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  • #Justice4DonDavis: A wake-up call for school authorities, parents – Ozioma Onyenweaku

    #Justice4DonDavis: A wake-up call for school authorities, parents – Ozioma Onyenweaku

    Ozioma Onyenweaku

    In one of my recent articles, I drew attention to the fact that the boy child also needs protection from sexual abuse. It is often misconstrued that the girl child is the only victim of child sexual abuse. In that article, CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE: THE BOY CHILD TOO NEEDS PROTECTION, I stated that:

    “The truth of the matter is that as many boys as girls are sexually molested. The sexual abuses in which the boys are the victims are the least reported. Yet they go through all the mental, psychological and emotional trauma silently to the greater harm of their overall health and welfare. Sexual abuse affects the males as much the same way it affects the female. The torture is not gender defined. One unique point in the case of sexual abuse of the male child is that the perpetrators are mostly males. There are only very few female abusers of the male child.”

    I equally drew attention to the prevalence of sexual abuses in boys’ dormitories.

    “One area we must pay particular and urgent attention to now is the Boy’s Boarding Schools. A lot of the junior ones are going through nasty experience of sexual abuse in the dormitories at the hands of the senior male students.”

    The case of Don Davis brought home the point I have been making that we must as a matter of importance do a check on the boys’ dormitories in schools.

    Don Davis case is one of many cases. Believe you me. I pray that this case of Don Davis will awake the needed consciousness in all of us to pay attention to what goes on in dormitories. I was highly disappointed at the turn the matter was taking. I baffled at the school authorities’ choice of the image of the school over the mental and emotional torture of the boy victim.

    I strongly salute the courage of the victim’s mother for not allowing herself be intimidated by anyone. How many parents would boldly so stand! That’s why a lot of our children are going through mental and emotional deformity.

    Thanks also to social media, and the general outcry condemning the act. If the victim’s mother is not so courageous that would have been one case swept under the carpet. A lot of child sexual abuses go on in schools, in churches and at home; and such are not allowed to be heard outside because the ‘reputation’ of the family, the church and school must be protected.

    Let this serve as a wake-up call for parents and school authorities. Schools should ensure the safety of children from abuse. Parents must carry out due diligence check on the schools they want to send their children to. Make no mistake about it. I have to repeat here that report has shown that sexual abuse is the underlining factor in the depression and suicidal attempt of some male children. They feel the hurt; they go through the trauma and nightmare, and cannot even voice it out; and no one seems to notice. They fall into depression and then attempt suicide.

    Well, I read with interest the statement from the authorities of Deeper Life High school that investigations into the Don Davis case have commenced.
    “We want to assure the general public that investigations into the case have commenced and no culprit, whether staff or student will be spared if found culpable… As an interim measure and to underscore the seriousness we attach to higher superintending values, the school principal has been suspended summarily even as further investigations continue; and result of the investigation will be made public”

    I am cool to quote them here because we are holding them to their words. Yes, we await the result of the investigation. We cannot continue toying with the mental health of our children.

    It will do us a lot of good if other schools can key into this and do an underground check on their own dormitories now. It is not going to be business as usual. We must understand that schools, in admitting these children into the dormitory, have undertaken to ensure their safety at all times while there. Schools must wake up to this responsibility.

  • Victim’s parents demand N100m compensation from Deeper Life school over alleged molestation

    Victim’s parents demand N100m compensation from Deeper Life school over alleged molestation

    Parents of 11-year-old Don-Davies Archibong who allegedly suffered sexual molestation at Deeper Life High School in Idoro, Akwa Ibom State have asked the school to pay N100 million compensation for the torture their son was allegedly subjected to in the school.

    Mr and Mrs Archibong made the demand in a letter dated December 22 and addressed to the principal of the school through their solicitors Eagle-Eyes Network Chambers.

    They gave the school 21 days to pay the money and publish an apology over the incident in national dailies.

    The statement reads: “We are solicitors to Mr. and Mrs, Iniobong Archibong, resident in Uyo, Akwa Ibom State and herein after referred to as our client. We have the firm explicit and unequivocal instructions to write to you on the above subject matter.

    “It is indeed provocatively heartbroken, morally suicidal and religiously hypocritical that our client’s 11-year-old son was torrentially bombarded with physical and inhuman torture of debilitating dimension with resultant castration of his human person, dignity and childhood innocence.

    “We respectfully demand the payment of N100,000,000 within 21 days of the receipt of this letter as compensation to assuage the dehumanising, horrendous torture and indignity our client’s son was subjected to and for his medical checkup and medication.

    “We demand that Deeper Life High School, Idoro, Uyo, publish an unreserved apology to our clients in two n ational Newspapers; PUNCH, THISDAY, and any other two local newspapers circulated within Akwa Ibom State and its environs.”

  • Parents, It’s All About You, By Michael West

    Parents, It’s All About You, By Michael West

    By Michael West

    It appears that becoming single parents either by widowhood or failed marriage makes one vulnerable. This is because quite a number of single parents are perplexed and unhappy due to the opposition they receive from their children in their bid to venture into relationship again. Assertive parents do not hide their desire for companions while some others shy away and conceal their burning longing for love for fear of disapproval by their adult children. It is surprising that some children do not help matters in this regard. They don’t think their parents, most of who are in their late 50s to 70s do not need to have intimate affairs again. Fathers do have their way against all odds than mothers. It is so because mothers practically submit their lives to the dictates and caprices of their children.

     

    From my encounters with many families, I discovered that selfish children do feign ignorance of the emotional need of their aging parents. A 62-year-old woman has a serious issue with her only daughter who does not like to see any man around her mom. Being the only daughter, the mom spends more time in her place looking after her two children while she concentrates on her job. The 34 years old graduate of computer science thinks she’s doing her mom a great deal of favour by keeping her around most of the time. Fortunately, her husband is a well-cultured man who relates warmly with his mother-in-law. She became enraged when her mom told her that she’s considering going into another marriage if she finds a suitable man. The statement sparked a hot, resentful response from her daughter. “What do you need a man for? At 62, do you still need more children or what? It is a disgrace that my mom could contemplate such an idea.” Her siblings sharply disagreed with her. They argued that she’s entitled to live her life as she pleases after all their dad has remarried 12 years ago. As at today, the mom is scared to venture into relationship because “I don’t want trouble with my daughter.” Several of this case abound in our society. While some parents, regardless of what their children think or say, have their way, others bow to the opinions or rejection of the idea by their children.

     

    A man reconnected with me last weekend with a request for a befitting match as a companion. He had signified interest in my Hook Up service in 2018. He later ceased communicating after completing the process. He explained that his children was the reason he suspended his request at the time. “They argued that I don’t need a woman since I’m already a grandfather. Remember I sought your (Michael West’s) counsel on the matter and your advise eventually paid off. It’s a long story but everything has been settled. Now, I’m available,” he stated.

     

    A young woman of 35 years old would not mind to marry a 58 years old divorced single dad but she is stiff scared of the man’s grown up children. She is not particularly bothered about the boys but the two girls. “Men don’t really intrude into their parents’ affairs unlike women. They see you as a gold digger if the man is rich or as an unqualified replacement for their mom. They usually don’t flow well with women in their fathers’ lives. They see the wife as a rival and usurper of their mother’s position. Why the needless acrimony usually arise is what I don’t understand,” she said.

     

    In view of the above situation, it all depends on the man himself. For real, stepdaughters (not all of them though) are difficult folks to relate with. They think their parents might fall victim of the new partners’ antics or deception. The children fear that they may no longer enjoy attention and unrestrained access to their parents as soon as they get engaged or remarried. They become excessively protective because they are not too sure of the safety of their parents in the hands of the new partners. Children are afraid of being ostracized or fenced out of the reach of their dear parents by the new partners. For children that have been enjoying free flow of monetary assistance and confidentiality with their parents, they don’t want to take the risk of being denied such support.

     

    Candidly, some of these fears are real. There are examples and living proofs of families that have become fictionalized and sharply divided courtesy of new partners in the families especially the stepmothers. It is only in rare cases, if any at all, that you see stepfathers cause such division or upset in families. Several families are in shambles and disarray because of the atrocities and shenanigans of stepmoms. So, to a large extent, some of the fears are real and genuine.

     

    However, there are many wonderful women who actually turn out to be a blessing to their families. They reconcile warring members of the family. They go the extra mile to build confidence, love and trust such that they become the rallying force. Recalcitrant stepdaughters are usually the last to accept them. The stepmom would rather befriend the strategic and ‘all-powerful’ stepdaughters than discriminate against them. A wise stepmom won’t act based on advanced negative information she has had about the members of the family. With open and free mind she will relate with everybody. Such a stepmom is usually a positive thinker, prayer addict, patient and wise woman. She’s not easily offended, she ignores minor faults, complains less and commends good deeds a lot. She will leverage on her nexus to advance the progress of the family members, in particular, her stepchildren. I know a woman who was paying the upkeep of her stepchildren in tertiary institutions on monthly basis. After graduation, she used her position and influence to secure employment in choice government agencies for her stepchildren. We still have kind, sacrificial, helpful and generous stepmothers in our society.

     

    It is only fair to acknowledge that the most difficult person to satisfy or convince is an enemy. If someone has constituted herself to be your sworn enemy, even if you sacrifice your soul for her, she will scorn your offer and go ahead with her deeds. A sadist as a stepdaughter may accuse you of trying to entice or ‘bribe’ her with “unsolicited favour” into supporting your relationship with her dad. She and her ilk are usually saucy, arrogant and rude. They utter foul words to spite and disparage their targets. They deride noble intentions and portray good deeds as a veil for intending evil. They are daring, cantankerous and vindictive. Forgiveness is not in their lexicon. They make life miserable and tiresome for whoever they choose to contend with. Even their parents could hardly exercise control over them. Such category of stepdaughters should be left alone. Get along with those who accept and appreciate you in the family. Still, keep open arms and receptive heart. After all, enemy today may become your fanatical supporter tomorrow. Jesus said, let men see your “good works” so they will glorify your Father in heaven. Nothing changes and turns life around faster than good character and blameless lifestyle.

     

    In conclusion, parents should not surrender their lives to the whims and dictates of their children. Their opinions and inputs may count but certainly not to determine whether or not their parents should have new relationships. I believe children should be carried along and be adequately informed but not to rule over the affairs of their parents.

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    “Men don’t really intrude into their parents’ affairs unlike women. They see you as a gold digger if the man is rich or as an unqualified replacement for their mom.”

     

  • Parents, guardians barred from 2020 Call to Bar ceremony

    Parents, guardians barred from 2020 Call to Bar ceremony

    The Body of Benchers, Nigeria, the body responsible for regulation of Law education, has scheduled for September 15 the call to Bar ceremony for successful students who sat for the January 2020 Bar final examination of the Nigerian Law School (NLS).

    The Body of Benchers said, in a notice to all its members and “aspirants to the Bar,” that parents and guardians of the students are barred from the event, which would be held at the Eagle Square, Abuja as part of the coronavirus control measures.

    The notice signed by the body’s Secretary, Mrs. H. A. Turaki, reads: “Notice to call to Bar ceremonies for the January 2020 Bar final examination (2019/2020) backlog set.

    “This is to notify members of the Body of Benchers and aspirants to the Bar that the call to Bar ceremonies for candidates in the January 2020 Bar final examination is scheduled as follows:

    *Date: Tuesday 15th September, 2020

    *Time: 10am prompt

    *Venue: Eagle Square, Abuja

    “The choice of the Eagle Square was made due to its semblance with the National Stadium, since it is an open-spaced facility.

    “It will give room for better ventilation considering the guidelines on curbing the spread of Covid-19 virus.

    “We regret to inform the parents/guardians of the aspirants and the general public that the ceremony is strictly for the aspirants.

    “However, parents/guardians are advised to watch the ceremony through national television as there is going to be live streaming of the ceremony on national television and other social media platforms.

    “Aspirants should note that they are required to be seated by 8:303m. Late coming will not be tolerated.”

  • Slave Labour: Parents, Agents are Culpable, By Michael West

    Slave Labour: Parents, Agents are Culpable, By Michael West

    By Michael West

    The unending incidents of trapped young Nigerians in search of greener pastures outside the shores of the country deserve a serious attention. The harrowing experiences they go through in the hands their various “masters” under whose roofs they stay and work are dehumanising. The victims are being blamed for being the architects of their own woes. While many have been lucky to escape and return home, some others are either dead or ‘lost’ in the wilderness of slave labour in foreign lands.

    I do not approve of desperate tendencies and craze for ‘leaving Nigeria at all cost’ among young men and women who think that the grass is lurch and greener on the other side. However, there is no crime in seeking better opportunities elsewhere but it has to be done legitimately. Fast, crooked and illegal or fake processes seem to be their preferred channels. Indeed, many of them are being hoodwinked and swindled by their agents. They become easy preys and vulnerable to the antics of the agents because they are desperate.

    In my opinion, parents and government have the solution to this social malaise. Parents must stop encouraging, indulging or pushing their children into slavery and journey of no return in their quest for money. Government on its part must set up a crack team to track, arrest and prosecute the agents who thrive on the dehumanising business. It is possible to curtail to the barest minimum if our government summons the political will to deal with it. It is cruel to trick fellow human into slave labour under the guise of working overseas.

    The shocking trajectory of the crime is that relations, friends, acquaintances and loved ones are found to be involved in ‘selling’ their kith and kins into slavery by sweet talking them into fake prospects abroad. In many instances, they are promised lucrative wages as domestic workers, shop attendants, nannies, home teachers etc. who will earn hard currencies. As for men, they lure them with rewarding vocational jobs that require skilled and experienced hands like working as commercial or private chauffeurs, artisans and security workers. The victims always realise too late that they have been scammed and ‘sold’ into slavery. Breach of trust and act of betrayal on the part of trusted people involved is a major source of trauma for the victims.

    A teenage girl was deceived into accepting to work as a domestic staff with the sum of N150,000 as monthly pay in Libya. She got baited by the offer and endured a long, dangerous journey through the desert to Libya during which she witnessed how drivers and other men maltreated and raped women and young girls at will.

    The reality of being sold into slavery dawned on the unsuspecting victims when they were asked to offer sex to male clients at the command of their agents. When the girl in question protested that sex to strange men was not part of the deal, reminding her ‘madam’ that she was in Libya to do the job of a “house help.” She was told that was part of her duty in the house. That was the beginning of her journey into dark side of life that nearly cost her life.

    Apart from prostitution, these hapless young women are made to consent to pay heavy sums as “debts” incurred to facilitate their exit from Nigeria. This is aside the money they paid to the supposed agents for the same purpose. Their travel documents will be seized while they disperse them to various “clients” to work in order to pay their “debts.” It is when they groan under the heavy yoke of hard labour, sexual abuse, maltreatment, hunger and ill Health that the victims usually cry out for help.

    In the case of the teenage girl, she was locked up in a room for four days without food for refusing to “service” the male clients sexually. She was told to pay $4,000 to cover her travel expenses, and made to swear an oath that she would not run away. That was how the girl and her co-travellers started having unprotected sex with different men on daily basis. Whenever she got pregnant she was forced to abort. Some of her colleagues contracted sexually transmitted diseases, committed several abortions and a few of them died in the process.

    The girl was later sold to a Nigerian man in the country as “sex slave.” She ran away from her Nigerian “master” and hooked up with another man she thought would rescue her only to be abducted by an extreme Islamist gang, ISIS. They killed her new man but she was spared because she was pregnant at the time but that did not save her from sexual abuse in the camp of the rampaging Islamists. Her captors took her to an underground prison and compelled her to marry their member who raped her. Three years into her ordeal, Libyan soldiers facilitated her escape, and International Organisation for Migration (IOM) repatriated her to Nigeria.

    Over the years, the mass media have been awash with such horrifying stories of Nigerian women and girls trafficked for sexual and labour exploitation in some Arab countries like Libya, United Arab Emirate, Lebanon, Saudi Arabia, Turkey and European destinations like Italy and Ireland.

    Government should go after the agencies and rings of individuals that engage in this illicit business. Whistle blowing tactics should be employed to arrest the criminals. There should be strident campaign against desperation for overseas jobs if valid and official procedures will not be adhered to.

    Parents, too, should be made accountable. Any parents found culpable in their daughters’ desperate moves that result to problem should be prosecuted. Human trafficking rings around the country are not difficult to identify if there’s genuine willingness to burst the ring. In order to restore human dignity and our national pride, this modern-day slavery must stop.

     

    From the Mailbox

    Re: Let’s Mend Broken Hearts

    Apt. Loneliness kills faster than the coronavirus. I pray God will continue to intervene in human affairs. Well done, sir. – Mrs. O. Adewoyin, Lagos

    I want to state that most of the moves to go back were not for love or sustainable relationship’s sake but for desperate need of sex and companionship which the lockdown aggravated due loneliness, and not genuinely for the sake of peaceful reunion. The reason for separation will erupt again as time goes on after the lockdown and they will be back to status quo. In that case, it cannot be an enduring reconciliation. As for me, I can NEVER succumb to such sentiments as a factor in reconciliation moves. I will never return to my vomit. Lockdown syndrome or not, after lockdown what next? Back to the old self... – Mrs. Doyin Ogunbiyi, Abeokuta.

    We need one another in this life. There is nothing like being with the person you love and he loves you in return. Marriage is meant to be enjoyed but where has the love gone these days? – Mrs. A. Olubunmi

    Well said, the lockdown situation was not easy at all. Imagine how single parents were coping with their children. – Patience Dale, Abuja.

    I read your article entitled: “Let’s Mend Broken Hearts, Strained Relationships.” It is very interesting and advising. Regarding the loan which Liz from Lagos wrote about in your column last week, I wish to apply for the loan to boost my business. Please let me know when another opportunity for new applicants is available. Thank you sir and God bless. – Anny, 07034731345.

    May God deliver us quickly! – 08060296266

    Quote:

    “Government should go after the agencies and rings of individuals that engage in this illicit business. Whistle blowing tactics should be employed to arrest the criminals.”

  • How to equip children to protect themselves from sexual abuse – Ozioma Onyenweaku

    How to equip children to protect themselves from sexual abuse – Ozioma Onyenweaku

    By Ozioma Onyenweaku

    One way we can succeed in ending sexual abuse of children is by involving the children themselves; by helping them to protect themselves. This we can do by letting them know what is on the ground. We have to bring them on board. Even the very young ones.

    Do you know that by just teaching a small child the different parts of the body, and showing that there are certain parts of the body that are private which must not be touched by anyone, you are well on your way to protecting that child?

    Many parents, because of our culture and upbringing, find it awkward and embarrassing to discuss sex with their children. We must live above that and discard that mentality if we must succeed in this struggle against child sexual abuse. In this era you would be surprise at what they have already learnt without you. It is better they learn it right from you, the parent.

    You must educate them about sex. Start as early as possible. Start by naming the body parts. Do not skip any part. Do not give any part any special name. Use the real name for each body part; that way the child would know that there is nothing funny or shameful about any part of the body. For instance, call the penis , penis not dick, rod, babadud or JT. Call vagina, vagina and not winkie, book or kpomo.

    Through naming the body parts instruction on sexual abuse would naturally follow. A child should be made to know that certain parts like the penis, breast, and buttocks are special and personal parts. Private parts are personal. They are not toys to be played with.

    Those parts are personal and must not be touched by anyone else, mom and dad inclusive. A touch at these parts is a bad touch, and he/she should scream at such a touch. Inform the child that in case of illness, the doctor might need to touch and examine any of the personal parts only as a matter of duty, and that the parents must be there too as the doctor examines the child.

    Inform the child too that there are some people even adults who would want to touch her genitals; she must scream and report such a person. Let the children know about the dangers in the society, and teach them at their level how to protect themselves.

    So you see that for even the very young ones the message can be passed.

    We went to schools on our “Say No to Bad Touch” project. We taught the children that a touch at any of the body parts we had explained were private amounted to bad touch. We demonstrated and dramatized. Few days later a mother from one of the schools called me to inform that her husband had to stop bathing her 3 year old girl because the girl kept shouting “daddy don’t touch my bum bum, it is a bad touch” when the dad was bathing her.

    To avoid giving wrong impression to neighbours who could hear her daughter shouting, the dad had to stop bathing her. The mother said they were happy to know that should anybody try any dirty play on their girl that the girl would definitely shout. Did I inform you I got a bottle of wine for that?
    You see, that girl has been involved by letting her know what touch is acceptable and which is not acceptable and what action to take to protect herself from the unacceptable.

    Please know that you make the children vulnerable to sexual abuse when you fail to teach them about sex in the language they will understand, and about the prevalent abuses. One reference work reported of a convicted child sexual abuser who said, “Give me a child that knows nothing about sex, you have given me my next victim” That was from an expert. We do not need to add anything to that. We can only take the hint and do the needful.
    It is a notorious fact that greater percentage of child sexual abuse happens in the homes. If the home is not safe for the child, where else will? Keep a date as we shall be discussing, next, how to keep our homes free of sexual abuse. It is a date.

  • My dad was never really married to my mom- Waje reveals

    My dad was never really married to my mom- Waje reveals

    Nigerian songstress, Waje has opened up on a part of a childhood people hardly know about. The talented singer made this known in an Instagram live chat with Bouqui.

    The ‘Omini Knowest’ singer said her father didn’t really get married to her mother.

    According to her::”I won’t tell you I had a fun childhood, I would tell you that .Because of the kind of person my mom is, I grew up in an environment where my immediate family and extended family were very close.

    I was born in Ogun State at that time, my mother was working in Akure.My parents never really got married, but they were together for a while. For some reason I don’t really know why my father never really married her. They were basically living together and he would say we would go and see your people this year and he just kept saying it until he had all of us”.

    Speaking further, the award winning vocalist added that her father’s parents didn’t really support the union between his parents.

     

    “He came from a family where she wasn’t really welcomed especially by my father’s mom. They had left that stage of ‘we are going to see your family’ to fighting a lot.I cannot tell you I remember fun memories of both of them. The memories I remember are that of my mom taking us to the cinema.

    I think that’s when I started realizing that I had a gift, not necessarily a gift then. But I realized I loved music.Though I have mended my relationship with my dad, but as at then, If my memory serves me right, he wasn’t exactly a honest man. Because of that, we used to have very weird visitors.Like people he has duped or business has gone bad”, she said.

     

     

  • Incessant child sexual abuse: The homes have lost their safety for children – Ozioma Onyenweaku

    Incessant child sexual abuse: The homes have lost their safety for children – Ozioma Onyenweaku

    Ozioma Onyenweaku

    In Delta State of Nigeria, a man was arrested for allegedly raping and impregnating his 15-year-old daughter, and procuring abortion for her. The victim was 10 years old when the first abuse occurred.

    She informed her mother who told her to keep quiet over it. The mother did not only tell her to keep quiet, she did nothing to protect the girl.

    So the abuse continued till the girl got pregnant by her father. Abortion was procured for her by her father and mother.The nauseating aspect of this case is that the girl’s mother was aware of the abuse and she did nothing about it, preferring to save her marriage than save the life and mental health of her daughter.

    Secondly, the grandparents were aware but preferred to save face and family reputation (as if they had any) than save their grandchild who should have been more precious to them. Surprisingly too, the Pastor of their church was aware but preferred to cover it up so as not to lose members. Are we all going insane? I got to know about a situation where a teacher in a private school observed that a particular girl had become gloomy and appeared to be having difficulty walking.

    The girl later confided in the teacher that it was her madam’s husband, a banker, that had been sexually abusing her. The girl had earlier called her father and informed him. His response? “Try and endure it; you know how much that man is helping our family.”When the teacher informed the school authority, the girl’s father was invited to the school.

    He did not honour the invitation. He was pleaded with on phone to visit the school; he said he knew why he was being called that the man in question had been good to his family. The school did not want to be proactive in their action because they did not want the school to be seen as ‘embarrassing’ parents and guardians. Here again, the reputation of the school was on the priority list against the saving of the girl victim.

    When the news filtered to us, and the school was visited, it was discovered that the man-monster had relocated his family out of the area; and the school was not willing to give out the name of the bank where the man-monster was working. Neither were they willing to release the address of the girl’s father.

    So you see, our problem lies with us. Most of the time, when issues arise with respect to children and I call out to mothers, some people tend to query my constant reference to mothers as if they are the only ones to take care of a child. Honestly, I know that the fathers are involved too in having oversight over the children. However, I was not the one who referred to mothers as homemakers or home keepers. So bear with me if you understand me to be overleaning on this role given to women by our Maker.A report from UNICEF shows that the COVID -19 lockdown led to an increase in child sexual abuse.

    85% of the cases reported were of child sexual abuse. So these abuses happened at home. Yes, at home where the children are supposed to feel free and safe.So where were the mothers? Everyone was at home! A lot of children are going through a lot of sexual abuse in homes especially now. Imagine the abusers being on lockdown with the children 24/7. The first point of protection should be mothers. It is sad that some mothers prefer to cover up the abuse of their children in the name of protecting marriage, and family name. Do please have a rethink, sisters. Mothers, this is no time to let down guards. Be observant of what is going on in your homes. Condone no evil so that it will be well with you.

    Think of the agony, the trauma,the mental torture these abuses subject these children to. I don’t think any child grows up loving the mother who stood by while she was being damaged; and mother who could have done something about stopping the abuse but chose not to. Seriously too, it is time for the men to call themselves to round table discussion on how to advise themselves.

    For goodness sake, men are humans and not beasts, for crying out loud! Children have been given to us by God in trust. So we all have accounting to render as to how well we have discharged our duties in caring for and protecting the children.

  • At some point, I wished rich parents gave birth to me– Woli Agba

    At some point, I wished rich parents gave birth to me– Woli Agba

    Comedian, Ayo Ajewole, better known as Woli Agba, is undoubtedly one of the most popular social media comedians in Nigeria at the moment.

    The humorous entertainer in a recent instagram live chat with gospel rapper, Bouqui, noted that he wasn’t born with a silver spoon.

    “I wasn’t born with a silver spoon. I am the last born of the family. My father was a tailor, my mother was a trader. There was a time we were almost sent out of the house because we were owing the rent. There were times we would come together and just want to shed tears. At some point as a child, I wished rich parents gave birth to me. I didn’t see the future, all I could see was that we were struggling. Those days, the only time you are entitled to eat a portion of meat is only on your birthday”.

    Speaking further, Woli Agba revealed that the first time he had to cut a cake was when his wife gave him one on his birthday.

    He said:”I was born and bred in Ibadan. I am a graduate of Economics from Leads City University, Ibadan.The first time I cut cake in my life was when my girlfriend of then(now my wife) planned a surprise birthday for me”.

     

     

     

     

  • [See photo] Two Lagos housemaids defile employer’s daughters with fingers, sticks

    [See photo] Two Lagos housemaids defile employer’s daughters with fingers, sticks

    Two Lagos housemaids were docked at the Igbosere Magistrates’ court on Tuesday, charged with defiling their employer’s daughters.

    The sexual assault was done with their fingers and wooden sticks, causing their victims severe injuries.

    The maids, from Benue state, were identified as Peace Sunday, aged 19 and Bose Augustine aged 18.

    Their pleas were not taken, when the case was mentioned in court yesterday.

    They were charged with three counts of unlawful and indecent penetration sexually into the virginal and anus of two girls, a two-year-old and a 17 year-old, with fingers and wooden sticks.

    The presiding Magistrate in charge of emergency cases at the court, Mrs Doja Ojo, ordered that the accused persons be temporarily remanded at the police station pending the advice from the office of the Directorate of Public Prosecution, ( DPP).

    The maids were arrested by the Police at the Ilasan Division, Lekki, following the complaints of the parents of the
    their two victims.

    The Divisional Police Officer, DPO, CSP Onyinye Onwua Meagbu immediately directed her team at the juvenile and women section, led by Inspector Orukoton Lonikola, to investigate the matter.

    The investigation led to the charge at Igbosere Magistrates’ Court .

    Police Prosecution Counsel, Inspector Peace Chukwudi told the court in charge No C/52Q/2020 that the accused persons committed the offence between 24 and 27 May, 2020 at Lekki Garden Horizon 2 Estate, Lekki, where they work and live with the two complainants.

    Chukwudi informed the court that the parents of the victims reported to the Police that they left their daughters aged 2 and 17 in the care of the accused persons and went to work.

    Before they returned their maids allegedly defiled their daughters with fingers and wooden stick and in the process inflicted severe injuries on their private parts .

    Chwkwudi said that following the report, the Police referred the victims to Mirabel Medical Centre for examination.

    The medical report, she said, revealed that the accused persons had defiled the victims several times with fingers and wooden sticks.

    She said the offences the accused persons committed were punishable under sections 411 and 261 of the criminal law of Lagos State, 2015.

    Magistrate Doja Ojo adjourned the case till 4 July 2020 for the DPP reports.