Tag: Relationship
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France’s new First Lady ran in local elections when Emmanuel Macron was 11 years old
France’s new First Lady, Brigitte Trogneux, is no stranger to politics. Unlike her husband, who had never run for office until he won the recent presidential election, Mrs Trogneux, 64, stood as a local councillor in eastern France 28 years ago, when her husband was only 11.
Emmanuel Macron and wife, Brigitte Macron At the time, her first husband, André-Louis Auzière, held a senior position in the French External Trade Bank and she was a teacher.
The couple lived in the prosperous farming village of Truchtersheim, nicknamed the granary of Strasbourg, the nearby seat of the European Parliament.
Mrs Auzière, as she then was, ran as a Right-wing candidate, according to a fellow activist, Jeannine Briard, now 83, a primary teacher whom the future First Lady encouraged to enter politics.
Mrs Briard said: “Brigitte told me, ‘Listen, we’re missing one person … There are fourteen of us and we need 15 [to form an electoral group].’ I was a primary school teacher, I had never done that, but neither had she, so I said yes.”
Campaign meetings were held at a local restaurant over beer and sauerkraut, a speciality of the Alsace region, which borders Germany.
Mrs Briard added: “We were all on the Right, Brigitte too. I’d even say we were a bit too far to the Right.”
The campaign slogan was “with respect for all”.
Mrs Briard attributed their defeat to the prominence of the existing mayor and the elitist character of the movement. “There were too many differences between the population and us. We were all intellectual people.”
Jean-Paul Debes, who was also a candidate, said: “We wanted to set up a new health centre, a skate park and new council housing. Brigitte also believed there were problems for young people, who couldn’t stay in the village because of high property prices.”
Simone Uhl, another local resident, said she knew Brigitte Trogneux well as their children had attended school together.
“I think my son had a crush on her,” Mrs Uhl said. “Brigitte had a very intense, energetic presence, but with femininity.”
Four years after her election defeat, Emmanuel Macron, 15, fell in love with his drama teacher in the northern town of Amiens.
The relationship between France’s youngest president and his wife, more than 24 years his senior, fascinates the French public.
Mrs Trogneux is adored by some, but mocked and insulted by others. And yet overall, her image is positive, especially among women. Many are angry that the couple’s age difference has become an issue, arguing that it would not have been so controversial had the president been a quarter of a century older than his wife.
“At the beginning [of Mr Macron’s presidential campaign], they feared that it [the relationship] would be seen in a negative light. She had often been rejected and criticised by their circle,” commented Isabelle Veyrat-Masson, a politics and communications expert at Paris University.
After the couple appeared for the first time on the cover of the weekly Paris-Match last year, “they realised that the public viewed their relationship in a positive light and it would be advantageous to give it prominence,” Ms Veyrat-Masson said.
“Falling in love and marrying his teacher, a mother of three and 24 years his senior, made Emmanuel Macron a romantic and non-conformist character … It was an asset for his image.”
Mrs Trogneux now plans to play a Michelle Obama-style role in French politics, taking a special interest in education and disabled children, according to The Telegraph.
The position of First Lady has no legal status under French law, but Mr Macron wants to define and codify it. He has promised that she will have responsibilities and a budget — but no salary.
Before the election, Mr Macron hit out at critics of the couple: “Saying that it’s impossible for a man living with an older woman to be anything but a homosexual or a hidden gigolo is misogynistic.”
The Telegraph
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Buhari, Osinbajo relationship will last beyond 2023 –Presidency
The Presidency has said the cordial relationship that exists between President Muhammadu Buhari and Vice President Yemi Osinbajo will last beyond their tenure in office despite intensified efforts by the opposition to strain the relationship.
This was revealed by the Personal Assistant on Social Media to the President, Lauretta Onochie on Friday.
Onochie’s position was contained in a message she posted via her Twitter handle, @Laurestar, and on her Facebook page.
She was reacting to a statement credited to a former Minister of Aviation, Chief Femi Fani-Kayode, in which he criticised Osinbajo for saying Buhari treats him like a son.
The presidential aide wondered why the former minister must comment on all developments in the polity.
She wondered how Osinbajo’s statement that Buhari treats him like a son “has become a source of anger and anxiety for Femi Fani-Kayode.”
She expressed surprise that Fani-Kayode could not understand “father/son relationship, respect, decency and loyalty,” saying, “No he can’t. He doesn’t possess the capacity to even begin to comprehend any sort of relationship. None!”
Onochie expressed the confidence that Fani-Kayode and others could not, no matter how they try, put a wedge between Buhari and Osinbajo.
She said the bond that held the two leaders together was not personal, but that they shared commitment to Nigeria and Nigerians.
Illustrating with different pictures of Buhari and Osinbajo from the campaign period that heralded the 2015 presidential election to the inception of the present administration, Onochie said the leaders would remain united beyond 2023.
She wrote, “As it was in the beginning… So it is now…And so shall it be till 2023 and thereafter…”
TheNewsGuru.com reports that Osinbajo (60) had during his visit to the Emir of Katsina, Abdulmumin Usman, on Thursday, said he was at home in the state because the President (74), who hails from the state, treats him like a brother and son.
“I feel very much at home in Katsina; more so, because this is the state of the President who has taken me as a brother.
“In fact, the President has taken me as a son in the way he treats me,” Osinbajo had said.
TheNewsGuru.com reports that the tenure of the incumbent administration headed by President Muhammadu Buhari expires on May 29, 2019. However, if the duo of the Buhari and Osinbajo seeks re-election in 2019 and they win, the new mandate will expire by 2023.
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Gifty denies being in a relationship with Mr2kay
Says: “We are just friends”
Former Big Brother Naija housemates, Gifty Powers has debunked being in a relationship with singer, Mr2Kay. Recall that Mr2kay recently had an interview with Punch where he said he is in a relationship with her
According to Mr2kay in the interview: “I do not womanise because I am a one man, one woman type of guy. Gifty is my girlfriend and everybody should know about that. You see us together all the time and I never denied her for any reason. However I did not want to say so much because I did not want to say things that would make her go out of the house. However, she is my very good friend and we have been friends for a very long time. I had known her since 2013 and I knew her through my manager, Energy. We spoke on the phone several times before we became close. Then it was Blackberry that was in vogue, so we used to chat a lot and that was how I got to know her. It does not matter that she did not bring home the N25m. She is still a winner and N25m is nothing, I can tell you that it is nothing because I know I make more than that in less than three months from my music on Music Plus, so it is nothing.”
Gifty, Mr2kay’s supposed girlfriend has a different idea about their relationship.She took to her InstaStory a few hours ago to state that she not in any relationship.
She posted “Relationship: NIL. Friendship: We are JUST friends”.With a straight face emoji, she wrote: “I am not in any relationship”.
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Ladies! See 10 warning signs of a bad relationship
When a relationship is doing more harm to you than good, it’s time to quit it.
TheNewsGuru.com compiles a list of ten (10) signs your relationship or marriage is not working.
- You keep your man’s actions and words secret
If you can’t tell your family or friends about the things your boyfriend or husband says and does, then you may not be in a healthy loving relationship. If you lie to protect him, then it’s time to get out of that bad relationship. You’re not just with the wrong guy…you’re being the wrong type of woman.
Examples of keeping secrets include: lying or deceiving your loved ones about how your husband treats your children, hiding things your boyfriend broke or ruined because he was angry, and not talking about the names he calls you or the things he asks or makes you do. The more secrets you keep, the more you’re hiding. The more you hide, the worse your relationship is.
- He isn’t happy with you, and he wants you to change
If your boyfriend or husband doesn’t love you as you are, then you can’t feel truly secure or comfortable with him. This is one of the biggest warning signs of bad relationships: a man who doesn’t love or accept you as you are. Your boyfriend or husband should love you unconditionally, whether you’re self-employed or unemployed, rich or poor, big or small, or tall or short. And, you should love and accept your boyfriend for who he i – self-employed or unemployed, rich or poor, big or small, or tall or short.
Are you happy with yourself? If you’re getting your sense of identity or self-esteem from your boyfriend or partner instead of a divine source of love, you’ll never feel truly happy with who you are. No matter how your boyfriend feels about you, you need to find ways to love and accept yourself.
If your boyfriend or husband isn’t a loving man, learn how to cope when he says he’s not in love with you.
- Your boyfriend or husband is suspicious and jealous
Constant phone calls, demands on your time, and jealous fits are NOT signs of love.
If your husband or boyfriend doesn’t trust you or accuses you of lying, then you need to re-evaluate your relationship. If he opens your mail or shows up at work unexpectedly, he doesn’t trust you. This is a sign of deep insecurity, which could lead to more serious relationship problems.
Warning signs of abusive relationships include lack of trust, lack of respect, and an inability or unwillingness to allow freedom. Does your boyfriend or husband try to control you or your children? Talk to someone you trust in person. You can share your comments here, you can write about a more specific warning sign of a bad relationship, but please talk to someone in person. Bring it out, whatever you’re going through. Get it out of the dark, into the light.
- Your partner puts you down, in private or in front of others
If he calls you names, ridicules your thoughts or opinions, or makes you feel stupid or ugly, then he’s no good for you. Maybe he’s critical or negative, or he never has anything good to say about you, your home, your kids, or anything you do. You know it’s not right, yet you can’t leave. You know you deserve better, but you feel trapped and helpless. He’s set it up this way, and you’re allowing him to keep you down.
You do not have to stay in a bad relationship. Even if you only recognize one of these warning signs – and even if you have six children and a mortgage together – you do not have to stay with a man who is abusive.
- You don’t feel like an equal partner in your relationship
Does your husband or boyfriend make all the decisions – or do you? An unequal balance of power is a sign of a bad relationship, and a sign it’s time to get out. If you aren’t being treated equally, it might be time to consider leaving him.
Are you submissive and subservient to your husband, or afraid of telling your boyfriend what you really think and feel? Warning signs of bad relationships!! There’s a difference between healthy compromise and unhealthy servanthood. The healthiest relationships involve give and take, which means we take turns giving and taking. Your husband should not patronize you or treat you like a child, housekeeper, errand runner, or slave.
- You and your partner don’t have the same long or short-term goals
If you can’t agree on financial issues, family matters, or goals for your future, then you may want to think twice about your relationship. Nobody has the exact same plans for the future, but the happiest couples have the same focus for their lives and futures.
Not having the same goals isn’t necessarily a sign of a bad relationship, but it is an indication that you’re not headed in the same direction. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be together. It means you need to align yourselves toward the same goals, or accept that you’re going in two totally different directions.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what could be.
- Your boyfriend says he loves you, but doesn’t act like he loves you
Maybe he says, “You’re the best, love you a lot, you know I miss you, you know how I feel about you” — but he only sees you once a week. Maybe he doesn’t text or call you, and he spends more time with his friends or at work than with you.
Believe his nonverbal behavior (his actions) over his verbal behavior (talk is cheap!). Do not believe what he says. Believe what he DOES. Unless, of course, he says he doesn’t love you or he can’t commit to a relationship. Then you should believe him.
- You feel bad, guilty, unhappy, depressed, or sad about your relationship
If you don’t feel secure, comfortable, and loved in your relationship, then you may be with the wrong guy. Feeling insecure and unsure are two warning signs of bad relationships that should never be ignored.
How do you feel about yourself – separate from your boyfriend or husband? Who are you? What is your source of identity and self-image? Don’t rely on your man to make you feel good about yourself. He is an addition to your life. A boyfriend or husband is not your whole life, and he should not be the source of your self-esteem. If your self-image is dependent on a man’s love (or lack of love), then you’re setting yourself up for a broken and unhealthy sense of self.
Who are you in God? Stepping into and staying in His divine flow of love, peace, and power is the only way you can feel truly good about yourself.
- Your family and friends aren’t supportive of your relationship
I don’t think we should choose our boyfriends or husbands based on our family and friends’ opinions, but I do think we should take their opinions into consideration! If your family or friends have strong reservations about your partner, I encourage you to ask for specific reasons. Find out the root of their feelings, and try to be objective.
If your boyfriend or husband makes you feel bad about yourself, read The Verbally Abusive Man, Can He Change?: A Woman’s Guide to Deciding Whether to Stay or Go by Patricia Evans. If you’re in a bad relationship, learn how to empower yourself, improve your relationship, and change your life for the better.
- Abuse
Be it physical or emotional abuse, any type of abuse is a glaring sign that you should quit the relationship. Please don’t be lenient with abuse or make excuses for it; simply let go and move on because abuse is one of the clearest ways to communicate a lack of care, love and respect for someone. Abuse does not go hand in hand with love, if anything they are polar opposites.
Although, one thing to note here is that emotional abuse is more relative than physical abuse. For instance, there is arguably a degree of emotional abuse in every relationship. When you try to control your partner or influence them emotionally to act or behave in a certain way, by ignoring them (ignoring their calls, messages etc), refusing to talk to them (the silent treatment), being provocative with the other sex (trying to make them jealous) and so on, to a degree that’s emotional abuse. These are all elements of emotional abuse that are born from the very fair fact that we are human. But when emotional abuse becomes dangerous, is when you begin to lose your confidence and live in fear of what your partner is going to do to you next emotionally.
