Tag: Marriage

  • I don’t think I want to get married, marriage is a major fraud- Moet Abebe

    I don’t think I want to get married, marriage is a major fraud- Moet Abebe

    Media personality, Moet Abebe stunned many of her fans when she stated that she isn’t sure of getting married.Abebe further averred that marriage is a major fraud.

    The on-air personality fond of flaunting her sex appeal on social media, made this known in a question and answer session with her fans.

    She said:”I don’t think I want to get married, It’s a major fraud”.

     

    When asked If she is in a relationship, the outspoken radio presenter said:”Yes super deep relationship with my guests in the top drawer of my best side cupboard”.

    In an interview, Moet Abebe whose real name is Laura Monyeazo revealed how she has been able to stay on top of her game.

    The transition took place even before I got into the entertainment industry. “Moet” was a nickname I got given while I was in secondary school during my junior years because of my shape. I’ve been called Moet or Moet Abebe since I was 14 years old and it’s more than an alter ego or nickname to me but now a brand of its own”.

    On how the rape culture can end in Nigeria, the curvy OAP said: “As a society, I feel we can do better concerning ending the rape culture as a whole, by educating children; most especially the male child about consent, protecting, and most importantly respecting women. Male children need to unlearn and learn a number of things about sexual abuse and I feel if this area starts to be tackled as soon possible, a ripple effect of improvement will occur, and only then can things get better”.

  • A woman does not have to be super chef before I can marry her- Ruggedman

    A woman does not have to be super chef before I can marry her- Ruggedman

    Veteran rapper and activist, Michael Stephens a.k.a Ruggedman has revealed that he is not under pressure to get married.

    Speaking in a chat with Punch, he said: “I will get married when I am ready. (For me), marriage will only happen at the right time. I am not under any form of pressure to get married. I and my mum have spoken about it a few times and we are good. I don’t come from a family that does that (put pressure). I just want a woman that has a great sense of responsibility and knows how to live properly. I am not bothered about whether she is a good cook, as long as she can cook a little, that is fine with me. We could also order foods or eat out. I want a woman that I would be in love with. As for whatever quality she does not possess, we would work it out. For instance, what if she can cook and her character is terrible, what would one do? Being a super chef is not a priority for me. A woman does not have to be Miss World before I can marry her.”

    Asked about what he has been up to recently, the rapper further said he had been busy shooting episodes of his radio talk show, ‘Wetin Dey With Ruggedman’, “I recently started my own radio show. I am deeply involved with helping people. When issues come to my attention, I point them in the right direction to get justice. I am also recording my Extended Play album titled, Situation,” he said.

  • I didn’t snatch another person’s husband –Chizzy Alichi

    I didn’t snatch another person’s husband –Chizzy Alichi

    Actress, Chizzy Alichi who got married on Saturday, December 28, 2019 has stated that she didn’t snatch another person’s husband. The tall role interpreter known for flaunting her husband on social media has stated that she cannot lose her marriage to any home breaker.

    Speaking in a chat with Legit.Ng, she said: “Nothing will ever go wrong in my marriage, never! My marriage is made in heaven. I didn’t snatch another person husband .It is my own I display on social media, my God given man. I don’t care about negative comments on social media. I just ignore trolls. In fact, I hardly reply them; I am too busy thinking of other business to venture into. I love money. I can say that I have not recorded any worst comment; because I don’t care about what people say about me online and offline.”

     

     

    On how marriage has affected the kind of role she interprets, Alichi said “I now select the kind of roles that play in movies. Aside that, nothing has really changed about me since my marriage because I married my best friend, he know what I am capable of doing. I have never been a fake person.”

     

    Asked if she’s under family pressure to have a baby, the role interpreter cum entrepreneur said: “Babies coming soon, we have plans for our family. I am not under any form of pressure at all, we have plans for our family and that’s not up for discussion for now.”

     

     

  • Putting your marriage on social media breeds unexpected things- Harrysong

    Putting your marriage on social media breeds unexpected things- Harrysong

    Highlife singer, Harrison Okri recently signed the dotted lines with his fiancée.

    Ever since, the singer has been excited about his new status.

    In a recent chat, Harrysong noted that he won’t put his union on social media.

    “Being married is good. I feel complete. Now, I have a companion. I have someone that sincerely has my back and I am building my life with. A lot of people were hoping or thinking that I would have a big Lagos wedding but I did not want too much media frenzy around us. Marriage is something very personal and serious to me, so I wanted it to be as private as possible. If I wanted to do a society wedding for status sakes, it would have held in Lagos and it would have been a funfair. But I chose to go to my home town in Warri to do it right and well.

    “I don’t want to talk about my marriage too much because people become inquisitive and I don’t want to put our homes in the public sphere. That brings problems. I love to keep my home private. Once you bring your marriage on social media, it could breed unexpected things”, he told Punch.

    Counseling eligible bachelors, the new groom said, “My first advice to any eligible bachelor is― get off social media when you want to be serious in the search for a life partner. Social media has destroyed homes and made it seem like there are no good people except homosexuals, home wreckers or people with questionable characters. Just be real and true with yourself, there are good men and women; not everyone is bad. Social media has cast a lot of people in bad light.”

  • Why I am not under pressure to get married-Rita Dominic

    Why I am not under pressure to get married-Rita Dominic

    Actress, Rita Dominic has said she will not allow pressure, make her take a wrong marital decision.

    The fashionable actress in an interview with Chude Jideonwo said: “I respect the institution of marriage. My parents were married and they were close till they both passed on. That is why I have always said to myself― I will not let the pressure get to me and make a mistake. I want to do it and stay in it forever. So I want to be sure. You can’t really be too sure, but at least (I want to be) as sure as it’s reasonably possible.

    “I always tell people that the wedding is nice but it is the marriage that is important. After the event is over, how would one feel about one’s spouse in the next 10 years? That has always been very important to me. I watched my parents be in love, grow old together and they were friends. There is no marriage that is easy. They had their shortcomings but they loved themselves till they died. They were that close that when my mother died, my dad never recovered from it. They were so close. As a matter of fact, he fell ill and just deteriorated. That was because of how close they were. I admire that and that is what I want for myself.”

     

  • Incest: A Soaring Sexual, Family Absurdity – Michael West

    Incest: A Soaring Sexual, Family Absurdity – Michael West

    By Michael West

    It is rudely disgusting reading stories of incestuous relationships in families in our society these days. It is happening as if the taboo has become a norm. The ugly incident has become a daily news item in the media. Why this is so deserves to be looked into, and attempt to address the moral plague.

    What is it that should attract a father to his own biological daughter? Whatever her age, beauty, body features, height or natural endowment, I still can’t come to terms with any rational opinion about it. Sincerely, I don’t know.

    I can’t fathom the urge that would make a dad develop a sexual intimacy with his own blood. It is even more disgraceful when the shameful act involves the minors and teenage girls. I want to believe that such dads need psychiatric examinations. No sane father, in his right senses, should think about it much less engaging in it.

    There are factors that can trigger incest in a family. One, it is used as part of rituals for initiation into secret cults. Two, it is used for money, political and fetish rituals.

    “The regrettable aspect of this ugly situation is that such randy men hardly get punished for their indecent behaviours. Rather, the cheated wives and moms will either fight their daughters or send them away in order to “keep their homes.”

    Three, it could be a spiritual attack, a curse or spell in operation in the affected family blood line. Four, it is a psychiatric disorder which manifests in form of emotional misadventure and sexual insanity. These four factors are my findings when I subjected the circumstances and confessions of some of the culprits to critical analysis and psychological discernment and evaluation.

    I learnt of some rich men whose daughters are their sex partners. I was told of a particular billionaire whose daughter will fly to meet him wherever he is around the world whenever she has the urge for sex. Whether it is true or not I don’t know but the gist was rife in social circle some years ago. We have also read about some allegations in the media involving dads and daughters. At some point, eligible bachelors were not keen on marrying the daughters of the rich due to this reason. The suspicion is fading away as guys now hunt for such babes targeting the financial benefits that would naturally come with such relationships.

    About four years ago, a 24 years old young woman was having an affair with her dad in Kenya. This particular case was none of the four reasons I adduced for the growing taboo in Nigeria. When she was put on live radio interview on Hero FM, she was not ashamed to own up for sleeping with her dad. She said her reasons for having an affair with her dad were that “dad was good in bed, he has a huge and satisfying dick, and in addition, he gives me money.”

    When asked how the affair started, she explained that she actually seduced her dad because she envied her mom. She’s of the opinion that her mom didn’t know how to maximize the natural endowment of her dad, more so, “he gives me money unlike my boyfriend who doesn’t give me money.” Though she was in a state of discomfiture when she was told that her boyfriend, whom she thought was in the dark about the affair, actually gave the presenter the information and used the opportunity to call it quit with her.

    She revealed that she was using her boyfriend as a smokescreen to shield her secret affair with her dad. She added that because her dad was a businessman who travelled a lot, she found it convenient to go and meet him wherever he was. She mentioned a particular hotel in Kenya where she had a weekend romp with her dad. What eventually became the situation in the family I don’t know by the time her mom, who didn’t know anything of such was happening under her nose, listened to the interview on radio and the scandal went viral on the internet. This evil is happening in many homes unannounced.

     

    I don’t want to load this article with media daily reports on the absurdity. This week alone, a number of such cases have been reported. Just imagine a 49-year-old dad who sexually abused his 12 years old daughter for a crazy reason that his wife is no longer attractive to him. According to the report, the 12-year-old girl actually reported her 49-year-old father, Ubong Akpan, to the police for violating her for five years since she was seven years old. The girl said she could no longer bear the constant sexual molestation again hence she decided to complain to the police.

     

    The Ogun State Police Command, through its spokesman, DSP Abimbola Oyeyemi, confirmed the incident last Monday in Abeokuta. “Upon the report, the DPO, Itele-Ota Division, CSP Monday Unoegbe, detailed his detectives to the scene, where the suspect was promptly arrested. On interrogation, he confessed to the crime and claimed that his wife was appearing too old and no longer looking attractive to him,” Oyeyemi said.

     

    A woman called me a couple of years ago that she was contemplating poisoning her husband because he was sleeping with their first daughter. Narrating the situation in tears very early in the morning, she said her husband no longer hide it. “Around 2am, I just woke and I didn’t see him by my side in bed, I stood up to check where he was, as I approached the children’s room, he just emerged from the room tying his towel not minding my presence. He went straight to our bedroom and slept off. I went inside to check my daughter, her under was wet with sperms. She looked at me, sobbing. My girl is 14 years old, Michael West help me.” (She wept profusely).

     

    Similarly, some randy stepfathers are involved with their stepdaughters in immoral sexual affairs. Just like the Kenyan case, some wayward girls don’t mind sharing same men with their moms provided the men are the type they lust after. An undergraduate almost ruined her mom’s marriage. The secret was leaked that her husband, the supposed dad at home, was the same man her daughter saved his contact as “Microchip” on her iPhone. Reading through the chats on her WhatsApp page, the mom collapsed. It took her friends and family doctor to stabilize her condition two days after.

     

    The unfortunate story I heard about a man who married a single mom because of her pretty young daughter was disheartening. The man really gave hope, comfort and new lease of life to her and her two children. It was impossible for the man to marry the 19-year-old girl while he was 48 years old. He endeared himself to the girl in particular such that she was known as “daddy’s favourite.” By the time the secret got leaked barely a year into the marriage, the man declared to his wife that “if you will not allow this (affair with her daughter to continue quietly), then, the marriage is over. I married you because of her.” I was told she wept and remained in moody condition for almost a week before she let him have his way, painfully though.

     

    The regrettable aspect of this ugly situation is that such randy men hardly get punished for their indecent behaviours. Rather, the cheated wives and moms will either fight their daughters or send them away in order to “keep their homes.”

     

    Such wicked men should be exposed, prosecuted and punished. Mothers should keep an eye on their adventurous and loose daughters. Pretending that all is well when it is not, is delusional.

     

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    “The regrettable aspect of this ugly situation is that such randy men hardly get punished for their indecent behaviours. Rather, the cheated wives and moms will either fight their daughters or send them away in order to “keep their homes.”

     

  • The principles of the Christian Marriage – Femi Aribisala

    By Femi Aribisala

    The relationship between God and Jesus is the Christian model for the ideal marriage relationship.

    Marriage is not man-made; neither is it subject to human design. God is the author of marriage, meaning marriage was made in heaven. The greatest marriage of all is that between God the Father and Jesus the Son. Theirs is the supreme love story; one that is eternal and everlasting. God loved Jesus before the foundation of the world. (John 17:24).

    The relationship between God and Jesus is the Christian model for the ideal marriage relationship. It gives us the exemplary insight of how husbands and wives should relate to one another. Jesus’ prayer for the Church is also applicable to the husband and wife in the Christian marriage. He says:

    “I pray that they all may be one, as you, Father, are in me, and I in you; that they also may be one in us. That they may be one just as we are one: I in them, and you in me; that they may be made perfect in one, that the love with which you loved me may be in them, and I in them.” (John 17:20-26).

    Family of God

    At the dawn of creation, God said: “Let us make man in our image, according to our likeness.” (Genesis 1:26). The plural community that reflects God’s image is the special community of the husband and the wife. When God created man in his image, he created a marriage; a family relationship: “God created human beings, making them to be like himself. He created them male and female.” (Genesis 1:27).

    The marriage community is a sacred reflection of the family of God. Its identity, life and power come from God. Paul says: “For this reason I bow my knees to the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, from whom the whole family in heaven and earth is named.” (Ephesians 3:14-15).

    The following aspects of God’s relationship with Jesus is the blueprint of the ideal husband/wife relationship.

    Love and devotion

    Jesus says: “The Father loves the Son.” (John 5:20). As the Father loves the Son, so must the husband love his wife. This love must not be hidden but should be openly displayed. Jesus says: “The world must learn that I love the Father.” (John 14:31). The wedding ceremony gives the husband and the wife the imperative from thenceforth to show the world their love for one another.

    The days of pretence and coyness are over. No more: “If I call him on the phone he might think I am running after him.” “If I phone to tell her where I am; my friends might get the impression that I am tied to her apron-strings.” Let everyone know you are head-over-heels in love with your spouse. Let your friends know it. Let your parents know it. Let your children know it. The marriage relationship is all about love. Express it to the full.

    Husband and wife must be devoted to pleasing one another. Jesus says: “He who sent me is with me. The Father has not left me alone, for I always do those things that please him.” (John 8:29). The husband should be his wife’s faithful companion. So also should the wife remain steadfast beside her husband. Even when they are apart, they must remain mindful of one another. Moreover, they should always do things to please one another.

    Harmony and unity

    Husband and wife have different roles and accomplish different functions in marriage. The assignment of God the Father is different from that of God the Son. Jesus says: “My Father loves me, because I lay down my life that I may take it again.” (John 10:17). The Son does not begrudge the Father his role. Neither does the Father begrudge the Son. The same should apply between husband and wife. Jesus acknowledges the headship of God. He says: “My Father is greater than I.” (John 14:28).

    Marriage is the union between husband and wife. Therefore, they are required to live together in unity of mind and purpose. Jesus says: “I and my Father are one.” (John 10:30). So should be the husband and the wife. Jesus says: “I am in the Father and the Father is in me.” (John 14:11). This is the most profound expression of intimacy that is possible. Physically, it can only take place between husband and wife. Spiritually, it means the husband and the wife carry one another along wherever they go and in whatever they do.

    They should also have all things in common. Jesus says to God: “All I have is yours, and all you have is mine.” (John 17:10). There is no private property anymore. No more should one say: “My salary is mine but your salary is ours.”

    Communication

    Communication is an essential element in marriage. There must be no silent treatment between husband and wife. Jesus says: “Father, I thank you that you have heard me. And I know that you always hear me.” (John 11:41-42). Husband and wife must always listen to one another. The one should never be too busy to listen to what the other has to say. They should allow one another to finish their sentences. They should always be sending each other love notes and text-messages.

    They must share everything. Jesus says: “The Father loves the Son, and shows him all things that he himself does; and he will show him greater works than these, that you may marvel.” (John 5:20). There must be nothing hidden in the husband/wife relationship. No hidden letters or bank accounts. No holding back. Everything must be laid bare. Each partner must stand naked and unashamed before the other. (Genesis 2:25).

    Interdependence

    Husband and wife must do everything together. Jesus says: “The Son can do nothing by himself.” (John 5:19). Marriage means that both husband and wife have chosen to lose their independence. They are now a team. Jesus says: “I do nothing of myself; but as my Father taught me, I speak these things.” (John 8:28).

    Seek each other’s counsel in everything. Don’t start a business without consulting your wife or your husband. There is a peculiar wisdom that God has given to your wife. There is a peculiar wisdom that God has given to your husband. One completes the other. One complements the other. There is no competition.

    The wife submits to the husband, and the husband loves the wife. Jesus says: “I have kept my Father’s commandments and abide in his love.” (John 15:10). Submission reinforces love and love reinforces submission. The more the husband loves his wife; the more he expresses love for his wife, the more she will submit to him. Similarly, the more the wife submits to her husband the more he will love her.

    Husband and wife esteem one another. Jesus says: “If I honour myself, my honour is nothing. It is my Father who honours me.” (John 8:54). Husband and wife must operate as a kind of mutual admiration society. They must be one another’s major cheerleaders. Where the husband disrespects his wife, the marriage does not last, and where the wife disrespects the husband, the marriage does not last.

    Solomon says: “He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favour from the Lord. (Proverbs 18:22).

  • Marriage and intestacy law – Ozioma Onyenweaku

    Marriage and intestacy law – Ozioma Onyenweaku

    By Ozioma Onyenweaku

    I got a call. It was not a number that I knew. The caller introduced himself. On hearing the name, I thought the call was to thank me on behalf of his late brother’s wife and children for successfully obtaining the Letters of Administration for the late brother’s estate. The appreciation call would have been quite apt considering the fact that I carried out the work on ‘credit’.

    Rather, after introducing himself, the caller started his threat. He called me names and threatened to “show” me, to “deal with” me, and to “jail” me.

    What was my offence? I attached a copy of a portion of the Administration of Estate Laws that prescribed the sharing pattern given different scenario, and highlighted the one that applied to the deceased who left a wife and children. This was what irked my caller. He got offended that I brought that to the notice of the wife.

    He said the property would be shared according to their custom. I understand that by their custom, my caller is entitled to a share in his late brother’s property. By the provision of the Law I attached, he has no such entitlement. I then understood his pains. But come to think of it, I did not make the law! Ok, I get it now; my offence was in bringing it out to the attention of the beneficiaries. But my caller is quite wealthy, so why the fuss?

    Well, I know that the kind of marriage the deceased and his wife had does not warrant application of tradition and custom in the sharing of the deceased’s estate. Their marriage was statutory marriage. So the man having died intestate, that is, without a Will, his property would be shared according to the applicable Administration of Estate Law after obtaining the Letters of Administration. The Administration of Estates Law of Lagos captured this in section 49(5):

    “Where any person is subject to customary law contracts a marriage in accordance with the provisions of the Marriage Act and such person dies intestate after commencement of this law leaving a widow or husband or an issue of such marriage, any property of which the intestate might have disposed by Will shall be distributed in accordance with the provisions of this Law, any customary law to the contrary notwithstanding.”

    The Estate Law provides the sharing formula:

    1. Surviving husband or wife

    If the intestate leaves a husband or wife without any issue (child), no parent, or brother or sister of the whole blood, then the surviving husband or wife takes the residuary estate absolutely. In other words, where a man dies without a child, has no parent or brother or sister of the same parent (or even their children), then his wife takes his residuary estate exclusively, without sharing same with anyone.

    1. Surviving husband or wife and children:

    If the intestate leaves issue (child), whether or not he leaves parent or brother or sister of the whole blood, the husband or wife will take the personal chattels (cars, clothing, books, shoes, jewelry, furniture, pictures, wines, and such other assets of personal use) absolutely; and in addition, the husband or wife will take one third of the residuary estate while the surviving children take two-thirds thereof equally.

    The surviving spouse, together with the children of the deceased, inherits his property to the exclusion of every other person.

    1. Surviving husband or wife with no issue

    If the intestate leaves a surviving husband or wife, a parent, a brother or sister of the whole blood or their issue but leaves no issue of his own, then the surviving wife takes the personal chattels absolutely; and in addition, also takes two thirds of the residuary estate. Either one or both parents will take the remaining in equal shares absolutely whether or not the intestate leaves brother or sister of the whole blood.

    Where the intestate leaves no parent, the brother or sister of the whole blood take the remaining one third in equal shares absolutely.

    1. Intestate without surviving husband or wife

    If the intestate leaves no husband or wife, the residuary estate will be held for the issue of the intestate, that is, the children.

    1. Intestate without surviving spouse, children

    If the intestate leaves no husband or wife, and on issues, but both parents, then the residuary estate will be held for the father and mother in equal shares absolutely; if the intestate leaves only one parent, then the residuary estate will be held for the surviving parent absolutely….

    Take note that customary marriage, marriage under Islamic Law, and statutory marriage are the three marriages recognized as legal marriages in Nigeria.

    However, in the event of intestacy and property sharing, statutory marriage has a great advantage.

     

  • Divorce: What we call marriage today baffles me, this generation needs prayer – Ozokwor

    Divorce: What we call marriage today baffles me, this generation needs prayer – Ozokwor

    62-year-old Nollywood veteran actress, Patience Ozokwor, ace actress, has lamented the divorce culture in contemporary marriages, saying she fears for what the younger generation are learning from their parents.

    The Nollywood star was speaking about her marriage convictions in an interview with ChannelsTV.

    “That is not marriage for me. That is a relationship that could be broken at any time. For me, marriage is forever till death do us part. That’s the way I brought up my children. What we have today baffles me,” the actress said.

    “I feel for the children that they’re giving birth to because I don’t know how they would learn something better from their parents. We are praying for this generation and the one to come. That’s our duty as good mothers.

    “I mean, what you see today will be a child’s play. The future will be worse and that’s what we don’t want.”

    Ozokwor made a comparison with her time when marriages were arranged by parents and relatives while couples are left with no choice.

    She also said she never divorced her own husband even when he was battling a terminal illness.

    “When you find that the man is already sick with a terminal disease, you have to battle with training the children and helping him out. He’s your husband. You can’t deny it and you must do your duty as a wife,” she added.

    “Coming from a Christian background, we are not allowed to divorce. That gave me the courage to really do what I could. I remember the first time he went into a coma.

    “When he recovered and came back, he said he wouldn’t believe it if anyone told him I would be able to take care of him like that. Everyone thought I was going to burst out and say I’m done with this but I couldn’t.”

  • Unmasking A Veiled Source of Marital Woes – Michael West

    Unmasking A Veiled Source of Marital Woes – Michael West

    By Michael West

    A lot of people are suffering in diverse ways, in particular, in their marital pursuits but not due to their own wrongdoings. They labour, sweat and work so hard to make things work out but their efforts are not yielding desired results.

    Tales of agony and frustration daily characterise their situations. They often wonder on how they came about their helpless circumstances. I do hope many lives will be liberated through this insight.

    I’m a proponent of parental inputs in the process leading to marriage. Relationships supported by parents have turned out more successful than the ones they opposed. Being human, some of the parents’ choices may not have been the best or have actually been a regret but when juxtaposed by the ones they supported, the success rate is much higher. Parents are people of immense experience. They are endowed with natural instincts to decipher potential good mates for their children. Parents are passionately committed to the well-being of their children, hence they would stop at nothing to support, defend and provide for their needs wherever and whenever they are able to do so.

     

    This same passion for the good of their children apparently lured many parents into tying their children’s destinies or future into covenants or vows. Consequently, the innocent children (now adults) will start contending with unknown source(s) of battles and challenges in their lives especially in the area of marriage.

     

    I know a pretty woman who had the issue of failed relationships consistently. A born again believer for that matter, she was aghast the day she discovered that her parents had married her off to Ifa (god of divination) while she was a few weeks old as a baby. That was when she was able to break free from the spiritual chains that tied her down from getting married. Today, she is a mother of children.

     

    A 49 years old woman had a smooth sail in her studies; at age 22, she had graduated. Barely four years later, she was was ready for marriage after obtaining her Master of Arts degree in her discipline but alas, no stable relationship that could endure into marriage. Consistent breakup in her relationships became her lot. Initially she was not bothered thinking she’s still young with a well-paid job. “It is a matter of time. Things will fall into pleasant places for me in due course.” That was her consolation. Months rolled into years without making a headway in her relationship. She finally got delivered 20 years after on her 46th birthday. She had a dream and saw her late mother praying while facing the altar inside a church. In the dream, her mom was about five months pregnant. She had vowed that her baby will never leave the denomination, and as long as she abides by that, everything about her life shall be smooth, peaceful, timely and successful. And if she veers off the track, until she returns to the fold, things will go the opposite direction for her.

     

    After she woke up, she headed straight to a parish of the church around where she lived in Lagos. She grew up in the church way back in her home town. Barely three months later, she met a guy in the course of her official duty; in less than six months, formal introduction took place. Exactly nine months later, they were in a registry for their wedding. As you read this, she is a mother of two beautiful children and the marriage is solidly moving on well. She took the step without consulting anybody. It then dawned on her that the covenant her mom made while she was still a foetus was working in her life unknowingly.

     

    Meanwhile, while living and working in Lagos after graduation, she started attending another church of her choice. That was when she started experiencing challenges. At some point, her job was seriously threatened. She almost lost her job if not for the mercy of God.

     

    A man was bedeviled with constant job losses. He ventured into business, he ended up in huge debts. He later discovered that his mother had warned that he should not marry from a particular tribe which he ignored. Thank God his mother was alive at the time and a solution was found. I have some other cases that space constraint would not permit me to share.

     

    Many people are experiencing intractable course of challenges and they are almost giving up on their situations as efforts made at solutions appear to be a nulity. They have prayed, fasted and have had several deliverance sessions, yet, it seems they’re not getting results. Not a few people have attended seminars, conferences and counseling sessions all to no avail. Some have even gone outside their faiths to seek help elsewhere, yet, their conditions remain daunting. However, to every human problem, there is a solution but not without knowing the source. Identifying the source or sources of problems either physical, situational or spiritual is the easiest way to solution.

     

    I have encountered cases of seeming hopeless situations which through diligent investigations solutions have been found, all to the glory of God. Every aspect of human life matters; but the key areas that people easily recognise challenges are in the areas of career or business, marriage and health. These are the three cardinal pegs of adult life. Encountering challenges at these junctures are so prevalent such that it is easy for some people to accuse (wrongly or rightly) whoever they suspect to be behind their afflictions. Unfortunately, those commonly accused are mothers, wives, in-laws, unfriendly neighbours and extended family members. I want to admit that in a few instances, it is possible that such people may be unknowingly found complicit, while in several other cases they are indeed innocent but wrongly accused or suspected. The fact remains that we live in a world that is ruled by forces beyond the ordinary.

     

    In some of the recent cases, I discovered that the reason why some mothers are being accused or suspected was because they are involved in the making of vows or covenants in times of need or sorrow; and, under emotional excitement, they tie their vows to the future of their innocent children. These children were not told about what lies ahead of them. Later in life things will begin to go awry with them when they go contrary to the terms of the vows or covenants their parents had entered into.

     

    I want to appeal to parents to open up to their struggling and jinxed children in case anything like that had happened in the past. Adult children should also gently approach their parents to find out if such a spiritual deal exists on their behalf. This situation affects almost every aspect of their lives but it is mostly noticeable in the areas of marital adventure and economic life.

     

    It is never too late to unmask the veiled source of the problem and neutralise the effects. For it is written: “Affliction will not rise a second time.” (Nahum 1: 9). Therefore, the yoke of marital failure and other impossibilities shall be broken by the reason of the anointing in the power of God Almighty. (Isaiah 10:27). Do have a victorious weekend.

     

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    “Encountering challenges at these junctures are so prevalent such that it is easy for some people to accuse (wrongly or rightly) whoever they suspect to be behind their afflictions.”