Tag: Woman

  • My husband denied me sex for 9 years, woman tells court

    A trader, Mrs. Helen Otike, has pleaded an Igando Customary Court, Lagos to dissolve 18-year-old-old marriage to her husband, Godwin, for allegedly denying her sex for nine years.

    Otike, 45, told the court on Wednesday that her husband, with whom she had no child, starved her of sex.

    “My husband does not want me to have a child; he has refused to sleep with me.

    “We live as strangers in the house, no intimacy no relationship,” she said.

    The petitioner said that her husband abandoned her in his five-bedroom duplex seven years ago to marry another wife in Abuja.

    “My husband relocated to Abuja and left only me in the house he built; he refused to take care of me.

    “Whenever I call him, he always told me that he will call me back, which he never did.

    “On two occasions, I travelled to Abuja, I was able to locate where he is working but he refused to take me to his house.

    “It was later I heard that he had married another woman in Abuja who had children for him,” she said.

    She also described her husband as a dubious fellow.

    “When my husband went to Abuja, I connected him with my brother who accommodated him for two years and also introduced him to a business.

    “But he duped the people my brother introduced him to and ran away from my brother’s house and my brother was arrested,” the estranged wife said.

    She said that she also discovered that her husband had a wife and three children before their marriage which he never told her.

    “I stumbled on pictures of my husband’s wedding, I confronted him with those pictures and he confessed that he married the woman when he was in the world.

    “I accepted his plea but not long he impregnated another woman before relocating to Abuja,” she said.

    She begged the court to terminate the marriage that had not produced any child, claiming that she wanted to move on with her life.

    “My husband has children from three women, I also want to be a mother, please dissolve the union so that I can move on with my life,” she said.

    Rebutting the allegations, Godwin Otike, a businessman, said that he stopped making love to his wife when he heard that her mother was behind his predicament.

    “My mother told me that my mother-in-law was responsible for my downfall which I strongly believed because my health and businesses were booming until I married my wife.

    “When my mother-in-law was invited to come and say what she knows about my businesses and health, she refused to come.

    “Because of that, I have to stop any intimacy with her daughter and that also made me to abandon her in my house to relocate to Abuja to start a new life,” he said.

    The respondent said that his wife was a good woman and that he loved her but because of her mother’s demonic nature he has to run for his dear life.

    The president of the court, Mr Adegboyega Omilola, adjourned the case to Feb. 28 for further hearing.

  • Woman in court for alleged cell phone theft

    Woman in court for alleged cell phone theft

    A 28-year-old woman, Grace Lawani, was on Tuesday arraigned in a Gudu Upper Area Court in the FCT, for alleged theft of cell phone valued at N48, 000.

    Lawani, of no fixed address, is standing trial on a one-count charge of theft.

    She, however, denied committing the offense.

    The judge, Mr. Umar Kagarko, admitted the defendant to bail in the sum of N20,000.

    Kagarko ordered that the defendant must produce a reliable surety who resides within the jurisdiction of the court and adjourned hearing till March 6.

    The prosecutor, Mr. Joshua Ayanna, told the court that one John Nwani of Samuel Akintola Boulevard, Garki II, reported the matter at the Garki Police Station on Jan. 13.

    Ayanna said that the complainant met Lawani in Rita Lori Hotel on Dec. 22, 2016, and in the process, she agreed to follow him to his house.

    “While at Nwani’s place, she made away with his Techno H7 phone valued at N48, 000 without his consent,’’ he said.

    He also said that the defendant converted the cell phone to her personal use.

    “Since then, Nwani could not find the defendant until Jan. 13, when he sighted her at Rita Lori Hotel, the same venue he met her the first time,’’ Ayanna said.

    The prosecutor said that the offense was contrary to Section 287 of the Penal Code.

     

  • Meet the woman who is allergic to her husband

    Many couples wake up to kiss each other,care for each other and generally show love to each other. Little do they know that there are some couples who are allergic to each other. This is the story of Johanna Watkins, a woman who is allergic to her husband.

    Twenty-nine-year-old Johanna Watkins from Minnesota cannot kiss her husband Scott, or even spend time in the same room as him. She suffers from Mast Cell Activation Syndrome, a rare disorder of the immune system, which means she is allergic to almost everything, including her husband’s scent.

    Mast cell activation syndrome (MCAS), also commonly referred to as mast cell activation disorder (MCAD), is an immunological condition in which mast cells inappropriately and excessively release chemical mediators, resulting in a range of chronic symptoms, sometimes including anaphylaxis or near-anaphylaxis attacks. Primary symptoms include cardiovascular, dermatological, gastrointestinal, neurological and respiratory problems.

     

    “Scott and I will try to watch a show together. We can’t be in the room together, because I’m allergic to him, but he will be three floors below me in a room on his laptop and I will be on mine and we’ll watch the show at the same time and then text about it as we’re watching it,” says Johanna.

     

    Johanna lives in an attic room all by herself with sealed windows and doors, and air filters to purify the air. She has a severe form of Mast Cell Activation Syndrome (MCAS) in which the cells that are meant to protect her from outside threats mutate and start attacking her body instead.

     

    The symptoms and severity of the disease can vary from patient to patient, but it makes Johanna allergic to virtually everything and can trigger life-threatening anaphylactic shock.

    Before she married her husband Scott in 2013 Johanna did not expect her condition to become so severe. She worked as a teacher and the couple used to love hiking together. Even then she struggled with unusual rashes, irritable bowel syndrome and migraines, but these ailments became much worse after the couple married.

     

    “There were times three and four years ago, before we got the diagnosis, that if I was extra close to my wife, specifically if my face was close to Johanna’s face, she would cough,” says Scott.

     

    I’ve had to release a lot of what I expected for myself and I’ve had to accept what has been given to us

     

    But it was only last year that the couple realized they had become unable to physically share their life together.

     

     

    “We had noticed that when Scott would come in [to the room] I would start feeling worse and worse. My normal daily symptoms would just be aggravated,” says Johanna. “And then at one point he went to get his haircut and came back in the room and within two minutes I had started my anaphylactic symptoms and he had to leave.”

     

    A week later Scott tried to see his wife again, but the same thing happened, and they realised their lives would have to change dramatically.

     

    “It was this horrible reality that it wasn’t going to work,” says Johanna. “I was now reacting strongly to my husband. Before this I had reacted to my parents, to many, many other people, but it was horrific when it became Scott.”

     

     

    The treatment and medication that is usually given to MCAS sufferers does not help Johanna, so at the moment the couple do not know when – if ever – their situation will change.

     

    “There’s not an easy way around this problem. I want to keep Johanna safe and me going to see her compromises her safety,” says Scott. “One of the ways I can take care of her now is by not going to see her. I’m not going to endanger her life. We’re absolutely committed to one another and we’re going to wait as long as it takes to see if there is some kind of healing.”

     

    Doctors are trying different treatments, but none so far have helped.

     

    “They don’t know if I will get well, and so we hope and we pray that I will,” says Johanna. “I have had anaphylaxis, which is a life-threatening allergic reaction, more times than we can keep track of. My life could end quickly. Life is frail – it can end.”

     

    But Scott will be part of her life for as long as it continues, she says.

     

    “On our wedding day we made vows to each other that till death do us part. No matter what life brought.

     

    “I can tell you that even if I have this until I’m 90 years old, I would be committed to my husband with that vow and still love him.”

     

    Scott says they do sometimes get angry and frustrated about their situation.

     

    “I’ve had to release a lot of what I expected for myself and I’ve had to accept what has been given to us,” says Scott.

     

    He adds: “Johanna and I are good at talking, we talk a lot, we try to communicate a lot, so one thing that we’ve found that’s helpful is just bringing each other into what’s going on in our lives as best we can because we’re not able to be together.”

     

    Scott works full-time as a teacher and then returns home every evening to cook Johanna’s food.

     

    “It’s one of the ways that I can care for her, and every other day for the past year I’ve had one of my dear friends come and they help [me] cook for Johanna,” he says. “She can only eat two meals, so she’s been eating the same two meals for over a year.”

     

    Johanna can only tolerate 15 different foods, including spices, so she eats either beef chuck roast (beef stew) with organic celery, carrot and parsnip or organic lamb with turmeric, cinnamon and cucumber.

     

    The couple are currently living in the family home of their friends, the Olsons, while their own home is renovated to make it a safe living space for Johanna. The Olson family have given up using all scented products and do not cook in their house at all.

     

    “I have had severe reactions to someone smoking a cigarette down the block,” says Johanna. “I have had severe reactions to the pizza place that’s a mile down the street, and all my windows are closed and sealed in the room with special filters.

     

    I have many gifts in my life, many blessings that I have to be thankful for

    “But just if the wind blows it on the right direction that day and I get even a whiff I can have a severe reaction. The house is quite large and I’m at the top level, and if an onion were to be cut in the kitchen I have had a severe reaction.”

     

    Johanna has not left the attic room for more than a year, except to visit the hospital in an emergency or to see her doctor. Every morning she listens to a playlist of songs and then might write or answer an email to a friend, or video-call her young nieces.

     

    The only people she does not have a life-threatening reaction to are her siblings, who help take care of her. Before they enter her room, they have to avoid eating strongly spiced food, shower with a special soap and strip down to their underwear. As soon as they walk in, they put on masks and special clothes that have never left Johanna’s room.

     

    Despite all these precautions, Johanna’s symptoms still become worse after their visit.

     

    “I think growing up in America, it’s common for us to just think, ‘Oh OK if there’s a disease there’ll be a medical solution, it will be fixed and I’ll move on with my life,’” says Johanna. “So being diagnosed and becoming this ill, [there was] definitely a grieving process that I went through.”

     

    But the fact that Scott is downstairs in the same house and that she can talk to him on the phone is a huge comfort, says Johanna.

     

    “I have many gifts in my life, many blessings that I have to be thankful for,” she says. “And that reminds me to not become selfish and just make it all about me.”

    SOURCE-BBC

     

     

  • In-Photos: Woman stabs husband to death on Christmas over alleged refusal to give money

    Tragedy struck in the Ikorodu area of Lagos State on Christmas Day when a woman identified simply as Iya Bose reportedly stabbed her husband to death over his refusal to provide money for the family.

    The suspect brutally hacked her husband to death in Majidun Awori in Ikorodu after a brief argument.

    The state police spokesperson, Dolapo Badmus confirmed the incident to newsmen, saying the suspect has been arrested and would be charged to court upon completion of investigation.

    See photos below:

     

  • Truck crushes 4 school children, woman to death in Delta

    Truck crushes 4 school children, woman to death in Delta

    No fewer than four school children and a middle-aged woman were Wednesday crushed to death by a truck at the popular mechanic village, off Effurun-Warri Road in Delta State.

    The school children were reportedly trying to cross to the other side of the road when the truck ran them over at about 8am. However, in the process of trying to avoid the children, the driver swerved off the road and rammed the vehicle into a store, killing a woman also on the spot.

    An eyewitness who spoke on condition of anonymity said the body of the deceased woman was tore into pieces while two of the children had their skulls ripped open. However, the acting Police Public Relations Officer of the state command, DSP Andrew Animaka, could not be reached immediately for confirmation.

    A woman who escaped death by the whiskers said: “As soon as I noticed the speed with which the driver was coming, I decided to jump to the other side of my store; if not I would have been dead by now.”