Nigerian rapper and actor, Falz has reacted over the trending BBC Africa Eye SexForGrade documentary which was released on Monday.
Falz who has always been vocal about social vices had criticized transactional sex during the launch of his album ‘Moral Instruction’ in January.
Sharing his opinion on the documentary, Falz said:”I don’t think this is a time for baseless animosity. I have and will always speak up against all forms of sexual abuse. Yesterday, today, tomorrow. What we should be doing is working together to get rid of this dysfunctional system that allows women to be taken advantage of,” he said
In the same vein, Nigerian celebrities have continued to share their opinions on the trending videos.
Music producer, Don jazzy wrote: “Comprehension is really underrated. Ladies who offer their lecturers sex for grades are wrong, Lecturers who accept are wrong, Lecturers who ask for it are very wrong. Lecturers and Students will get their acts together bcos of this documentary. Simple as that”
American veteran actor, Morgan Freeman has been accused of sexual harassment. 16 people in total, including eight who said they were harassed by the 80-year-old, came forward to discuss Freeman’s behavior.
According to CNN, a young woman who worked as a production assistant on the set of Going In Style claims that the Oscar-winning actor made unwanted advances, tucked her inappropriately and made comments about her figure on a regular basis.
“[Freeman] kept trying to lift up my skirt and asking if I was wearing underwear,” she detailed. She also said that he tried to “touch” and “lift” her skirt, and that co-star Alan Arkin made a comment telling him to stop, which “freaked him out.”
“Freeman’s alleged inappropriate behavior was not limited to that one movie set, according to other sources who spoke to CNN.”
The site continues, “A woman who was a senior member of the production staff of the movie Now You See Me in 2012 told CNN that Freeman sexually harassed her and her female assistant on numerous occasions by making comments about their bodies.”
The woman said that other women on the set knew to dress more modestly if Freeman came around.
“Several other times during this investigation, when a CNN reporter contacted a person who had worked with Freeman to try to ask them if they had seen or been subjected to inappropriate behavior by an actor they had worked with — not initially even naming the actor they were asking about — the person would immediately tell them they knew exactly who the reporter had in mind: Morgan Freeman.”
Freeman’s representatives have not responded to the allegations.
Kitti Jones, R. Kelly’s ex-girlfriend has recounted how she suffered sexual abuse while dating the R n B star.
In an interview with Rolling Stone, Jones detailed her 2-year relationship with the singer, starting in 2011 and ending in 2013.
However, unlike most of the other women who have come forward, Jones’ relationship with R. Kelly started when she was an adult, with a child and an ex-husband.
Jones had been a fan of R. Kelly since she was a child. Working as a radio DJ, finally gave her a chance to meet him.
When she met him at a club hosting – he was the guest of honour, she the DJ told him: “Oh I’m so upset, because this is one of the first concerts I’ve ever missed.”
She said he answered: “Well you’ve seen one, you’ve seen them all.”
Jones said he invited her to his next tour stop, and gave her his number.
She texted him from the bathroom, she said the singer asked that she stopped calling him Rob, and call him “Daddy” instead.
They met again in Denver, where, according to Jones, R. Kelly described as his “Getaway spot”.
She got to the hotel before he did, and sent him “racy photos” while he made the commute to be with her.
When he got to the hotel, she said she was expecting a kiss or a hug, but instead he surprisingly walked past her, sat on the couch and began pleasuring himself.
She was shocked, thinking of taking her leave. But she was attracted to him and was just like, “Well, OK. Fine.”
In November 2011, Jones quit her job, sold her car and moved into R. Kelly’s Chicago apartment.
Veda Loca, who worked with Jones at the time, told Rolling Stone: “She asked me what I thought about her quitting her job and moving. I was like, ‘You only live once.’ I mean, f**k, it’s R. Kelly.”
Almost immediately she moved to Chicago to be with him, he began overseeing everything in her life, she said, asking that she wear baggy sweatpants whenever she goes out, and send him text updates on everything she did, including visiting the bathroom.
“Daddy, I need to go to the restroom,” she said she’d send to R. Kelly.
According to her, the physical abuse started after she confronted the singer, after seeing the video of his child pornography case for the first time.
“He said, ‘B*t*h, don’t you ever f**king accuse me of something like that,’” Jones said. “He never had spoken to me like that before.”
He beat her when they saw after that, she said, slapping her face and kicking her in the car.
Jones said she wanted to leave him after that, but thought “about how ashamed I was of leaving my career.”
The abuse continued to worsen, and then it stopped, she said, when his Single Ladies Tour started, treating her “like a princess.”
He even showed her off during the tour, inviting her up on stage for a skit.
After the tour, things began to go downhill and wild.
In January 2013, Jones said R. Kelly moved her from Trump Tower to his nearby recording studio, which also contained several rooms for living quarters.
2 months into her stay in the recording studio, R. Kelly began using starvation as a means of punishing her for not obeying orders, she said, and she once went without food for 2 and a half days.
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In March 2013, she was introduced to another of R. Kelly’s girlfriends.After the singer brought the girl into her room, she told the girl to perform oral sex on Jones, saying: “I raised her. I’ve trained this b*t*h. This is my pet.”
The night began a new chapter of their relationship, Jones said, the singer forcing her to have sex with different women.
“You can’t say no because you’re going to get punished. You just become numb to what’s happening. It’s so traumatic the things that he makes you do to other people and to him,” she said.
“He videotapes everything that he does, and sometimes he’ll just make you watch what he’s done to other girls. He would masturbate to that and then have you give him oral sex while he’s watching what he did with somebody else on his iPad.”
She finally left him in September 2013. She told him she wanted to visit Dallas to take her son back from his stay with his father.
She flew to Dallas and never returned, she said, but continued to talk on the phone with R. Kelly.
The singer didn’t sound upset or pained by her leaving, she said, and they spoke occasionally and amicably.
She decided to see him again on a tour stop, and he said he would return some items she left in Chicago.
But she was totally surprised by what she encountered on the bus.
Getting in, she walked toward him and said, “Hey daddy!” meaning to hug him.
But R. Kelly was having none of it.
“He was like ‘B*t*h, I’m not giving you shit’ and he was just attacking me,” Jones said. “I knew he wasn’t going to kill me, but it was a lot of force. I was thinking, ‘I’m not going to call the police.’ I just felt so stupid,” she said.
She never saw him after that, and while she sometimes felt shame for staying quiet about his abuse, she also felt protective over him.
An Educationist and Head Teacher, Claret International School, Abuja, has advised parents to engage their children on sex education at home from early years.
Ms Olukayode Ige gave the advice in an interview with the News Agency of Nigeria on Sunday in Abuja.
The expert said that sex education must be age appropriate and could commence from two years.
She said that information for certain age group must be transferred appropriately as sexual abuse was becoming rampant and children from the age of two were becoming victims.
Ige explained that sex education has become pertinent due to the rise of sexual abuse among children in the society.
She said children were abused sexually at homes by relatives, in schools by teachers or students, and social gatherings by strangers, hence the need for children to be abreast with safety rules.
The educationist said children need to understand and be aware of their body parts as well as being conscious of their environment and whoever they are with.
She said that parents need to teach their children that their private part was meant for them alone and needs to be covered at all times.
Ige added that parents should encourage their children to be strong and speak out whenever someone tries to see or touch their private areas and not die in silence.
According to her, there are five safety rules that parents should teach their children.
She listed the safety rules to include touch alert, being alone alert, talk alert, see alert and hold alert.
“Touch alert, means no one is supposed to touch their private areas only the people mummy or daddy approves of.
“Secondly, being alone with a stranger is called alone alert and on no account should a child be left alone at home, with neighbours or even in the classroom.
“Thirdly, talk alert means every child must have the confidence to speak out when confronted with such situation and parents must have the patience to listen carefully to them.
“Fourthly, see alert means children should not be allowed to view movies that are not censored, naked persons or pictures and parental control should be activated on cable networks.
“While lastly, hold alert means children should not be held in sensitive areas of their body, they should ensure no one kisses their children except family members,’’ Ige said.
She added that parents should ensure the girl child do not sit on the lap of any male including uncles while parents should also avoid getting dressed in front of their children.
Teenage children, she said, must be taught the right values of sex so that the society does not teach them the wrong one.
Parents must not allow their children, especially the girl-child, to relocate elsewhere without discretion and adequate provisions so as not to be vulnerable to sexual abuse and other vices.
The Director, Foundation for African Cultural Heritage (FACH), an NGO, Dr. Theresa Okafor, gave the advice in an interview in Lagos.
Okafor said that evil communications corrupt good manners and it was incumbent on parents to know who their children’s friends and peer groups are so that they would not become prey to unsuspecting predators.
She said that some studies had shown that childhood abuse was a significant factor in those who had allegedly been identified as homosexual.
She advised husbands and wives to always stay together so that they could serve as role models to their children.
“However, we must not ignore the causes of such childhood abuses which arose from dysfunctional families and alcoholic parents.’’
Parents must be involved in giving sex education to the girl-child to guide them against sexual abuses but prepare them for motherhood.
Okafor said that mothers as primary educators of their children were in the best position to teach their children what sex-education entailed early in life.
When they grow up, they would understand how to handle it and not imbibe such vices as same-sex marriage, lesbianism, and homosexuals, she said.
“There is a huge disparity between chronological age and maturation age. Children mature at different ages and age-appropriateness may be far-fetched in our differentiated setting.
“Sex education lessons can give rise to unintended effects which may defeat their intended purpose, especially, within mixed schools.
“I think that sex education is a function of upbringing which belongs to the parents who are the primary educators of their children.
“But, many parents need proper orientation to know how to fulfill this role.
“ I do not think that sex education can be effectively handled by schools, especially, when the quality of education remains a huge challenge yet to be overcome,’’ she said.
Okafor said that schools and religious organizations should complement the roles of parents when the children were of school-age after mothers would have laid solid foundations.
Schools and faith-based organizations could speak to children especially on the beauty of chastity, self-control, and delayed gratification, she said.
It could be part of career orientation and goal setting for children, she said.
“These are meaningful ways to engage pupils and students that will result in raising people with learning and character,’’ she said.
