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  • Things women do: Lady hires lover to send sms messages to make husband jealous

    Things women do: Lady hires lover to send sms messages to make husband jealous

    A lady’s plan to make her husband jealous by hiring another man to send her love messages has backfired and landed her in court.

    This was heard in the Livingstone Local Court, Zambia, recently when Lloyd Lyanukwabalula sued Risford Miyoba for adultery.

    “My wife has saved Miyoba’s number in her phone as ‘Babe’.

    According to Zambia Observer, but Muchindu, Lloyd’s wife told the court that the text messages in her phone were not from her lover.

    “I have been pleading with my husband to stop his illicit affair with this other woman and he said I can also go ahead and have a relationship with another man.

    “So I hired this friend,” Muchindu said. This, however, causes her, her marriage as her husband files for divorce.

  • See top 5 key tests to conduct before getting married

    See top 5 key tests to conduct before getting married

    An NGO, Al-Mu’asharah Marriage and Counseling Foundation (AMGCF) has advocated the introduction of genotype and four other tests for intending couples to enhance healthcare of people in the society.

    Chairman of the foundation, Imam Nura Abubakar-Assalafy, who disclosed this in an interview on Saturday in Katsina, listed the four other tests to include hepatitis, mental health, pregnancy and drugs.

    Abubakar-Assalafy added introduction of HIV/AIDS test before marriage has helped greatly in reducing the number of people infected by their marriage partners.

    The chairman, therefore, urged lawmakers to enact laws that would mandate would-be couples to conduct those tests before the marriage union.

    Abubakar-Assalafy said, “We know how children living with sickle cell anemia are suffering, their parents also suffer in terms of shouldering medical care for such children.

    “This disease has no cure because it is genetically transmitted, the only cure is to avoid marriage between the two diagnosed sickle cell anemia persons or carrier partners.”

    He also said that hepatitis, another deadly disease, could equally be transmitted through closed contact with an infected person, hence the need to enforce diagnosis before marriage, to reduce the rate of the disease.

    On a mental health test, Abubakar-Assalafy said that though some people might appear neat, they could be having a form of mental illness which could only be identified through a test.

    “If one of the couples is having such a problem, there is the tendency of having problems in that family, that might lead to some forms of cheating without knowing the real cause of the problem,” he said.

    The chairman also said that a pregnancy test is very important before marriage, to avoid marrying a woman with pregnancy at an early stage.

    On drug test, Abubakar-Assalafy called on the lawmakers to enact laws that would compel intending couples to go to the NDLEA for drug test, explaining that would assist to reduce the rate of drug abuse in the society.

    The chairman also said that the foundation organises seminars on marital affairs for couples, reconciles them in case of misunderstanding and links males and females in marriage.

    Abubakar-Assalafy identified ignorance and selfish interests as the major factors responsible for divorce.

    He, therefore, urged couples to live in peace by respecting each other, searching for marriage knowledge, talking to one another in good manners, keeping themselves clean and being pious.

  • Sheila drags Davido’s aide, Isreal DMW to court as marriage crashes

    Sheila drags Davido’s aide, Isreal DMW to court as marriage crashes

    Mrs Courage Afeare, popularly known as Sheila Courage on Instagram, has dragged her husband, Mr Israel Afeare, popularly known as Israel DMW, to court as their marriage hit a snag.

    According to court documents sighted by TheNewsGuru.com (TNG), Israel DMW will appear at an Oredo Area Customary Court in Benin City, Edo State on Monday.

    Israel DMW, who is a popular aide to David Adeleke, aka Davido, was summoned to the Magistrate Court, along Sapele Road in Benin by Sheila who is the plaintiff and himself the defendant.

    While Sheila had said if anything should happens to her Israel should be held responsible, the musician’s aide has said he has done anything to wrong his wife, whom he said has since moved from his house.

    In a lengthy post on Instagram, Israel disclosed how he raised Sheila from grass to grace.

    Reads Israel’s Instagram post below:

    Marrying a lady because you met her during evangelism as a virgin, a pastors daughter, a member of ur same winners chapel church, might not guarantee anything peace at all. Dnt be too eager or quick to trust people. People can change at anytime.

    People can be very ungrateful and deceptive. I met Sheila February 19, 2022. We became friends which later became intimate. She told me she would only loose her virginity to the man that would marry her, since her Ugep,Cross River, mother, who’s now 41, who had earlier married 2 different men, with 2 kids, before marrying her father and that she was over due at 21 for marriage.

    We fully agreed with her terms and conditions. I immediately began a full upgrade of her unkept situation by firstly giving her 300k and also replacing her tattered phone of less than 60k to a brand new iphone 12 Pro Max of 860k in less than 2 weeks. I later also replaced the 12 Pro Max to a brand 14 Pro Max of 1.2m that she’s currently using to slay. I did a alot of shoppings for her. Bought her clothes and bags incuding expensive human hairs she’s using without sleeping with her then.

    I later proposed and she fully accepted. We later did a Legally introdution, traditional and white weddings in benin city. Sheila immediately changed by showing her real self after our wedding by wanting to set standards for me because she now felt she was blown as juju wife, fully verified on Instagram, with more followers from her earlier struggling 3k followers when i met her. A fully sapa girl i met with just 2,700 in her account.

    I have never raised my hands on her any day. I dnt beat women at all. I respect them so much. The least money for her upkeep was 100k. She now wakes up to tell me that i derive dignity in begging my oga, and that i am fully a slave and that am disgracing her on social media. I had earlier taking her to show same oga for the first time before we wedded, when we were in Abuja Transcorp Hilton, and oga asked her straight forward if she was ready for marriage, and she fully answered by saying yes and oga immediately gave her 500k for airtime. Oga was fully present in benin for my wedding, after cancelling a 140m show appearance. Oga,

    Cancelling a 140m show appearance. Oga, had to even cough out another extra 30m to get a jet, since since his own was away in America for servicing She finally moved out of my house august 8, to Abuja, to meet her friend, Ginika, a well verified prostitute for fornication, after attempts with flimsy excuses. Her Calabar mother is the most wicked and heartless woman every man should avoid as a mother inlaw. There’s nothing i didn’t do to please dis woman. A pure fake church deaconess and very

    Sheila, would always enter my oga’s dm to discredit me. She keep showing everyone my Oga’s chatt, that oga, doesn’t like me at all. That oga said he’s even tired of me. I was fulky the one that even introduced her to oga. I was the one who told oga to start following her back on ig. People, should be careful of Sheila and her parent. They are fully gold diggers. They fully extorted me. They want to look another highest bidder to sell dia daughter to again.

    Sheila, on this day you’re fully cursed you shall never have peace in ur entire lifetime. Any man who nears you is fully cursed. You fully deceived me into a Legally oat of marriage, just to get popularity?

  • I can marry another woman’s husband now – Actress Toriola

    I can marry another woman’s husband now – Actress Toriola

    Nollywood actress, Wunmi Toriola has disclosed that her stance on being a second or third wife has evolved and that she can marry another woman’s husband now.

    Toriola, who tied the knot in 2018 and divorced in 2021, also disclosed she would not mind marrying a widower or someone who has previously been in a marriage.

    The single mother of one revealed this in a recent interview with media personality, Debbie Shokoya while stressing that her perspective on being a second or third wife has evolved.

    “I used to have the mindset that I can’t be a second or third wife, but that has changed because I’m after one now,” said the Nollywood actress, who had been unattached for a considerable period.

    Toriola, emphasizing her pursuit of personal happiness, asserted that she would gladly marry an individual who shares a similar experience, such as being a widower or someone who, like her, has previously been in a marriage.

    Contrary to the perception that female celebrities are exclusively interested in wealthy men, Toriola argued that not all of them hold such preferences.

    She revealed that many men are hesitant to approach actresses assuming they are only open to relationships with affluent individuals.

    Toriola also debunked the stereotype that attributes actresses’ luxurious lifestyles solely to relationships with wealthy men, emphasizing that most actresses earn their wealth through their own efforts.

    Wunmi Toriola, who tied the knot in 2018 and welcomed her first child the following year, disclosed on her Instagram page in 2023 that her four-year marriage had come to an end.

  • “Why I snubbed marriage proposal from 3 popular actresses” – Bovi

    “Why I snubbed marriage proposal from 3 popular actresses” – Bovi

    Popular Nigerian comedian and actor, Bovi has revealed why he snubbed marriage proposals from three renown actresses.

    He disclosed that three women offered their hands in marriage to him, despite the fact that he was married with kids.

    Bovi said that the women had walked up to him at the Africa International Film Festival (AFRIFF) to make the marriage proposals but he had to turn reject, because the offer came with responsibilities.

    Bovi wrote;

    “Last night @afriff 3 actresses offered me marriage for a year. I turned them down because the offers came with responsibility”.

  • How Nokia 3310 gave me my wife – By Emeka Ozumba

    How Nokia 3310 gave me my wife – By Emeka Ozumba

    By Emeka Ozumba

    Over 20 years and counting, what an auspicious time to tell this story! It was in the early days of mobile telephone services in Nigeria when Ericsson, Nokia 3310, and Samsung were trendy phones. The Subscriber Identity Module (SIM) card cost over N50,000!!!

    I had the privilege of owning a contract package courtesy of a leading mobile services provider. My abode then at Wuse II, Abuja was a melting pot of sorts for friends keen to take advantage of free calls, especially on weekends. We had just concluded a pre-arranged important Abuja-Lagos telephone call and were heading to Central Area, Abuja, as guests at a scheduled wedding when my friend suggested that we stopped-over at a friend’s in Area 3. It was that fortuitous detour that brought me face-to-face with the ‘peace-of-my-heart’.

    On arrival at Architect Izu’s house in Area 3, after pleasantries, our gisting had dove-tailed into an argument when a young, unassuming but confident-looking young lady came out to greet, and probably confirm those disturbing the neighborhood, and quickly disappeared. We later left for the wedding but then I could not concentrate and confessed to my friend that I had just found a wife. But my friend wondered how I could say that about a woman I had just seen and hardly knew. Of course, following my insistence, we got back to Area 3 and learnt that the young lady had just left to Gwarimpa Estate and that she had just concluded her National Youth Service, and was due to head back to Lagos the next day.

    Needless to state that reaching her was a tall order because mobile phones were scarce, and the Architect, her cousin, was not sure of the specific address where she lived but only indicated a junction where we could begin our search. Yet we proceeded to
    Gwarimpa without an address in search of her. I had no doubt that the love lightening had struck me at the right spot. We drove around the estate asking for Corpers’ residence. After we had almost given up and on our way home, we eventually found her on our way to shop at Wuse market.

    Of course, that Gwarimpa encounter gave yours faithfully the opportunity to get vital information from Peace – that’s her name. In fact, my resolve was further kindled when I learnt that three other guys – a pastor, a lawyer, and a businessman – were all in line, pushing for her hand in marriage. I had just arrived the scene but armed with information, I moved fast to fend off competition and ensured that when she got back to Lagos the next day, I was still able to reach her through a cousin who worked with NDLEA, or through an office landline.

    Long story short, after some background checks, I got a Nokia 3310 and activated a SIM. Next, I got a Pierre Cardin wallet and purse, carefully packaged, and couriered the phone to Lagos through the ubiquitous Ekene Dili Chukwu to a cousin for her to pickup. Interestingly, that singular move proved the masterstroke that
    gave me access to her, staved-off competition, and opened a vista of hope and advantage in my quest to woo the lady that became the Peace-of-my -heart.

    To the glory of God, the union was consecrated in Holy matrimony at Holy Trinity Catholic Church,  Maitama, Abuja, on 8th November 2003.

    Guys, you see why I have fond memories of Nokia 3310, especially on a special day like our wedding anniversary?

  • FG set to launch birth, death, marriage registration portal

    FG set to launch birth, death, marriage registration portal

    The Federal Government of Nigeria has announced the plan to unveil a birth, death, and marriage registration portal.

    This development was made known by the Chairman of the National Population Commission (NPC), Nasir Kwara, during a pre-launch briefing on Monday, stating that the registration system includes all civil registrations such as birth registration, stillbirth registration, birth attestation, adoption, marriage notification, divorce notification, migration and death.

    He noted that  the initiative aims to accelerate the improved civil registration and vital statistics systems in Nigeria over ten years, from 2023 to 2030.

    “It aims to accelerate the improved civil registration and vital statistics systems in Nigeria over 10 years, from 2023 to 2030 in a bid to achieve the Sustainable Development Goal,” he said.

    The chairman stated that the commission, in collaboration with the United Nations Children’s Fund (UNICEF), developed the e-CRVS Operational Readiness Assessment Report, which showed the potential of digital technologies in providing transformative outcomes in CRVS and integrating data from multiple systems to securely store data at scale, in a cost-effective way in Nigeria.

    The NPC chairman noted that the system provides a digital certificate in all cases, an accessible verification platform to registered organizations, and a central management system (dashboard) that depicts and analyses collated civil registrations into vital statistics for proper decision-making.

  • Marriage: Nigerians offer valuable tips on older-younger partnership

    Marriage: Nigerians offer valuable tips on older-younger partnership

    Some Nigerians, including celebrities, on Sunday in Lagos, said that age difference between intending couples should not be a barrier to an enduring marriage.

    In separate interviews with the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN), they also said love and compatibility between intending couples should rather be prioritised over the age differences.

    The choice of getting married to younger or older partners had remained a controversial issue among Nigerians.

    Many are of the opinion that African culture would only accept a man to get married to a younger woman, and a woman to an older partner.

    However, individuals have now deviated from such belief, with the opinion that happiness, love, compatibility and understanding between intending couples should be prioritised over the age differences.

    A number of male Nigerian celebrities have gotten married to older women with their marriages faring well.

    Such marriages include Wizkid and Jada P; Deola and Darey Art Alade; Nigerian comedian, MC Fish and Nollywood actress, Anita Joseph as well as Peter and Lola Okoye.

    Veteran Musician, Friday Igwe, popularly known as Baba Fryo said regardless of the age difference between a man and a woman, love and understanding should be paramount.

    Also, Bob Nosa, a Visual Artist said “I really don’t think age should be a factor when choosing a life partner, individuals should consider their happiness and fulfillment first, what people say or feel does not matter.

    Actor Yemi Shodimu said: “Love and compatibility should be the watchword. Societal dictates shouldn’t be a factor as long as the two are pleased and happy with themselves.

    However, Mustapha Abah, a businessman, said that an older lady marrying a younger man could be problematic because of the issue of respect.

    Abah said that though, he would not care about respect, he had seen many relationships packing up due to lack of respect from the lady regardless of the age difference.

    He also advised that any lady that would love to marry a younger partner should always consider the African culture of respect due to men’s egoistic nature.

    “Every man loves to be respected, women should know this. Respect play significant role in marriages but for me, if my love for any older lady is genuine, I will go ahead and marry her,’’ he said.

    Also, Magdalane Iduguma, a Seamstress, told NAN that she once dated a younger man, but her parents objected to their marriage.

    She said it was a difficult period of her life because she was truly in love with that fellow who was, also, madly in love with her.

    According to her, she regretted not going against her parent’s wish as she is currently a single mother.

    She advised that parents should also be well guided on issues regarding their children’s choices on marriage.

    For Lovelyn Atteh, a practising Nurse, age was mere numbers when it comes to relationships and marriages, adding that religious clerics and marriage councellors had a lot to do when it comes to relationship.

    Atteh said individuals should be encouraged to marry their choice partner if it would make them happy throughout their life.

    “For me, age is insignificant in marriage, the most important factors to consider is genuine love, happiness and compatibility, ” she said.

  • Zambian man laments how his wife he transformed into city woman now sleeps with different men

    Zambian man laments how his wife he transformed into city woman now sleeps with different men

    A man of Lusaka aged 53 shed tears when he narrated before Matero Local Court, Zambia, how his wife got married to another man while she was still married to him.

    According to Zambia Observer, Mulongwe said in 1993, he went to his village and married Kalubi and brought her to Lusaka where he has been working till date.

    He said after she transformed into a city woman, Kalubi turned her back on him and started having extra marital affairs with different men.

    “I married my wife from the village, but she has now gotten married to another man.

    “Her family even collected dowry from the other man without my knowledge.

    “She always spends about two weeks away from home and will lie to me that she went to visit her relatives.

    “One of her relatives who felt sorry for me later let the cat out of the bag.

    “I even took her lover to court for compensation for committing adultery with my wife, but the matter was dismissed,” he said.

    In her statement, Kalubi denied ever getting married to another man and told the court her husband was the one who married another woman and left her alone in their matrimonial home.

    “My husband is the one who has deserted our matrimony home. He has been accusing me of making him impotent and unable to function with another woman meaning that, he is a womaniser,” she said.

    Giving his judgment, the magistrate, Harriet Mulenga noted that there was no marriage between the two.

    “There is obviously no love between the two. The woman it is glaring is also claiming to be the head of the home thus making it difficult for your union to work.

    “I will not waste our time, divorce is granted and you are free to do what you want,” Mulenga said.

  • The one percent principle for success in marriage – By Francis Ewherido

    The one percent principle for success in marriage – By Francis Ewherido

    I cannot recall where I got this principle from, but it simply says nobody is totally bad and nobody is totally good. So, take the one per cent (as a representation) that is good in that person and run with it. I will give you one example. In the early 80s, Concord Newspaper was hot. To get a copy in Effurun/Warri/Enerhen axis, Delta State, you have to get to Enerhen Junction before 7am to wait for the vendor. On this day, while my younger brother was waiting, a madman came out of nowhere and pushed him against the wall/ground causing him injuries. While he was still on the ground, another madman came and quickly helped him up and dusted dirt off his body. Then he said, no mind these mad people, na so dem dey misbehave. He too was insane, but he had some sanity.

    The one per cent principle is very handy in maintaining relationship with many people across board. You are not too critical about the person. You are just looking for the minimum good in that person and run with it. But our focus today is the one per cent principle in having a happy marriage. Marriage is very serious business. It goes beyond just having a relationship with someone. You are talking about a relationship that will define the rest of your life, positively or negatively. So you apply the one person as a representation of what is good about your potential spouse. Many spouses have enough qualities to make their marriages taste like honey. Unfortunately, the same spouses also have failings to make their marriages taste like bitter leaf without the therapeutic value of bitter leaf. Here the taste of the marriage is dependent on what is important to you and what you decide to focus on.

    Most failed marriages today would have survived if the couples practised the one per cent principle, and most happy marriages today would also have failed if the couples failed to practise the one per cent principle in one form or the other. One per cent principle does not mean you live a lie that your spouse is perfect. You simply focus on the good attributes, and learn to live with his/her failings. After all, who is perfect? There is no such person. If you want your spouse to live with your shortcomings, you must also learn to live with his/hers. In other words, you focus on the good qualities of your spouse and deemphasise the negatives. The result is what we refer to as happy marriages. It is like seeing the cup as half full instead of half empty.

    What are the positives and what are the negatives. Before, I will reel out these qualities, but life is becoming so relative, it is difficult to tell. For me domestic violence is a no-no. I will not be part of a violent marriage and I will not allow anyone I love to remain in a violent marriage. I have already drilled that into my children’s heads. When my youngest brother was to get married, I invited him and the fiancée. I told the fiancée that you see him as an adult, which he is, but we brought him up, so he remains our baby. I know he will never lay hands on you because the repercussions from his elder brothers will be grave. The same way, we do not want to hear that you threatened his life. The day you do, the marriage is over as far as I am concerned because we do not want to lose him. Rest assured that no one will interfere in your marriage. You will not even hear from us as far there is no domestic violence. Your disagreements, quarrels and beefing are your internal affairs, but no domestic violence will be tolerated or accepted. It has been like that so far.

    But I read stories where girls say they cannot marry a quiet man. They like to be beaten. They like violent sex. That is a form of sadomasochism. God created sex for pleasure aside procreation. I do not understand why any normal human being will bring in violence. We heard of the hotelier who was killed in Ilorin by two school dropouts after they tied him up. He was helpless why they killed him. That is one of the downsides of sadomasochism. In these dangerous times, how can you allow runs-girls to tie you up and make you helpless? Absolute foolishness.

    I have heard some married men say that their wives can be unfaithful as long as they are discreet, that is, “it’s not done in my face.” That sounded incredulous to me. In some cultures, including mine, if a woman commits adultery and she is caught, she will not spend the night in the husband’s house. It is back to sender. You see why it is difficult to list the qualities of a potential spouse. But I can safely say that every married person desires peace of mind and therefore desires someone who can give that peace. “Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife” (Proverbs 25:24). Most people also want supportive and dependable spouses. I will stop here before I go into disputable attributes.

    LET’S ACKNOWLEDGE WHAT IS GOOD

    My wife and I went for data capture for the renewal of our international passports on June 5, 2023. I made up my mind I was not to pay over the moon. I did not need it urgently. They gave us September 1 as date for collection. When my wife got there, they told her they were not ready. She asked why no one bothered to inform us when they had our numbers. They directed her to their notice board where they pasted the information. Last Tuesday, my wife got a text that our passports were ready for collection. She went on Wednesday and came back home with the passports.

    When the current minister of interior, Olubunmi Ojo, promised to clear the 200,000 passport backlog in two weeks, I adopted a siddon look attitude. Over the years, we have seen legion of unfulfilled promises by government officials. It is refreshing to see promise keepers. The signs are good in some government quarters. After a long period of poor governance, I am happy with what I am seeing in Abia State. I have followed Alex Otti since his time as an Executive Director of First Bank. He will transform Abia State. Nyesom Wike comes across as uncouth to some people, but he will transform Abuja. He has the track record. I am keeping my eyes on our erudite Chief Festus Keyamo, the Aviation and Aerospace Development Minister. He will deliver. Delta no dey carry last. He will not let us down. We are waiting for Engr. David Umahi to replicate at the federal level what he did in Ebonyi State in road infrastructure. The federal roads in South East and South South are in a horrendous state. Some people are yet to decide if they will go home for Christmas.

    Governance is all about the people of Nigeria, not political affiliations or ethnicity. Nigerians have suffered for too long and deserve the best.