out of me around May because I prevented her from going out late in the night to collect her phone.

    “Mojisola has repeatedly shown it times without number that she no longer loves me and as a result denies me my conjugal rites,” Olumayowa said.

    However, Mojisola prayed the court not to dissolve the union, adding that her close friend, who was in an amorous relationship with her husband, was the cause of the crack in their marriage.

    She also denied slapping Olumayowa.

    “Our church and family friend named Esther Oluremi, who my husband engaged to run our poultry farm, is the one causing disaffection in our matrimonial home.

    “The woman has sent her husband packing from his matrimonial home and when we visited her on January 1st, this year, I was in the sitting room when Olumayowa went to her bedroom and I saw him putting makeup powder on her face.

    “That was the reason why I pushed Olumayowa in the church. He has also given custody of our children to Oluremi,” Mojisola explained.

    In her counter claim, Oluremi said that Mojisola, her friend, was a pathological liar.

    She contended that the poultry farm was jointly owned by her and Afolabi’s family and that the children were living with her because they were studying with her own children.

    Delivering judgment, Chief Henry Agbaje, held that the damage done to the relationship was irredeemable, hence the dissolution.

    He awarded custody of the first two children produced by the union to the petitioner and the last to the respondent.

    The arbitrator also ordered Olumayowa to pay N4,000 as the child’s monthly feeding allowance in addition to taking responsibility of her education and other basic needs.

  • Tragic! Businessman commits suicide over business failure

    Tragic! Businessman commits suicide over business failure

    A 45-year-old trader based in Port Harcourt, Rivers State has poisoned himself to death.

    Chinedu Peter Ogwa cited hardship and frustration among the reasons for killing himself.

    A reliable source told newsmen on Friday that the incident occurred on Wokoma Street, Mile 3, Diobu on Thursday night.

    The source said the man had been acting strange in the past few days and had earlier told his wife how he tried to kill himself by attempting to consume a rat poison.

    Confirming the story, Ogwa’s wife, Chidinma, said her husband left a note for her, asking her and their children to forgive him and blaming his action on frustration, lack of business success, as well as inability to recover his debts, among other issues.

    Chidinma said: “It all started on the afternoon of Monday, August, 25, 2020, when he called me from where he was then to ask me what we were going to eat for the night. I told him not to worry, that I had already prepared soup.

    “After a while, he came back and met me washing clothes outside. He stood beside me and began to laugh. I was like why are you laughing, but he continued to laugh. Then he said I did not know what he tried to do today. I asked what he tried to do and he said that he was going to take rat poison so he could die. I shouted, ‘Rat poison? For what?

    “He said he was frustrated, that people were owing him here and there and his business was not making any headway. He said he had been in business for 15 years but there was nothing to show for it. He said on top of that, people were laying false accusations against him, saying he did this and that”.

    Speaking further, the young widow said: “On Wednesday again, the man, after dinner, lay down on the bed and began to make some declaration, saying I plead the blood of Jesus into my foundation, I plead the blood of Jesus into my foundation repeatedly. I became afraid because of the intensity of the declaration. I asked him what the matter was, but he asked me not to worry and that it was a prayer point they prayed in the church he went to.

    “I was not comfortable with that. I sat beside the bed and suggested to him to go for deliverance. It was then he told me that he had already done that. I then encouraged him to come to our own church for our normal end of the month programme. We attend Watchman Charismatic Church. He agreed that he would be in church the next day, being Thursday, when the programme would begin.

    “On that Thursday, while leaving the house, he asked me to leave the key for him, that he would come back home before coming to church. I did, but he did not come to church. When we got home, we discovered the door still locked but his phone’s torchlight was on. There was no power supply, we knocked and knocked to no avail.

  • Sad! Man allegedly commits suicide with Insecticide

    Sad! Man allegedly commits suicide with Insecticide

    Residents of Ijora Badia of Lagos State were thrown in mourning when the body of a yet-to-be-identified man was recovered by men of the Lagos State Police Command by the rail line in the Ijora-Badia area of the state.

    Passers-by in the area saw the man lying lifeless beside the rail line.

    It was learnt that security agents, including neighbourhood guards and policemen attached to the Ijora Badia Police Division, were contacted to rescue the man.

    It was gathered that as the policemen were about to take the man to hospital, they found a container of an insecticide by his side.

    This discovery was said to have triggered the suspicion that the man might have consumed the substance in the container.

    The victim, who was rushed to hospital for immediate treatment, was pronounced dead by the doctor on duty.

    When contacted, the state Police Public Relations Officer, Bala Elkana, said some good Samaritans rushed the victim to hospital, where he was pronounced dead, adding that the corpse had been deposited in a mortuary for autopsy.

    Elkana said, “On August 1, 2020, around 9am, we received a piece of information that a male adult with no means of identification was found lying unconscious by the rail line in Ijora-Badia; an insecticide container was found on him, hence it was suspected that he fell into unconsciousness after consuming the substance in the container.

    “He was immediately rushed by sympathisers to hospital, where he was pronounced dead. His corpse has been deposited in a mortuary for autopsy; further developments will be communicated.”

     

  • It is ‘Un-African’ for a man to kneel while proposing to a woman-Kanayo O Kanayo

    It is ‘Un-African’ for a man to kneel while proposing to a woman-Kanayo O Kanayo

    Veteran actor, Kanayo O. Kanayo says it is wrong for an African man to kneel while trying to propose to a woman he plans to marry.

    The outspoken role interpreter made this known via his Instagram page on Tuesday, August 18, 2020.

     

    According to him, it is not African culture for a man to kneel while proposing to woman, maintaining that it was a culture copied from the western world.

    “I’m an African and I stand with Pete Edochie on what he said. It is un-African today to knee down to propose to a woman. I’m an African to that level. Like we always preach it is not all you see on TV that you copy,” he said.

     

    ”It is an Instagram lifestyle. It doesn’t stop you from living it. Live it the way you want. We are not also saying you must live with us in our stone age.”

     

    “Because when we talk about this, some people who think they are more intelligent than us tell us we are coming from the stone age. Don’t worry, live your technology age but it is not part of our culture.”

     

  • Panic as 72-year-old man dies aboard Air Peace flight

    Panic as 72-year-old man dies aboard Air Peace flight

    A male passenger, on Saturday, died on an Air Peace Flight P47182 from Calabar to Abuja.

    The 72 years old man was said to have had a case of paraplegia due to a 2019 spinal injury and was travelling for a medical check-up in Abuja.

    “He became very sick mid-flight and upon arrival at the Nnamdi Azikiwe International Airport, Abuja, Port Health official checked him and confirmed that he was dead,” the report said.

    Confirming the death of the passenger, Air Peace’s spokesman, Stanley Olisa, said the deceased was certified fit to fly.

    Olisa said: “The passenger was certified fit to fly by Port Health officials in Calabar, before boarding our aircraft. But the passenger developed a medical condition in-flight.

    “On arrival at the Nnamdi Azikiwe Airport, Abuja, we urgently notified the Port Health officials who confirmed the death and took the remains of the passenger to the hospital for the necessary protocols.

    “Air Peace has thoroughly decontaminated its aircraft and Port Health is on top of the situation.”

  • Man arrested after beating girlfriend to death for denying him sex

    Oyo State Police has paraded one Shagbada Erigga, aged 24, for killing one Happiness Winfred, female aged 30, at Oritoke Area Ojoo Ibadan, of Akinyele Local Government of Oyo State.

    The suspected victim was paraded on Tuesday at the Oyo State Police Command Headquarters Eleyele Ibadan, the suspect who was paraded along with 32 other suspected criminals has confessed to the crime.

    Briefing journalists on the matter the State Police Commissioner (CP) Joe Nwachukwu Enwowu, disclosed that the suspected criminal, Shagbada Erigga, was arrested following a complaint that was received at Ojoo Police Station Ibadan from one Agu Benson male who had on 25, June, 2020 at about 7 am lodged a complaint to the police that he saw a corpse inside a well of her compound.

    “The detailed investigations by the police led to the arrest of Shagbada Erigga who happens to be neighbours of Agu Benson.

    “Happiness Winfred left her house on Sunday 21, June, 2020 but was later found dead inside a well on 25th of June, 2020 inside a Compound at Oritoke Area Ojoo Ibadan

    “However, since the Suspect Criminal has confessed to the crime, he will soon be charged to Court for proper trail. CP Enwowu said.

    While speaking, the suspected criminal Shagbada Erigga said, “The killing was not intentional, the late Happiness used to be my girlfriend, but since we have been dating she has never for once let me have sexual intercourse with her.

    “On that faithful day of the incident, we were showering together and I asked her the reason she has been denying me of sex but she was raising her voice on me and I slapped her and to my surprise, she slapped me back and I gave her just three blows at the mouth and another one on her neck. Next thing I knew, she fell slumped and died.”

    Erigga stated: “When I discovered that she has died, I quickly carried her corpse and threw her inside a well in my compound because I was afraid and I didn’t want people to suspect me that I responsible for her death.

    “But a few days later, her corpse was discovered by my neighbour who wanted to use the well and she reported the case to the police and I was arrested.

    “I regret my actions. I don’t have intentions to kill her. She used to be my girlfriend. She had told me that she is a runs girl, that she already had three kids and I said no problem, and I promised to take her as my wife before that misunderstanding came up between both of us,” Erigga said.

    Exhibits recovered from the suspect are one side bag, one Andriod Phone, a pair of underwears, a pack of condom, a key and slippers, all belonging to the victim.

  • Man, 26, rapes 80-year-old in Delta

    Justice Marshall Umukoro, Delta State Chief Judge has granted conditional release to 26-year-old Emeka Ozili who reportedly admitted raping an 80-year-old grandmother.

     

    Justice Umukoro said the suspect was released due to the victim’s lack of interest in prosecuting the case. The suspect was among 38 awaiting trial inmates freed at Agbor Correctional Centre by the State’s Chief Judge, Marshall Umukoro.

     

    In the same vein on Tuesday, a man, Taiwo Olatunde, 27, was arraigned before an Ado-Ekiti Chief Magistrates’ Court for allegedly raping two teenagers. Chief Magistrate, Mrs Adefumike Anoma remanded him at a correctional centre and adjourned the case until July 27.