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  • Why I am obsessed with my wife- Bolanle Ninalowo

    Why I am obsessed with my wife- Bolanle Ninalowo

    Actor and author, Bolanle Ninalowo is one man who flaunts his wife from time to time on social media.

    The handsome role interpreter has opened up on why he was obsessed with his wife.

    According to him:” I am blessed and don’t forget that it’s a privilege to have what I have. Our love story is not that of a rich man that met a beautiful girl. We have been together for 16 years and have come a long way. We have been through so much. I had always imagined being successful in the entertainment industry and having a beautiful wife by my side.

    “She is quite an introvert. We are practically two opposite people that complement one another well. Before I became a celebrity, I used to show off my wife. She looks like my mother and I had always prayed to marry a woman that looks like her. I admire my wife and I’m obsessed with her. I have messed up so much in the past and I figured I could rewrite my own story. I am fortunate to have got a second chance, so I am just living my dreams. I am not living to impress anybody”, he told Punch.

    On why he titled his book ‘Shame to fame’, Ninalowo said: “I wrote the book, ‘Shame to Fame’, to share my story with the world and inspire people. I have been through a lot and I am glad I made it. Seeing how God had helped me, I felt it was my responsibility to share my testimony with the world, so people could see the result of hard work. I was very vulnerable while writing the book and I believe it makes for an interesting read. It talks about my mistakes, failures and successes.

    “It is important for people to understand that we are not victims of circumstances but victims of our decisions.”

     

  • Celebrating divorce – Francis Ewherido

    By Francis Ewherido

    Divorce, which is an official dissolution of a marriage, is one of the blights of the marital institution. Very few people go into marriage with the intention to get divorced at some point. That is why people take the vow of “till death do us part” at wedding. Divorce is a sensitive issue and out of respect for those who are divorced, especially those who are close to me, I have stayed away from that topic in the past seven years since this column debuted. This is especially so since I am aware of the circumstances that led to some of these divorces. I share in their pains. But when I came across a story of a couple, who went for a “celebratory lunch” after they were officially divorced, I decided to write about it, but still without prejudice to divorced family members and friends I deeply care for.

    What is this couple celebrating? What are they trying to prove? Who are they trying to impress. Are they trying to show that they are mature? If they were mature, they should have channeled their maturity to make their marriage work. Or are they trying to prove that they are not bitter? There are people who are divorced and have moved on without a show. I know a divorced couple, who are professionals in the same field and own a practice together. They are still business partners and run their business together. They did not go for a “celebratory lunch” to tell the world that there is no bitterness when they got divorced.

    Anyway, the other things that caught my attention in their story were the pieces of advice they offered married and dating couples. Apparently, their marriage was built of a defective foundation ab initio because their courtship was also defective. Their first advice was, “take the time to REALLY get to know yourself, your purpose, your vision, your priorities, and your core values before committing yourself to someone else for life. Get clear on your non-negotiables and on your deal breakers before saying “I Do”. Otherwise, your newfound vision can create division if it’s not in alignment.” This brings us to the definition of courtship and I am going to take excerpts from my book, Life Lessons From Mudipapa:

    “Dating can be described as a form of courtship and may include social activities undertaken by two persons (male and female) with the aim of assessing the other’s suitability as a life partner, while courtship is that traditional period before engagement and marriage when couples date to get to know each other and decide if they should go ahead with the relationship. Another definition by the Institute in Basic Life Principles…refers to courtship as: ‘a relationship between a man and a woman in which they seek to determine if it is God’s will for them to marry each other.’”

    On core values, which they also mentioned, I wrote: “What are your core values and what are your partner’s? Core values are principles and qualities that guide your internal conduct and determine how you relate with the external world. Your core values define who you are; they go to the root of your existence. They are sacred to you and non-negotiable a lot of the time. They might be ethical, religious, intellectual, social, appearance-related, etc. It is important that you share common core values with your potential spouse. If you don’t, then it is not advisable for you to continue the courtship. But if you do only in some and not all aspects, you need to check how acceptable or unacceptable what is lacking is to both of you. Are they things you can live with or without? Sometimes it is not the level of compatibility that holds the marriage together; it is the ability of couples to manage their inevitable differences.” My question is, what were they doing before they decided to get married. I guess every other thing, except ask for the face of God, ask critical questions and do critical analysis.

    Their second advice is, “even if you believe you heard from God, there’s no need to rush to the altar. Take your time and enjoy the process of courtship, or you’ll find yourself getting to know each other after you’re already married.” First, let me quickly say that you cannot fully know your spouse during courtship. The “knowing” continues after marriage. In addition, I will refer you to two bible passages. The first is 1 John 4:1 – “Dear friends, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, because many false prophets have gone out into the world.” When it comes to testing the spirit as regards marriage, my favorite biblical passage is Genesis 24: the marriage of Isaac to Rebecca, God’s unseen hand, Abraham’s uncompromising stance and the extraordinary faith and faithfulness of Abraham’s servant.

    I will break their last piece of advice into pieces and deal with it one issue after another. “Don’t underestimate the amount of work that it takes to build a strong marriage…” True. Making a marriage work is a full time occupation. As I said some time ago, like your body, it needs daily nourishment, if not it will deteriorate. Like a bank account, you have to make deposits regularly because you make withdrawals knowingly and unknowingly. Unless you consciously make deposits, your account (marriage) can easily go into deficit.

    They also said, “…Go to marriage seminars together before getting married, learn what it really takes, and make sure you’re both willing to put in the work together.” Thankfully, religious and government organisations have realized the importance of pre-marriage seminars and have designed topics for people preparing for marriage. Marriage is a higher institution like universities and polytechnics and every potential entrant should prepare for it. If you fail to prepare for marriage, you are already preparing for failure. Finally, they said “…If you don’t grow together you’re gonna grow apart” (Go to https://www.vanguardngr.com/2017/08/marital-intellectual-disequilibrium/ and read more on this).

    In school, we were taught that oddity is news. That is why this couple’s story was in the news because it is odd for a newly-divorced couple to go out together for a “celebratory lunch.” But what are they celebrating? A failed marriage? Do people celebrate failure? I have seen one party in a divorce case “celebrate” after divorce for varying reasons. If you personally know the story of some of these people, you will empathise with them, your firm belief in the indissolubility of marriage notwithstanding. For some, it has become a case of stay in the marriage and die or get out and be alive.

     

    Get me right, there is nothing wrong with divorced parties meeting or having lunch together occasionally. They do meet to discuss the welfare of the children, go for lunch or dinner occasionally with the children and also get together with the children at Easter, Christmas and Thanksgiving (America, Canada, etc). But a lunch by divorced parties to “celebrate” their divorce is meaningless and pointless; it is an aberration. I know that sometimes, people enjoy being in the limelight, but it is also important that we point it out that this former couple was in the news for the wrong reasons, so that those coming behind will not be misled.

     

     

  • Buhari sympathizes with Ndoma-Egba over wife’s death

    Buhari sympathizes with Ndoma-Egba over wife’s death

    The President, Muhammadu Buhari on Friday commiserated with former Senate Leader, Victor Ndoma-Egba, over the demise of his wife, Amaka.

    Amaka was said to have died in an auto crash on Friday.

    Buhari’s condolence message was contained in a statement by his Special Adviser on Media and Publicity, Femi Adesina, titled “President Buhari commiserates with Senator Ndoma-Egba over death of wife.”

    The statement read, “President Muhammadu Buhari extends sincere condolences to Senator Victor Ndoma-Egba and members of his family on the sudden and tragic death of his wife, Mrs Amaka Ndoma-Egba.

    “The President says his thoughts and prayers are with them in their period of grief.

    “He prays divine comfort for the entire family of Ndoma-Egba and peaceful repose of the soul of the departed.”

    In a separate statement, the President also expressed sadness over the death of the first Professor of Veterinary Medicine in Northern Nigeria and a former Chairman of Bida Local Government in Niger State, Prof Shehu Bida.

    Buhari extended commiserations to Bida’s family, government and people of Niger State, the Etsu Nupe, and the academic community on the death of “one of Nigeria’s leading scholars in the field of sciences.”

    “President Buhari believes that Prof Bida’s pioneering role in sparking the interest of many Nigerians in the field of veterinary medicine, impactful research publications, and tenacity for knowledge-sharing, helped in grooming many quality experts in the field at home and beyond.

    “The President adds that the late professor’s outstanding contributions to the development of science will be long remembered, hoping that his peers in the academic community will build on his legacy.

    “He prays almighty Allah to forgive the shortcomings of the deceased and grant his family and friends the fortitude to bear the loss,” the statement read.

     

  • Man confines wife for four years over alleged witchcraft, impregnates her thrice

    Man confines wife for four years over alleged witchcraft, impregnates her thrice

    The Delta State police command has detained a man for caging his wife in a room for four years and subjecting her to debasing conditions.

    The suspect allegedly impregnated her three times while she was in bondage at their home in the Orerokpe area of Delta State.

    The husband, who has eight children with the victim, was said to have fed her with only bread throughout her time in bondage and she was not allowed to shower or use the restroom.

    However, things fell apart for the man when some concerned citizens reported the case to Behind Bars Defenders foundation which quickly took up the matter.

    The Director-General of the foundation, Harrison Gwamnishu, said that the suspect, who holds an OND, accused his wife of being behind his financial afflictions.

    He then locked her up and subjected her to dehumanizing conditions.

    Gwamnishu in a chat with Punch said, “We got tagged via Facebook and we responded. Behind Bars, the intelligence team from the Warri office first visited Orerokpe and verified the story.

    “She spent the last four years of her life locked up by her supposed husband. She was peeing and defecating in the same room where he fed her bread. Not the regular sweetened bread though. She gave the said man eight children, three of which she had while she was locked up by him in Orerokpe community.

    “The husband who is the primary suspect has been arrested and currently in police custody while she is in the hospital.”

    The Police Public Relations Officer, Onome Onovwakpoyeya, said the suspect informed the police that his wife was mentally unbalanced and he had to keep her in such a condition because nobody was willing to help her.

    The police spokesman said, “The DPO said the man alleged that his wife had a mental problem and that she is a witch. He said he took her to her family but they rejected her. He said he equally took her to several herbalist homes but after sometime, he had to take her back home.

    “He said he was taking care of her with his little resources. The DPO said when the report came, he took her to the hospital and the man is with the police now but he cannot ascertain the amount of time she spent in that position”.

     

  • We’re happy in London, but Paris… – Thiago Silva’s wife

    We’re happy in London, but Paris… – Thiago Silva’s wife

    The wife of Chelsea defender Thiago Silva has spoken of their departure from Paris and PSG over the summer.

    Isabelle Silva has declared the family has been able to settle quickly in London.

    Speaking to Goal, Isabelle said: “I’m really happy to be in London. It is a beautiful city that I hope to discover even more. But Paris is Paris. It is special. We are French so Paris will always be in our heart.

    “Still contacts between Thiago and the PSG players? Yes, because they play together in the national team so it’s easier. But he still has contacts with others too, like Marco Verratti or Ángel Di María. They played a lot of time together, so they kept in touch.

    “Souvenirs from Paris? I have a lot of good memories since Thiago had his main titles there. It’s hard to pick just one, but making it to the Champions League final was something. We didn’t win, but it was very special for us.”

  • Help, my wife wants to send me to my early grave – Man cries out

    Help, my wife wants to send me to my early grave – Man cries out

    An electronics repairer, Samson Babalola, has petitioned the Ile-Tuntun Customary Court, Ibadan, to dissolve his 10 year-old marriage to his wife, Abosede, over death threats and alleged use of demonic powers.

    Testifying on Monday before Chief Henry Agbaje, the court’s President, Babalola, who resides at Oke-Bola area, Ibadan, said that his wife often told him that she would use her demonic powers to send him to his early grave.

    He said that Abosede often issued the threat whenever she saw him with any woman, not caring whatever relationship he might have with the lady.

    The petitioner also claimed that his wife was trying to foist on him a pregnancy that was not his.

    “After Abosede failed in her attempts to lord over me, she started inciting my first child I had with my late wife against me.

    “She poisoned that child’s mind that I was responsible for his mother’s death, and that I was also making desperate efforts to kill her.

    “Worse still, she instigated her younger brother and mother to ensure they ruined me because I reported her at Oyo State Welfare Department for her evil acts.

    “Abosede now has an extra-marital affair with a man and they go to parties together.

    “She is currently forcing me to accept a pregnancy I know nothing about because I have stopped having any conjugal rites with her,” Babalola said.

    The respondent, who earns a living as a fashion designer, however, opposed the suit.

    She defended the allegations against her, insisting that her husband was responsible for her pregnancy.

    In his ruling, Agbaje held that there was need for Babalola and Abosede’s relatives to intervene in the matter.

    He therefore, adjourned the case until Dec. 3, for continuation of hearing and advised the estranged couple to maintain peace.

  • The Holy Spirit told me Williams Uchemba is my husband-Wife recounts

    The Holy Spirit told me Williams Uchemba is my husband-Wife recounts

    Williams Uchemba’s wife, Brunella Oscar has recounted how she met the actor and instantly knew he was going to be her husband.

    The medical doctor made this known in a chat with the Wedding Digest Naija.

    In her words:”It was the evening of 22nd November 2016 when I was scrolling down on Facebook and randomly came across a video of a guy (Williams) preaching the gospel and advising the young people on the path to follow in life. The video was about 15 mins long but 30 seconds into the video I heard a voice saying “This is my husband!” she said.

    “I had no idea who this guy was, never even heard of his name before but I felt the urge to message him on FB messenger just to encourage him to do more and never give up on his passion.”

    I immediately clicked on his name, noticed it was a “fan page” but didn’t think too much of it because I thought that maybe he was a motivational speaker of some sorts. So I messaged him but I was not expecting a reply.”

    She also revealed how the friendship grew .

    “We video called each other a lot, we got to know each other more and more which was fun and easy because we felt like we’ve known each other for 10 years or more. We clicked instantly and I didn’t want to scare him off by saying “oh by the way the Holy Spirit told me you’re my husband” . I just let the friendship grow naturally and patiently waited for God to reveal that to him Himself,” she added.

  • The mistake of Abram – Francis Ewherido

    The mistake of Abram – Francis Ewherido

    By Francis Ewherido

    And it happened that Abram (later Abraham) had to temporarily relocate to Egypt with his wife, Sarai (later Sarah), due to famine in Canaan. Just before they got to Egypt, Abram became worried that the Egyptians could kill him if they knew Sarai was his wife because she was beautiful. And it was not uncommon in Egypt at that time for a man, who desired another man’s beautiful wife, to do a hostile takeover (kill the husband and take the wife). So Abram lied to the Egyptians that Sarai was not his wife, but his sister (and it was partly true because Sarai was actually his half-sister). But at that time, they were together as husband and wife and this spousal relationship was what counted. As expected, Pharaoh found Sarai very beautiful and she became part of Pharaoh’s harem. But God got angry and visited Pharaoh and his household with plagues. Pharaoh had to let go of Sarai like a hot iron (Gen. 12:10-20).

    Sometimes, man does not learn from history, so the mistake of Abram caught up with a young man in Lagos recently. According to the news story, he introduced his girlfriend to his friend as his sister. The friend was living (squatting) with him. Later the girlfriend also came to live with him. In the morning, our man would leave his girlfriend and his friend together at home and go to work. This continued for a while until one day when he got back from work and met an empty house.

    Since then, he had been discreetly looking for them until he traced them to Ajah. When he saw them, the girlfriend was already pregnant for his friend. What brought the matter to public knowledge was his insistence that the girl must come to live with him and the ensuing altercation he had with his estranged friend. I have thought about this matter since I read about it. One, like Abram, why did he have to lie that his girlfriend is his sister. In the case of Abram, God intervened, but in his own case, God did not and could not have intervened because God has no place for co-habitation. I have previously shared my thoughts on co-habitation in this column:

    Cohabitation is putting the cart before the horse. When a man and a woman meet and decide to have a relationship that can lead to marriage, they date. Dating is a period when you get to know a potential spouse better to enable you make up your mind whether or not you want to spend the rest of your life with him/her. Marriage is a turning point, either for good or for bad, in many people’s lives. Therefore, the decision to get married to someone is not something you trifle with. You need prayers, you need fasting; you need to be very close to God to get the divine guidance of the author of marriage. Co-habitation inhibits your prayer life and Godly living.

    When both parties are satisfied that they are meant for each other, the man formally proposes to the woman. Thereafter, he makes arrangements to meet with the girl’s family to make his intention known. And the process culminating in marriage continues from there. After marriage, they can now begin to live together. Women, if any man wants to live with you, let him first of all go to your family and perform the necessary marriage rites. That is class. Do not sell yourself cheap. Also, give your father that honour and your mother, the joy. You disrespect your parents and family by engaging in cohabitation.

    As I said earlier, our man was insisting that the girl should come with him. Come with him while carrying another man’s baby? What is the basis for that insistence? In Africa, the only basis to lay claim to a woman is if you have done introduction (limited claim), traditional marriage, civil marriage or church marriage. You do not lay claim to a girl if you have not done any of these. So, the insistence of our man is baseless.
    The next issue is the shocking naivety of our man. Even if he lied to his friend, deep down, he knew that the girl was his girlfriend, not sister. Why leave her and his friend alone day in, day out, week in, week out and over time before they eloped. I have said it a few times. Man and woman are magnet and iron. Bring them too close and they cling together. So when you leave your girlfriend and friend all alone at home, what can go wrong may go wrong and it certainly went wrong. Some men have no dick control. An Urhobo proverb says that “Odie kokekoke osho vwo rharen yovworu’evu r’ohoro. Evo or’ephe. Oriwovwo karophiyo n’omana je nabogba je ro” (not every erection is meant for sex. Some erections are meant to remind you to go and empty your bladder, while others remind you that you are still virile). For some men, every erection seems to be meant for sex. That is partly why rape and incest are rampant

    But I cannot say that the friend in the eye of the storm is weak. Very few men, other than angels, would spend so much private time with a woman, not
    related to them, and not cave in. Perhaps, when the feelings started running high, like Joseph did with Potiphar’s wife, he should have fled Gen. 39:12). But apparently, he did not. I congratulate him for keeping the pregnancy. Some people in his shoes would have aborted the pregnancy to deceive the friend and maintain the good relationship, while straining their relationship with God. Divine relationship takes precedence over earthly relationships, but our human failings sometimes make us to do the contrary. I also commend him for his refusal to let go of the girl. She is carrying his baby, so she goes nowhere. If after delivery, the girl is still interested in going back to his former boyfriend, she should drop the baby for the father and go. But knowing women, the girl will not leave her baby, not immediately.

    But he (squatter) betrayed his friend. Someone trusted you and let you into his home when you were stranded. And the only way to repay him for his magnanimity was to impregnate his girlfriend. Whether the girl is his sister or girlfriend, he should have refrained. He cannot use the excuse that he thought she was his friend’s sister as a basis to justify this betrayal. It is just not right. Sister, daughter, wife or girlfriend, stay away from women associated with your host.

    Finally, for our man, I will advise him to move on and get himself another girl (wife). He should just learn the valuable lessons that come with this painful experience. But if he insists on having his girlfriend back, he should wait until she has had the baby. But will the feeling of coming back together be mutual?

  • Woman wrapper – Francis Ewherido

    Woman wrapper – Francis Ewherido

    By Francis Ewherido

    I have known this couple for over 20 years. They are a loving couple. The man is simple, easy going and quiet. The wife is an extravert and more forward. On the surface, the woman seems to be in charge. She says what should be done and what should not be done.

    But I will not hasten to say that she is the “man” of the house because uwevwirohwofabeno (it is very difficult to understand the inner workings of another person’s house).

    To buttress my point, I know another man. He is taciturn. The wife is the face of the marriage and does all the public talking and representations. I found out later that she is just the spokesperson. The husband is the principal through and through and only what he sanctions is done or said. If you remember the government of General Sani Abacha and how he pulled the strings behind the scene, you would understand better what I am talking about.

    Some people call our subject of today’s discussion a “woman wrapper” (a man controlled by his wife). I do not know if it is true and it has never been an issue of concern to me. We were at a function recently and as I looked at them, I was filled with admiration. They have been married for over 40 years. At all the occasions I have met them, they wore suit-and-suit (clothes made with the same fabric). Only couples, who are highly united, do that. I know for certain that they love each other dearly. E get why I talk so. As I looked at them at the ceremony, I started re-evaluating the whole institution of marriage. What do couples really need (not want) in marriage?

    If you ask me, I will say happiness and peace of mind. If you agree with me, like Rome, there are a number of roads to achieving peace and happiness in marriage, so each couple should travel on the legitimate road that suits them. If it suits some men to achieve peace and happiness in marriage by being “woman wrapper,” so be it. Is a happy and peaceful marriage, achieved by being a “woman wrapper,” not better than many of these Armageddons that we call marriages? I no gree, I no go gree don make many clothes (marriages) tear anyhow. Some spouses are now in their graves, some are scarred forever and many marriages have packed up.

    To the best of my knowledge, the wife has never been rude to him. She adores him. In fact, when she talks about the husband, no be here o! I just feel that the man has found the magic for a happy and successful marriage and traducers do not seem to understand. Many people are held prisoners by their primordial cultural beliefs and see certain show of love by husbands to their wives as weakness or being a “woman wrapper.” Marriage is relationship management and our man has found a way to manage his wife and vice versa. That is what all married people need to learn. One of the women calling him “woman wrapper” is divorced, to put it mildly. Talebearers said the husband ran away! In the end, the “woman wrapper” is quite often a matter of perspectives outside the couple concerned.

    Young married people need to get close to and study happy marriages of older people. Those marriages were built on successful management of spousal differences, patience, tolerance and perseverance, etc. We are all imperfect human beings, each full of good, nonsense and bullsh*t. it is a whole package. Do not bother going into marriage if you cannot take nonsense and bullsh*t. Hopefully, during courtship, potential couples will take enough time to understand their potential spouses to know the kind of nonsense and bullsh*t awaiting them in marriage.

    This is very important because the portrait of our different characters means there are some bullsh*t that we can take and others that we cannot take. As a famous author said, choose which hill you can die on. For instance, some spouses cannot tolerant infidelity, but in some cultures, couples (male and female) do not only cheat, they are also into prostitution with the full knowledge and consent of the other spouse. Also, there are people, who cannot stand liars and will never marry one, but you also see people, who lie with impunity and they are people’s husbands/wives. In one sentence, know the core values of your potential spouse. It helps to determine which hills you are prepared to die on.

    But there is no way to know all the bullsh*t you will take in marriage. How is a man to know that this his adorable and loving fiancée will be very irritable and nasty when she is pregnant in future? Then after delivery, she becomes the loving, civil and adorable wife again? What is the man supposed to do; abandon his plan on the number of children he had planned to have to avoid more bullsh*t during pregnancy or continue to take bullsh*t with each pregnancy? How is a fiancée to know that her prince charming and caring fiancé will become abusive after marriage because he lost his job and resents being catered for by his wife? How is a man to know that his unusually obedient wife of 15 years will become very rebellious in her 40s? I have forgotten what psychologists call the trend. You have been married to a loving wife for 25 years. All of a sudden, she begins to have mood swings, irritability, depression and unnecessary anxiety because of menopause; how were you to anticipate that? How do you anticipate the frustration of an erstwhile warhorse of a husband, who finds out suddenly in midlife that he cannot muster an erection to carry out his conjugal duties anymore?

    These are some of the bridges some couples have crossed to achieve happy and peaceful marriages. Building a happy marriage is a whole lot of hard work. Each spouse must chip in his/her bit towards the success of the marriage. Contribution to the success of a marriage is scarcely equal, but the most important thing is that both spouses are bringing something into the marriage to make it work. About 40 years ago, when marriage was the last thing on my mind, my brother, Ufuoma, told me a very interesting conversation he overheard between two married adult males. They said, to Ufuoma’s hearing, that in marriage, husband and wife must quarrel. If they do not quarrel, it means either the man is cheating (putting in less than) the wife or vice versa. We laughed about it immediately and occasionally thereafter.

    I have since come to realise that what the men called cheating is just a higher commitment by one party to make the marriage work. Happy marriage na dog play. In some, one dog will fall once for every five times the one falls. For others, it is 10 to one. There might also be cases of 1/1. Who is bringing in more is not really the business of outsiders, as long as the couple is fine with it. Trouble starts when external parties get involved. A lady once narrated how her mother-in-law, who was visiting, almost had a fit, flew into a rage and almost rocked her marriage because the husband was cooking while she was home. For the husband it was love, but for his mother, her son has been bewitched by that (name of tribe withheld) girl. The mother’s interference rocked the marriage for a while because the husband became hostile and almost violent towards the wife he once adored. Life has normalised since, though

    So, if one of the sources of happiness of your son or brother is doing dishes at home or even washing his wife’s clothes, including her pants, leave him alone. He did not rent your hands to wash them. Traducers should go and come up with their own formula to make their marriages peaceful and happy. As for our subject today, please carry on, sir, nothing do you.

    Finally, please allow me to digress to enable me deal with one small issue. Some young male readers might have cringed when they read above a suggestion that husbands can wash their wives’ pants. What is the big deal, if I may ask? Which husband never touch im wife pant before? Wives dey use their own hands remove pant for bedroom? No be the husband dey remove am? No be the same pant you handle for night, dem dey wash later? You know, as you grow older, you begin to see life differently. Things that looked so important previously become inconsequential. In our earlier years of marriage, I did not help my wife wash her undies when she had early morning sickness for months and was incapacitated. It was just unthinkable; I was ready to buy new pants until she was strong enough to wash them herself. My action looks so meaningless and foolish to me now. I cannot roll back the clock and I do not do laundry (manual or machine) anymore. But honestly, it is no longer a big deal. The services/help some older men render to their wives, especially sick wives, are far beyond washing of undies. It is all about love and love conquereth all things.

  • Jason Njoku, wife test positive for coronavirus

    Jason Njoku, wife test positive for coronavirus

    Founder of IrokoTV Jason Njoku and wife Mary Njoku have tested positive for the coronavirus disease (COVID-19).

    Njoku, the serial entrepreneur made this known in a tweet on Wednesday.

    “My enemies are hard at work in 2020. Mrs Njoku and I tested positive for Covid19. I’m not feeling great but Mary is well.

    “Literally no idea how I caught it. But we shall see this pass too,” he wrote.

    TheNewsGuru recalls that Njoku on October 26 shared a picture of himself on Twitter receiving treatment for an undisclosed ailment.

    Back in August, Nollywood actress,Omotola announced that she tested positive for coronavirus.

    She said, “Hello All, I know most of you have been wondering where I have been. Well, i contracted Covid. I have been ill and now getting better. More on this details of this soon.”