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  • UPDATE: You can hardly choose who to fall in love with – Yul Edochie alleges

    UPDATE: You can hardly choose who to fall in love with – Yul Edochie alleges

    Controversial Nollywood Actor and 2023 presidential aspirant, Yul Edochie has declared that love could find anyone, anywhere.

    The latest polygamist made the argument in a retweet, categorically alleging that when it comes to falling in love, everyone is helpless.

    Interestingly, Yul succeeded in getting netizens talking about love and the newest polygamy path which he decided to toe in recent times.

    BBnaija Leo had taken to his page to muse on love as he advised people to have some self-control when it comes to loving people freely.

    In Leo’s word: “Stop falling in love with people because they are nice to you. Have some self control.”

    But Yul Edochie came on board, quoted the tweet and wrote: “My brother Leo. You can hardly choose who to fall in love with. Na love go choose for you. If e choose, you don enter.”

    As expected social media users hopped on the post affirming, he was only saying that to justify his recent near-scandal when he welcomed a baby with another woman whom he had taken for a second wife.

    One user with the handle @augustbaby639, replied: “This guy still trying to prove nonsense. You don make mistake rest and move on. @ onyi__xx wrote: “Yul just rest, u no suppose dey talk for this app.”

    Some fans also argued in his favour. @elvis___ranking wrote: “I hate to agree but Yul Edochie is right… it’s inexplainable(sic) how we fall in love…. it’s something we don’t have control over… are you aware that merely talking with someone can make you fall in love??”

    Yul Edochie, the last born to veteran Nollywood actor, Pete Edochie recently broke the internet when he announced his second wife, Judy Austin and new baby.

    This came as a shock to many as the actor had poured encomiums on his first wife, May Yul Edochie in recent past: “ I had no sustainable job when I got married. “She said she’ll manage. She never frustrated me for one day. “It’s been 16 years. “We are happy, different things work for different people.”

  • Lady calls out father’s second wife for supporting Yul Edochie

    Lady calls out father’s second wife for supporting Yul Edochie

    A lady simply identified as Kelechi Moon has since gone viral after she called out her step-mom on Facebook over a post supporting Yul Edochie’s marriage to his second wife, Judy Austin.

    Moon said her father’s second wife, Chioma Okechukwueze, came into her family and destroyed her parents’ blossoming 35 years marriage.

    She then cleared that Okechukwueze was merely supporting Yul Edochie’s second marriage because she was a second wife, herself.

    Her post was, however, greeted with mixed reactions as many dragged her. Replying to people critiquing her post, she said people who have not been victims of polygamy would not understand her pain.

    In her words: “If you aren’t a victim of polygamy home you won’t understand my pains. If you haven’t been denied Father love and care you won’t understand my pains.”

    According to her: ”If you haven’t sat and watch what your mom work for good 35yrs been taken away from her and leaving her heartbroken you won’t understand my pains. I’m not against my father marrying a second wife but chasing my mom away, making my father to turn his back against us is what I’m f!ghting for.”

    “My father was a good and loving father before getting married to her. If my father wasn’t a good father before getting married to her I won’t attack her but my father changed immediately she came into our home, she is in control of everything including our home. I saw a lot of comments saying this isn’t a thing of social media but we have tried to settle this for the past 7yrs as family settlement isn’t working, she refused peaceful settlement.”

    She recalled: “A lot of people said I should leave this battle for my mom but i can’t because after knowing what I and my siblings with my mother passed through in the hands of my father and Chioma it breaks us all the time. I and my siblings need father’s love. Is it too hard to fight for father’s love and care? My mom is very much alive for those asking if my mom is still alive and still married to my father . THANK YOU EVERYONE,” she wrote.

    Popular actor Yul Edochie broke the internet recently when he announced his second wife, Judy Austin and their babyboy.

    You would also recall that After Yul made his marriage public, his first wife of 17 years, May, reacted, calling on the judgement of God on both of them.

    May, who had four kids with Yul, also unfollowed her husband on Instagram after the news.

    While everyone still thought the news a prank, Yul and his second wife have continued to consolidate the gig.

    Yul wrote just yesterday, stating that it felt good breaking the internet after the announcement of his second marriage to the actress.

    On his social media pages on Thursday, the latest polygamist stated that he has become the most talked about man on the planet.

    He wrote in Pidgin, “I no go lie. It feels good breaking the internet. Most talked about man on the planet. Second week in a row. E dey sweet sha.”

     

     

  • Polygamy versus Monogamy debate: A response to Reno Omokri – By Aaron Ukodie

    Polygamy versus Monogamy debate: A response to Reno Omokri – By Aaron Ukodie

    By Aaron Ukodie

    I have read the argument by Mr. Reno Omokri stating that God is not against Polygamy; that of a fact God endorses and there is nowhere in scripture that speaks against polygamy.

    I will respond to Omokri, stating rightly that he has a wrong understanding of the difference between the Old Testament (OT) and the New Testament (NT), which is brought about by Jesus’s death, burial, and resurrection. We must begin this conversation by understanding that Jesus came to give us a new life and a new way of living; in some cases different from the OT order; while in some others giving a new perspective to OT requirements and worldview. Jesus came to reorder the disordering of God’s Order from the beginning of the creation of man. So, the OT does not really give us a perfect picture of God’s mind. That is why Bible says the OT is a shadow of the NT.

    So, let us begin from the beginning by explaining God’s order or intention regarding marriage. This is what God said and intended for marriage in the beginning, as expressly stated in Genesis 2: 24.

    “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh”. Note the scripture said WIFE and not WIVES. In creation, God created ONE MAN, ONE WOMAN. And that scripture says the MAN and WOMAN, when they are joined together would become ONE FLESH, not TWO FLESH; not THREE FLESH. So, further, interrogate this statement. When a man marries TWO WIVES, the One Man and Two Women cannot become One Flesh. They become TWO Fleshes

    We see that the man, Adam, and the woman, Eve stayed true to this injunction. There is no record that Adam married another wife.

    We also see that once Adam and Eve disobeyed God, the man began to walk against the ways of God. In fact, the bible records that wickedness began to increase on the earth, on account of Adam and Eve’s disobedience of God’s instruction. So pervasion of the God order and way of life started seeping into human soul and existence. Genesis 6 verse 1-3 says: “Now it came to pass when men began to multiply on the face of the earth, and daughters were born to them, that the sons of God saw the daughters of men, that they were beautiful; and they took WIVES for themselves of all whom they chose.” So, we see a flagrant disrespect of the God order. Wicked and lustful men began to take wives “of all whom they chose”.

    Omokri made the argument that several bible characters did not heed this demand or instruction and God did not punish them; He even approved of them. We see Abraham, who married two wives; David, who committed adultery with Beersheba and married her; Solomon, who married several wives, several Israel Kings, who married several wives in the list of those who married more than one wife and God did not punish them. In fact, God told David when he went for Uriah’s wife that if he had asked for more wives He would have given more to him. The point needs to be made here that by the time David came to the scene Moses had given the law on marriage which allowed the Patriarchs to marry more than one wife. God had decided to allow polygamy, by regulating its practice in the Law of Moses.

    But we would get to understand later that because God permitted it did not mean it was God’s perfect will or original plan. A disruption of His order had begun to take place on earth. We have seen from scriptures that it is not everything that God approved of or permitted that is in His perfect will. He allowed certain things over a period of time, while He works towards drawing man’s attention to His eventual perfect plan. We see this in Israel asking for a king like every other nation. That wasn’t God’s perfect plan for Israel. He allowed it and gave them King Saul. We know that God’s perfect plan is for God to be king over them, a plan that He would still bring to pass in the future, through Jesus Christ. In fact, God called Ishmael, the son of the bondwoman. Ishmael was born according to the flesh, while Isaac was born according to a divine approval Galatians 4; 21-26.

    In fact, God did not reckon Ishmael as the son of Abraham, even though He blessed him. This is what God said to Abraham in Genesis 22; 2 “Please take your son, your ONLY ONE (italics mine), whom you love, Isaac”. God needed to make the clarification so Abraham would not be confused. God saw Isaac, as Abraham’s ONLY son, even though Abraham first had Ishmael, in disobedience to God.

    You could also see the disputes that arose from that polygamous infraction in the life of Abraham and Sarah. We also see what the birth of Ishmael from an ungodly alliance has brought to Israel and the world. The fate of Ishmael was prophesied by an Angel of the God in Genesis 16: 12. It says “You shall call his name Ishmael because the Lord has heard your affliction. He shall be a wild man; His hand shall be against every man, and every man’s had against him…”

    The same happened to David. In fact, God was annoyed with David for his adultery and the child of that adultery died, because God wanted it so, even though David married other wives, according to Moses’ Law.

    Solomon who married many wives went out of God’s will and committed all sorts of evil deeds because of his many wives. This is what God said of Solomon because of his many wives. 1 Kings 11 “He had seven hundred wives of royal birth and three hundred concubines, and his wives led him astray. As Solomon grew old, his wives turned his heart after other gods, and his heart was not fully devoted to the LORD his God, as the heart of David his father had been”. In fact, God was angry with Solomon 1 Kings 11:9. Solomon did not obey his father David 1 Kings 22: 3.

    That God allowed some Old Testament people to marry many wives did not mean that God wanted it so. God allowing you to do something does not mean He desires it so, or that is His perfect plan for you.

    When you read the many cases of Polygamy in the Old Testament you would find out that the practice created unmitigated sociological disaster, as it still does today; creating heartbreaks and sowing family discords.

    Again, we should note though that some Old Testament Fathers disobeyed God in the area of marriage, and God allowed it, which is not an excuse that God endorses polygamy in the New Testament dispensation. The NT brought in God’s mind marriage and the way all believers in Christ should conduct themselves regarding marriage and relate to the marriage institution. Jesus said that because of their hardened heart, Moses, through God’s permission in the Old Testament Law, allowed His people, the Israelites to marry more than one wife and give them permission to divorce, with its imperfections and the troubles it brought those who engaged in it.

    We see that God, often always tried to point us back to His original order. We see that In Malachi; where God clearly showed that He desired covenanted Monogamy. It is instructive that God reminded us again of His perfect plan for marriage at the end of the Old Testament scriptures, that is Malachi when He was about to introduce the Perfect Son who would show His perfect way; that is Jesus beginning from the book of Matthew. This is what Malachi 2: 13- 16: “Another thing you do: You flood the Lord’s altar with tears. You weep and wail because he no longer looks with favor on your offerings or accepts them with pleasure from your hands. You ask, “Why?” It is because the Lord is the witness between you and the wife of your youth. You have been unfaithful to her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant.

    “ Has not the one God made you? You belong to him in body and spirit. And what does the one God seek, Godly offspring? So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful to the wife of your youth.

    “The man who hates and divorces his wife,” says the Lord, the God of Israel, “does violence to the one he should protect,” says the Lord Almighty.

    So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful.” What could be clearer, Mr. Omokri? The book of Malachi is the last book that ended the OT scriptures and introduced us to the gospels, even though Jesus lived in the OT era. Now, God through Malachi drew the attention of the Israelites, and thus ours, to His perfect plan concerning marriage. Marriage, in the plan of God, as first stated in Genesis 2: 24, is a covenant. The man and the woman are to stay faithful to it. More especially the man, who is required not to deal treacherously in the marriage pact but to stay faithful to the wife (not WIVEs) of his youth. How does one stay unfaithful to the wife of his youth? It is by not going behind her to marry another wife, joining him with another woman, and not committing adultery.

    Then we see Jesus taking on the same theme of the sanctity of the marriage institution as God envisaged and required it. He began to introduce us to the NEW Life, the NEW WAY OF LIVING in God, by giving us the divine ability, through His Grace, to live according to God’s ways; the way God designed man to live before the fall of Adam and Eve when lust had not come into humanity.

    This is what Jesus said in Mark 10: 5 or Matthew 19: 3- 10: “Because of the hardness of your hearts he (Moses) wrote you this precept. But from the beginning of the creation, God made them male and Female. For this reason, a man shall leave his wife (not wives), and the two (not three) shall become one flesh” Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate. He said to them “whoever divorces his wife and marries commits adultery against her and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery. See the reaction of the Pharisees in verse 10; “If such is the case of the man with his wife, it is better not to marry”. It was hard saying and difficult deal to fallen and lustful man.

    Now, I read Reno saying that Jesus’ remark in Mark 10: 5-9 relates to divorce only. Let’s analyse it contextually and deductively.”

    In the above statement by Jesus, He was referring to Gen 2: 24, which we have referenced.

    Now this is what that scripture says: “For this reason, a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh”

    Yes, Jesus was responding to the question of divorce, that was asked him when He made reference to that scripture. Reno should have known that the original text in Gen 2: 24 was not discussing divorce but the union between man and woman in marriage. Jesus used the occasion of that question of divorce to bring out the sanctity of marriage and how it should be contracted and upheld as planned by God in the beginning. But now the hardness of men’s hearts made God wink at that disorder and subsequently allowed Moses to rule on it in the OT. It is perfect and logical reasoning that we assign to that text its original context and application before the secondary application, that of not violating the marriage union or covenant or pact between One Man and One Woman with adultery and divorce. Because when a man and a woman are joined together, they become one flesh. When a divorce takes place the Union has been disrupted. It is the same way with violating the sanctity of the union with adultery.

    1 Timothy 3: 2 spoke about the sanctity of marrying one wife. The scripture says a Bishop or Deacon must be blameless, a husband of one. That scripture should not be understood to mean that it relates to bishops alone and that those who would not be bishops could marry more than one wife. That would be absurd. It would go contrary to Jesus’ Marriage template. Note that the first criteria are that a bishop should be BLAMESS, so in the scrutinizing of a church member that would be a bishop the person must be seen as someone who had not played around, who may have divorced, and married another woman. He must be one who has the history one who has and is married to one wife alone. Not one who had married a wife and divorced and married another wife, at this point. He must be blameless in the marriage institution.

    The idea of one man and one wife was also exemplified for us in the description of Jesus as the husband of ONE Wife, not TWO. The Church here is referred to as a wife in Ephesians 5, and Paul also quoting Jesus and Genesis 2: 24 ended that text by saying “Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his OWN WIFE (not wives) as himself, and let the wife sees that she respects her husband”. So, we who are of Him should exemplify him by marrying just one wife, and not two.

    To avoid fornication and deal with those who could not control their lust and burning passion, Paul advised in 1 Corinthians 7 for Christians to marry (One wife, not two).

    We have seen that when men began to lust after the daughters of men they began to take of all whom they chose. Marrying more than one wife is a product of lust; of the fallen state of man. When Adam and Eve sinned humanity began to disobey God’s order; man became lustful. Ojukokore (lusting) entered the world. There are behaviours in the Old Testament that God winked at, according to scripture. According to Jesus, there is a way God intended the relationship between man and woman to be, but the hearts of fallen men made God wink at some of the behaviours of men in the OT days, but in Christ, He now commands all men to return to the state of obedience to God’s order and ways. Now, this has nothing to do with traditions of men, which mostly are derived from the fallen state of man’s heart; the state of disobedience to God’s order. We are discussing God’s perfect order; God’s perfect life, which Jesus came to reenact and preach about, which the apostles were devoted to and expanded and gave more light. A heart or soul that is free from lust, which is a sin against God, will not seek a second wife; he would loath polygamy. He would see marriage as God intended it and not the way traditions of men or how the early Patriarchs in their imperfect way viewed marriage.

    Ukodie is a journalist

  • Judy Austin: I can’t believe I’m this loved – Yul Edochie’s second wife

    Judy Austin: I can’t believe I’m this loved – Yul Edochie’s second wife

    Judy Austin, Nollywood actress and second wife of actor Yul Edochie has revealed she cannot believe the amount of love she has received since the polygamy saga she is involved in started.

    In a video shared via her official Instagram handle, she is heard saying that the love she has received over the past few days has been massive.

    She then went on to add that she never knew she had such a fanbase and she didn’t know she was this loved.

    She’s later heard in the video saying she is wondering whether to tell her story or not.

    “There’s this saying that there is no smoke without fire and it takes two to tango, but most times in Nigeria, we don’t have that kind of patience to hear,” she said.

  • VIDEO: Why every woman must accept polygamy – Nollywood actress

    VIDEO: Why every woman must accept polygamy – Nollywood actress

    Nollywood actress and entertainer, Lisar Kanu has said that monogamy is a mirage and women should accept polygamy.

    Taking to her Instagram page, Lisar noted that many women advocate for monogamy. However, it is impossible in reality.

    According to her, it is hypocritical for a woman to think that she can have her man all to herself because he definitely has some side chics outside.

    She went on to praise Nollywood star Yul Edochie, who married actress Judy Austin after they had a kid together. This, she claims, is proof that he is a real guy.

    Watch video below:

     

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  • Polygamy: Channel the energy towards purchasing presidential form for me-Yul Edochie

    Polygamy: Channel the energy towards purchasing presidential form for me-Yul Edochie

    Embattled Nigerian actor, Yul Edochie has appealed to Nigerians to help him purchase presidential nomination and expression of interest form ahead of the 2023 elections.

    Edochie who got knocks from some Nigerians home and abroad for announcing his son purportedly from second wife on Wednesday has released another video on social media.

    The actor gave an impression he pranked Nigerians, saying that the attention he got was highly overwhelming.

    He further appealed to Nigerians to channel the energy used in discussing his second wife into something more positive

    He said, “We shook the world on Wednesday and still shaking it. The energy you all applied and still applying is unimaginable. The energy was united and without tribe and religion.

    “The energy is coming from the South, East, West and North and indeed the whole world.

    “My dear Nigerians we can use this energy for more positive things. Fellow Nigerians, please, I appeal to you, buy me a presidential form”.

  • Gambian actress Princess Shyngle tells May Edochie what to do

    Gambian actress Princess Shyngle tells May Edochie what to do

    Curvy Gambian actress, Princess Shyngle has advised May Edochie, wife to Nollywood actor Yul Edochie not to leave her marriage on the basis of polygamy.

    Earlier Yul had unveiled his toddler son from his second wife, Judy Austin. The unveiling has sparked reactions, comments and counter comments, with many condemning the actor for involving in a such an act.

    In her response, Shyngle defended the Anambra born actor Yul Edochie for making his relationship with his second wife Judy Austin official, saying that 99% of married men in Nigeria are cheats.

    The actress castigated those criticizing the actor, adding that they are hypocrites.

    Shyngle claimed that in today’s world both men and women cheat in marriage and relationships.

    She wrote: It’s funny how everyone is attacking this man and his baby mama being judgmental about the entire situation as if he’s the first man in history to ever cheat on his wife

    Most of the people attacking him literally are living the dirtiest lives, y’all know damn well 99% of all married men in Nigeria have side chicks it’s a normal thing, who do you think is funding the lifestyle of all these big babes , it’s peoples husbands.

    ”Most of you ladies attacking this man have all dated or slept with a married man before, some of y’all fathers have cheated on your mom and had a lot of children outside of marriage, some of you married women are cheating on your husbands too but y’all are out her judging and attacking this man for something that has been happening for centuries.

    ”Stop with the fakeness abeg, we all have dirty disgusting skeletons in our closets, stop judging people for their sins and mind y’all business you are not God. I pray his wife doesn’t listen to advices from online in-laws and leave her husband, he made a mistake like most married men it’s just sad that he is famous and sloppy so he got caught, but don’t leave your husband oh abeg , as long as he is not physically assaulting you, he is providing for you and your children please stay and forgive him. The street is empty oh no man Dey so hold your own .

    “By the way I’m not supporting his actions in anyway all I’m saying is that let’s stop judging him as if we are perfect and let’s stay out of married folks business

    “If you like insult me I don’t care , me ar nor get shame oh.”

    Princess Shyngle is a Gambian actress and producer who is popularly known for her figure 8 shape.

    Her waist is so amazing that it got her a lot of media attention and popularity.

    After a lot of pestering from her fans, she later revealed that she actually underwent surgery to have some parts of her ribs removed in order to get her ideal body shape

    Is Princess Shyngle still married?
    Princess Shyngle, has filed for divorce from Gibou Bala-Gaye, her estranged husband, after over two months of marriage. The movie star had tied the knot with Bala-Gaye, whom she described as her “childhood crush”, at a private ceremony in January.
  • Polygamy: Marrying another wife is allowed – Court rules

    Polygamy: Marrying another wife is allowed – Court rules

    An Igando Customary Court has ruled that marrying another wife is allowed in African tradition, especially when the parties were married under the native law and tradition.

    TheNewsGuru.com (TNG) reports the Customary Court, presided over by Mr Koledoye Adeniyi gave the ruling on Thursday while dissolving a 30-year-old marriage between one Kayode Akinyade and Iyabode.

    In the ruling, the President of the court said the marriage between the couple could no longer stand on allegations of fetishes, disrespect, home abandonment, infidelity, quarrels and threat to life.

    He ruled that there was no more love after a careful review of the allegations and counter-allegations by the litigants.

    The court, however, found nothing wrong with the petitioner marrying another wife, saying it is allowed in African tradition, especially when the parties were married under the native law and tradition.

    It said that the evidence of the parties did not show that Kayode did anything at any point to empower his wife to reciprocate her efforts in supporting him as his first wife.

    It frowned at the way the respondent abandoned her matrimonial home for years without her husband’s consent.

    On the issue of fetishes, the court said it believes in the efficacy of charms, being a customary court.

    It, however, said that the petitioner could not prove it against the respondent.

    Kayode, who was the petitioner, dragged his wife to court, accusing her of fetish practices and threatening his life.

  • Yul Edochie’s second wife, Judy Austin hails co-wife, May

    Yul Edochie’s second wife, Judy Austin hails co-wife, May

    Yul Edochie’s second wife, Judy Austin has hailed her co-wife, May Edochie after the Nollywood actor and director made his polygamy status public recently.

    “My beautiful lady, I see you,” Judy commented on a post shared by Edochie via Instagram to establish the number one status of May in the marriage.

    Edochie sparked social media backlash after announcing Judy as his second wife. After the announcement, he showered love on his first wife.

    On his official Instagram page, Yul Edochie shared photos of his first wife along with the caption: “NUMBER ONE. @mayyuledochie Undisputed”.

    Judy Austin reacted in the comment section and then wrote: “My beautiful lady, I see you”.

    Yul Edochie’s second wife, Judy Austin hails co-wife, May
    Screenshot of Yul Edochie’s second wife, Judy Austin hailing her co-wife, May Edochie
  • Polygamy my greatest error-Raymond Dokpesi

    Polygamy my greatest error-Raymond Dokpesi

    Chief Raymond Dokpesi is a man of many parts. The revered elder statesman who survived poisoning as a little child with doctors in Poland predicting that he would not last more than 35 years, is now 70. Dokpesi who is the chairman of Daar Communication is an entrepreneur, media mogul, politician and philanthropist.

    In an interview with journalists, Dokpesi noted that polygamy would be regarded as his greatest error.

    “I’m a Catholic and I will tell you that one of the greatest errors of my life is polygamy. It was not something that I desired. It was a situation that developed in which I had no alternative. A lot of people feel it was wealth that distorted my behaviour but the truth of the matter is that there were internal family challenges that lead to it. I was married to a Polish woman and I wanted to remain with the Polish woman and I still desired it in my old age. She left Nigeria on reasons that she was the only child of her parents and needed to be with her parents. I went to Poland 16 times to beg her to return. My mother was also anxious that I have children that I don’t need to board an aeroplane to go and see. Those were the internal factors that later on affected my life”.

    Sharing his thoughts on Nigeria being divided along ethnic lines, he noted that bad leadership is responsible for it.

    “Bad leadership. When these issues come on, people run away from the reality. It is not the Fulani man that is bad. Shehu Shagari was a Fulani man who served Nigeria very meritoriously and conscientiously. We have had military heads of state that are northerners but they were visionary and ready to accommodate others. They pulled together the best brains that were available and brought about development. I remember my uncle, Chief John Amodu who was a mayor in Port Harcourt but from Agenebode. In Lagos and Enugu, northerners contested and won elections. People were living freely in Kano. Growing up, the whole idea was that it is going to be a country flowing with milk and honey but all of a sudden things changed. When you have religious extremists, people that exploit the very thin lines of unity, then you will find yourself here.

    I believe that there are still Nigerians who believe in one united Nigeria, those Nigerians must come out. Most of these younger generation, people that are clamouring for the disintegration of this country, I sympathise with them but I feel very strongly that they are in that position because of the injustices that are going on in the country.