Men have a G-spot too and believe me, even for someone like me who is very open to learn new things about sex, I didn’t want to believe it at first. But this topic was very fascinating to me i had to investigate and of course experiment too, which I must admit was a weird experience to start with, like most thing we try for the first time, but i won’t get in to that story for now.

So ladies and gentlemen, the simple answer to the question “Do men have a Gspot?” is YES!

A man’s G-spot is the prostate and it’s about two inches in the rectum toward the belly. Just like a woman’s clitoris, the prostate contains a ton of nerve endings. It can be reached using just your finger and nowadays you can even buy a prostate massager to use it with your man, or they can play with it by themselves. Prostate massagers are designed to help reach the G-spot easily but it is still worth investigating thoroughly before purchase to ensure you get the right one.

Whatever you do, please do not be tempted to use regular objects. It really isn’t worth the embarrassing and painful trip to the emergency ward with some stuff stuck in your rear. Also before using a prostate massager, it may be worth perhaps using the butt plug, not to try and reach the prostate but simply to get your man a little bit used to the idea of something going in to his butt, if he has never inserted anything in to his rear before. Recommended for women too who are considering anal sex. But when using your finger, it is important that you don’t go much further than 2 inches in, particularly if you are trying for the first time. And yes I know you may well be thinking , wait a minute, people have anal sex with penises longer than 2 inches. But the prostate is towards the belly, so you have to curve your finger towards the belly button and penises do not exactly curve now do they? Even the banana shaped ones I doubt can reach the prostate.

So, you Insert one finger a few inches into his anus and push up toward the rear. Wiggle it around a bit, tap the inner walls and apply different amounts of pressure to see what feels good to him. Finding it for the first time can be tricky for both men and women. So for women I recommend having several open conversations with your man about it prior to experimenting.

Communication can save you a lot of unnecessary ‘aggro’. It is also worth just keeping an open mind about it and not having too high an expectation of the experience being mind blowing from the start. It can be a bit awkward and male ego may also come to play in this and leave some feeling embarrassed, humiliated and their masculinity reduced, especially with a lot of our black males who grew up in homophobic environments and cultures.

But for the lucky ladies who are in relationships with sexually open minded men, the discussions may be fun, funny and light hearted. And chances are if you are in such a relationship or sexual arrangement, you would have already tried other things that didn’t work out as planned, but ended up laughing it off or trying again until you get it right. So my point here is when getting in to prostate orgasm with your man, patience is very important in several aspects. Take baby steps, in conversation and even during the actual act. It may be best to talk about it a certain way that can make him curious enough to perhaps try it on his own until he gets comfortable enough to try it with you. But of course as a loving partner, you do not need to put too much pressure on him, there are things sexually that you too may never wish to engage in and if he doesn’t want to try then his wishes must be respected.

Of course this part you didn’t need to learn from me but it is worth mentioning nonetheless. Patience is important during the act as we all know unlike the vagina; the rectum is not self-lubricating. So you must take your time to ensure adequate lubrication and make this as comfortable as possible for your man.

I know this sounds a bit clinical, but you can use a syringe like applicator (without a needle please) to apply the lube. There are actually some out there that are great for something like this and they are called the lube shooters. The world we live in is a fantastic place my friend. Anyway, use plenty of lube and just keep in mind this is not a vagina and will not behave like one.

While sometimes with vagina you can get away with skipping foreplay, dealing with a prostate requires a totally different approach. Before you start you can also gently stroke his grundle; this is the area between the testicles and anus. Do so with lube too and don’t be in a rush to reach the prostate. You could also be giving him a blow job at the same time as massaging his prostate. Spoil the hell out him why don’t you. But it is worth mentioning that men can have an orgasm from prostate massage without their penises being touched at all. But hey some of us can’t resist the urge to be a little extra sexually, so I would do both.

One of the most important things i have to mention is that you really have to ensure your hands are clean and avoid doing this with long nails. I personally still insist on men washing their hands before touching my vagina and I do not want to be fingered with long nails. I have a tough time being comfortable with a guy with really hard hands fingering me. Because some guys do work that really hardens the skin on their palm and fingers, making them rough to use on sensitive areas. So I apply the same logic when dealing with male prostate.

Make sure your hands are clean, nails short and use lube to make this a gentle and caring experience. I know it is a butt hole, dirt comes out of it, but it is not your job to insert it through it. Also remember just one finger is enough, and it is really not about the size of your fingers , so we won’t even get in to size politics with this right now. As you may be aware, there are so many different types of orgasms that can be achieved in different ways; for example a woman’s orgasm from penetration can differ from the one from clitoral stimulation only.

The orgasm men get from prostate stimulation is said to be sensational, electrifying and very worthy. Apparently it can be felt through the entire body, so perhaps read more about the prostate orgasm and use that to sell the idea to your man. Somethings you just have to try at least once. I believe giving your man a prostate orgasm can significantly bring you two closer and set your sex life on fire. I believe in some cases men do actually want to try these things but can be afraid to talk to their women about it, fearing rejection, humiliation and judgement. Equally some women may have a whole list of fears too when it comes to bringing up this subject, including fear of being seen as slut just for being a bit kinky. It happens. I used to be as obsessed with the idea of giving a man an orgasm through prostate massaging just as men can obsess with the idea of making us squirt a river. But I have to say from personal experience, it is a very satisfying feeling to achieve that goal; especially if your partner has never experienced it before. Seeing him reach that level of sexual pleasure and knowing you had a hand in it (pun intended). Okay perhaps this is just my ego typing now, but whatever the case I hope you get to try this at least once as it is definitely worth it. Good luck.