Tag: men

  • Ladies need to start signing relationship contracts with men-Toke Makinwa

    Ladies need to start signing relationship contracts with men-Toke Makinwa

    Media personality, Toke Makinwa has opined that women should have documents signed before they agree to go into any romantic relationship.

     

    Makinwa made this known during one of the episodes of her vlog, ‘Toke Moments.’

     

    According to her, it has become essential for ladies to have it locked in a document because of the number of men have now become notorious ‘time wasters.’

     

    “Wetin we nor go see for this relationship, I never see am for my life. Maybe you’ll find out one is a time-waster. Do you know how busy I am? that I decided to make time for you and you now want to waste my time. See ehn…I said I’m not doing anymore,” she said.

     

    “If I meet the next guy who para venture wants to try himself, wants to try and question the day that they gave birth to him by trying to talk to me, we are going to sign a contract. Ladies, I think we should start doing this, that way when they want to start wasting your time at least you’ve gotten something out of it.”

    ”When I meet you, I like you, I wat to send you this, send you that”…I’ll have my personal assistant send you a contract. You will read the contract and in that contract, you must pay me money for me to even talk to you or even allow your Whatsapp or phone call.”

     

  • Men who gave humanity a humane face, By Owei Lakemfa

    By Owei Lakemfa.

    Chris Otokito, 37, is not known in Nigeria. He is not a famous actor, singer, boxer, businessman or millionaire. However, he has been honoured at least thrice within three weeks by the British establishment on the two prevailing universal issues; the Coronavirus pandemic and the Black Lives Matter (BLM) protests. He and four of his friends have also had good mentions in world media and received universal commendation for teaching humanity how to be compassionate.

    Otokito, a bank manager in London and martial arts and fitness trainer, is the son of Anthony. H. Otokito, a Nigerian who 44 years ago, left his Otuokpoti, Ogbia home in Bayelsa State in search of the proverbial golden fleece in Britain, and naturalised.

    While Britons during the Coronavirus pandemic outrage were under lockdowns and people feared for their lives, Otokiti and his wife, Eleanor, were going through the streets of Croydon and the train station providing and distributing food to the hungry especially the elderly, and assisting the needy. The city on June 30, honoured Chris for his “incredible” work during the pandemic. Croydon City Mayor Humayun Kabir told Otokito the city was honouring him: “ …for your hard work, compassion, commitment and sheer dedication to go above and beyond throughout this crisis.”

    However, it was the protests that drew universal attention to him and his heroic friends. As the BLM protests gathered strength in Britain, the far-right White Supremacists decided to hold a counter rally on June 13. The latter wanted a violent confrontation under the guise of defending ‘national monuments’ It promised to be a day of bloody fights and the police mobilised for the inevitable clashes.

    Otokito and four of his friends, Lee Russel, Jamaine Facey, Pierre Noah, and Patrick Hutchinson, who are into mixed martial arts, decided that they could not be absent from the rally. They decided to use their skills to protect the BLM demonstrators against the expected far-right attacks.

    Otokito said the five were a band of brothers: “We’re all from similar backgrounds, we’re all from the same community and the streets of London. Same South London background, same morals, same principles. We’re all fathers, we all have our families as well – we’re trying to set an example.”

    Facey in taking to his Facebook page to mobilise for the protests, wrote: “You couldn’t be bothered to be there when you were asked to help the future generations. So do not comment now that the outcome doesn’t fit your narrative.’

    Hundreds of racist protesters led by the Britain First far-right group gathered at Parliament Square. They did not waste time carrying the fight not just to the anti-racism protesters, but also the police. The battles started from the Houses of Parliament and Trafalgar Square spilling into the streets close to Whitehall towards Chelsea.

    As the battles became fierce, the BLM protesters, caught a bloodied man, dragged and threw him down the steps near the Royal Festival Hall. Then they advanced for further attacks. Otokito and his four friends realised that the man, later identified as 55-year old delivery driver, Bryn Male, was in mortal danger. Instinctively, they formed a protective shield round him as the protesters hit them in an attempt to get at their target.

    Otokito said having read the situation correctly he and his friends knew that they stood little chance protecting Mr. Male against the surging crowd; it was at that point Hutchinson took the decisive step of scooping the half conscious Mr. Male from the ground. He said of that decisive moment: ” they (his four friends)created a barrier around him, and I was the last one to come in. I scooped him up into a fireman’s carry and marched him out with the guys around me, protecting me and shielding me and protecting this guy from getting any further punishment. I had no other thoughts in my mind apart from getting to safety…I could actually feel strikes and hits as I was carrying him, so these guys were probably taking some of that themselves on their person.”

    Mr Noah, a teacher said: ‘If we didn’t (help) I wouldn’t like to think what would have happened to the poor guy. We wanted to save his life and save the Black Lives Matter campaign as well.”

    Mr. Male realising that he owed his life to the five men said through his 21-year old son, Harry Male that he would want to meet and thank his rescuers. The British establishment is already doing that. Most major news channels featured and celebrated men who did not hesitate to come to the rescue of an adversary thereby teaching that all lives matter including that of a man who does not share such cherished truth.

    The five were invited to the House of Lords where they were received by Michael Hastings, Baron Hastings of Scarisbrick. The Mayor of London Sadiq Khan sent the men a commendation letter dated June 19, 2020 in which he wrote: “ I want to thank you for the incredible humanity you showed during a day marred by violence, desecration and racism displayed by right-wing extremists. I know your intentions were not to be seen as heroes but your actions demonstrated the very best of us and were the antithesis of the hate and division the right-wing extremists were determined to sow.”

    Famous American Civil Rights leader, Reverend Al Sharpton called Hutchinson on television to say: ‘I saw what you did, and it warmed my heart. I had just come from a demonstration the day before, and had done several speeches and what I had tried to articulate you did in one gesture…You demonstrated that, without opening your mouth, without any drama or without any press notices, and I want you to know, you put the movement in a keener perspective than anything those of us that’s been out there could say or do… You’ve done a tremendous thing, because we’re not marching out of hate, we’re launching out of love for everybody, and if we become infected by the rancour and the hatred that we’re fighting, then we become the replacements, not the reformation or the answer.”

    As they soaked in well-deserved praise and commendation across the globe, Otokito said what he and his friends did sent: “ a different narrative to how the image of a Black man is usually painted…we went down to make a change and make a difference. And it’s only going to happen if everyone stands up together and does that.”

    I wonder why Nigerians are not holding up Otokito as an example of who we are; why Africans are not celebrating these five men for giving humanity a humane face and pointing to all races, the path to universal emancipation.

     

     

  • A lot of men can’t handle successful women-Toke Makinwa

    A lot of men can’t handle successful women-Toke Makinwa

    Nigerian media personality, Toke Makinwa has averred that a lot of men cannot handle successful women because of financial insecurity and status.

    The fashionista made this known during a live Instagram chat with popular media personality, IK Osakioduwa .

     

    In her words: “A lot of women don’t have any problems with dating who…It’s not about status for me. For me I’m more interested in a guy who has purpose, a guy who is grounded in his purpose, someone who knows where he is going,” she said.

    “Because money can up and leave. You can marry someone who has money today and in two years the guy doesn’t have all that money anymore. But I feel like sometimes, guys think they can handle it, and they think it is nice on paper, even in that reality, a lot of them cannot handle a successful woman”.

    TheNewsGuru recalls that weeks back, Makinwa said her vagina smells like pineapple .

    I feel like the vagina shouldn’t have an odour. If your vagina smells…it has like a metallic smell which is kind of normal but I don’t think that anybody’s vagina should be smelling, it’s not healthy.If your vagina smells, you should get that checked. Mine smells like pineapples because I drink a lot of pineapples and cranberry juice. And ladies just clean up properly,” she said.

     

     

     

  • Run away from men that want to lure you to bed- Olive Utalor

    Run away from men that want to lure you to bed- Olive Utalor

    Budding actress, Olive Utalor has urged women to be careful during this period of self-isolation and social distancing due to coronavirus pandemic.

    The svelte role interpreter noted that this moment should be an opportunity for married couples to mend every crack in their relationships, while single ladies should draw closer to God.

    Speaking in a chat with The Sun, she said:”This stay-at-home period is actually a blessing for married women, because this is what they have always prayed for, to have their husbands all to themselves. No more hanging out late, no night clubs and parties. A lot of women will be happy to have their husbands around. Marriages would wax stronger during this period, while side chicks will be lonely.

    “I want to advise young girls out there to steer clear of any man that wants to lure them to bed with food and constant electricity. You better flee because it is a trap to get pregnant. This (isolation) period is not for sex but to draw closer to God,” she posited.

    On how she plans to cope staying lonely at home throughout the isolation period, the single actress noted that she has devised a means to keep herself warm and busy.

    “I don’t do sex toys. My bed is wide enough and my fridge is well stocked with foodstuff. All I do is eat, read, sleep and watch movies. It is a period of rest, my dear. This is really end time, so we all have to be careful. I don’t feel bad that I don’t have a man. I have been able to focus my energy on bigger things that are more yielding. A man will definitely come at God’s time. I am not rushing it,” she said.

     

  • Don’t interrupt a woman’s greatness if you cannot add value to her -Juliet Ibrahim

    Sensational actress, Juliet Ibrahim has stated that men should not admire a woman if they’re not ready to add value to her life.
    The movie star disclosed this on her social media page, though she did not provide the context from which she was addressing the issue.
    According to her, men should only admire women when they are ready to add value to their lives, to avoid creating unnecessary interruption.

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    “If you see a woman that has everything going for herself and you’re not ready or going to add value to her life, please my brother just admire her from far. Don’t interrupt her greatness,” she wrote on Instagram.
    TheNewsGuru recalls that in December 2019, the actress announced she was ready to give love another chance in 2020 after her marriage to Kwadwo Safo, her ex-husband, hit the rock.
    In the same vein, she revealed strategies to avoid going into another failed relationship including uploading pictures of her suitors online to ensure she does not fall into wrong hands.
    “As I’m ready to give dating another chance in 2020 … once we start talking about getting serious, I’ll upload the person’s picture with the caption ‘WHO GET AM?,” she had posted on her social media.
  • Heads up ladies: See what men want for valentine

    Heads up ladies: See what men want for valentine

    A cross section of men in the Federal Capital Territory (FCT) on Friday said that women should give them valuable gifts for the Valentine Day celebration.

    In interviews, they lamented that over the years, women do give them underwears as gifts during the celebration.

    They added that women should learn to give men valuable gifts like perfumes, shirts, wrist watches among others.

    Mr David Oyedira, a medical doctor told NAN that his girlfriend always gave him boxers for the valentine, and expected him to give ‘the world’.

    “I am tired of boxers all the time, this time around, I want something better this year,’’ he said.

    Mr Ikechukwu Maxwell, a businessman said women are too stingy and believe they are wise, adding that he was not ready to patronize anybody this time.

    “This year’s valentine, I am on my own, I am not buying any gift for any lady, because in return, all I get is underwear, I have got enough underwears in my house,’’ he said.

    Mr Oluwasegun Ojo, a civil servant said he was looking forward to the valentine celebration, adding that he has a lot of surprise packages for his babe.

    “But I have already told her, I don’t want underwear, it’s going to be great.

    “Women generally appear to have the habit of presenting one common gift to their spouses on valentine day; most women are used to buying only underwear.

    “Whereas women want something more valuable than underwear as a gift on valentine day. Women expect their spouse to buy them expensive gifts on valentine day, like car, phones, jewelries, clothes, shoes or tickets to travel abroad.

    “Many ladies are not used to spending their own money to show their love to their spouse. I advised them to change for the better,” he said.

    Meanwhile, Aisha Opeyemi, a trader said she prefers to buy underwear for her spouse on valentine day because it is affordable.

    “I will buy underwear for my husband because I feel it is most useful to him and besides they are cheap and affordable for me,” she said.

    Ibikunle Oluwaseun, a school teacher said the gift presented does not matter but what matters was the intention behind the gift.

    “I don’t have money to buy expensive gifts, but I buy what I think will be useful to him.

    “The Valentine’s Day is an opportunity for me to change my husband’s boxers, since he might not remember to buy even when the ones he has are worn out.

    Ola Ibitoye, a business woman said that she prefers to buy underwear because men don’t appreciate flowers and men outfits are expensive.

  • I can’t marry a man who doesn’t have 3 cars, 2 houses- Khloe

    Reality TV star, Busayo Abiri a.k.a Khloe has stated that she can’t marry a man that doesn’t have at least three cars, two houses and other things she desires.
    Khloe made this known via her Instagram page on Thursday, December 12, 2019.
    In a very lengthy post, Khloe said it’s her personal decision as she doesn’t plan to bring into the world kids who won’t enjoy all the good things of life.
    “So last night at dinner I was having a conversation with the girls and I said I can’t MARRY a broke man that doesn’t have at least 3 cars, 2 houses, and 2 stable businesses …. so it got online and people are insulting me … 1. That’s my wish, not yours. 2. I repeat I’m not bringing a child into this world if my husband and me are not financially stable. 3. It’s me that knows what I went through growing up and I don’t wish that for my children. 4. I have half of these things, so why should I go lower. 5. It’s none of your goddam business what I wish for,” she wrote.
    “Men will curse me cos they don’t work hard enough to acquire these things or they know they can’t come close to achieving these things in 100 years to come AND that’s none of my life business … keep your poverty and low thinking to yourself. Some said does my father has all these things, no darling?That’s enough reason why my husband should have a lot so your broke kids won’t say the same thing to them in future … My life, My rules, My wishes. Lord help me. AMEN,” she concluded.
    Her statement has however sparked multiple comments on social media.

     

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  • Must-read: Men who stare at women’s breasts live longer, healthier – Study

    Must-read: Men who stare at women’s breasts live longer, healthier – Study

    A study done by a German scientist, Karen Weatherby, and published in the New England Journal of Medicine, has revealed that staring at women’s breasts is healthy and also elongates the life span of men.

    The study, which was carried out over a period of five years, involved 500 men, half of whom were instructed to stare at women’s breasts in a lustful manner for no less than 10 minutes every day.

    The other half were instructed to abstain from doing such.

    It concluded that men who stared at breasts, more often, showed lower rates of heart problems, slower resting heart rate and lower blood pressure, all of which enable a healthy living and long life.

    The study said men should stare at breasts for 10 minutes a day to improve the wellness of their hearts and live longer.

    “Just 10 minutes of staring at the charms of a well-endowed female every day is roughly equivalent to a 30-minute aerobics work-out,” the study revealed.

    When the two groups of men were tested, men that stared at breasts daily had lower blood pressure, slower resting pulse rates, as well as fewer instances of coronary artery disease.

    “Sexual excitement gets the heart pumping and improves blood circulation. Gazing at breasts makes men healthier and engaging in this activity a few minutes daily cuts the risk of stroke and heart attack by half.

    “We believe that by doing so consistently, the average man can extend his life for four to five years,’’ he added.

  • Psychologist says more women attempt suicide than men

    Psychologist says more women attempt suicide than men

    Miss Titi Tade, Clinical Psychologist, Suicide Research and Prevention Initiative (SURPIN) on Saturday said more women attempted suicide than men.
     
    Tade made the assertion while delivering a lecture titled, ‘Depression, vis-à-vis Suicide Rate in the Country, at the July Congress of the Nigeria Association of Women Journalists (NAWOJ), Lagos State Chapter
    According to her, while more women attempt suicide, women also have more chances of survival than men.
    Tade, also a Deputy Director, Medical Social Services at the Lagos University Teaching Hospital(LUTH), noted that this was so because women were more prone to depression than men.
     
    She said women also were more likely to seek help out of depression than the men.
    “More women attempt suicide than men and more women survive suicide attempt than men because the method they adopt or substances they take for the suicide are usually milder than the men.
    “Out of five women that attempt suicide, four have the tendency to survive, while only one out of five men that attempt such survive,” she said.
    According to the psychologists, over 90 per cent of suicide cases are caused by depression.
    Tade said 78 per cent of suicide cases globally occurs in the underdeveloped countries while the developed countries record only 22 per cent.
    According to her, suicide is a mental case and it kills about one million people daily, while youths and children of about five years are also involved.
    “Suicide occurs in every 40 seconds and about 20 to 25 people attempt it, but do not succeed.
    “The second highest cause of suicide is failed relationship, while others are terminal or physical illness, genetic factor, cultural factor, social isolation, bereavement, unemployment, amongst others,” she said.
    Tade advised Nigerians to reduce stigmatisation, discrimination on mental health issues, over spiritualism and improve communication as well as school mental health programme.
    She also urged the government to address the issue of shortage of mental health professionals while the media should desist from its sensational reporting of suicide cases towards curbing the menace.
    Mrs Adeola Ekine, Chairman, NAWOJ, Lagos Chapter, lauded the Psychologist for mentoring the association’s members and sharing from her wealth of experience.
    Ekine encouraged women to be closer to their children and give them adequate and effective advise that would guide them to take the right steps in life, as cases of youths involved in suicide were on the increase.
    The News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) reports that over 30 members of the association attended the congress.

  • I know how to take good care of men- Lizzy Gold

    I know how to take good care of men- Lizzy Gold

    Nollywood actress, Lizzy Gold has declared that she will not be found inadequate when it comes to satisfying the needs of a man she loves.

    The Delta State-born role interpreter made this known in a chat with The Sun.

    “I am an Itsekiri girl and I know that an average Itsekiri girl can cook and take good care of their men. They are also very hardworking and intelligent. We are very blunt and jovial people. I have never heard any bad stories about an Itsekiri girl.”

    Speaking further she advised ladies to desist from any form of toxic relationship.

    “Distance yourself from any relationship that is too toxic, whether platonic or intimate. Some relationships can drain your energy, walk away from bad energy. Life is too short to manage relationships. If it’s not giving you what you want, my sister, leave,” she said.

    TheNewsGuru, TNG recalls that the outspoken actress had revealed on her Instagram that she has stopped wearing of pants in order to avoid ritualists who use used female pants for ritual purposes.

    “I’m saying goodbye to wearing pants. No more wearing of underwear”, she blurted.