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  • Customary Law: It’s most inappropriate for husband to inherit wife’s properties after death – Dr Binitie Cassidy

    Customary Law: It’s most inappropriate for husband to inherit wife’s properties after death – Dr Binitie Cassidy

    By Emman Ovuakporie
    It is inappropriate for a husband to inherit his wife’s properties after her demise as contained in Urhobo Customary Law, Dr Linda Binitie Cassidy has said.
    TheNewsGuru.com, TNG reports that the age long custom of the Urhobos in Delta State that allows husbands to inherit their spouses properties instead of her children as inappropriate or appropriate.
    Speaking at an international webinar organized by the Urhobo Rennaissance Society, URS, entitled: ‘Administration of Estate Under Wills Law & Urhobo Customary Law of Inheritance’ Binitie Cassidy a discussant at the webinar said:
    “Our customary law that allows a husband to inherit a wife’s properties after her demise is inappropriate and that there’s need for it to be adequately addressed to right the wrong particularly in a polygamist home.
    She drew applause from the participants when she further raised some posers such as the issue of gates for married women, the issue of a first son holding trust on behalf of the children of other women’s children.
    She also asked why is it that a married woman cannot inherit her husband’s properties except for her children but her husband can inherit her properties if she dies.
    Cassidy explained that these are the issues we should be looking at in this webinar.
    Another participant also declared that customs and culture are meant to be dynamic not static.
    However,Professor Ben Oghojafor a discussant at the well attended webinar in response to most questions raised, professionally answered all one after the other.
    Hear Him:
    Question 1. Can a registered Will be challenged? On what grounds can a Will be challenged?
    Answer: A registered Will can be challenged. The grounds include: Fraud, mental incapacity, undue influence, violation of statute or customary law – especially where a custom forbid disposition of certain
    estate. See Odutola v Mabogunje (2013) Supreme Court
    Question 2. If a Will goes contrary to traditional laws and Customs, which one takes precedence. For example, the law approves a woman to benefit from the Testator’s estate contrary to some Customs and tradition.
    Answer: It depends on the State Law of the place where the testator lives. But in case of women inheritance, the law supercedes the Custom. See Ukeje v Ukeje (2014) Supreme Court
    Question 3. On what grounds can a Will be void or set aside.
    Answer: Grounds for setting aside a Will are similar to the Question one above. That is: age, mental incapacity, undue influence, fraud, drunkenness, blindness, illiteracy, etc or any other ground stated In the Law of the State that the testator lives. See Adesubokan v Yinusa (1971) Supreme Court
    Question 4. When is the appropriate time to write a Will? How can one go about it: appointing an Executor, making codicils, registration, execution etc.
    Answer: (a) A person who is 18 years and above is qualified to make a Will; provided the person has assets that are capable of disposition.
    (b) You go about writing Will by consulting a solicitor or any other person authorized by law to write
    Will for others.
    (c) An Executor of a Will may be appointed in the following ways:
    i. Express Declaration in the Will
    ii. Implied or by operation of law – Example, see section 5 of the Administration of Estate Law
    of Lagos State 2015
    iii. By the Court
    iv. Under Power of Attorney
    v. By Substitution Executor
    (d) A codicil is a subsequent Will, which expressly or impliedly revokes another existing Will. It must
    fulfill the same conditions as any other Will.
    (e) Registration is by complying with the requirements of the Probate Division of the High Court
    (f) Execution is may be directed in the Will and the Court Order for the administration
    Question 5. What happens if the Executor predeceases the Testator.
    Answer: Appoint a substitutional Executor
    Question 6. Can a Testator will all his entire estate to a church or an NGO when he has a family (wife and children)?
    Answer: Depends of the Will’s Law of the State where the testator resides. In Lagos State, a testator
    CANNOT. See section 2 Will Law Lagos State. Similar provisions in Oyo, Abia, Anambra, Jigawa States
    etc.
    Also can a wife Will her property to her family before marriage if she had no child in the marriage and the husband is a polygamist?
    A property acquired before marriage is not a marriage estate unless the women so decides.
    Question 7. Can a Testator Will his certificate and throne to his child?
    Answer: This is subject to Customary Law of the testator. If it is permitted, he can but if it is not permitted, he cannot.
    Question 8. Can a child born outside wedlock (illegitimate child so to say) and his mother benefit from a Will?
    Answer: There is no illegitimate child in Nigeria. see section 42 of the Constitution 1999 (As Amended).
    Question 9: On Will execution, I will want to know:-
    Who can be appointed an Executor.
    Answer: Persons that may be appointed as Executors include: Trust Corporations – e.g Banks; Professionals Solicitors and Accountants
    Question 10. Execution process for identifying all the Deceased Assets and Liabilities (cash/bank accounts balances, debtors/creditors, family ties/relationships, associations as alumni, clubs, NGOs, URS etc obligations and benefits etc)
    Answer: Appointment of Executor presupposes the existence of a Will. A valid Will must disclose with Certainty the estate of the testator and the beneficiaries or means of identifying the beneficiaries. The duty of the Executor is to search and identify the estate. Where the Executor cannot identify, he may apply for assistance from the Court.
    Question 11. Dealing with objections to the Will if any.
    Answer: Dealing with objections in the Will is through Court proceedings
    Question 12. Dealing with traditional or religious beliefs
    Answer: It can be done through appointment of special Executors with knowledge in traditional and religious beliefs.
    Question 13. Release of the Executor.
    Answer: Release of Executor is by death or renunciation.
  • The wife is the chief cook – Francis Ewherido

    The wife is the chief cook – Francis Ewherido

    By Francis Ewherido

    I had a discussion with someone recently. I said it is the duty of the wife to cook in the house. She shot back, “where is it in the bible?” I am not a bible scholar, I have never seen it in the bible, but my response to her was, “is it against the bible?” I know that Christianity did not come to abolish our culture; rather Christianity is meant to complement our culture, especially when cultural practices do not negate Christian teachings. In the African society that I am familiar with, cooking is the primary responsibility of the wife. The wife cooks for the husband and the children. As the children grow older, they, especially the daughters, join the mothers in the kitchen to help out.

    Culture evolves and times are changing, but new developments should not obliterate culture and replace it with a foreign culture. Cooking remains the wife’s primary responsibility, but current realities are changing this paradigm. Part of these changes mean that the woman can no longer be the sole cook in the house. Rather, she is the chief cook. Being chief cook presupposes that there is at least one other cook. I encourage young men going into marriage to have basic cooking skills. My sons do their cooking – by training and by choice – in the house. Cooking skills are necessary for modern day husbands because of changing circumstances.

    In the past, the flexible nature of the economic pursuits of the wives made it possible for them to perform their cooking task effectively. These days, many wives work from 8am to 5pm or 6pm, just like their husbands. Sometimes, husbands get home before their wives. As a husband, what do you do if you get home first? Stretch your legs in front of the television, while you are hungry and while away time, until your wife gets back? Loving husbands get into the kitchen, bring out a bowl of stew from the fridge and boil rice, yam or whatever they are eating for dinner, for the whole family, before their wives get back. The love of the wives for their husbands grow because of this gesture; such actions also help to strengthen the marriage. I recommend this for young husbands, but the wife must not develop a sense of entitlement. I repeat, cooking is the duty of the wife in Africa.

    Also, in those days, mothers travelled or moved from their home to the daughters’ or daughters-in-law’ when the latter give birth to help out in domestic chores and taking care of the new baby. These days, many grandmothers in their 40s and 50s are career women. They will not leave their jobs to do omugwo. Moreover, some of today’s husbands will not donate their wives for this omugwo business. I have already put my children on notice. If you live in the same city with me, my wife will come around in the morning and come back home in the evening. But if you live far away, you and your spouse have to sort out yourselves. My wife will not be going anywhere to do omugwo.

    The primary reason God created a woman is for companionship. Companions are people, who spend a lot of time together. Companionship is paramount in marriage and so shall it be with me, especially as I grow older. So, young husband, if you end up with a father and father-in-law like me, what will you do? Will you leave your wife to do the cooking and other domestic chores immediately after childbirth or you will take over, pending when she is strong enough? What if your wife gives birth via a caesarean session? One woman hit the kitchen the very day that she and her baby were discharged from the hospital. A few days later, she had complications. She almost died. I encourage every young husband to join his wife in the labour room. It is a bloody affair, so brace up for it. By the time you experience the birth of that child, who will bear your name, your chauvinistic views about cooking and doing domestic chores will change.

    Another reason a husband needs to have some cooking skills is if the wife is ill. During your marital vows, you promised to take care of her in sickness and in health. It is at such times you practice what you professed. Also if your wife travels, what happens? One young man responded that he will eat out. I shook my head and told him that it is an irresponsible behaviour. Money that you are supposed to be saving for children’s education, estate plan, emergencies, etc., is what you will be frittering away at eateries. It is more expensive to eat out; that is why it should not be a habit for young couples, especially. Once in a while, you can take your wife out for a treat, but eating out every day is a no-no. I encourage young couples and those preparing for marriage to open accounts for their children’s education, the house they plan to build later and emergencies. There should also be an account for the family health care or you can subscribe to a health plan with an insurance company or a health management organisation (HMO). No to frittering away of money.

    I heard a particular case that really irritated me. The husband does not know how to cook, but that is not the issue here. He refused that the wife, a university graduate, should work. He wants her to take care of the children and the home, no problem. But part of the reasons he wants the wife home fulltime is that he eats only food prepared the same day. So the wife cooks breakfast, lunch (if he is around) and dinner fresh every day. If he were financially stable, I will not say anything, but he is not. Yet he kept a wife, who could have been working and earning some income, at home fulltime so that she can cook fresh food for him every day. I don’t get it. The people, I know who eat only freshly-prepared meals, are rich and have cooks. His behaviour is a monumental misplacement of priorities.

    The point is that if you are a husband, especially young husbands, and you have no inclination towards cooking and helping out in the house, get a cook and domestic staff, if you can comfortably afford them. If not you must help out at home. If you don’t, then you are not acting in love. That said, cooking remains the wife’s duty. I am only saying husbands should be support strikers, while the woman remains the main striker.

    I decided to weigh in on this matter because it is currently causing frictions in some young marriages. One, some wives believe cooking is a shared responsibility. Two, some young husbands feel it is solely the wife’s responsibility and would not lift a finger. Three, some husbands are aggrieved because they feel their wives have developed a sense of entitlement because they help with cooking. Now, even when the wives are home and free, they still expect their husbands to cook. My advice is, husbands, help your wives with cooking when necessary, just as they help you in your duty as a provider. Wives, encourage your husbands. Cooking is your duty; do not develop any sense of entitlement, please. Young husbands and wives, make una get sense o, una marriage big pass each of una.

  • VIDEO: Popular US based ‘prophet’ Slyvester Ofori shoots wife dead

    VIDEO: Popular US based ‘prophet’ Slyvester Ofori shoots wife dead

    The City of Orlando Police Department has arrested a self-described prophet and founder of Floodgates of Heaven International Ministries named Sylvester Ofori in the murder of his 27-year-old wife.

    The 35-year-old “pastor” was arrested on Tuesday night after he shot his wife Barbara Tommey outside the Navy Federal Credit Union branch where she worked.

    The shooting happened at around 9 a.m. at Navy Federal Credit Union on Gardens Park Boulevard.

    Orlando Police, in a brief statement Tuesday night, said Tommey “was shot near the front door of the business by her husband, Sylvester Ofori.”

    Police said the shooting was captured on security footage.

    “You can tell that she’s trying to get inside. Unfortunately, he shoots her outside of the establishment,” Police Chief Orlando Rolon said.

    Police added that “detectives worked tirelessly throughout the day in order to achieve the following outcome in this case.”

    A search warrant was served at Ofori’s apartment, where he was taken into custody, police said.

    Ofori was booked into the Orange County Jail at 9:39 p.m and now being held without bond.

    He is now being charged with first-degree murder with a firearm.

    Watch the live briefing on the capture of the suspect in the murder of his wife below:

     

    However, a further check showed that Ofori and his ministry have an extensive social media presence – Ofori’s page has 61,756 followers while his ministry Floodgates of Heaven International Ministries has 5,552 followers on Facebook.

    On his Facebook page, Ofori described himself as a prophet and motivational speaker.

    A post on his page on August 23 said: “I truly believe that every single person has to go through something that absolutely destroys them so they can figure out who they really are,”

    The physical address of his church is 44 Coburn Ave., Orlando.

    Its Facebook page says the ministry is dedicated to helping those who need to increase their “prayer life.”

    “We believe that prayer changes things & the bible says that the prayer of a righteous man availeth much,” the page says. “We are praying that God’s will be done on earth as it is in heaven.”

    A website to hire speakers and entertainers says Ofori was born in Accra, Ghana.

    “He attributes his zeal for God to his parents who instilled the fear of the Lord in the hearts of all five of their children,” his bio reads.

    As an anointed and chosen man of God, Ofori “flows in the gifts of the Holy Spirit” and he has Christ-like powers and a knack for interpreting dreams.

    Ofori has healed the sick, cast out of demons, and battled witchcraft, the site says.

    “Clothed in the spirit of humility, he acknowledges that he is totally dependent upon Jesus, as he is able to do nothing of himself,” the bio adds. “He is always careful to give credit to God.”

    However, Ofori’s wife Tommey was the assistant manager of the credit union, where she worked for more than five years, according to a Linkedin profile.

    Her profile further revealed that she graduated from the University of Central Florida in 2015 with a bachelor’s degree in finance.

  • My husband is planning to use me for something diabolic, woman cries out

    My husband is planning to use me for something diabolic, woman cries out

    A Mapo Customary Court in Ibadan on Wednesday dissolved a marraige involving a trader, Sadia Abass, and her husband, Azeez, over a missing underwear.

    Sadia had petitioned the Court to dissolve her marriage over allegations that he had stolen her underwear for ritual.

    She told Chief Ademola Odunade, the President of the court, that she feared that her life might be in perpetual danger if she continued to live under the same roof “with a man planning to use me for something diabolic”.

    Sadia added that her husband’s attitude had made the marriage “so miserable and unattractive to me”.

    “When the ill-treatment reached its peak, I discovered that my underwear suddenly got missing. I checked everywhere but did not see it. He also denied ever seeing it.

    “Three days later, the missing underwear resurfaced where I had checked over and over and I made him realise his evil intention toward me.

    “Only God knows what would have happened or might still happen to me because I have made it clear to him that I will not continue with the relationship.

    “From day one when I got married to him, he has not been responsible.

    “Even during my pregnancy and after, he never showed me care.

    “Despite his irresponsibility, he usually attempt to rape me even when I’m not in the mood and I reported him to his parents.

    “Besides, Azeez has been monitoring me all over the place,” Sadia stated.

    Under cross examination, Azeez refuted all the allegations leveled against him.

    Azeez claimed that the wife had continued to plunge him into debt.

    “Sadia does not wish me well; all the money that I was supposed to spend on my business usually fall into her hands.

    “Worse still, she always return home around midnight.

    “In fact, Sadia’s usual late homecoming affected our child negatively; his teachers told us that he sleeps when other children are learning.

    “Most of the time, I buy food to eat when she refuses to cook.

    “Every now and then, she nags and packs in and out of the house,” Azeez alleged.

    Odunade, in his judgement, held that there was no more love between the duo and pronounced the marriage dissolved “in the interest of peace and harmony”.

    He granted custody of the only child produced by the union to the plaintiff, and ordered the defendant to pay N5,000 monthly for the child’s feeding, in addition to being responsible for his education and basic welfare.

  • My husband forced me to have 15 abortions after three kids, wife tells court

    My husband forced me to have 15 abortions after three kids, wife tells court

    A nurse, Shukurat Adewumi, on Monday sought the dissolution of her 17-year-old marraige to husband, Adewale, in a Customary Court sitting at Mapo in Ibadan on grounds that he forced to have 15 abortions.

    Shukurat, a mother of three, made the claim in her counter argument before Chief Ademola Odunade, the court’s President .

    ”He forced me to have abortion 15 times, putting my life at risk.

    ”He denied patanity of my three children.

    “Some years ago when he left me to live with his concubine, Adewale returned home well ill and I took care of him.

    “For the past two years, he declined paternity of our last child and recently came home to steak the only gas cooker we have.

    “Adewale smashed the cylinder on my forehead because I tried to prevent him from taking it away.

    “I fainted and was hospitalized, his parents and relatives are all aware of his evil against me.

    “Adewale has married two wives elsewhere,” Shukurat said.

    In his earlier account, Adewale, a factory worker said that he filed the suit due to his wife’s constant threat on his life.

    “Never did I know that she was a hooligan and street fighter when I got married to her.

    “She has caused me so much embarrassement and I can no longer withstand it.

    “I want custody of my children if she remarries,” Adewale stated.

    Delivering judgment, Odunade who was represented by Alhaji Suleiman Apanpa dissolved the marriage in the interest of peace.

    He awarded custody of the three children to the respondent and ordered the petitioner to pay N15,000 as their monthly feeding allowance.

    He also directed Adewale to be responsible for their education and other welfare.

  • Who goes first – Francis Ewherido

    Who goes first – Francis Ewherido

    By Francis Ewherido

    A friend and big brother had a private birthday celebration for his wife recently. In the course of the ceremony, he spoke glowingly about his wife and prayed for her. He also prayed for long life for both of them. What struck me most during the prayer was when he called the wife by her pet name and told her that: “…I am seven years older than you are. I came before you, so I pray that I go before you.”

    Three days later, we (my ward and I) took the empty domestic gas cylinders for refilling. I noticed that the man whose cylinder was filled before ours was apprehensive. I probed; he then confessed that he is never comfortable anywhere there is gas. “That’s why I don’t go to the kitchen; ask my wife.”
    He gestured to his wife who was nearby. Then the prayer at the birthday came flooding back.

    One husband is praying that he dies before his wife. Here, another husband does not go into his kitchen because he is scared of being killed by gas explosion. But it is okay for the wife to go into the kitchen and possibly get killed by gas explosion and die before him. Okay, maybe he was not thinking along that line, but if you are scared of gas explosion, you should find a holistic solution to minimise or eliminate the risk for your entire family and not a selfish solution that saves only you. This man is not likely to pray the kind of prayers my friend prayed.

    The two incidents got me thinking: husband and wife, who should die first, all things being equal? Like my friend, I pray for long life, but when the time comes, I certainly want to go before my wife. I am older. Over time, I have found out that wives tend to cope better when they are predeceased by their husbands. This is especially so if the family is well off. Many widows in their 50s upward never bother to remarry. I even know some whose husbands died when the wives were in their 30s and 40s. They simply poured all their resources and energies into bringing up their children.

    But the same cannot be said of men. Bereavement disorganises many men. Basic things like preparing meals and organising the home become mountainous tasks. That is one of the major reasons why most men remarry when they lose their wives. They remarry to bring back order to their lives. But these new marriages come with their own packages. You have to learn to understand and live happily with a new spouse.

    Sometimes it is not an easy task. It is a question of you win some and you lose some. Some men win more, when the chemistry with the new wife is better than the chemistry with the deceased wife. On the other hand, some men lose more when the new wife is an introduction to hell. I have heard widowers lament that they did not know what pushed them into a second marriage.

    Issues can also come with the age of the new wife. If the woman is of childbearing age, she wants to have her own children rather than just help to bring up the children of the late wife. That is why some widowers in their 60s upwards simply look for older women (widows, singles and divorced), who have passed childbearing age, to marry. They do not want the hassle of having new babies. There is a time for everything, some will readily remind you. They just want a companion, lover and helpmate to help sort out the home front.

    Talking about lovers, sex drive has some correlation with age, so marrying a much younger woman can sometimes lead to sex urge misalignment. I heard a sad story from a friend some time ago about his uncle. About two years after his wife died, the septuagenarian uncle married a young girl in her 20s. They had two children together.

    Not long after, the young lady started an affair; then her escapades became brazen and very embarrassing, not only to the husband, but to the whole family. A family meeting was called. Before everyone, she justified her action with a claim that her husband is “dead,” he could not muster an erection, not to talk of making love to her. So what did they expect a young girl like her to do? She had to get young blood to meet her sexual needs.

    Whether it is the fact that she made the husband’s condition public or the callous way she said it, my friend is not sure, but the humiliation was too much for the uncle. Shortly after, he suffered a stroke and died two years later. I do not support adultery, but I feel older men should examine themselves very well before marrying much younger women. New wine and old wineskin should be handled with care. Be careful before your much younger wife uses “harder, harder” to hasten your journey to your grave.

    Some widowers who remarried have had to deal with situations where their new wives maltreat their children under their nose. Some wives convert these children to maids in their father’s homes. There have been reported cases where the fathers turned a blind eye to the wrongdoings of the wives, while it is a major source of friction between spouses in some homes. Some fathers, however, take sides with their wives.

    We also have children who will not accept the reality that their mother is no more and the father must move on with his life. They see their stepmother as a usurper and antagonise her.

    There are men who are miserable today because their houses have been turned into Fuji House of Commotion because of the quarrels between their children and their stepmothers. Some men are today estranged from the children from their first marriages because they remarried after the demise of their first wives. It takes more than a very firm man to manage these situations; you simply need the grace of God.

    As we know, all things are scarcely equal in life, so death does not follow chronological age. Anybody can go first. Nobody, except those who commit suicide, knows when s/he will die. But husbands tend to die first before the wives and it is not necessarily age-related. Many men blame it on the vagaries of life that ultimately take their toll on the men. It is like lions and lionesses. Most lions in the wild live for about 10 years, while lionesses live for about 14 years.

    While the lionesses enjoy the relative safety and comfort of the pride, the lions leave the pride at adolescence, wonder for a couple of years, and when they are strong enough, look for a pride to take over. Thereafter, they spend the rest of their lives defending their pride and territory until they are overthrown by younger and stronger lions. Then they wonder off again until they die of hunger, from injuries and, in rare cases, old age.

    But we are humans, not lions, and we must take good care of ourselves. With insecurity, bad roads, poor medical facilities, etc., there are no guarantees to a long life, but let us at least give ourselves a fighting chance.

    Back to the question, who goes first after God has given a couple long life? For me, the older spouse should go first, provided the other spouse is in a better physical shape. However, God, who is all-knowing, has the final say.

  • I beat my husband whenever he makes senseless demands – Wife tells court

    I beat my husband whenever he makes senseless demands – Wife tells court

    A trader, Damilola Osilulu, on Tuesday told an Ile-Tuntun Customary Court in Ibadan that she beats her husband because he orders her around on how she should live her life.

    Testifying before Chief Henry Agbaje, the President of the court, Damilola countered her husband’s accusation, claiming that her husband complains a lot and also makes senseless demands from her.

    “Sometimes, Akinkunmi orders me to do senseless things and I don’t obey him.

    “However, if I see wisdom in his demands, I try as much as possible to come down to his level.

    “If I can’t take his nonsense, I hit him straight away because Akinkunmi feels he is the husband, and that he is also lord over me,” Damilola said.

    Earlier in his account, Akinkunmi a printer, said that he filed the divorce suit to bring an end to his wife’s domination over his affairs, NAN reports.

    “My lord, Damilola does not want me to have a say in the house as she challenges my authority.

    “If I ask her to do anything, she questions my authority and violently attacks me.

    “This is to the extent that people keep coming to our matrimonial home for settlement of rift every now and then.

    “Only God knows what would have happened if I had reacted to her frequent attacks against me.

    “Enough of Damilola’s nagging; I cannot continue to stand her disrespect.

    “Besides, she doesn’t take proper care of our three-year-old child” Akinkunmi added.

    In ruling, Agbaje prevailed on the couple to exercise more patience.

    He advised relatives of both parties to do the needful by settling the matter.

    Agbaje then adjourned the case until Aug. 31 for judgment.

  • I can’t share my husband, divorce-seeking woman tells court

    I can’t share my husband, divorce-seeking woman tells court

    A teacher, Mrs Idowu Oluokun, on Tuesday told a Mapo Customary Court in Ibadan to dissolve her 16-year-old marriage to her husband, Oyetunji, instead of sharing him with a second wife.

    Idowu, who made the submission in her counter argument before Chief Ademola Odunade, the court’s President, added that her husband was not trust worthy.

    She further said that soon after she gave birth to her child, Oyetunji told her that he had married another wife whom his relatives preferred because she was from his community.

    “He further told me that he had decided to be shuttling between my home and that of his new wife.

    “I was mad with anger because that was never our initial agreement and plan and I could not bear the shame.

    “I later told Oyetunji to stick to his new wife permanently because I cannot share him.

    “Ever since, Oyetunji refused to cater for the only child between us until recently when he resurfaced to claim the child.

    “He only managed to send N30,000 to buy the child’s WASSCE form, but never knew how he sat for all the exams and gained admission to the university.

    “However, if the court should grant him custody of the child, I pray for a refund of all that I have spent on him in the past 16 years at N2,800 per day.

    “ This is not forgetting the fact that I borrowed from the bank and a cooperative society to secure admission for the boy,” Idowu said.

    Earlier in his testimony, Oyetunji, a resident of Ogbomoso, identified lack of love, distrust and irresponsible behaviour on the part of his wife as the reasons for filing the divorce suit.

    “My lord, it is clear that Idowu doesn’t love me.

    “I stopped sending her money for the child’s upkeep last year because she keeps overbilling me.

    “I know quite well that one does not need more than N17,000 to buy a WASSCE form in a public secondary school, but Idowu said that she needed N30,000 and I sent it to her.

    “The child had disclosed to me that he wants to be with me, but she keeps preventing him,” Oyetunji said.

    He, however, refused to comment on Idowu’s allegations against him.

    In his judgment, Odunade condemned the petitioner’s attitude of dumping his wife for another woman only to return to claim the child of the marriage.

    He consequently dissolved the union and awarded custody of the child to Idowu.

    Odunade also ordered Oyetunji to pay N10,000 as the child’s monthly feeding allowance in addition to being responsible for his education and other welfare needs.

  • My husband’s death is natural, not of COVID-19, late Lanre Razak wife cries out

    My husband’s death is natural, not of COVID-19, late Lanre Razak wife cries out

    Mrs Jumoke Razak, the wife of late APC chieftain, Lanre Razak, says her husband did not die of COVID-19 pandemic.

    Razak told the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) on Monday in Epe, that her husband’s death was natural as he had been sick for some time.

    She said the way her husband died showed that it was time for him to answer the call of his creator.

    “Although, my husband was sick but he was responding to treatment and looking healthy to recover, but suddenly, death caught up with him.

    “I received a call from the hospital where my husband was treated that he gave up on Aug. 15.

    “From God, we come and to Him, we shall all return. God, knows best,’’ she told NAN.

    The widow disclosed that her husband was on admission at Reddington hospital in Lagos and that he was not isolated.

    “He was receiving treatment as a normal sick patient and not as COVID-19 patient.

    “The public should desist from spreading the rumour of whether my husband died of COVID-19 or not.

    “I am saying emphatically that my husband, Lanre Razak, did not die of COVID-19.

    “Anybody can be sick and be treated fine while some will be sick and pass to eternity.

    “Therefore, it is God’s time that He took my husband.

    “May Almighty Allah forgives his shortcomings and grants him Aljanat Firdaus,’’ she prayed.

    NAN reports that the APC Chieftain dead on Aug. 15 and was buried same day according to Islamic rites.

  • How my wife ‘prophesied’ about our marriage -Bez

    How my wife ‘prophesied’ about our marriage -Bez

    Zucidaya crooner, Bez Idakula has recounted how his wife spoke their marriage into existence. The singer and guitarist made this known on Saturday via his Instagram handle.

     

    The father of three noted that himself and Tito his wife, moved in the same circle and were quite familiar with each other so when she came up to him after an event in 2010 to autograph 2 of his CDs, she insisted he let it be known that they know each other.

     

    Bez revealed that at that point she also said that they would end up getting married but he laughed it off, because he was in a relationship at that time.

     

    In his words: ”So I had a gig in March 2010 at De Marquee, a lounge at the Mega Plaza rooftop in VI. After the show Tito came to meet me to say how good it was! I had met her before in my circle of friends so we were familiar. She was super cheeky that night! She got my CD with my 2 singles “Zuciya Daya” and “Stop Pretending” then made me sign it, instructing me to write something that showed we knew each other. Then she said “you know you’re going to marry me right?” of which as a faithful guy with a girlfriend I laughed and said I had a babe. That relationship scattered (not my fault) and by August we were dating, 4 years later we were married.Truth is I had an idea where this gist was going with a lesson and all but everything changed when I re-read it. There’s only one lesson here”.

    His revelation has sparked myriad reactions on social media, with many alleging that wife simply ‘shoot her shot’.

     

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