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  • “I wish my marriage lasted enough” – Model, Faith Morey

    “I wish my marriage lasted enough” – Model, Faith Morey

    Supermodel cum actress, Faith Morey has reacted to a video of veteran actress, Joke Silva dressing up her husband, Olu Jacobs for his 80th birthday photoshoot.

    Morey who stated that the couple have real love, also shared that growing old with the one you love is always a dream and she wished her marriage lasted long enough.

    She also pointed out that divorcees and mostly women are at the receiving end of a failed marriage, before concluding that no one gets into marriage while thinking of divorce.

    Faith Morey recently confirmed that marriage to her husband, Randy Morey has ended. The couple got married in 2010.

    She wrote: “This is real love right here. Growing old with the one you love is always a dream. I wish my marriage lasted enough.

    “People mock divorcee and most of the time the woman is at the receiving end of a failed marriage but what most people fail to realize is that NO ONE goes into marriage ever thinking of divorce, we all think it’s TOGETHER FOREVER. I pray I get a forever soon”.

  • AGF Malami quietly marries Buhari’s daughter as third wife

    AGF Malami quietly marries Buhari’s daughter as third wife

    Abubakar Malami, Attorney-General of the Federation, on Friday secretly wedded Nana Hadiza, daughter of President Muhammadu Buhari as third wife.

    A source privy to this development confirmed that the wedding took place on Friday at a private Nikkai ceremony held at the villa.

    Nana-Hadiza, aged 41, is Buhari’s third daughter with his first wife, Safinatu

    Hadiza was married to Abdulrahman Mamman Kurfi with whom she had six children before their divorce.

    With this marriage, Hadiza becomes the third wife of the minister – after Aisha and Fatima.

    Meanwhile, Umar Gwandu, Malami’s spokesperson, did not respond to an inquiry about the wedding.

    Malami was appointed as AGF and minister of justice after President Buhari won the election in 2015 – he was re-appointed on August 21, 2019.

  • Woman refuses to dance naked in the village after adultery

    Mrs Sandra Iyenanye, a trader in Lagos State, has stood her ground and refused to go to the village to dance naked and perform other rites after owning up that she committed adultery.

    Mrs Iyenanye rather approached an Igando Customary Court on Tuesday to dissolve her long-distance marriage to her husband Mr Vestus Iyenanye.

    The petitioner, a resident of No. 8, Jaiyeoba St., urged the court to grant her a divorce from her husband on grounds of abandonment, cheating and negligence.

    “My husband who is based in Austria has since abandoned the home. He has come home a total of four to five times since our marriage in 2019, he has once beat me up with a belt because of another woman.

    “I found out he was seeing another woman in 2010 and I confronted him only for him to beat me up with a belt.

    “I later ran to my uncle’s house for protection but my uncle mediated and settled our misunderstanding and my husband promised not to lay his hands on me again.

    “After settling, he travelled back with a promise to come back a year later but he did not, so due to frustration we exchanged words on the phone. His family held on to what I said and termed it abominable and labelled me a bad wife.

    “Unfortunately, the next time he would come back was 2022. But before then he stopped sending money for the upkeep of our children and left all responsibilities to me. All efforts to speak with him proved abortive.

    “The one time I called, it was a lady that picked the call and she later told me I was waiting for my husband in vain and that I should better move on. She said all types of spiteful and hurtful words to me which my husband didn’t see any wrong in it,” the petitioner narrated.

    She further told the court that throughout the period her mother was sick and later died, her husband did nothing about it neither did he call or check up on her.

    “He later sent meagre money after I expressed my displeasure, and in his words, he said I should better be grateful as he didn’t even have money to send to me; that the money he sent was borrowed from his girlfriend.

    “When I saw that my husband was not trying to make the marriage work nor even attend to my sexual needs, I had a one-time affair. His family said I must dance naked in the village square as atonement and pay the sum of N100,000. After the whole rites then I can be free to go.

    “I asked my husband if he would still accept me, and he said no. Because of this, I want a divorce from him as I do not even intend to perform the rites either. It’s best we both go our separate ways and I be granted custody of the children,” Mrs Iyenanye said.

    Standing in for the respondent was his brother, Mr Cobina Iyenanye, who had good things to say about his brother’s wife and sang praises of her.

    “I commend her resilience and patience, she’s a good woman, she has tried, she is not a bad person; I only agreed to come to the court because I want them to separate without fights and all dues be given to the woman,” he said.

    The Court President, Mr Adeniyi Koledoye, adjourned the case until Aug. 2, for judgment.

  • Some YouTubers with sterile contents – By Francis Ewherido

    Some YouTubers with sterile contents – By Francis Ewherido

    By Francis Ehwerido

    I have been going to YouTube, specifically African YouTube channels, for a while now. I started with wildlife channels before adding travel channels and others. Initially, I really enjoyed the experience because it opened my eyes to the developments taking place in the rest of Africa. But since some people, especially young and inexperienced African YouTubers without, set goals and knowledge of mass media ethics saw YouTube as an opportunity to earn a living entered the YouTube space, I have been put me off. The one that really got me pissed off and made my anger to boil over is the one I stumbled on with the topic: “Can a Nigerian marry or date a Ghanaian?” What a dumb question? Before independence Ghanaians and Nigerians were already getting married to one another. One of the happiest couples I have met is a Ghanaian man and a Nigerian woman. Marriage is essentially about the people involved. Culture can be a factor, but the critical factor is the couple, especially if they understand marriage for what it is: companionship.

    If two blind folded people were to have sex, for instance, without uttering a word, which will reveal their accent, can they tell from the feel of  the vagina or the penis their nationality, race or ethnicity? It is pre-existing biases and beliefs that colour or poison people’s minds. Notwithstanding, love conquers all. Love is mysterious, once two souls connect genuinely, ethnicity or nationality take the back seat. That is why, interethnic, interracial and marriages across national borders endure.

    Apart from the above topic, there is the obsession and continuous comparism of Nigeria and Ghana. Both countries have had a long time healthy rivalry in football, a sport where 11 players are pitched against each other. This makes comparism easy. Older Nigerians will never forget the heartbreak that Abedi Pele, the great Ghanaian and African player caused Nigerians. He played a major role each time the Black Stars of Ghana defeated the Green Eagles (as the Super Eagles were called then). The Green Eagles had great players, but Abedi Pele was exceptional

    I see the comparism Nigeria jollof and Ghana jollof rice as fun, but the truth is, a great Nigerian cook will give you delicious jollof rice  while a lousy Nigerian cook will give you jollof rice that taste like paper. The same applies to Ghana. So, there is no rivalry there; it is just fun.

    I was trained in journalism when the only mass media were print and electronic. They still remain the most reliable media to date.  So I decided to go there and verify the so called intense rivalry between Nigeria and Ghana, as the YouTubers portray. In the Nigerian Newspapers, there is scarcely any news on Ghana. I only saw one two-paragraph story on four Ghanaians resident in Nigeria, who were involved in some infractions. Nigeria has enough internal issues to fill the newspapers of Nigeria. The last time news on Ghana featured prominently in Nigerian newspapers was when the Black Stars nicked Super Eagles to the 2022 World Cup ticket.

    The expulsion of Nigerians from Ghana in 1969 and Ghanaians from Nigeria in 1982 has nothing to do with rivalry. As far as I am concerned, it is due to the inexperience and wrong sense of judgement by the leadership of both countries at that time. Do not forget that these leaders were very young then. I do acknowledge that the experience might have left a bitter taste, especially in the mouths of those who were affected. I recall my friend telling me how his father who was very rich in Ghana came back to Nigeria to start life all over again. The same story probably reverberates with some people in Ghana

    Some Nigerians refer to Ghana as “ordinary Ghana” sometimes which Ghanaians find very upsetting. Ghanaians, on the other hand, never fail to remind Nigerians of how peaceful Ghana is and their more stable electricity. They also taunt Nigerians about instability, erratic power supply, frequent disruption in school calendar and fraudsters.  In truth, many Nigerians have left Nigeria for Europe and other countries in Africa, including Ghana, for further education due to frequent strikes. The erratic supply in Nigeria is a fact, but the truth is there no black African country enjoys uninterrupted electricity supply like we have in Europe and that should be every country’s target, not just stable power supply.

    Some young Nigerians are involved in criminal activities in Ghana. This is making many Ghanaians angry. That is understandable, but they have laws to take care of that problem. There are a few reasons why young Nigerians go to Ghana. One, they talk about the peace and security in Ghana. Two, young Nigerians have herd mentality. Some youngsters disappear from Nigeria and reappear after a while. They have become very rich overnight. What did they do to make money? Nobody, including some parents, is interested. Rather peers just want to go Ghana and “blow.” It is later you will hear rumours that they did rituals and internet fraud.

    I do not want to go into entertainment because Ghanaians who are the gurus in that sector acknowledge Nigerians dominance in music, comedy, films, etc. Nigeria is undisputed entertainment hub in Africa. These young Nigerians have gone beyond Africa to the global scene and are making waves.

    So, which rivalry are these YouTubers hyping? I studied mass communication and decided to go to the traditional media and verify the rivalry. There is not much Ghanaian news in Nigeria’s newspapers and electronic media. I have never been to Ghana so I went online to see their newspapers. The stories on all the front pages of all the newspapers I saw were issues concerning Ghana. The only Nigeria-related stories I saw, and not even on the front page, were on one Nigerian cross dresser who recently opened a multi-million naira house and three Nigerians arrested for allegedly involvement in internet fraud.

    I also watched a few television programmes on Ghana television stations. On entertainment, some downplay the giant strides Nigeria has made in entertainment, while others readily acknowledge it and advise Ghanaian entertainers to find out what Nigeria is doing right. Generally, they are not happy about the state of the Ghana entertainment industry. That is fair enough. So where did all these YouTubers get this the rivalry from? They are just trying to get more subscribers and drive traffic to their channels. Unfortunately, they are also irritating some readers/viewers.

    Personally, I want to see the growth and development in other African countries, not non-existent rivalry. I want every African country to grow so that Africa can be like Europe. How does the non-development of other African countries help Nigeria? These ill-trained YouTubers should the study other successful YouTubers on how to be successful. They should come up with irresistible contents and not promoting hate and non-existent rivalry. Also, Nigerian YouTubers based outside Nigeria, should leave Nigerians at home alone, and just enjoy their lives wherever they are, while we grapple with our challenges and look for solutions, we are tired of noisemakers; what we need are solution providers, not people who devalue us in their countries of abode. If you cannot add value, leave us alone.

  • BREAKING: Funke Akindele’s husband, JJC Skillz announces marriage crash

    Abdul Rasheed Bello, Nigerian singer and producer better known as JJC Skillz has announced that his marriage is over with Funke Akindele, the Nollywood filmmaker.

    TheNewsGuru.com (TNG) reports JJC Skillz announced his separation from Funke Akindele, popularly known as Jenifa on Thursday.

    In a post on his Instagram page, JJC Skillz said he moved out of the house three months ago and that they had been leading separate lives.

    “Dear Friends and family, I need to let you know that Funke and I have separated. While it lasted we shared a lot of things together and have created 2 beautiful children.

    “The last two years have been extremely difficult for us. I know I have tried my best to fix things but I believe it is beyond repair now.

    “Three months ago and at Funke’s insistence, I moved out of the house and apart from AMVCA have not been able to get Funke to sit down in an amicable manner to discuss the future of our relationship.

    “I’m making this announcement so that the public is clear that we both are pursuing separate lives.

    “We still have issues that need to be addressed such as the custody and well-being of our children which is paramount as well as business interests which need to be disentangled but I have no doubt that these will be resolved one way or the other,” JJC Skillz wrote.

  • Sad: Couple dies in ghastly accident after traditional marriage

    A couple, Kelvin and Evi, have tragically lost their lives after their traditional marriage ceremony in Oleh, Isoko South Local Government Area of Delta State.

    TheNewsGuru.com (TNG) reports Kelvin and his new bride, Evi got married on Wednesday, June 21, and were on their way home after the ceremony when they were involved in a ghastly motor accident.

    The couple died alongside the driver of the vehicle, who was identified as Armstrong, and a friend of the groom, who was identified as Timi.

    It was gathered that Timi had just bought the car involved in the accident two weeks before the traditional marriage ceremony.

    While details of the ill-fated accident remain fuzzy, a source close to the couple disclosed that they earlier escaped an accident while going for the traditional marriage.

    The source further disclosed that on their way returning from the traditional marriage, they made a stop at the spot where they had the accident earlier, and took pictures.

    “The second accident happened less than three poles away from the first one. Even, Armstrong had to take over from the driver, who drove the car when the first accident happened earlier.

    “When they got to the spot of the first incident, they stopped and even took pictures of the place before they continued on the journey.

    “Only for them to drive less than a three-pole distance and the vehicle somersaulted,” the source disclosed.

    TNG reports Kelvin and Evi were set to have their white wedding this weekend. Photos of the victims have been circulating on social media with condolence messages.

    See photos and videos below:

    Evi and Kelvin una do us dis one.
    Yesterday was ur happiest day on Earth but u turn it to be ur last day on Earth.
    Rest on till we meet and part no more.
    ???????????????

    Posted by Treasure Treasure Assurance on Thursday, 23 June 2022

  • I wasn’t served divorce papers before Blossom Chukwujekwu got married – Ex-Wife, Maureen

    Maureen Esisi, former wife of Nollywood actor, Blossom Chukwujekwu has said that she is yet to sign any divorce papers.

    Maureen revealed this in a question-and-answer session she did on Instagram with her followers.

    This is coming days after her Ex-husband, Blossom, got married to clergywoman, Ehinome.

    A follower had asked, “When did you do your divorce? Because the last time we asked you said not yet done.”

    She responded by saying, “Last I checked, I signed no divorce papers.”

    Another follower asked, Why didn’t you sign the divorce papers? You weren’t served?

    She replied, “Wasn’t served any!”

  • “JJC is a wonderful and caring father”- Actress, Funke Akindele hails husband

    Award winning Nollywood actress, Funke Akindele, has finally broken her silence on her rumoured breakup with husband, JJC Skillz.

     

    The mother of two decided to celebrate husband, JJC Skillz during Father’s Day on Sunday to quench all the rumours flying round that the couples had gone their separate ways.

     

    According to Akindele, in her recent post, JJC is a wonderful and caring father. The 44-year-old also used the medium to appreciate the singer and also to pray for him.

     

    Sharing series of photos JJC snapped with all his children, Funke wrote;

     

    “Happy Father’s Day darling!!! Thank you so much for being a wonderful and caring father. We love you God bless you more Baba Ibeji of life!”

     

    Taking to the comment section of the post to react, JJC wrote;

     

    “Awwwww thank you darling God bless and protect us #familyfirst #thebellos.”

    Akindele

     

    TheNewsGuru.com (TNG) recalls that JJC Skillz in an Instagram post,, while reacting to break up rumour rocking his wedding with Akindele, urged his wife not to allow anyone to spoil her mood.

     

    Rumors on social media had it that Funke Akindele’s marriage was reportedly facing serious troubles.

    According to JJC Skillz, their marriage is steady.

     

    “Don’t let anyone spoil your vibes, Bellos forever #devilisaliar.”

     

    See Post Below:

     

    Akindele

    On May 26, 2012, Akindele married Adeola Kehinde Oloyede.
    The couple divorced in July 2013, citing irreconcilable differences.
    Akindele married Nigerian rapper JJC Skillz in London in May 2016.
    Her pregnancy rumours were among the top searched results on Google search engine in August 2017.
    Akindele gave birth to twin boys in December 2018 and has several step-children.

    The actress runs a nongovernmental organization known as the Jenifa Foundation, which aims at providing young people with vocational skills.

     

    Akindele has endorsement deals such as her being signed as an Ambassador to Dettol and Irokotv.

     

    In 2018, she was signed as brand ambassador for Keystone Bank.

     

    In November 2019, she signed an endorsement deal with WAW Nigeria, a company that manufactures detergent and bar soap.

  • Domestic violence in marriage: Way out – By Chima Nwosu

    Domestic violence in marriage: Way out – By Chima Nwosu

    Domestic violence/abuse is when one person in a marriage or intimate relationship tries to dominate, or excessively control the other. An abuser is someone who treats another person in a cruel, violent or unfair way. An abuser uses dominance, humiliation, isolation, threats, intimidation, denial and blames, etc. to get control over his/her victim. An abuser can be a man or a woman. Usually, it starts from threats, verbal assault, to physical violence.

    Abuse can be physical, emotional, psychological, etc. The physical injury may pose as the greatest danger. But the emotional and psychological aspects are also very damaging. It can destroy the victim’s self worth, lead to anxiety and depression, can make one feel helpless and alone; which can also be suicidal. Men, as well as women, also suffer these kind of abuses. But most times, women tend to be victims of physical abuse more.

    Most people in abusive marriages may not know. Some feel they’re the reason why their spouses are abusing them. So they try everything possible to please their spouse, which in most cases, they’re difficult to please.

    Signs of abusive marriage

    1. You’re scared of your spouse anytime s/he is around.
    2. You avoid certain topics or discussions because you don’t want to offend your spouse.
    3. Always afraid to talk to your spouse or make a request.
    4. You feel you are the one always at fault. Anytime you’re abused, you caused it.
    5. You feel you are not good enough for your spouse.
    6. Rather than appreciate you when you deserve it, your spouse belittles or criticizes you.
    7. You feel embarrassed to meet your friends and family members because of what you’ve been reduced to.
    8. Your spouse blames you for their abusive behaviour.
    9. S/he feels threatened by your achievements.
    10. Limits your access to family, friends, money, phone, car, etc.

    Way out of abusive marriage

    One major way out of an abusive marriage is to involve both families if dialogue with your spouse has failed. That is the reason why marriages involve both families from day one.

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    But where there is a serious threat to your life, take a time out. Taking time out does not mean divorce. It’s a healing process. It can help both parties to heal and have a change of behaviour. It’s only the living that celebrates Marriage/ Wedding Anniversaries.

    By the grace of God, we will gradually get it right and have healthy and enjoyable marriages.

  • Suicide: Women and Their killer Tongues – By Michael West

    By Michael West

    Most of the time, I appreciate men that stay married over the years not because they are better than their peers who have lost their homes to separation or divorce but because they are able to endure acidic tongues of their wives in moments of anger. Women are not known to be pugilistic like men but their incisive, prickly and razor blade-tongues are deadlier and injurious than ballistic missiles.

    Many women do display their rich vocabulary and wordsmith skills when they engage in disputes. They become finely articulate, giving precise and commensurate responses to every dart of words haul at them. It is at these maddening moments that they show their sense of history by recapitulating details of long forgotten issues, refreshing old wounds and adding insults upon injuries to their opponents.

    Experiences have shown that men do endure and sulk their wives’ diatribes and punchy utterances than their fellow women. While men of short fuse could resort to physical assaults as responses to unbearable vituperations, women could challenge their folks to physical combats or resort to emotional diarrhea like weeping, vandalisation of their abusers’ belongings or contemplate inflicting injury on themselves instead. In extreme cases, suicide could be an option. The latter was allegedly claimed to be what happened to late Folake Abiola, a telecommunications company’s employee who reportedly committed suicide penultimate weekend.

    Women are the worst enemies of themselves. If women should love themselves or decide to operate in solidarity, they will rule the world. women, being the highest adult population worldwide, (about four billion to be precise) should be able to determine and influence critical decisions and appointments both in elective or appointive capacities through their voting power. Nay, they’re not united to forge common fronts in any society except when they agitate or clamour for their rights, family or conjugal support, fight against rape, campaign against gender violence and mobilise against various abuses etc. Women hit their folks harder when they quarrel. The Word says life and death is in the power of the tongue, (Proverbs 18:21). Women ‘kill’ more with their tongues than with lethal weapons. The same destructive power of the tongue in writing was alleged to have made Folake to commit a suicide.

    The WhatsApp chat that allegedly instigated her suicide was reportedly found on her phone. It is believed that she had a quarrel with a woman who, probably in exchange of angry chats, sent an abusive and emotionally traumatic chat in which the woman bluntly taunted her with her challenges as an unmarried and childless woman at her age. 

    Below is the chat which I copied verbatim. I didn’t tamper with the content despite many grammatical  mistakes in it. The raw chat reads:

    “I don’t hate on a barren at 47, I pray for them. Nature is already dealing with you and you can’t see, sorry your life is delayed! At your age, no child, no man to call your own and menopause has set in so I can understand your frustration. By the way, I’m busy paying university fees and tomorrow is PTA meeting (you can’t say this about yourself). The next time you want to run your mouth look for your mates aka your fellow barrens. Mothers are very busy people. When you meet responsible mothers like me, ask how much a Montessori fees cost and see how useless you are as a woman to the society. Enjoy my hotel in Cannes. Help me tell your boss, oh sorry, my Ex. Please if you don’t want to hear certain things don’t go looking for a mad woman’s trouble. I won’t call you mother of twins if you are a barren. Period!”

    A report by the RAND Corporation, an American research organization, found that as many as 13.1% of men and 12.4% of women experienced verbal abuse regularly at work. While in India for example, there had been 760 percent increase in abuse rate from 1971 to 2009. The research also showed that the most common type of abuse reported is verbal abuse which is 52.3 percent.

    According to a clinical research, emotional abuse is linked to thinning of certain areas of the brain that help you manage emotions and be self-aware — especially the prefrontal cortex and temporal lobe. Epigenetic changes and depression. Research from 2018 has connected childhood abuse to epigenetic brain changes that may cause depression.

    Emotional or verbal abuse can take the form of name calling, demeaning utterances, written toxic expressions, or any behaviour that makes a person feel belittled, ridiculed or worthless. In some cases, abused persons may start to believe that they are ugly or unwanted, or that they cannot “do better” than their peers, acquaintances or partners. They often lose self-esteem and confidence. Gradually, they begin to feel less and inadequate to measure up to the standards and expectations of their abusers and that of the society. They are emotionally blackmailed into submission and psychologically conditioned to feel like failures. 

    Verbal abuse is so destructive such that it has sent some people into early graves through depression and suicide. Although the police is said to be on the trail of the woman whose chat allegedly instigated Folake’s suicide, the fact remains that she cannot be brought back to life again. All hope is lost on her. 

    Whether it was the chat that actually led her to suicide or not, it is instructive to admit that life is a treasure that cannot be replaced. Suicide will never placate or sufficiently atone for challenges we face in life. We have to embrace the fact that troubles ferried into our spaces are part of what makes life worth living. The sweetness of victory after vicissitudes of life underscores the reality that life is worth fighting for.

    It is not a matter of religion when advised to trust in God and employ the power of prayer to confront challenging and unpleasant situations. God never promised anyone a crisis-free life but He said in whatever situation we may find ourselves, He promised us two things: 1). He will be there with us in our trials and problems  (Isaiah 43:2); and, 2). His grace to go through the storm will be available for us (2 Corinthians 12:9). Armed with these unfailing promises of God, regardless of what anybody may do or say to us, our song should be that “we are more than conquerors through Christ that loves us” (Romans 8:37). We need to keep hope alive. Without hope for a better tomorrow, life will lose its glamour and become meaningless which are the potent ingredients of suicide. Let nobody else consider suicide as an option again. There’s no rest hereafter for whoever commits suicide. Women should please tame their tongues in moments of anger. It is a condemnable act that someone’s utterances or written angry words are the reason somebody commits suicide. A murder charge is awaiting such a person if not here but certainly yonder.

    I want to sincerely appeal to our women to please learn how to employ the power of their sharp tongues positively to bless, advise and correct others and not to send weak and soft-hearted people to their graves. 

    Do have a pleasant weekend ahead.

    Quote:

    “Verbal abuse is so destructive such that it has sent some people into early graves through depression and suicide.”

    • West wrote via

    mikeawe@yahoo.co.uk

    08059964446

    08035304268