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  • Tragedy as 103 marriage guests die in Kwara

    Tragedy as 103 marriage guests die in Kwara

    Police Command in Kwara has confirmed that 103 persons died in a boat accident at Egbu village, in the Patigi Local Government Area of Kwara.

    The Spokesperson of the Command, SP Ajayi Okasanmi, confirmed the incident on Tuesday.

    The deceased reportedly met their end after the boat conveying them while returning from a marriage ceremony capsized.

    The tragic incident has cast an ominous cloud of sorrow and despair on the village.

    Okasanmi said the names of the survivors would be published soon.

    The Transition Implementation Committee Chairman, Patigi, Alhaji Mohammed Liman, put the number of passengers that died in the accident at 110.

    Liman, while quoting from a statement by one Alhassan Bala Mohammed, a community leader in the area, said, “About 110 people died in the boat mishap in our area.

    “We’re going to tell you about the tragedy and unforgettable memory that occurred to my people from our village and other neighbouring villages close to us.

    “Our village people went to a wedding ceremony in another village called Gboti and the boat carried about 270 people, and almost 110 people were lost.”

    “This is an unforgettable memory and tragedy in the history of our village,” he said.

    Kwara Speaker sympathises with Patigi people over boat mishap

    The Speaker of Kwara House of Assembly, Mr Yakubu Danladi-Salihu, has sympathized with the Etsu Patigi, Alhaji Ibrahim Umar Bologi II, and the people of Patigi over the Monday’s boat mishap.

    In a statement by the Speaker on Wednesday, he condoled  the families of the dead and identified with those still missing, praying to God to forgive the deceased and give the families fortitude to bear the loss.

    The boat conveying people from Egboti in Niger State en route to Kpada in Patigi Local Government Area of Kwara, capsised on Monday night, leaving several people dead and others still missing.

    “Our heart goes out to the people of Patigi, especially those in Ebu, Dzakan, Kpada, Kuchalu, and Sampi over the boat mishap that claimed dozens of lives and left others missing.

    ”We also condole the Etsu Patigi over the unfortunate development; we pray to Allah to grant the deceased eternal rest and give their families fortitude to bear the loss,” he said.

    The speaker also tasked the Fire Service and the rescue team to do everything possible to ensure the recovery of those still missing alive.

  • Is it 6 or 9? – By Francis Ewherido

    Is it 6 or 9? – By Francis Ewherido

    Is the number 6 or 9? Do not rush to answer the question. There are some variables involved. From where are you looking at the number? What is your mind-set? These will determine whether it is 6 or 9. Even if from your position you see 6, you must also realise that if you were looking at the figure from the opposite direction, it would be 9. This ability is called empathy, seeing things from the point of view of others, even if you do not agree with them. It is the absence of empathy that is tearing many marriages to shreds today.

    On Wednesday, I saw a video of a popular couple arguing in the bathroom (what is a camera doing in the bathroom of a married couple?). I am not sure if it is real or a stunt to get publicity and trend. They are actors, so anything is possible. But the issues in the video are common in many marriages, so that is our interest today. The husband said the wife made a mistake but refused to own up to her mistake. The wife, on the other hand, could not see any mistake she had made that she should own up to. The argument degenerated into threats that we shall come to shortly. But I can see two scenarios. One, the man was seeing 6 from his position, while the woman was seeing 9 from her position. If you are dealing with facts, it is easy to adjudicate on such arguments. White is white and black is black; no arguments.

    But when the argument is based on opinions and perspectives, it is difficult. Long ago, I was in the UK for my youngest brother’s graduation. After the graduation, there was a get-together. In the course of the interaction, his school mate, a young lady told me: “Francis, don’t be silly.” From the corner of my eyes, I saw my brother recoil in shock. In the family, where we grew up, you cannot tell an older person “don’t be silly.” But I understood these were oyibo children and simply took it in my strides. Imagine that we were in a marriage where the only perspective I understood was, you must show maximum respect to your husband, I would have considered her utterance disrespectful and there could have been mayhem. But what happened here? I empathised. I understood that in her culture, it is not out of place to say, “don’t be silly, dad.” In one sentence, I saw 6, but also empathised to know that she was seeing 9.

    However, I also know that some spouses would rather die or tell lies than accept the fact that they are wrong. How can white be called black? But this is not unusual in some marriages. The other spouse just has to see it as one of the crosses he/she must bear and live with it? Or do you want to make your home a war zone or end your marriage? There are husbands and wives who would never accept that they are wrong and never apologise. It is very irritating, but that is what it is. May be they would turn a new leaf someday, which would be wonderful, but do not bank on it. Long ago, I said in an article on this column: in marriage that only one spouse changes. That spouse is you. It is within your power to change, but you cannot change your spouse. It is his/her decision to make. If in doubt, ask those who have been married for 20, 30, 40 or even 50 years.

    I also heard the husband telling the wife that this was not the plan at the beginning. In other words, the wife shifted the goalpost after the football match had started. He did not disclose the plan they had. It suffices to say that shifting the goalpost is one of the reasons for problems and collapse of many marriages. My wife and I were sponsors of Mr. and Mrs. Onoriode Barovbe when they got married last Saturday. During the exchange of wedding vows, I listened carefully as if I was the one exchanging the vows: “So that you may assume the duties of marriage in mutual and lasting fidelity.” “Have you come here freely and without reservation to give yourselves to each other in marriage?” “I promise to be true to you in good times and bad, in sickness and in health, I will love you and honour you all the days of my life.” “What God has joined, men must not divide.” Now compare the vows and what obtains in marriages. Why will marriages not be troubled or breakup when the goalpost is shifted with impunity?

    The other thing I noticed was the man threatening his wife. I do not know why spouses issue threats in marriage. It is not advisable. To a large extent, spouses, especially those who have been together for long, know each other so much that one spouse can bring down the other or they can bring down each other. Many years ago, a banker had a flourishing career. By age 30, he was already a senior manager. He had issues with the estranged wife and they could not reconcile their differences. “Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.” She spilled the beans on him at his bank. He was sacked and a very promising career came crashing down like a pack of cards. Even if you decide to part ways as a couple, part in peace not pieces.

    Finally, the husband threatened retaliation because the wife was doing a video that she intended to post online. True to her threat, the wife posted the video (the one in question) in retaliation for the video the husband posted earlier on the wife without her approval. So when will this retaliation end? Whether it is stage managed or real, my impression is that these people might be adults, but they are immature. They also do not understand the institution called matrimony.

    I know that having a large followership on social media is now big business, but you cannot live your married life on social media. You better look for other contents to feed your followers. Marriage is a private matter and too many cooks certainly spoil the broth. Now followers are going to express varying opinions. Even unmarried people would want to give us lectures on marriage. I said it some time ago, but some unmarried people did not like it: I reiterate, marriage is not theory, it is practical.

    Once, they brought a menu card to me in London. I was happy to see jollof rice in the menu and I ordered it. Just one spoonful and I abandoned it. This was not a case of Nigerian jollof or Ghana jollof competition. It tasted anything but jollof rice. I later found out it was prepared by a Caribbean chef. Have you not eaten meals that tasted blank but when they were being prepared, the aroma filled everywhere. That a meal smells fine does not mean it will also taste fine. You have to eat it to know. That is why marriage is a lived experience.

  • Actress Caroline Danjuma regrets divorcing husband

    Actress Caroline Danjuma regrets divorcing husband

    Nollywood actress, Caroline Danjuma, also known as Carolyna Hutchings has expressed regrets about divorcing her ex-husband, Musa Danjuma and said she would love to be reunited with him.

    Caroline, who made this disclosure in a recent interview with media personality, Innih Emah, disclosed she is now better experienced and would handle issues that resulted in the divorce differently if presented with another opportunity.

    TheNewsGuru.com (TNG) reports Caroline married Musa Danjuma, the younger brother of Theophilus Danjuma in 2007 but ended the nine-year-old marriage in 2016.

    She said she wouldn’t have left her marriage if she had the experience she has now. The 35-year-old said she left her marriage because of some “irreconcilable differences.”

    “They were just some irreconcilable differences that if I was of this age and the experience I have now, I think I would have handled it better.

    “He [Musa] would always be the love of my life. He is the father of my three children. He is the one I said, you know what? this man is worth being my husband. So, yes, he would always remain the love of my life and that would not change.

    “I would love to marry again whether it’s my ex-husband or a new amazing man that God sent, I would want to have a family. Yes, I would love to go back to him [my ex-husband] or if God says, this is the man you are going to marry.

    “I just want peace of mind and happiness. As I get older, I just want someone that I can build with and I can have peace of mind with. Peace of mind is more valuable than money,” Caroline said.

  • [Devotional] IN HIS PRESENCE: Dealing with sexual issues in marriage

    [Devotional] IN HIS PRESENCE: Dealing with sexual issues in marriage

    Read: Proverbs 5:1-23

    Meditation verse:

    “The husband should fulfil his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfil her  husband’s needs” (1 Corinthians 7:3, NLT).

    Sex was created by God as an expression of love between a husband and a wife:  to provide physical, emotional as well as spiritual bonding. “Therefore, a man  shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall  become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24). Your sexual experience in marriage enhances your wellbeing. Sex is also a key cause of marital strife. Since God created sex,  He knows how destructive it can be if used in the wrong context, hence He set  very specific boundaries for it. It must be within a marriage. “Flee fornication.  Every sin that a man doeth is without the body, but he that commits fornication  sins against his own body” (1 Corinthians 6:18).  

    Today’s bible reading is an allegory of faithfulness in marriage. Couples are  enjoined to drink water from their own cistern and never allow their springs to  overflow unto the streets. Sex is likened to a spring or river, which if contained  within the banks (marriage) will lead to enjoyment and satisfaction. If the spring  exceeds the banks and spills unto the streets, great devastation can occur. Keep  your marriage bed pure and stay faithful to your spouse. God’s purpose for  marriage is for a husband and wife to always enjoy a sexually fulfilling  relationship regardless of how long they have been married.  

    Maintaining a healthy and fulfilling sex life in a marriage requires a conscious  effort on the part of both parties. According to Psychologist and marriage  counsellor, Dr Richard Nicastro, sex is not always simple and straightforward. A  whole range of factors can negate the experience of sexual fulfilment in a  marriage. An underlying physical or medical condition, or the side effects of  prescription drugs can impact a man’s libido or lead to loss of erectile function.  The demands of child rearing, juggling work and housekeeping can wear a  woman down and cause sex to drop to the bottom of her list, leaving her  husband sexually unsatisfied. Emotional issues such as unresolved anger and  resentment can result in a total loss of sexual desire.

    A negative self-image can also diminish sexual fulfilment in marriage. Some  women pile on excess weight after having children and complain that their  spouses no longer find them sexually appealing. Others begin to feel self conscious about their bodies. With all these factors, many couples find  themselves struggling to keep the sexual passion and desire alive in their  relationships. Research on long term relationships and sex show that as many as  15% of married couples have not had sex in the last six months to a year. Married  couples in a sexless marriage are more likely to consider divorce than couples  who argue constantly but remain sexually active. Sex is not just important for its  sake, it is important for the marriage relationship, as it can make or break it. 

    If you and your spouse are struggling with dwindling sexual desires or a loss of  sexual activity, if your sex life is currently boring, unsatisfactory, or devoid of  passion, you need to know that this is not God’s desire for you. Faithfulness in  marriage need not be boring, dull, or lifeless. The first and most important step  in dealing with this is to acknowledge that a problem does exist. Communication is important. You and your spouse need to come together in an atmosphere of  honesty and love to uncover and deal with the underlying factor(s). Seek  professional help if you need to.

     

    IN HIS PRESENCE is written by Pst (Mrs) Oke Chinye, Founder of The Rock Teaching Ministry (TRTM).

    For Prayers and Counseling email rockteachingministry@gmail.com

    or call +2348155525555

    For more enquiries, visit: www.rockteachingministry.org.

  • Woman banished from Enugu community for allegedly cheating on husband [PHOTOS]

    Woman banished from Enugu community for allegedly cheating on husband [PHOTOS]

    A woman identified only as Martina has been reportedly banished from Iheakpu Obollo Afor village in Udenu Local Government Council area for allegedly cheating on her husband.

    According to a report, the said woman has been cheating on her husband for a long time and had been appeasing the land through rituals.

    A source in the village who craved anonymity disclosed that as a result of the serial cheating, the husband has been in and out of hospital beds.

    “The husband has been sick for a long time due to the sacrilege of his wife, and it’s against the tradition of the land.

    “The husband and Umunna joined to banish the woman,” the source said.

    According to the source, the man’s name is popularly known as Abisco in Ochisiri Iheakpu Obollo.

  • Stop criticizing my marriage – Annie Idibia

    Stop criticizing my marriage – Annie Idibia

    Annie Macaulay Idibia, the wife of popular Nigerian singer, Innocent Idibia, known as 2Face  has called on the general public  to stop criticizing her marriage.

    Annie made this plea on social media while featuring  on a show called the Young Famous and African reality show.

    The beautiful actress also noted that she no longer knows who her friends are anymore, as many people are praying and hoping for her to post her marital difficulties on social media.

    She said: “Just stop, give my marriage a break because you guys are busy praying and hoping that something is wrong with my marriage.

    “And you just want me to tell you that oh Innocent messed up. I don’t even know who my friend is in the group.”

  • Wedding anniversary reflections – By Francis Ewherido

    Wedding anniversary reflections – By Francis Ewherido

    Last Monday was my 24th wedding anniversary. When I went into marriage 24 years ago, it was a mystery. Twenty-four years later, I am not close to unravelling the mystery called marriage. I have gained a lot experience as a participant, a counsellor and an observer, but I remain a student. That is why I am quick to correct anyone who calls me a marriage expert. I acknowledge that I have accumulated a body of knowledge on marriage, but I remain a learner.

    Marriage is not an institution where you pound your chest that you have mastered the art. It is an endless sea of water. I see marriage the way I see surfing. Your knowledge of the art and commitment are crucial, but there are other factors outside your control for its success. When Joseph found out that Mary was pregnant with the child Jesus, the marriage was effectively over, but for God’s intervention. I sincerely believe in the God factor in the sustenance of marriage. But there are atheist whose marriages lasted for decades till one spouse died, how did such marriages endure? I do not know. But I know that the God factor has helped to keep my marriage alive.

    Also, no single spouse can pound his/her chest for the success of his/her marriage because only one spouse cannot make a marriage work, no matter how good he/she is. I met a woman who went into marriage with a firm resolve to make it work. She did everything possible to make her marriage work, but it failed. If your spouse wants out, the marriage is as good as over. That is why everyone whose marriage is still on should stay humble. You are only one of the contributory factors; you are not all in all. You cannot look down on others whose marriages failed. Even if you are an atheist, you must acknowledge the contribution of your spouse. Without his/her continuous consent, there will be no marriage. When a 99 year old Italian man filed for divorce of his 96-year-old wife of 77 years, the marriage ended. The wife had an affair over 60 years before, but the man only stumbled on the evidence at that time. When he confronted her, she owned up to the affair. Swiftly, the man filed for divorce.

    In 1998 the 38 years marriage of Frederik Willem de Klerk (last President of apartheid-era South Africa) to his wife, Marike de Klerk, collapsed due to his infidelity. But former US President, Bill Clinton, committed the same adultery, and his wife, Hilary Clinton, forgave him and the marriage lives on till date. I am just trying to drive home the point that some factors that are responsible for your continued married status are beyond you. Clinton was lucky to escape. Notwithstanding, infidelity remains a major reason for marital breakups.

    Money is another major reason why marriages breakup. These days, many girls say on social media that they cannot be in a relationship with a broke man. Money is crucial in marriage, but it is not all in all. The marriage of Bill Gates and Melinda Gates broke up after 27 years together. The same thing happened to Jeff Bezos and MacKenzie Bezos after 25 years of marriage. Both men were at different times the richest men in the world. Yet money did not save their marriages. Marriage is a wonderful institution created by God. I cherish it and at the same time look at it with suspicion and trepidation. It can be so slippery. You have to be permanently on the alert. Inertia can lead to doom.

    Time has flown by in the last 24 years. It makes me to ask if we have actually lived together for 24 years. Facts do not lie. My first generation of children are in their 20s. They were born after marriage, so we are 24 years old in marriage.

    I see marriage as two sides of a coin. The people going into it are good, bad and ugly. They bring all these traits into marriage. A marriage where one or both spouses are totally good is utopian. Such marriages do not exist. Even if they did, I am not sure I will be interested. Conflicts and the unexpected are parts of life and by extension marriage. What is important are mechanisms to resolve conflicts and weather the storm. For me, during conflicts, do not overstep boundaries: I have seen spouses call their other half fool, idiot, agbaya, mumu, short devil and other acidic words. Somehow, they resolve their differences and life goes on. But I am not sure my marriage would endure such acidic words. My wife and I are two strongly opinionated people, so disagreements are inevitable, but knowing each other’s sensitivity, we are careful, but hurtful words, not abuses, do “leak out” sometimes. I know I have said to myself (I dare not say it out because it would make reconciliation more difficult): “wetin sef? Anywhere cloth like, make e tear (let whatever wants to happen, happen). But even as I say it inwardly, I add, “God, na joke I dey o! Forgive me o!”

    I do not belong to the school that makes rules that the sun must not set or dawn meets an unresolved disagreement. I am not mechanical. I dey vex my vex complete, then I carry eraser clean am. Married people should not take critical decisions in the heat of anger. Decisions taken in the heat of anger have ended some marriages. Even when there was window to remedy the situation, pride stood in the way. Sometimes pride for spouse when don see you finish nor make sense to me.

    While growing up, one of the sayings my mother used to mold us was: “you see, in this life if you look in only one direction, your neck will become stiff, so look in all directions.” This has been very useful to me in marriage and in life generally. If you remember only the good things done for you, you are “eserinone (Someone who remembers only today’s good deeds). My wife does get on my nerves and drives me up the wall sometimes (and vice versa). But I never forget that she has stuck to me through thick and thin, in sickness and in health. I read the story of a marriage which broke up recently. The woman’s only reason was that she was tired of the marriage. I went through the same health challenges as her husband and my wife was a rock all through. When I remember her steadfastness, her faith even when I lost faith and thought I would not pull through, letting go becomes easy. I am not perfect, so I expect no perfection from my wife.

    But I still believe forgiveness by spouses should not be taken for granted. Do not cross the red line. That is taking your luck too far. After 24 years, we know the no go areas. They should not be crossed. But every wrongdoing cannot be sacrilege. That is why your core values should be well spelt out at the beginning and in the course of the marriage.

    The last 24 years of marriage have had their share of challenges, but they have been wonderful and fulfilling years. My wife is not perfect, but she is not tradable. Happy 24th wedding anniversary, Peacock.

  • Between Saint Obi’s marriage and his death – By Zik Zulu Okafor

    Between Saint Obi’s marriage and his death – By Zik Zulu Okafor

    By Zik Zulu Okafor

    His social life was blunted. Perhaps by his reticent disposition.His persona, two dimensional. To a distant public, he was upscale and cool. His manly bearing spoke loud. His onscreen image ironically amplified some idiosyncrasies; heroics, romantic adventures and traits that did not gel with the mortal privacy that eerily define his quiet and lonely life.

    Saint Obi, real name, Obinna Nwafor, was shy, almost bordering on timidity and insecurity. He cherished the pleasantly tranquil interractions among a few friends. He would vanish at any outburst that could upset the poise of such small meetings. As he repeatedly told me, he just wanted to live a cool, quiet and fulfilled life.

    But, has he lived this cool and fulfilled life he envisioned ? I have my doubts.

    I tell Saint’s story here with painful tears in my eyes; because he was a star, a super star whose life turned out a gleam of irony .

    Yet, it was this stardom that fetched him his much professed financially strong and powerful wife . And their wedding, that solemn ritual of love, would drastically alter the cause of his life and tragically yank him off the creative community that threw him up for the wife to capture and indeed conquer.

    Their marriage was at best a dramatisation of love. It was quick. He barely told us that he found a wife. Then, the marriage happened. It was something of a mystique, only those involved understood the histrionics that played out . None of us who were his closest pals, who walked with him through the crucible to the crest of his career in Nollywood, was invited. The distance between us and the guy I admirably called Saint of the Storm had begun. This gulf would widen with each year. We saw him perhaps once in a year after this marriage.

    And life actually seemed to have given him a fair shake of the dice. He dressed well, drove big cars and even his skin, in literal lingo, spelt wellness.

    The Saint would be blessed with three beautiful children. But not one occasion were his friends in Nollywood invited for christening or birthday. We were told that his wife was of the topmost hierachy in telecom giant, MTN . But even if their celebrations were designed to be a rendezvous of the elites of the technocracies that his wife chiefly belonged, you expected that Saint would reach out to a few of his fellow creatives, for even if they would herald his small beginnings, there could be no tinge of shame to it because we all have our journeys and our stories. And even at that, the actor or cineaste in Nollywood is by no means poor.

    But more tragic is the fact that his marriage did not only take away Obinna from his friends, it took him away from Nollywood. Saint stopped acting, absconded from his career and perhaps his calling.

    It would seem prognostic now. Yes, because I recall leaving my house in Lagos Mainland for his massive office in Lekki, Victoria Island, Lagos. It was about six years ago. There, I demanded to know why my friend abandoned our industry. He told me with his usual shy expressions that he wanted to focus on some other businesses and also to work behind the camera. Because his visage was unconvincing to me, I told him in stark terms, that whatever his new vision and pursuits, he must not abandon the trade that made him who he was.

    It took another three years for Saint to return to his homies. But when he did, some of the deeply disappointed ones sniggered behind him. This was because the simmering rumours of cracks in his marriage had hit home. And though secretive in his ways, he knew it was time to open up. And he did. “I do not know why my wife’s sibblings see me as a gold digger. They confront me, harass and fight me in my own matrimony. And my wife did nothing to stop them. I work hard, I earn my money. I have never depended on my wife”, he lamented, eyes blurred with tears. You could tell he was in deep pain. By the next visit, the Saint returned with a deep cut from knife on his left eye. His wife’s brothers, he said, scaled the wall fence of their house to attack him. They were captured by hidden closed-circuit television, CCTV, installed for surveillance and security, he revealed.

    He reported them at the police station and subsequently acquired a gun to defend himself. This effectively marked the beginning of the end of his marriage and perhaps Saint Obi’s long walk to a sad end. He moved out of his marital home to a new house to begin the reconstruction of his destiny, alone without his wife and worse still without his three beautiful children.

    Meanwhile, his wife went to the police to defend her sibblings using her financial power to manipulate the cause of justice, Saint stated unequivocally. The wife also sued for divorce, not in Lagos, but in Ogun state. As Saint put it, “It was to make the journey difficult for me. But I will not bend neither will I break. I will fight with my last blood to take custody of my children. They love me and they know it will be hard for me to live without them.The divorce is not an issue. My marriage has long been over”, he said with a mix of courage and a quaky heart that betrayed his distress.

    About mid last year, however, Obinna took ill. But he told no one. He simply became scarce. He was in and out of hospital, we would later learn. He sold two of his three big SUVs to take proper care of his health and to acquire six camry cars he’d use for Uber. But his vanishing health continued unabated. He seemed to have a premonition of his own passing as he wept repeatedly about not seeing his children. He emaciated. Life took a grim picture. When I saw him by chance in January 2023, the dude called Saint looked 15 years older than his age. His macho cut had shrunk. His fat wallet was gone. What was left was only his fat will. His eyes seemed lost in their socket. This would be the last time I would see him.

    Saint snuck out of Lagos to hang in with his sister in Jos. He told no one.

    But a month ago, in April precisely, the once delightful actor who brought joy to many a home broke his icy silence. He called our mutual friend in US to give him a devastating message. He was on a deathbed, he said and wanted our friend to pray for him. “It’s not looking good, pray, pray for me”, he appealed passionately.

    His next call came on May 1, 2023. This time to his mentor, the man who made him a star with his productions, Zeb Ejiro, OON. He told him with a wavering voice that he had had three surgeries but was still in hospital in Jos. He averred again that his situation was not looking good, that he is also in a deep pain, distressed that he could not see his children. But still he begged him not to tell anyone about his ailment. Such was the life of this creative hermit, a lonely trouper.

    I was the first to hear the news of his death late on Sunday, May 7. Having confirmed it, I called Zeb Ejiro. “I have a very bad news my brother, Zeb”, I began.

    “What is it, what is it, Zik Zulu?”, he asked anxiously. “A big star has fallen in Nollywood”. Zeb broke down in tears. I hadn’t said who it was. But sobbing helplessly now, he said, “Don’t tell me it is Saint Obi”.

    Sadly, Zeb was right.

    May his soul find peace.

     

    Zik Zulu Okafor is a veteran journalist, a film producer and a former President of Association of Movie Producers of Nigeria (AMP).

  • Shamed for marrying 49-year-old American, 26-year-old Nigerian joins US Army

    Shamed for marrying 49-year-old American, 26-year-old Nigerian joins US Army

    Suleiman Isah, an indigene of Kano State, who was shamed for marrying a 49-year-old American, Janine Reimann, has joined the US Army.

    TheNewsGuru.com (TNG) reports Isah was criticised heavily for falling in love with the white woman, who is based in Califonia and works as a chef.

    This is coming three years after Isah tied the knot with Reimann at the Barracks Mosque Panshekara, Kaduna State.

    Isah, before his marital union with his white lover, was critiqued for interracial marriage, religious differences and age differences.

    Recall that Isah married the white lady on December 13, 2020, when they were both 23 and 46 years old, respectively.

    On Friday, May 12, he took to his official Facebook page to announce the big news posting a picture of himself wearing the US Army regalia.

    Isah and Reimann were said to have met on Instagram, and they kept in touch for ten months before announcing their wedding.

    Reimann, a chef based in Lindon, California, reportedly flew into Nigeria for the marriage ceremony.

    TNG reports Isah posted a photo of himself in the US Army regalia with the caption “Alhamdullillah-Forever grateful”.

  • Lady married to visually impaired man shares her love story

    Lady married to visually impaired man shares her love story

    A Nigerian lady, Maimunatu Sa’idu, has said that she decided to get married to a blind teacher, Dahuru Abdulhamid Idris, because she loves him the most among her other suitors.

    Saidu and Idris got married in Zakirai town of Gezawa Local Government Area, in Kano state on Friday, May 12.

    In an interview with DailyTrust, Saidu said she fell in love with her husband the very first day she met with him. Her husband, Dahuru Abdulhamid became popular in 2021 after he was interviewed on his struggles for education and how he was then serving as a volunteer teacher in a public school. He enjoyed goodwill from so many Nigerians including an anonymous person who purchased a three-bedroom flat for him and he also got a job with the Kano state government as a teacher.

    After their wedding rites, Saidu expressed her love for her husband despite his physical challenge.

    “I have loved him from the first day I met him and I will continue till eternity. I believe that God destined us to be together and I accept it with my heart. He is the kind of person I want to be with in my life. He is decent, gentle and loves everything about religion. Marrying him is like fulfilling a life ambition, I promised myself I will marry the best person I love among my suitors. I will try my best to discharge my responsibilities. I will take good care of him and his entire family.”she said

    On his part, the groom said he met his life partner through her elder brother “Who happens to be my friend. From there I realized that I got a wife because of the way she accepted me despite my blindness.”

    On how he will take care of his wife as a blind man, the school teacher said “Marriage is exchanging ideas, needs and responsibilities. So, she has her own responsibilities and I have mine too. I will try my best to deliver and I pray Almighty Allah to guide me right.”