Tag: Marriage

  • We choose to ‘manage’ our marriage- Charly Boy

    We choose to ‘manage’ our marriage- Charly Boy

    Nigerian entertainer, Charles Oputa, popularly call Charley Boy, says his union with his wife, Lady Diana, has often times faced with turbulence just like any other marriage.

    The renowned singer/songwriter, who took to his Instagram page in a video clip, said that sometimes they want to give up in their union, but choose to manage it in order to stay together.

    According to the Area Fada, marriage is management, as such everyone is managing because of what marriage entails.

    He said that instead of yielding to the quarrels and disagreements associated with marriages they decided to renew their vows instead of giving up.

    ” See dis silly couple, how una see dem. This marriage tin dey tireoooo. Many of us don become managers,” he wrote.

    Charley Boy is a Nigerian singer/songwriter, television presenter, actor, publisher, and producer.

    He is one of Nigeria’s most controversial entertainers, best known for his alternative lifestyle, political views, and media productions, most notably The Charly Boy Show.

    He is a onetime president of the Performing Musicians Association of Nigeria and in 2011, he was an Idol Series judge.

  • Get married and shun fornication – Cleric tells Nigerian youths

    Get married and shun fornication – Cleric tells Nigerian youths

    An Abuja-based Islamic cleric, Imam Yahya Al-Yolawi on Tuesday in Abuja urged youths who are of age and have the means to get married and shun fornication.

    This, he said, would make them to earn rewards here on earth and in the hereafter.

    Al-Yolawi, Chief Imam of Nurul Yaqeen Jumma’at Mosque, Abuja said marriage protects the heart from the evil of unbridled sexual desires and the concomitant dangers.

    He said marriage is like an unbreakable fortress which protects those involved from going into hellfire in the hereafter.

    “If a person fears the dangers of fornication he or she will prefer to get married.

    “Marriage should not be put off or delayed especially if one has the means to do so. Whoever is able to marry should marry, for that will help him to lower his gaze and guard his modesty.

    “Marriage encourages reconciliation; the protection of the rights of women and children, and the production of righteous offspring who will be happy in this life and in the hereafter,’’ he said.

    Al-Yolawi stressed that marriage signified one’s commitment in following the teachings of Prophet Muhammad.

    He quoted the prophet as having said that: “marriage is my teaching. Whosoever keeps away from it is not of me”.

  • Man with 102 children orders 12 wives to start using pills

    Man with 102 children orders 12 wives to start using pills

     

    A man with 102 children has vowed not to father any more as he’s struggling to cope with his huge brood.

    Musa Hasahya, 67, who has 12 wives, has now ordered them to go on the pill.

    He said: “I cannot tolerate bearing children any more because of the limited resources. And on that note I have advised all my wives of childbearing age to go for family planning.

    “I also discourage those who wish to marry more than four wives not to do so because things are not good.

  • BREAKING: Popular comedian, Basketmouth, wife divorce

    BREAKING: Popular comedian, Basketmouth, wife divorce

    Comedian Bright Okpocha, better known by his stage name, Basketmouth and his wife, Elsie Uzoma Okpocha have divorced.

    TheNewsGuru.com (TNG) reports Basketmouth took to his official Instagram handle to make the announcement on Thursday.

    According to Basketmouth, the divorce will be his first and last one.

    The Instagram post reads: “As much as it pains me to bring my personal life to the public space, this is an unavoidable situation.

    “After much deliberations, my wife and I have made the difficult decision to end our marriage.

    “As we move forward separately, we will continue to work together to give our beautiful children all the care, love, guidance and support they need.

    “We humbly ask that you respect our privacy as we navigate through these times”.

    TNG reports Basketmouth and Elsie were married for 12 years.

     

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  • You are not perfect too – Yul Edochie fires at first wife, May

    You are not perfect too – Yul Edochie fires at first wife, May

    Yul Edochie has reminded his first wife, May of her imperfections as the Nollywood actor continues to struggle with polygamy in his home.

    Yul has resigned to his fate on polygamy and said it is his destiny while stressing that the Holy Bible is never against it.

    Sharing a stunning photo of May on Instagram on Wednesday, Yul further stressed that it was never his intention to be polygamous.

    “I didn’t do it to disrespect you. I didn’t do it to replace you nor because I do not love you anymore, no,” Yul wrote.

    He also disclosed that May knows the whole story about how Judy, his second wife came into the picture.

    Yule wrote: “To my dear wife,  Queen May Yul-Edochie, I acknowledge that I hurt you deeply and I’ve apologized to you countless times.  I take the blame for my actions.

    “I agree with you that polygamy shouldn’t be forced on anyone. You never bargained for it from the beginning neither did I. But I guess life happens. You already know the whole story.

    “I didn’t do it to disrespect you, I didn’t do it to replace you nor because I do not love you anymore, no. I have always loved you and always will. I’ve been a good husband and a wonderful father.

    “I’ve supported all your hustle from day one, I have been an exceptional father to our children till date making sure they lack nothing and always there for everyone.

    “Out of 100 I have done 99 things right, hating me because of one thing isn’t the best. Nobody is perfect. I’m not. You’re not. Nobody is, except God.

    “I assure you that nobody is trying to take your place. I have apologized to you countless times sincerely from my heart. I’m sorry. I’ve always loved you and always will.

    “Butuo nwanyi oma. We can live peacefully and happily”.

     

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  • How my husband give me sleeping tablets to sleep with my niece – Mrs Olaleye

    How my husband give me sleeping tablets to sleep with my niece – Mrs Olaleye

    Mrs Aderemi Fagbemi-Olaleye, the wife of the embattled Managing Director of Optical Cancer Care Foundation, Dr Femi Olaleye has disclosed how her husband drugs her to sleep her niece.

    Mrs Fagbemi-Olaleye was testifying before an Ikeja Sexual Offences and Domestic Violence Court on Monday when she made the disclosure, saying that her husband was suffering from sex addiction.

    She was led in evidence by Lagos State Director of  Public Prosecutions, Dr Babajide Martins.

    The defendant is charged with defiling his wife’s niece, aged 16 years.

    The witness told the court that her husband checked into a rehabilitation centre – Grace Cottage Clinic, Ilupeju, Lagos State – after he was granted administrative bail, following her reporting the alleged defilement at Anthony Police Station, Lagos State.

    According to the witness, a psychologist, one Dr Ogunnubi, who attended to the defendant at the centre, called and confirmed to her that the defendant was suffering from sex addiction.

    “Dr Ogunnubi reached out and told me that Femi was diagnosed with sexual addiction and that if care was not taken, he might, one day, sleep with our daughter.

    The witness, in her evidence-in-chief, also told the court that her 10-year-old daughter told her that she saw her father undressing the allegedly defiled niece but she could not tell her  ( the witness) because she did not want to make her sad.

    The witness, an economist and entrepreneur, told the court that she had been married to the defendant for 11 years, adding that the union produced two children, aged 10 and seven.

    According to her, the allegedly defiled teenager had been living with her since Dec. 19, 2019, at the family’s residence at Maryland, Lagos State.

    She said that the survivor told her aunt on Nov. 27, 2021, that the defendant had been abusing her sexually since March 2020.

    She said: “My niece confessed to my aunt, Theresa Osodi that my husband, Femi, initially introduced her to pornography; from there, it graduated to oral sex which he was doing around 2.00 a.m. on a daily basis.

    “She said that he switched off the camera so that I would not notice anything. She told my aunt that Femi would unzip his trousers and bend down her head into his penis.

    “After that, he would say, ‘Thank you, my dear; I am saving for you’. This, according to her, went on from March 2020 to November 2021.

    “She said that the oral sex graduated to normal sex, and that Femi would put her on the table in the study room and have sexual intercourse with her and threaten to eliminate her and every other person in the house if she would dare to tell anyone about the sex escapades,’’ the witness said.

    She testified that, one day, the survivor confided in the family driver, Mr Waheed Yusuf, who met her spitting behind the family’s house.

    “She cried and confided in Yusuf, who wanted to confront Femi; she held him and begged him not to tell anyone because Femi had threatened to kill her and every other person.’’

    She said that her husband broke down in tears in the presence of his lawyer, Mr Olalekan, admitting having sexual intercourse with the minor.

    “Femi broke down in tears and confessed to having sexual intercourse with my niece.

    “Femi, in one of his apology emails and text messages, told me that my niece was a blessing to him, that if she was not living with us, he would probably be sleeping with my daughter,’’ she told the court.

    She testified that the survivor was sent to the Mirabel Medical Centre for examination and was  referred to a psychologist.

    The witness also accused her husband of giving her sleeping tablets.

    “I did not know any of these allegations until everyone in my family knew. My lord, most nights, Femi gave me small tablets of aspirin.

    “There was a time we had a visitor, Aunty Bridget, who slept in the guest room and my niece decided to sleep with her.

    “Unknown to Femi that we had a visitor, he tiptoed to the guest room thinking it was only my niece who was sleeping there, and removed her wrapper.

    “Bridget shouted and he apologised, saying that he was checking on everyone,” she said.

    The witness denied the claim that she set up her niece against her husband.

    “How can I set up a 15-year-old child to destroy the father of my children? I do not have anything to gain.

    While being cross-examined by defence counsel, Mr Babatunde Ogala (SAN), the witness said that Ogunnubi told her that her husband was diagnosed with sex addiction.

    “Our sex life as couple was great; I was surprised that my niece gave him oral sex because he told me he never liked oral sex.

    “I share the same bedroom with my husband, and I go to bed at 9.00 p.m. after praying with the children, my niece inclusive.

    “My husband, sometimes, says he wants to stay back and watch television,” she said.

    She also told the court that she had filed for sole custody of their children before a Yaba Magistrate’s Court.

    She added that a joint account she had with her husband was opened by her and she owned 90 per cent of the money in it.

    The witness also said that she did not request that their house be signed off for her as a condition for her to drop the charges.

    She added that her husband did not sign change of ownership of their car worth N14 million.

    Justice Ramon Oshodi adjourned the case until Dec. 21 for continuation of trial

  • Finally, Paul Okoye free to remarry as Abuja court dissolves his marriage to Anita

    Finally, Paul Okoye free to remarry as Abuja court dissolves his marriage to Anita

     

    An Abuja High Court of the Federal Capital Territory, Maitama has finally granted Anita and her estranged husband, Paul Okoye divorce.

    TheNewsGuru.com, (TNG) recalls that the eight year-old marriage of Anita and Paul Okoye of P-Square music group was heading for the rocks as the former had filed for divorce from her husband – citing a number of issues.

    Paul Okoye, popularly known as Rudeboy, first didn’t take the news seriously, particularly since neither he nor his attorney had been served.

    In reality, Barrister Counsel to the Okoye brothers, earlier claimed when the story first surfaced in July that neither his law firm nor his client had received divorce papers.

    Anita Okoye, however, was found to have leaked the divorce documents to paid influencers on the advice of her allies, who reportedly told her that such a media leak could persuade a shy Paul Okoye (Rudeboy) to demand a monetary settlement.

    In August 2022, she served Paul with the divorce papers after trying in vain to get him to the negotiating table.

    Anita Okoye cited five major reasons for her decision to divorce her husband: cheating, a claimed separation, being an absent parent, fraud, and difficult experiences. She, therefore, requested a settlement of $20,000 monthly as well as a number of her husband’s posh mansions.

    Anita in her divorce petition signed by her lawyer, Ojonimi Akpe and Okutepa J.S at an Abuja High Court of the Federal Capital Territory, Maitama had earlier claimed that she contributed N10 million as an agreement with her husband that she would be granted space at the mall he had just completed in Lekki Phase, Lagos.

    Anita went ahead to accuse Paul Okoye of cheating her out of a deal to build a mall to be jointly owned.

    The petition which reads in part said, “That I know as a fact that the Petitioner founded a company called TannkCo in 2019.

    “That the Petitioner and the Respondent agreed to build a mall where TannkCo would have its main offices, and the Petitioner contributed N10,000,000.00 (Ten Million Naira) for the purchase of the land and the building of the mall.

    “That I know as a fact that the Respondent, upon completion of the mall, reneged on the agreement and failed to give TannkCo a space in the mall.

    It was also alleged that during the proceedings in court, it was noticed that Anita, who participated in court sessions via Zoom throughout the trial, was unable to prove all of the claims in her petition to the court, in a counter-affidavit filed by the respondent’s attorney, wherein she was asked to provide proof of her contribution to her husband’s wealth, she was unable to provide even one evidence.

    As a result, she decided to make a U-turn by withdrawing all her claims and opting for settle.

    The court, in its wisdom, only gave joint custody of the children to the parties in the ruling on the case on October 20, 2022. The petitioner was however not given any money in the form of alimony or settlement.

    Paul, 40, met Anita, 33, in 2004 during their undergraduate days at the University of Abuja. They married on March 22, 2014, in Port Harcourt, Rivers State.

    Their union has produced three children: Andre — born in 2013 — and the twins, Nathan and Nadia, born in 2017.

  • Little foxes in marriages – By Francis Ewherido

    Little foxes in marriages – By Francis Ewherido

    By Francis Ewherido

    Once people hear that a marriage has collapsed, the first thing that comes to people’s mind is infidelity. All over the world, infidelity is a major cause of collapse of marriages. The problem, I guess, is not the act itself, but the betrayal of trust. In Urhobo land where I was born and grew up, in those days, 90 per cent of the married women who cheated would be sacked by their husbands, only about 10 per cent would be forgiven and taken back by their husbands after necessary sacrifices (Iye) have been performed to appease the gods, forefathers and cleanse the woman. As a result of polygamy, the men cannot really be accused of adultery except those who did civil and church wedding.

    With reports saying that at least 50 per cent of married men and women in Nigeria cheat or have cheated at some point, the paradigm has definitely shifted. I was stunned when a friend told me recently that in the unlikelihood that his wife cheats, he will not divorce her, he will forgive her and move on with his life. The same person told me 15 years ago that he will “fling” the wife out of the house if he found her cheating. What has changed for him? Let’s leave that for another day and face today’s topic.

    The story broke last weekend of a man who allegedly stabbed his wife to death. The issues involved are: there was prior argument over water to take his bath, the man had returned from work in the night to discover there was no water for him to take his bath. He was said to have scolded his wife on why she did not buy water into the empty Jerry cans at home because there is no public water supply in the area. The man ordered his wife to accompany him to buy water in three jerry cans for the house. On the way the woman diverted to buy batteries for their wall clock that had stopped working. Her action stirred up another round of argument as her husband accused her of always buying the wrong battery. He said they had agreed that she should not buy batteries for their wall clock again, as she was always buying the wrong ones.

    In the course of “the quarrel, she abused my parents, which was a regular thing whenever we quarrelled.   When we got home, she continued abusing me. I climbed upstairs, and she followed me, cursing me. When I came downstairs, she still followed me. I got angry.” In the ensuing quarrel, he was said to have made for the kitchen knife and stabbed his wife in the neck, thereby leading to her death. These are story and allegations out there. One person is dead and another facing manslaughter charges.

    This brings us to today’s topic: “Catch us the foxes, the little foxes that ruin the vineyards, the vineyards that are in bloom” (Song of Solomon 2:15). What are the little foxes that ruined this marriage?  The wife was probably in the house all day, what prevented her from buying water before the arrival of the husband? Life in Lagos is very hectic? It a is no brainer that many Lagosians head for the bathroom once they get home or take dinner first depending on what is more urgent. When the man saw, there was no water, why did he not go there alone to buy the water since he knows where they sell it? Why drag along a wife who never bothered to buy water in the first place?

    On the way to buy water, why divert to buy batteries for the clock? How can these batteries be a priority? Everybody has a phone and wristwatch, how many people still remember to look at their clocks in the house? I cannot understand how clock batteries can take precedence over water for the house in this regard. Water is life. This was a wrong time to divert. The man is already upset. This action shows lack of regard for the husband and his feelings. I know many wives also want to “quickly stop” and do something before facing what took them from the house. My wife also does it. But she now knows that once I leave my house for a reason, I want to accomplish that before any other matter. Initially, I used to complain loudly. These days, I grumble without saying a word. Peace must reign, but I see it as lack of focus. But she also has a right to see me lacking flexibility. It is the number 6 or 9 argument, depending on the angle from where you are seeing the number.

    She was alleged to continue abusing the husband. Abusiveness (physical or verbal) ultimately provokes violent reactions from some spouses. Many husbands and wives have lost their lives in the process. We should avoid abusive words and actions in marriage, but sometimes, you can only control yourself, not your spouse. But you get to the point where you will lose control of yourself, walk away or flee if you need to. If not, you can find yourself in a similar situation.

    It was also alleged that she abused the husband’s parents. That is a no-no in marriage. When I was to get married about 25 years ago, one of the pieces of advice my eldest brother, Fr. Tony, gave us was respect for each other’s family. I have held to that firmly since then. Disagreements with in-laws can happen, but never allow it get to the point of abusing in-laws. The Husband, wife and children, if any, are the immediate family, but some spouses are still well bonded with the families they came from, especially loving and close families. Respect your spouse’s parents, siblings and other close relatives. If they get on your nerves, discuss it with your spouse and find a solution.

    Talking about respect, Apostle Paul admonishes, “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord…Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. Did both of them follow this injunction? How can you stab a woman that you really love? Also, I advise women close to me that many men will take a lot of sh*t from you, but not disrespect. The collapse (once one spouse is dead and another faces time in prison, the marriage is over) of this marriage did not happen overnight. The small foxes that destroyed it have been around. Apparently there was no more love in the marriage.

    For the rest of us, what are the small foxes in our marriages that have the capacity to ruin our marriages? They are present in every marriage: impatience, anger, disrespect, avoiding conflicts (you do not avoid conflicts, you resolve them peacefully), unforgiveness, living a false life (do not come to social media to deceive people that your marriage is perfect when it is actually troubled, quietly fix it) and many others. You know what small foxes are threatening or can threaten your marriage. Identify and fix them.

  • How I got my husband, Fredrick Leonard to marry me – Actress Peggy Ovire

    How I got my husband, Fredrick Leonard to marry me – Actress Peggy Ovire

    Popular Nollywood actress, Peggy Ovire has shared the secret that made actor, Fredrick Leonard to marry her.

    The newlywed bride shared this recipe with a fan who was interested in knowing how she got her man.

    The female fan, identified as Amaka on Instagram, revealed that she had been crushing on Leonard.

    She inquired to know from Peggy how she managed to get Leonard and they got married.

    “Even though you don carry my crush, no problem. Make I go find another one. Peggy, what did you add in your stew,” Amaka asked.

    In her one word response to Amaka, Peggy said: “patience”.

    In related development, Peggy had stated confidently that her husband, Frederick Leonard does not womanize.

    The actress, who married over the weekend while sharing their unique love story and how they dated for seven years before finally tying the knot, said her husband was faithful to their relationship throughout those years and pleaded for him not to change.

    She showered praise on her husband, describing him as a prayerful man, her best friend, true to his words, and someone who has proven his unwavering love for her time and time again.

    She described herself as ‘lucky’ to be married to someone like him, and advised fellow ladies to be patient with their partners.

    “I saw a man that is not a womanizer and most importantly that’s why I stayed for this long. Please don’t change, Fredrick is one man that I can beat my chest on, despite what everybody is saying, that he doesn’t womanize. I will love you, I will respect you”. She said in part.

  • U.S. Congress passes landmark bill protecting same-sex marriage

    U.S. Congress passes landmark bill protecting same-sex marriage

    The U.S. House of Representatives has given final congressional approval to legislation that provides federal recognition of same-sex marriages, a measure born out of concern that the Supreme Court could reverse its support for legal recognition of such relationships.

    The House vote was 258-169, with all of the chamber’s Democrats and 39 Republicans voting in favour – though 169 of the chamber’s Republicans voted against it and one voted “present.”

    The measure now goes to Democratic President Joe Biden’s desk for signature into law.

    The Respect for Marriage Act, as it is called, won Senate approval last month.

    The legislation won the support of LGBT advocates as well as a number of religious organizations and entities including the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, though many American religious conservatives still oppose gay marriage as counter to biblical scripture.

    It is narrowly written to act as a limited backstop for the 2015 Supreme Court decision that legalized same-sex marriage nationwide, known as Obergefell v. Hodges.

    It would allow the federal government and states to recognize same-sex and interracial marriages as long as they were legal in the states where they were performed.

    It makes concessions for religious groups and institutions that do not support such marriages.

    The measure would repeal a 1996 U.S. law called the Defense of Marriage Act, which among other things denied federal benefits to same-sex couples.

    It bars states from rejecting the validity of out-of-state marriages on the basis of sex, race or ethnicity.

    The Supreme Court in 1967 declared prohibitions on interracial marriage unconstitutional.

    But the legislation would not bar states from blocking same-sex or interracial marriages if the Supreme Court allowed them to do so.

    It also ensures that religious entities would not be forced to provide goods or services for any marriage and protects them from being denied tax-exempt status or other benefits for declining to recognize same-sex marriages.

    In a speech on the House floor ahead of the vote, Democratic Speaker Nancy Pelosi condemned the “hateful movement” behind attacks on LGBT rights in the United States.

    The legislation “will help prevent right-wing extremists from upending the lives of loving couples, traumatising kids across the country and turning back the clock on hard-won prizes,” Pelosi said.

    Republican Representative Jim Jordan said the bill was “dangerous and takes the country in the wrong direction.”

    When the Senate passed it by a vote of 61-36, 12 Republicans joined 49 Democrats in supporting it. Most Senate Republicans voted against it.

    A broader version of the bill – without the explicit protections for religious liberty – passed the 435-seat House in August, with the backing of all the Democrats and 47 Republicans.

    But to get the necessary 60 votes in the Senate to proceed with the legislation amid opposition by many Republican senators, its co-sponsors added an amendment clarifying that religious groups could not be sued under the it.

    The legislation was written by a group of Democratic and Republican senators in response to fears that the Supreme Court, with its increasingly assertive conservative majority, could someday strike down the Obergefell ruling, potentially jeopardizing same-sex marriage nationwide.

    The court has shown a willingness to reverse its own precedents as it did in June when it overturned its landmark 1973 ruling that had legalized abortion nationwide.

    The Supreme Court’s conservative majority on Monday appeared ready to rule that a Christian web des has a right to refuse to provide services for same-sex marriages in a case the liberal justices said could empower certain businesses to discriminate based on constitutional free speech protections.