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  • Mixed Blessings of ‘Hired’ Spouses, In-Laws and Parents

    Mixed Blessings of ‘Hired’ Spouses, In-Laws and Parents

    By Michael West

    In the years gone by, ‘hired’ parents and ‘borrowed’ in-laws were a necessity for an urgent arrangement to fulfill “all righteousness” in the process of solemnising a marriage. It used to be a family affair in which people other than the biological parents of the intending spouse(s) were engaged or asked to represent the real parents in absentia. It is a practice that is common with orphans, those in the diaspora as well as those involved in disputed relationship which their parents disapproved of but they choose to go ahead to marry.

     

    Not much issues have been reported about the arrangement but some families are groaning under the yoke of pseudo-parents while some arranged or hired spouses have refused to let go; in fact, they ended up truncating the original plan they were paid to help actualise.

     

    A man is still writhing in pains for losing his pretty wife to a hired spouse overseas all in a desperate plan to relocate his family out of Nigeria. It initially appeared to be a common deal for the willing citizen of the European country to engage in marriage contract with the intending immigrant in a bid to fast track the process of securing residency and citizenship after which the way would be paved for the real spouse to come over. But the arrangement gone sour when the hired or contracted ‘husband’ saw the beautiful woman he filed for as his ‘wife.’ He bluntly told her “you should allow this fake deal to translate to a real deal otherwise I will truncate the entire process.” Not wanting to abort the process and the investment already committed into it, she accepted his terms. As you read this column, the original husband is still in Nigeria while his wife has become Mrs. Somebody overseas for about four years now.

     

    I got a message from someone who was lamenting his unsavory experience in the hands of his hired parents who filed for him as their son-in-law into another western country. He was in a dilemma as to know the way forward. He is seeking some feasible solution to his caged situation. Read on:

     

    “It is not every enticing offer that is actually a blessing. Likewise, it is not good to be desperate for some things no matter how good they may appear to be. I needed to relocate out of Nigeria after I lost my job and my relationship also crashed a few months after because my fiancée was not ready to support me in times of need. Thank God I had some savings which I could use to start a good business but with the sliding nature of the Nigerian currency at the forex market on daily basis, if care is not taking, I may end up a failure. That’s why I decided to seek a greener pasture outside the country.

     

    “Someone introduced me to an elderly couple as those who could facilitate my trip abroad because they had lived there for many years. They had all their children there, too, as citizens. So, they agreed to help me not knowing that I was walking into a trap. Eventually, they made their daughter to file for me as her husband, from that moment I became their ‘son-in-law’ by trick. There was no solid agreement other than a strategy that would take me out of Nigeria using their daughter as my helper. It later dawned on me the reason they asked if I was married or in any serious relationship not knowing that my status fit perfectly into their expectations and plans for their daughter.

     

    “Mr. West, you may wonder what’s wrong in that, after all I was not in any relationship but I was not comfortable with the way they went about it. They didn’t tell me that their daughter needed a husband. They didn’t ask me if I would like to be their son-in-law beyond the fake arrangement in place. I felt hamstringed into a relationship I was not prepared for. And to cap it all, the lady in question is bossy, arrogant and naughty but beautiful and generous. She can plug her eyes for the blind but her caustic tongue and brash attitude are too much for me to bear. Ordinarily, I would have seen it as a God’s will and plan for my life but hey, she’s not calm at all. The best she could be is a girlfriend or a baby mama and not a wife. A couple of attempts I made to quit was regrettable. She has deliberately slowed down the process of getting me fully independent knowing that once I get through with that, I will be gone!

     

    “The comforting thing I see in all of the shenanigans is her younger sister who lives miles away from us. She’s stunningly beautiful, humble and caring. She had confronted her sister over the manner in which she talks to me. At some point, she stopped visiting us because she said she cannot condone her sister’s behaviour. She’s so empathic and comforting to me. We do talk a lot and she knows that I desire her but she said it is a difficult game because her sister could give me serious trouble. I later discovered that her attitude was the reason she’s still single. Some suitors had walked out of her life due to the same reasons. By her parents’ arrangement, I’m the most feasible option and possibly the best answer to her question. The truth is that I’m thinking of how to escape unhurt and settle for her more reasonable and mature younger sister. They are word and opposite in character and the way they relate with people. Though she’s financially buoyant than her younger sister but I’m a thousand times comfortable with the good girl despite that. No matter what, I want to cause an upset in the family by porting with the little sister. Their parents will be handicapped as I simply swop their own choice for my own but still within the family. Ultimately, parental intervention will prevail over her to let go. But my issue is that the little sister is yet to fully consent to my proposal. It is in this area that I really need you to come to my aid. Tell me how to navigate my way through this tight thoroughfare of love. Kindly peruse my case and give me your most valued counsel. Thank you, sir.”

     

    Every aspect of human life has both benefits and challenges. I believe in God as being the Ruler in the affairs of men especially those who commit their ways to His leading. Yoruba have a saying that God does some things for the purposes of another. I have seen cases where friends lost their boyfriends to their friends and such relationships have led to happy marriages.

     

    One of such women contacted me in February last year lamenting how wicked and untrustworthy some friends could be. She was devastated and feeling gravely disappointed in friendship. I counselled her that if the guy was truly meant for her he won’t abandon her for her friend. I made her to believe that she might actually be the link fate needed to bring her friend in contact with her own husband. Reluctantly, she agreed and struggled within her heart to remain in friendship with the concerned friend. Barely two months later, she followed her neighbour to a church programme. According to her, the minister of God released a prophetic word that “Someone is here. You’re jilted by the man that proposed to marry you and that same man went to marry your close friend. Don’t be angry please. It was God at work. That man is not meant for you. Your own is coming, all your family members and friends including those we are talking about we congratulate you. God used you to answer your friend’s prayers in that regard. It is the Lord’s doing and it’s marvelous in our eyes. I congratulate you in advance.”

     

    On her birthday that year, a man greeted her on Facebook and from there they started chatting and talking; months later, the friendship developed into a serious affair and as we speak, during her birthday some weeks ago, she lavishly displayed her photographs with her husband. That is God at work.

     

    However, in this case, I don’t know how it will look like if a man that has been living with the elder sister will end up marrying the younger sister of the same parents. Maybe it may work for him but for morality sake, I think otherwise. Better still, I will advise that he should first get the little sister to accept his proposal before making further plans. It is sometimes suicidal to stay in marriage with someone you don’t love.

    May God bless Nigerians as we earnestly pray for national deliverance from the yoke of internal colonization, political and economic servitude. Happy Independence!

     

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  • BBNaija S6:–Whitemoney opens up on why he isn’t ready for marriage

    BBNaija S6:–Whitemoney opens up on why he isn’t ready for marriage

    Big Brother Naija Shine Ya Eye housemate, Whitemoney, has said that he’s not ready for marriage because he wants to be financially stable.

    He revealed this in a discussion with Pere and Liquorose on Thursday, day 68 of the show.

    While Pere and Whitemoney were in the kitchen, the former asked him if he wanted to get married and Whitemoney replied in the affirmative.

    However, when Pere asked him if he was ready, Whitemoney said he wasn’t ready and went further to give his reasons.

    “If you’re ready, let me get a wife for you,” Liquorose added.

    Whitemoney said, “Yes I want to get married but I’m not ready. This first year is to build my finances and stability. So that when my wife is coming, she’s coming into a comfortable home. Just one or two years for now.”

    Pere added, “A comfortable home? For marriage, I am ready. Where’s the wife? Let’s go there.”

    “I want to marry but not yet. I’m not mind-ready yet. At all. I’m mind-ready for something that is important, not marriage now. My finances need to be strong and my background has to be solid,” Whitemoney explained

     

  • My marriage not monogamous, we’ve both had other relationships- Will Smith

    My marriage not monogamous, we’ve both had other relationships- Will Smith

    American actor, Will Smith has averred that both he and his wife Jada Pinkett-Smith have had sexual relationships with other people during their marriage.

    Last year, the couple’s marriage was publicly examined after rapper August Alsina alleged that he had engaged in a relationship with Jada with Will’s permission, The Independent reports.

    Jada initially debunked the claims, but when she and Will took part in an interview for her web show Red Table Talk, she said that an “entanglement” had occurred.

    In a new interview with GQ, Will admitted that while their marriage was originally monogamous, they later decided to open it up after they were “both miserable and clearly something had to change”.

    He also said that while the conversation surrounding Alsina had focused on Jada, both he and his wife had engaged in other sexual relationships.

    “Jada never believed in a conventional marriage. Jada had family members that had an unconventional relationship. So she grew up in a way that was very different than how I grew up,” he said.

    The actor said that he and his wife had numerous discussions on how to make their marriage work because they did not want it to be like a prison.

    Smith further noted that he does not suggest his marriage style to anybody.

    He said, “There were significant endless discussions about, what is relational perfection? What is the perfect way to interact as a couple? And for the large part of our relationship, monogamy was what we chose, not thinking of monogamy as the only relational perfection. We have given each other trust and freedom, with the belief that everybody has to find their own way. And marriage for us can’t be a prison.

    “And I don’t suggest our road for anybody. I don’t suggest this road for anybody. But the experiences that the freedoms that we’ve given one another and the unconditional support, to me, is the highest definition of love.”

    TheNewsGuru recalls that Will and Jada married in 1997 and have two children, Jayden and Willow.

  • Burden of mentoring – Francis Ewherido

    Burden of mentoring – Francis Ewherido

    By Francis Ewherido

    Last week, we discussed the “thorny side of counselling.” Today, I want us to discuss the burden of mentorship. I work with youths, many of whom I have never met, and it is an exciting experience. Like other aspects of human endeavour, there can be hiccups because different environmental and personal perceptions and expectations influence the outcomes of these encounters.

    But some of the personal experiences are not different from what I read on social media, which gives me an idea of the mindset of many youths. That is why I bring these encounters to public knowledge without revealing personal identity.

    Mentoring is a passion, and to do it, you draw from your personal experience and the experiences of others. I was born to a teacher-father, who rose to become a school principal, and to a mother, who was a trader. My father was a graduate, but my mother’s education was truncated by her father’s death when she was 14 years, but both treasured education. So, in terms of acquiring formal education, I was privileged, but there were no financial privileges or advantages. These realities never left the inner recesses of my mind. During the holiday, I got a vacation job to get extra money and to lessen the burden on my parents. So, my antecedents are also somewhat humble.

    My father died before I graduated. My mindset after graduation was that I had to go out there and hustle in order to live a meaningful life. Corpers allowance in my time was N125 monthly. I managed to save N750 because I did not want to be a financial burden to anyone after graduation. I did get some help from family members when I was eventually out of money and I fell ill. My first salary was N390 net. It was small even by the standards of the 80s, but I took it; I had no problem with small beginnings and still do not. I also needed the experience.

    These are still some of the experiences that guide me in mentoring young people, but the reactions I get sometimes are the reasons for this article. For instance, if a student from a humble background reaches out me that he is on holiday, my typical advice is join your parents in the farm or wherever they get their source of livelihood to keep you in school. If your input is not needed there, do not lie down in bed or loaf around in the house. Go into village or neighbourhood and look for where there are economic activities. Farming is going on every day, there are building sites, restaurants looking for casual labour, etc. Some of the reactions I get are shocking and rude. Urhobo big men do not want poor people’s children to progress, but other ethnic groups help one other, is a common one.

    The same applies when I advise some fresh graduates to look for whatever is available and start from there. When you are starting off and you are not privileged, low-hanging fruits are easier to access. That is the standard practice everywhere. When Mexican immigrants get to the United States, they start by working in farms, they do horticulture, drain clearing and other underground clearing, cleaning of streets, etc. In Europe, new arrivals, including Africans, Indians and Asians follow a similar route. From there, some acquire knowledge and move on to cab driving, taking care of the sick and elderly, etc. While this is going on, some go on to acquire professional knowledge that enables them to work in the health, financial and other professional sectors as core professionals. So this is a global phenomenon, not something I manufactured to brainwash underprivileged youths down.

    But there is a legitimate route to by-pass this long, tedious progress. You would have heard of exceptionally gifted students, who smashed international examinations and are getting multiple scholarships from Ivy League Institutions. Anybody in this category does not need to join his father in the farm or building site. There are also partial and full international scholarships schemes flying around online. But our environment is polluted, so some of them are scams. I forward the links to youths, including my children, but warn them to do their due diligence.
    There are also specially gifted youths who design apps and sell to IT companies for millions of naira and dollars. Those who remain focussed thereafter are made forever. In fact, they lift their families out of poverty and rewrite family history. You can also see examples of youths who have used sports to lift themselves and their families out of poverty in Nigeria. The success rate of those who break out is very low, compared to those who started. The statistics are there for all to see.

    But what some of these youths in question are looking for is temporary respites. I am a practical person. I do not play fool and I do not engage in wild goose chases. You cannot get it applying for a job in multinational companies or corporate organisations with rigorous employment processes that take time and patience.

    I am also an apostle of the dignity of labour. I believe a naira earned is better than one given to you. Before you go asking for financial assistance, explore the possibility of earning first. People are more inclined to help when they know you have made efforts. If you approach a relative and show EVIDENCE of the earning that you made during holidays when you are about to go back to school, he is more likely inclined to support you because it shows a serious and determined young man, it shows someone who is focused and has value for money. Be useful to yourself and position yourself to be taken seriously.

    Another area that these youths complain bitterly about are their relationships with politicians. I do not know details of these relationships and promises made to them, so I am not in a position to comment on them. But I can say this generally. Anyone aspiring to political office should have the general good of the people he wants to represent in mind, not parochial interests. This comes in the way of programmes he plans for his constituents. They should be encapsulated in his manifesto and this forms the basis of supporting candidates. Once you offer your support on this basis, it forms the basis of continuous support or subsequent support.

    When you support political candidates in advanced countries, it is mainly volunteerism. Once elections are over, volunteers move on to their pre-election lives. We saw it with the army of youths who worked with President Barrack Obama to win the presidency during his first term. But even in advanced democracies, members of the campaign organisation do get appointments. It also happens here and it is very much in order.

    The challenge here is that virtually everyone who worked for a candidate wants an appointment or wants to be an appendage throughout the tenure of candidate. It is not possible and it is not sustainable.

    The next election is less than two years away. Before working for any politician, determine what you want. It is your time and your life. Your young life is too precious to be lived in bitterness and anguish. There is a greatness that God has put in every man. Priotise it; I would rather you spent more of your time nurturing it to fruition.

  • Intimacy: Avoiding Pitfalls, Regret in Marriage, By Michael West

    Intimacy: Avoiding Pitfalls, Regret in Marriage, By Michael West

    By Michael West

     

    A 53-year-old widower called to complain about a single mother of three he’s proposing to marry. He said “she’s too independent minded and she flocks with a coterie of friends that usually congregate at her place. Besides, she likes attending social functions a lot. Yet, she doesn’t toy with prayer meetings and vigils in her church. She barely have time for herself let alone for me. But, honestly, I love her.”

     

    In the course of our discussion, it was clear that they’re good individuals in their respective spaces but coming together as man and woman would need being in close touch. Also, attitudinal and character modification process which is only possible in courtship or intimacy should be cultivated. That one encounters some annoying or irritating behaviours with a partner at the initial stage does not mean he/she is bad or that both of them are not compatible. It only shows that coming from different social and family backgrounds with mixed experiences obviously requires patience, understanding and tolerance as impetus to adjust, modify and correct the flaws. It takes regular communication and closeness to smoothen the rough edges of attitudinal differences and blunt the sharp edges of bad temperament, foul and caustic utterances.

     

    This is not limited to women alone, there are complaints against men also. In fact, women complain more than men about their partners in relationships. Such complaints range from being carefree, unkempt, loose talks, quick demand for sex, being miserly, habitual failed promises, inconsistency, double dealings, lies and lack of commitment in relationship etc.

     

    Shortly after the Covid-19 lockdown was lifted in July 2020, a woman wanted to quit her relationship on the premise that her fiancé was laid-back in decision making. She also claimed that he’s not as romantic as she expected. It’s like he’s not ready for marriage at all considering his dispassionate disposition to the issue of consummating their relationship. The moment I asked to speak with him, she willingly obliged his contact. Incidentally, the man said he has been a regular reader of this column. The conversation with him was warm, revealing and frank. All he had to say was that some of his fiancée’s complaints were “misconstrued and misplaced.” According to him, he was being watchful, studying her temperament, attitudes, her level of tolerance, faithfulness and how accommodating she would be in marriage. At the end of the day, they were able to forge ahead with absolute understanding and mutual respect for each other. As you read this column, they, too, are reading their story today as Mr. and Mrs, doing well together in their marriage.

     

    It is natural for intending couples or dating partners to understudy each other in virtually everything. The woman does not want to take chances especially if she’s been in a bad relationship or marriage before. While I agree that one should look carefully before he/she leaps, excessive carefulness could be counterproductive sometimes. Some quiet, unassuming and introvert people could be deceptive because they’re more difficult to understand as one may not be able to decode or predict them while the journey is underway. Pulling a stunt that could make an innocent partner bite her fingers could happen in the marriage because they conceal their true colours with superficial calmness and fleeced innocence.

     

    The most difficult hurdle to cross in the process of getting married is how to avoid the pitfalls of making the wrong choice. Those who have burnt their fingers in the past due to the choices they made in their previous relationships or marriages would be more careful when given another opportunity. You don’t blame them if they appear somehow reluctant or slow in yielding completely to the demands of their partners. It is a proverbial case of “once bitten twice shy.”

     

    Marriage, by God’s original plans, is meant to be enjoyed. Bearing the yoke of agony, regret, abuse, oppression, denial etc. in marriage is a clear sign of a wrong choice. A lot of people get too spiritual about their choices and today, they’re in regret while some have quit. It is good to pray and seek the face of God about who your life partner should be but taking the natural part of the process for granted is even a worse mistake. The Bible says that marriage is practically carnal as the couple would be engrossed on how to please each other. (1Corinthians 7: 33, 34b). In my article, “Caged in Spousal Phobia” first published in August, 2018, I counselled intending couples to know themselves closely beyond spiritual validity. Most of the troubled and broken marriages were prayed about before going into them. In the article, I wrote:

     

    “I will candidly advise that you should know the person you plan to marry intimately before praying about him/her. Many people rush to pray or embark on spiritual findings about their intending spouses without knowing his/her character, dos and don’ts, strengths and weaknesses. These often-ignored areas do determine the compatibility of every intending couple. I’m not downplaying the importance of prayers in the choice of life partners but spiritual findings won’t reveal if he has bad temperament, complex issues, his stingy, oppressive or violent nature. The best your prophet or alfa could see is the aura for prosperity or poverty, long or short life span and signals of background or family issues or challenges like impediments, delay in child bearing and, probably forces of conflict and future desertion or breakup. Therefore, endeavour to know the “real person” you desire as a life partner. Marriage is carnal (physical and romantic relationship) and not wholly spiritual. The most effective prayer while searching is to ask for God’s leading to the right choice; and (the prayers are best offered before you register a choice in mind – Genesis 24: 7, 12-15 – and) not after you have already made your choice based on your (own) criteria.”

     

    Dating partners should never be in a hurry to skip the mandatory season of courtship. This is the familiarity period that enables them to get understand each other, discover their areas of strengths and weaknesses as well as knowing the areas to collaborate in their individual business enterprise, talent, interest, passion, mission and vision. Any partner that pretends to support your dream at dating level but opposes and frustrates it later in marriage cannot be trusted. This is why “moment of truth” discussions must come up at intervals during courtship to agree or disagree on everything and every issue before consummating the relationship.

     

    We should admit the fact that single parents need a little more time to adjust to the reality of their new relationships. A woman who has been alone for years without cooking for any man, who enjoys the latitude of movement, runs her own schedules without recourse to any man may not immediately fall into perfect match for a man just coming out of divorce or widowhood. Same thing goes for a single dad of some or many years. One should show understanding and tolerance by calling attention to the areas of laxity. This has little or nothing to do with age. It is nature. With time, mature and purpose-driven adults will adjust and be ready for a new marital journey.

     

    Virtuous women are image boosters to their men. They easily identify bad friends and vicious family members. They could be supportive, protective and sacrificing for their men. They are more sensitive, discerning and cautious than men. Anyone that ignores his wife’s warning usually regret it except if such warning is given based on parochial intention. They soothe those that love them and sting to those that hurt them. That’s women for you!

     

    From the Mailbox

    Re: Ex-lovers and Their Cravings

     

    It happens in all ages. That’s why my late father specifically advised that we should not marry divorced women. He believed that such a woman, at any given time, could still flirt around with her ex. He made it clear that they tend to understand each other better after divorce. To a large extent, the columnist is right. – Jumah Mubarak, Lagos.

     

    In my view, I don’t support my wife relating with her ex except the father of her child or children on “purpose” as you rightly mentioned. We should not also allow the magnanimity of caring for stepchildren to be taking for granted by encouraging the father to evade responsibility and reap where he did not sow in the future. That’s my take please. Nice weekend. – Bode Ojajuni, Lagos.

     

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  • Cheating not enough to make me leave marriage – Nkechi Blessing

    Cheating not enough to make me leave marriage – Nkechi Blessing

    Popular role interpreter, Nkechi Blessing Sunday has stated that cheating is not enough to make her leave her marriage.Blessing noted that a lot of ladies like to lie to themselves.

    In a chat with Punch, the curvy actress said: “A lot of ladies like to lie to themselves. The only thing I won’t tolerate in marriage is domestic violence I would rather leave immediately, so that there won’t be repeated episodes. But, cheating is not enough to make me leave my marriage. I do not support cheating because no woman wants to share her husband but these are things that one cannot control. Men are polygamous in nature. If I see signs, I would have a heart-to-heart talk with him and also adjust my ways. I know humans cannot be satisfied but I have to keep doing my best. There are a lot of attractive females everywhere, so it takes the grace of God for a man to stay faithful to a woman.

    “I prefer respect to love. If a man respects me, he won’t rub his infidelity on my face. People think that only men cheat but women also cheat. It is just that men’s sexual escapades are more common. However, I don’t think anything can make me cheat on my husband. I am content and satisfied with him.”

    Speaking further, she said social media would worsen marital issues rather than solve them.

    “People think that coming to social media with their family issues would help. Sadly, it won’t help. It would only escalate the problem. It will also make one an object of ridicule in the eyes of the public. The funny thing is that after spilling the beans, the parties would now ask for privacy. Social media is not a family court; it is a platform for interaction, entertainment and advertisement. I might have goofed with my life on social media in the past but there’s always a time to retrace one’s steps.”

     

  • I’m done, will scatter this marriage – Annie declares as Tuface flees Nigeria

    I’m done, will scatter this marriage – Annie declares as Tuface flees Nigeria

    Popular actress, Annie Idibia, has stated that she’s ending her marriage to her husband, Tuface Idibia.

    TheNewsGuru reports that 2face Idibia has left Nigeria for the United States of America, USA.

    Tuface left after he reportedly got into a huge brawl with Annie on Tuesday night,.

     

    “Tuface is on a flight right now to America after he got into a massive fight with Annie. His manager, Efe and his cousin packed some of his things for him and right now he’s on a plane,” the source said.

    Reacting, Annie in a video that has now gone viral on the internet was heard saying that she will scatter their marriage, adding that she’s tired of the ill-treatment the idibias are dishing out to her.

    She also warned them not to try her as nobody knows the wrath of an angry woman.

    According to her, “Innocent is on his way to America to see Pero but he lied to me that he was going for a shoot.

    “I’m going to scatter everything. Nobody knows the wrath of an angry woman.

    “My husband told me he had a shoot today only for him to pack his things and flee to America and his—– cousin, Franklyn helped him plan it.

    “His family doesn’t love me, they hate me. They have been giving me attitudes for 10 years. Today my husband packed his things. He lied to me that he was going to shoot, now my husband is on his way to America.

    “Planned by himself and his family all behind my back. I don’t deserve this. I can’t call any member of his family or even his manager because they won’t take my calls.

    “Innocent is on his way to America without telling me. He is going to see Peru in America without telling me. I’m done, at this point I’m so done,” she said.

     

  • I rushed into my first marriage – Funke Akindele

    I rushed into my first marriage – Funke Akindele

    Nollywood actress, Funke Akindele has finally opened up on why she married her first husband, Adeola Kehinde Oloyede.

    Speaking during an Interview with popular media personality, Chude Jideonwo, Funke openly said the only reason why she wanted to share that part of her life is to encourage ladies out there that are in a rush to get married.

    She also urged the ones that feel bad and are pressured to get married to calm down, take their time adding that if they rush in, they will be forced to rush out.

    “I don’t want to drag anybody. I’ll talk about myself. I just wanted to get married. Children, pressure and all that.

    ”The marriage ended in a bad way. I was filming when someone called and told me. I wanted to die. I cried and lost a lot of deals.

    “I survived that period by channelling my pain into work. I was collecting every script from the East and acting.

    “I rushed into the marriage out of pressure and it didn’t end well,” she said.

    Funke further urged women never to be pressured into getting married or having children as it will not end well.

    TheNewsGuru recalls that Funke and Kehinde walked down the aisle on May 26, 2012, but divorced in July 2013, citing irreconcilable differences.

     

  • Marriage frightens me- Tacha

    Marriage frightens me- Tacha

    Natacha Akide aka Tacha has said she is afraid of the idea of marriage and raising a family.

     

    According to the reality TV star, her mother described marriage as an institution that sees some people attempting to exit and others struggling to gain access to it.

    The media personality said that her fears are aroused upon the thought of marriage as that unknown feeling about the future leaves her totally frightened.

    While hoping for a lasting marriage when she eventually takes the bold step into it, Tacha gave a note of warning to her future husband not to dash her fragile heart.

    The queen of Titans wrote: “My mum would say ‘marriage is like an institution, some are trying to get out others are trying to gain admission.

    “We take it a step at a time, the idea of marriage is cringy to me, what happens in the long run frightens me.

    “When I eventually get married it will be for better or better! My fragile heart nobody should break it oh.”

     

  • Shocker! Paul ‘Rude boy’ marriage crashes as Anita Okoye files for divorce

    Shocker! Paul ‘Rude boy’ marriage crashes as Anita Okoye files for divorce

    The marriage between Paul Okoye aka Rude Boy, one half of the defunct music group, P-Square and his entrepreneur wife, Anita Tonye Okoye is over as the latter has filed for divorce.

    Sources close to the couple disclosed that an official petition citing irreconcilable differences as the basis for divorce was filed at an Abuja court recently.

    The divorced papers have also surfaced online.

    The couple got married in 2014 after dating for 10 years and they both have three beautiful children together.

    The news of the couple’s impending divorce comes as a rude shock to both of their families and close friends.

    The source further revealed that both parties will proceed amicably with the legal resolution of the marriage and be the best parents to their children. “Paul and Anita have always been very good friends and like every couple they have had issues for a while but plan to remain on good terms and keep the friendship they have always had since their days as university students,” the source said.

    Meanwhile, Anita has since relocated with the children to the United States of America where she is studying for her Masters degree.