Tag: Women

  • Suicide: Women and Their killer Tongues – By Michael West

    By Michael West

    Most of the time, I appreciate men that stay married over the years not because they are better than their peers who have lost their homes to separation or divorce but because they are able to endure acidic tongues of their wives in moments of anger. Women are not known to be pugilistic like men but their incisive, prickly and razor blade-tongues are deadlier and injurious than ballistic missiles.

    Many women do display their rich vocabulary and wordsmith skills when they engage in disputes. They become finely articulate, giving precise and commensurate responses to every dart of words haul at them. It is at these maddening moments that they show their sense of history by recapitulating details of long forgotten issues, refreshing old wounds and adding insults upon injuries to their opponents.

    Experiences have shown that men do endure and sulk their wives’ diatribes and punchy utterances than their fellow women. While men of short fuse could resort to physical assaults as responses to unbearable vituperations, women could challenge their folks to physical combats or resort to emotional diarrhea like weeping, vandalisation of their abusers’ belongings or contemplate inflicting injury on themselves instead. In extreme cases, suicide could be an option. The latter was allegedly claimed to be what happened to late Folake Abiola, a telecommunications company’s employee who reportedly committed suicide penultimate weekend.

    Women are the worst enemies of themselves. If women should love themselves or decide to operate in solidarity, they will rule the world. women, being the highest adult population worldwide, (about four billion to be precise) should be able to determine and influence critical decisions and appointments both in elective or appointive capacities through their voting power. Nay, they’re not united to forge common fronts in any society except when they agitate or clamour for their rights, family or conjugal support, fight against rape, campaign against gender violence and mobilise against various abuses etc. Women hit their folks harder when they quarrel. The Word says life and death is in the power of the tongue, (Proverbs 18:21). Women ‘kill’ more with their tongues than with lethal weapons. The same destructive power of the tongue in writing was alleged to have made Folake to commit a suicide.

    The WhatsApp chat that allegedly instigated her suicide was reportedly found on her phone. It is believed that she had a quarrel with a woman who, probably in exchange of angry chats, sent an abusive and emotionally traumatic chat in which the woman bluntly taunted her with her challenges as an unmarried and childless woman at her age. 

    Below is the chat which I copied verbatim. I didn’t tamper with the content despite many grammatical  mistakes in it. The raw chat reads:

    “I don’t hate on a barren at 47, I pray for them. Nature is already dealing with you and you can’t see, sorry your life is delayed! At your age, no child, no man to call your own and menopause has set in so I can understand your frustration. By the way, I’m busy paying university fees and tomorrow is PTA meeting (you can’t say this about yourself). The next time you want to run your mouth look for your mates aka your fellow barrens. Mothers are very busy people. When you meet responsible mothers like me, ask how much a Montessori fees cost and see how useless you are as a woman to the society. Enjoy my hotel in Cannes. Help me tell your boss, oh sorry, my Ex. Please if you don’t want to hear certain things don’t go looking for a mad woman’s trouble. I won’t call you mother of twins if you are a barren. Period!”

    A report by the RAND Corporation, an American research organization, found that as many as 13.1% of men and 12.4% of women experienced verbal abuse regularly at work. While in India for example, there had been 760 percent increase in abuse rate from 1971 to 2009. The research also showed that the most common type of abuse reported is verbal abuse which is 52.3 percent.

    According to a clinical research, emotional abuse is linked to thinning of certain areas of the brain that help you manage emotions and be self-aware — especially the prefrontal cortex and temporal lobe. Epigenetic changes and depression. Research from 2018 has connected childhood abuse to epigenetic brain changes that may cause depression.

    Emotional or verbal abuse can take the form of name calling, demeaning utterances, written toxic expressions, or any behaviour that makes a person feel belittled, ridiculed or worthless. In some cases, abused persons may start to believe that they are ugly or unwanted, or that they cannot “do better” than their peers, acquaintances or partners. They often lose self-esteem and confidence. Gradually, they begin to feel less and inadequate to measure up to the standards and expectations of their abusers and that of the society. They are emotionally blackmailed into submission and psychologically conditioned to feel like failures. 

    Verbal abuse is so destructive such that it has sent some people into early graves through depression and suicide. Although the police is said to be on the trail of the woman whose chat allegedly instigated Folake’s suicide, the fact remains that she cannot be brought back to life again. All hope is lost on her. 

    Whether it was the chat that actually led her to suicide or not, it is instructive to admit that life is a treasure that cannot be replaced. Suicide will never placate or sufficiently atone for challenges we face in life. We have to embrace the fact that troubles ferried into our spaces are part of what makes life worth living. The sweetness of victory after vicissitudes of life underscores the reality that life is worth fighting for.

    It is not a matter of religion when advised to trust in God and employ the power of prayer to confront challenging and unpleasant situations. God never promised anyone a crisis-free life but He said in whatever situation we may find ourselves, He promised us two things: 1). He will be there with us in our trials and problems  (Isaiah 43:2); and, 2). His grace to go through the storm will be available for us (2 Corinthians 12:9). Armed with these unfailing promises of God, regardless of what anybody may do or say to us, our song should be that “we are more than conquerors through Christ that loves us” (Romans 8:37). We need to keep hope alive. Without hope for a better tomorrow, life will lose its glamour and become meaningless which are the potent ingredients of suicide. Let nobody else consider suicide as an option again. There’s no rest hereafter for whoever commits suicide. Women should please tame their tongues in moments of anger. It is a condemnable act that someone’s utterances or written angry words are the reason somebody commits suicide. A murder charge is awaiting such a person if not here but certainly yonder.

    I want to sincerely appeal to our women to please learn how to employ the power of their sharp tongues positively to bless, advise and correct others and not to send weak and soft-hearted people to their graves. 

    Do have a pleasant weekend ahead.

    Quote:

    “Verbal abuse is so destructive such that it has sent some people into early graves through depression and suicide.”

    • West wrote via

    mikeawe@yahoo.co.uk

    08059964446

    08035304268

  • Some women are witches, men are going through a lot – Omoni Oboli fumes

    Some women are witches, men are going through a lot – Omoni Oboli fumes

    Nigerian actress and filmmaker, Omoni Oboli has weighed in on the public discourse of domestic violence in marriage and stressed that men are going through a lot and that some women are witches.

    TheNewsGuru.com (TNG) reports Oboli made this known amidst the wave of the cases of domestic violence that has been reported to the point of saturation very recently.

    The filmmaker noted that she is the mother of boys and that he will not allow his boys to pass through any form of abuse when they eventually start having relationships or even in their marriage.

    “Men are going through a lot too! Some women are witches! I’m a mom of boys. I’m the sweetest person. My sons’ girlfriends and wives will enjoy me immensely but if you try to hurt my son, my sister in the lord! You will see a LION,” Oboli posted on her Instagram story.

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    Some women are witches, men are going through a lot - Omoni Oboli fumes

  • Nigeria draw rivals South Africa in Women’s AFCON

    Nigeria draw rivals South Africa in Women’s AFCON

    Nigeria’s Super Falcons have South Africa as their Group C rivals in the 2022 Women’s Africa Cup of Nations (WAFCON), as well as Botswana and Burundi.

    They were drawn in the same group at the official draw ceremony held at the Complex Mohamed VI in Rabat, Morocco on Friday.

    Group A of the women’s football competition billed for July in Morocco has the hosts, Burkina Faso, Senegal, and Uganda.

    Group B has Cameroon, Zambia, Tunisia, and Togo.

    It is the first time 12 teams will be participating in the tournament with Togo, Burundi, Burkina Faso, and Botswana as debutants.

    The tourney kicks off in Rabat on July 2 with the final match to be played on July 23.

  • How women are coping with HIV/AIDS, PMTCT services in Nigeria

    How women are coping with HIV/AIDS, PMTCT services in Nigeria

    By Franca Ofili, NAN

    Self-stigma has been identified as one of the major issues responsible for the low uptake of HIV/AIDS and Prevention of Mother to Child Transmission (PMTCT) services in Nigeria.

    Over time, persons especially women that tested positive to HIV/AIDS have consistently lived in self-denial orchestrated by stigma and other factors beyond their control but caused by the society.

    Mrs Anthonia Nzeli, a 35 years old banker, was diagnosed to be Human Immunodeficiency Virus (HIV) positive during her first pregnancy and was placed on antiretroviral drugs.

    Being a young lady, Nzeli could not imagine how she could cope with taking the drugs for the rest of her life and she subsequently stopped taking the medication.

    She said her decision was based on the advice of her pastor who discouraged her and asked her to pray as God would solve every problem.

    According to her, she was using the local herbs believing it will solve her problem.

    Nzeli said after she gave birth, the baby became sick on his three months and was taken to the hospital only to be diagnosed as HIV positive.

    “That day, I felt as if the world has come to an end until a nurse came to my rescue, educated me on the necessary things to do to live a better life with the virus.”

    According to her, the nurse arranged an appointment for her with a doctor and was advised on how to live with her baby.

    “The doctor advised me to come with my husband to carryout test on him but he refused to come.

    “Since then, I have been on PMTCT treatment and my baby is also on drugs and was asked to come for test with my child in order to monitor us.

    She said that lack of proper information on HIV has affected many families and urged the government to ensure that people are properly educated on the virus and how to manage it.

    Nzeli said with the proper information gotten, she enrolled in PMTCT treatment to be able to have her second child HIV negative.

    She said after five months the husband agreed to have the test and was positive, adding that the family has been on drug since ten.

    “I believe with proper information on PMTCT many pregnant women would have HIV negative babies.”

    In spite of having been tested for HIV during pregnancy, most women have limited knowledge and awareness of the virus and of PMTCT in particular.

    There are several potential barriers to the provision of PMTCT including: HIV testing without adequate informed consent and counselling.

    Others are gaps in HIV and Mother-to-Child Transmission of HIV (MTCT) knowledge among women, perceived stigma at the household and community level with HIV-related cultural beliefs.

    Among women who had been tested for HIV, awareness and knowledge of HIV and PMTCT remained low.

    There would be need for mobile phone communication for improving uptake of antiretroviral therapy in HIV-infected pregnant women.

    Socio-cultural and operational challenges, including HIV testing without informed consent, present significant barriers to the scale-up of PMTCT services for women in the country.

    Also strengthening local capacity for effective counselling and testing in the antenatal setting is paramount.

    HIV is a principal contributor to the high burden of maternal and infant mortality and morbidity in the country.

    Some medical experts have given solution on what the country can do to address the issue of low PMTCT in the country.

    Dr Ijaodola Olugbenga, Deputy Director, PMTCT, Lead for the National Prevention of Mother-To- Child Transmission of HIV and AIDS (PMTCT) had advocated for state governments to procure HIV commodities to boost PMTCT services.

    According to Olugbenga, there was an urgent need for a clear community strategy to reach the unreached, as well as to mobilise community influencers, especially religious leaders, who would help to educate pregnant women on PMTCT need.

    He said that there was need to understand why about 60 per cent of pregnant women delivered at home and then respond to their needs with a clear strategy.

    Olugbenga also called on the Federal Government to declare a national emergency on PMTCT.

    He said there was an urgent need for a clear community strategy to reach the excluded, recognize the importance of working with all actors, private providers, traditional birth attendants (TBAs), community leaders and networks of people living with HIV.

    Olugbenga called for the creation and empowerment of the Local Government Zone (LGA) team to process HIV-related data, sample registration, commodities and other services.

    He said there was a need to organize all facilities (public and private) and other service delivery points for HIV services for pregnant women using a “Hub and Spoke” model.

    The hub and spoke model refers to a distribution method in which a centralised “hub” exists. Everything either originates in the hub or is sent to the hub for distribution to consumers.

    From the hub, goods travel outward to smaller locations owned by the company, called spokes, for further processing and distribution.

    “We need to strengthen the communication and use of data based on the hub and spoke approach and with the commitment of the LGA team.

    “There is a need to develop a realistic state-specific approach to improve the development of Ante Natal Clinic (ANC), ANC testing and PMTCT coverage.

    “Approval and implementation of the state-level framework for the elimination of mother-to-child transmission of HIV and syphilis,” said Olugbenga.

    He decried the low uptake of antenatal care services, low uptake of early infant diagnosis services, and urged women to know their HIV status before they get pregnant to help them plan accordingly.

    Mr Geoffrey Njoku, UN Children’s Fund (UNICEF) Communications Specialist in Nigeria, also urged the media to focus more on the reportage of PMTCT of HIV and AIDS to ensure a society free of HIV children.

    Njoku said that the media needed to provide an update on the current status of HIV and AIDS in the country, added that the media needed to bring back HIV and AIDS to the front burner by educating pregnant women on the importance of PMTCT.

    Dr Atana Ewa, Associate Professor of Paediatric Respiratory/Infectious Disease, University of Calabar Teaching Hospital, said that the management of children living with HIV needed more focus attention and enlightenment.

    Ewa stressed the need for increased screening among women of child bearing age and pregnant women to check the spread of the virus.

    She said: “We need to ensure reduction of prenatal transmission, give antiretroviral drugs to pregnant women and during breastfeeding.”

    She noted that for treatment modalities, acute bacterial infections must be addressed with the treatment of opportunistic infections.

    She advised all pregnant women to go for counselling and be tested for HIV during antenatal, adding that HIV and AIDS remains a major cause of infant and childhood mortality and morbidity in Africa.

    “Ideally, the healthcare provider should counsel the parents and look for HIV in a child presented to a health facility Provider Initiated Testing and Counselling (PITC), as identifying HIV in children requires a high index of suspicion.

    “Usually, the symptoms and signs of HIV infection in childhood are similar to those of other diseases seen in the tropics; but they may be more severe and occur more frequently.

    “The common conditions associated with HIV are frequently infectious in nature,’’ she said.

    Ewa said that early features usually non-specific are fever, diarrhoea, failure to thrive, cough and generalised lymphadenopathy.

    Others, she said were later the child would present with features indicative of severe immune suppression, signs of opportunistic infections and recurrent and more severe forms of common illnesses.

    She advised that every pregnant woman should be tested for HIV to have proper data and start PMTCT.

    “We need to ensure reduction of prenatal transmission, give antiretroviral drugs to pregnant women and during breastfeeding.”

    According to World Health Organisation guidelines, all infants who test positive for HIV should be immediately initiated on treatment.

    It said that the treatment should be linked to the mother’s course of ARV drugs and would vary according to the infant feeding method.

    “Breastfeeding, the infant should receive once-daily nevirapine from birth for six weeks. While for replacement feeding, the infant should receive once-daily nevirapine (or twice-daily zidovudine) from birth for four to six weeks,’’ it said.

    Mr Shola Ogundipe, Health Editor, Vanguard, said that the media needed to bring fresh perspectives into related HIV and AIDS issues in the country.

    He said that the media would positively impact on the process of communicating government’s policy agenda and legislation on HIV and AIDS, with specific focus on PMTCT and EMTCT.

    He said that over the years, Journalists Alliance for PMTCT in Nigeria (JAPIN) had pursued the PMTCT and EMTCT agenda in Nigeria.

    He said this is in accordance with its role to ensure that mother-to-child transmission of HIV received the desired attention in relation to national HIV and AIDS issues.

    “JAPIN has successfully utilised various media platforms and documented strategies to address the challenges of EMTCT of HIV by giving wider coverage of the issues in Nigeria.

    “JAPIN has also bridged the communication gap between government, healthcare providers, mothers and civil society groups, as far as EMTCT in Nigeria is concerned,’’ he said.

    Ogundipe added that JAPIN had provided improved knowledge on the scope and acceptability of infant feeding practices among women in Nigeria, specifically for HIV positive pregnant women.

  • 2023 Election: AA slashes nomination fees for women, youths, PWDs

    2023 Election: AA slashes nomination fees for women, youths, PWDs

    Action Alliance (AA) party has slashed nomination forms by 50 percent for women, youth and People with Disabilities (PWDs) interested in contesting the 2023 general elections.

    This is contained in a statement signed by Mr Kenneth Udeze, the National Chairman, to publicise the sale of Intent and Nomination forms to aspirants in the party.

    Mr James Vernimbe, the party’s National Secretary, made the statement available to newsmen in Abuja on Monday.

    According to Udeze, the party is giving 50 per cent discount on the form for youths and women between 25 years and 35 years of age with verifiable birth certificates or evidence of age declaration.

    Also, PWD aspirants would only pay for the cost of intent form, while the nomination form would be obtained for free.

    “The intent form for Presidential aspirants is N5,000,000, while the nomination form is N10,000,000.

    “The form is sold for N2,000,000 and N4,000,000 for the party’s Governorship aspirants; and for Senatorial aspirants, it is N1,000,000 and N2,000,000 respectively.

    “The House of Representatives go for N500,000 and N1,000,000, while State Houses of Assembly form is N100,000 and N400,000 respectively.

    “All payments are to be made at the party’s national headquarters in Abuja and no refunds of money after payments.

    “Last day for the sales of both intents and nomination forms is May 15, while the last day for the submission of all completed forms is May 16,” he said.

    He said that the mode for the conduct of the party’s primaries would be made known in due course.

    He, however, said a special national convention would be held on June 3, for the presidential primaries when all qualified candidates would be issued certificates of return.

    He said that the criterion for accreditation of delegates for all the party primaries and the national convention was via presentation of a valid party membership card.

    “The screening of state Houses of Assembly aspirants would be on May 17, and appeals made same day at the party’s national headquarters.

    “Screening for National Assembly aspirants to hold May 18, and appeal to hold same day, while screening for all governorship and presidential aspirants would hold on May 19 at the party’s headquarters.

    “The list of all successfully screened and qualified candidates with other accompanying documents would be submitted to the Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC) on May 30, as required,” he said.

    Udeze said that state Houses of Assembly primaries would hold across the country at the states’ constituencies’ headquarters on May 28.

    He said primaries for the National Assembly would hold May 29, and May 30, at the house of representative federal constituencies and senatorial district headquarters.

    He added that the governorship primaries would be held nationwide on May 31, at the states’ capitals.

    He said that the party’s National Think Tank Committee (NTTC) would converge to confirm the lists of all party candidates and make final submission to INEC on June 2.

    According to him, only the party’s presidential primaries will hold on June 3, at the national convention.

  • Mother’s Day: Cleric enjoins women to embrace politics

    Mother’s Day: Cleric enjoins women to embrace politics

    Apostle Francis Eke of the Vineyard of God’s Ministry has enjoined women to embrace politics to complement the menfolk and right the wrongs of politicians.

    Eke, who made the call during the Mother’s day celebration on Sunday in Abuja, said that mothers’ involvement in politics would transform society.

    The clergy said that motherhood was an awesome blessing that should be reflected in society through leadership.

    He said that women should start taking up leadership roles from the church and other smaller units.

    He said their roles should be aimed at being in politics because mothers in politics could bridge the gaps in society.

    “The greatest preaching for humanity is our lifestyle, being positive influencers in the society.”

    Eke said that women should be seen as virtuous in their lifestyles, adding that because such would be reflected in the society thus making it a better place.

    He said that whatever leadership role women undertook should be seen as service and they should be seen making the best of the position.

    Eke further thanked God for giving women another opportunity to celebrate Mother’s Day.

  • Women at war: Gender equality bills to the rescue – By Dakuku Peterside

    Women at war: Gender equality bills to the rescue – By Dakuku Peterside

    By Dakuku Peterside

    Within the last three weeks, three significant events happened. First, during the constitution amendment, the National Assembly rejected five gender bills, and as expected, our womenfolk were enraged. The world celebrated women’s day, and this year the campaign theme was “Breaking the Bias”. Nigerian women from all backgrounds and social strata mobilised in their numbers to protest at the National Assembly in what they considered the mother of all protest, which signposts the new dawn for women. What is the significance of these events? Beyond the rhetoric of affirmation and striving for gender equality, what must Nigerian women do to confront the hydra-headed problem of the girl child and women in our society? Post gender bills, what real issues stop women from realising their full potential in Nigeria? These questions call for introspection and reflection on the urgency of social change in gender relations.

    These recent events and related responses demonstrate the acute sensitivity and sheer determination Nigeria women have about issues of gender inequalities. Their actions are galvanising a critical mass of voices clamouring for a change to the status quo, and the ring of these voices are reaching a crescendo in advocating for women empowerment and simply asking for our Nigerian women to enjoy just a few of the privileges Nigerian men have that seem ‘commonsensical’ and normal.

    I must unequivocally state that I stand with these women in their struggle for fairness and equity. I salute their resolute stand in fighting for what is right. I believe that a nation that neglects or sidesteps 50% of its population and workforce simply because of path dependency on patriarchy is a nation doomed to fail. Improving and harnessing the talents and gifts in our women is a no brainer, and it baffles most people that any institution will be insensitive or undermine this, much more an institution representing this 50% population in the national assembly.

    The five gender bills rejected at the National Assembly will not bring gender equality. But they are the first and foundational steps in the climb to gender equality. These bills request women to have a minor stake in areas historically dominated by men.

    These five bills include: first, a bill to create additional seats for women to increase women’s representation in the National Assembly – this bill will lead to a significant increase in the number of women in the Parliament, which currently stands at 5 per cent; second, a bill to enable Nigerian women to transfer citizenship to foreign husbands, a right that every Nigerian man married to a foreign spouse enjoys; third, a bill to ensure affirmative action of at least 35 per cent in political party administration and appointive positions across federal and state levels; fourth, a bill to provide a minimum of 20 per cent of ministerial or commissioner nominees are women; fifth, a Bill to allow a woman to become an indigene of her husband’s state after five years of marriage. The National Assembly rejected all these bills, and womenfolk primarily saw it as a marker of insistence on the old order.

    The broader significance of the rejection of these bills is that the progress of Nigerian women in the quest for a more egalitarian society seems to be momentarily truncated. All the proposed constitutional amendments were meant to end bias against women and ensure the minimisation, if not total removal, of barriers millions of women faces based on their gender. These rejections speak volumes as to the mindset of most people, especially men in power and male-dominated institutions. As products of patriarchy, the National assembly reified the dominant ideology prevalent in our society, which is sympathetic to the plight of our women but fights hard to stop any change to the status quo. This ideology is seen in culture, religion, and politics.

    Suffice to say that this is not a typical Nigerian problem andseem global. Still, most societies, especially developed ones, have made progress in improving the opportunities available to women and the quality and impact of women in their society. These societies are tackling these dominant masculine ideologies at the basic levels of family, community, and religion by creating an ecosystem to normalise gender equality.

    Any struggle for gender equity that neglects the battle for the minds and hearts of people and advocacy to make people understand the importance of gender equality at the micro-levels of society will not succeed. Little wonder many of the representatives, although paying lips service to the issues of gender equality, refused to vote for it in the constitutional amendment voting in the hallowed chambers. The bills succumbed to the intricate politics, intrigues, and horse-trading peculiar to the national assembly. The high-powered advocacy given to this bill by the wives of the president, vice president and all the governors in Nigeria is not enough to get both houses to pass some of the bills.

    This rejection was more poignant because it happened when women worldwide celebrated “International Women’s Day” with the theme “Gender equality today for a sustainable tomorrow”. This celebration is at the core of putting women and their issues at the heart of global politics and governance and the emerging global socio-political and socio-economic milieu.

    Women worldwide watched to see how the Nigerian Parliament would vote on those issues and give them something to celebrate this year. They were utterly disappointed. Little wonder our women took to the street and marched to end oppressive tendencies against them. Women in their numbers marched to the National Assembly to register their disgust at the parliamentarians’ actions that failed to pass the five gender bills.

    The protest acknowledges that in most countries, even in advanced democracies, better women representation came out of protracted legislative and civil rights actions. A price must be paid for change, irrespective of its low or high cost. Freedom is not free, and our women have shown they are ready to get dirty to win their freedom.

    These women are following in the footsteps of great women of yesteryears that marched against the colonial masters and specifically against their tax policies that resulted in the now-famous Aba Women’s Riot of 1929. Just like other famous women advocates of the past – such as Chief Olufunmilayo Ransome Kuti, Hajia Gambo Sawaba, and Chief Margaret Ekpo – these doyens of democracy and gender equality crusaders are pushing hard to get the National Assembly to have a second look at the bills and reconsider their stance. Fortunately, The House of Representatives will be voting again on three gender bills – citizenship, indigeneship and 35% affirmative action in party administration. This step is crucial because it will give the bills a second chance and might upend consideration for change in the status quo.

    The realities of women’s political participation are staggering. Although statistics show that more women vote than men in our general elections, they are dangerously less represented in our government. The Nigerian Senate has only eight female senators out of 109; only 13 female houses of representative’s members out of 360, and 44 out of 991 state legislators are females. There are 15 State houses of assembly out of 36 with no women as legislators and no female governors. These disturbing statistics show a deep-rooted bias against women holding leadership positions, and if we do not take urgent steps now, these numbers will continue to slide from bad to worse.

    Beyond the gender bills, we need to do more to uplift girls and women in our society. A panoply of issues bedevils women’s progress in our society that men and women face but have the most devastating effect on women. These issues include the persistent and increasing burden of poverty on women, the inequalities, inadequacies and unequal access to education and training for women, and unequal access to health care and related services. Women also face violence against them, adverse effects of armed and non-armed conflict on women, especially with the emergence of Boko haram, banditry, and its likes. Prevalent inequality in economic structures and policies in all forms of productive activities and access to resources. Women are victims of inequality in power relations and decision-making, at all levels; insufficient mechanisms, at all levels, to promote the advancement of women; a lack of respect for, and inadequate promotion and protection of, the human rights of women; stereotyping of women amongst others.

    Advocating for higher representation of women in elective and appointive offices is critical. And it may potentially be attained through some form of legislative intervention, as seen in other parts of the world. However, a change in attitude amongst and towards women and massive education of the girl child will help advance the agitation of women to be considered equal within their homes and in Nigerian society.

    Educating our children from an early age about issues and the importance of gender equality, changing our attitude towards the girl child, and massive education of the girl child is viable, necessary steps towards addressing gender inequality. Representation is only one step and cannot be done in isolation of other essential steps.

    The issue of uplifting women in our society is for the benefit of all. Highly productive and engaged women in our society will add to our country’s development and unleash great development strides. Women are our mothers, wives, daughters, and sisters, and they deserve better than the men in Nigeria allow them to get. They need to be freed from the encumbrances of gender discrimination and inequalities, and the government must be leading this significant change in society. It is the task of everyone in our society to change the age-long practices and dogmas that have held women’s emancipation hostage for a long time.

    I will recommend that more sensitisation programmes and advocacy projects be carried out on this issue to get the buy-in of most people in the country. Also, in my experience of passing laws in Nigeria, I understand that lobbying for votes requires articulation, resources, and time to be successful. Our women need to mobilise and pressure the system for their rights per their demographic dominance. Rights are often secured, not handed on a platter. It is a fact that some men will not hand over male privileges simply because of little agitations and niceties from women. More work is required to bring about a complete change in attitude, orientation and actions that are anti-women in our society.

  • 1999 constitution review: Are Lawmakers taking women and kings for granted? – By Magnus Onyibe

    1999 constitution review: Are Lawmakers taking women and kings for granted? – By Magnus Onyibe

    By Magnus Onyibe

    The House of Representatives, also known as the green chambers of the National Assembly, NASS has reportedly reversed itself by electing to bring back for review, the three bills concerning women’s rights which it had jettisoned during its debate on the new laws to be introduced into the 1999 constitution of the Federal Republic of Nigeria on Tuesday, March 1, 2022.

    This followed a powerful resistance put up by the womenfolk who were ready to occupy NASS until their demand to be allotted 35% of political appointments; allow their husbands who are not Nigerians to attain citizenship of Nigeria automatically, and also allow them to be indigenes of the homesteads of their Nigerian husbands after five years of marriage.

    Tuesday, March 8 – a United Nations, UN-declared International Women’s Day was particularly an auspicious occasion for the women to flex their muscle, and given that NASS by its promise to bring their matter back for review has capitulated, it would appear as if the doggedness of our mothers, sisters, wives, and daughters has paid off.

    Before then, First Lady Aisha Buhari had stormed the hallowed chambers of NASS, while in session with a bevy of ladies of timber and caliber on the day that the bills were going to be debated. That was perhaps done with a view to wiping the lawmakers into line.

    And it could have been in the manner that Mr Fix-It, chief Tony Annenih of blessed memory used to do whenever then ruling party, PDP wanted its rules enforced by the legislators.

    On the heels of the visit of the First Lady, Aisha, to NASS chambers, second lady, (for lack of better nomenclature) Dolapo Osinbajo-wife of Vice President Yemi Osinbajo, embarked on a similar voyage to NASS for the same purpose.

    But the 469 strong members of NASS comprising only 29 women were not intimidated by the August visitors — First Lady and subsequently, the second lady. As such, they did not bulge.

    Thankfully, the NASS did not wait for the womenfolk to deploy the other tools of coercion available to them, which includes being the boss in the ‘other room’ which President Buhari, once told the world in faraway Germany, that Aisha, his amiable and fire spiting wife, belongs. By the way, I would be happy to vote for Aisha as the next president and first female commander-in-chief of Nigerian armed forces, or at the worse, as a senator of the federal republic of Nigeria.

    And l am not being glib with this proposition.

    That is because, in the light of the confusion about the choice of a presidential candidate by both the ruling APC and main opposition party, PDP, it may be expedient to fall back on the womenfolk as the last resort.

    And one lady that has proved that she has the spunk by taking on the powerful Aso Rock mafia with the mindset that a woman’s place is only in the kitchen, is Aisha Buhari.
    Of course ,Mrs Buhari is just a metaphor for women in Nigeria , of which anyone of them is capable of being the president of our country if given the opportunity.

    According to statistics from the Nigeria Bureau of Statistics, NBS, women constitute about 50% of the population of Nigeria. And they are the dominant participants as voters and mobilizers of other voters in the political space.

    Arising from the above, if women band together, and also leverage their female ‘asset’, (I mean prowess) to woo or if you like to seduce men like Delilah did to Samson by extracting from him (the man ordained by God to free Israelites from their bondage in the land of Egypt as narrated in the Holy Bible) the secret of his power, they would be the no 1 in the pecking order in Aso Rock villa. What this means is that we may soon have a first gentleman, instead of First Lady in Aso Rock villa.

    And that is not all the feminine wiles that women can activate to get men to align with them.

    How can we forget how Eve convinced Adam in the Garden of Eden, (where the first man was created by God) against his wish to eat the forbidden apple offered by his wife ,Eve which made him fall out of favor with God, as also recorded in the Holy Bible?

    On account of the foregoing, I have no doubt that women may have their way in making a member of their gender, become the next president of Nigeria in 2023 by manipulating the menfolk who are susceptible and vulnerable to being maneuvered simply because we are actually the weaker sex, not women as we have been led to believe by our mothers.

    After all, in 2016, in the almighty, United States of America, USA, Hilary Rodham Clinton, missed becoming the president of that great country by whiskers. And Kamala Harris, the incumbent Vice President of the USA, a black woman who is the first to attain such height in the USA political hierarchy is only a step away from becoming the president of the USA-the undisputed leader of the world.

    Actually, she has acted in that capacity when President Joe Biden had to undergo a minor surgery during which he was put under anesthesia.

    Who Runs The World?

    That is the rhetorical question once posed by the iconic pop singer, Beyoncé Knowles in her hit song by that title.

    Perhaps, until the women of Nigeria assert themselves more in the manner that they have recently done as catalogued above, Nigerian men may not know that it is women that truly run the world.

    Probably, when the reality dawns on the menfolk, they would realize that they have to cut women some slack in the political leadership of our country, as they are demanding so that we can all have a happy ending.

    Keeping in mind the foregoing, why does the ruling party at the center seem to be taking women for granted by ignoring their plea to recognize them as partners in the leadership of our country, until they served their recent notice to NASS about their impending rebellion which jolted the lawmakers out of their revelry and underestimation of the strength of a woman?

    A website farandwide.com reckons that women’s ascendancy in the scheme of political affairs in the USA has been significant.

    Here is how the message was couched:

    “When it comes to gender equality, we are living in a historic age. Women make up nearly a quarter of the United States Congress, more than at any other point in history, and representation is steadily increasing in statewide offices across the nation”

    The website also reported that there are at least five(5) countries in the world where women are in charge and leading successfully.

    These are (1) Taiwan where Thai lng-Wen is the prime minister (2) New Zealand with Jacinda Arden and (3) Bangladesh having Sheik Hashina Wazed.
    There is also (4)Iceland having Katrin Jakobsdottir as leader of the country and (5) Carrie Lam as the Chief Executive of Hong Kong.

    Of course, the list does not include Angela Merkel, that just concluded her tour of duty as the Chancellor of Germany a couple of months ago and Theresa may who also recently exited her position as prime minister of the United Kingdom where Queen Elizabeth II is also the monarch. How can we forget the immediate past President of Liberia our sister country, Ellen Johnson Sirleaf?

    Another critical component in our society that the National Assembly, NASS, and by extension the ruling party, APC that controls the majority of the legislators and governors seem to be taking for granted is the institution of traditional rulers-kings and queens.

    Their desire to be given a more active role to play in the leadership of our country in the reviewed constitution was also thwarted by lawmakers who trashed their request.

    Given that the council of traditional rulers once played strategic roles in government during the first republic, their quest is valid.

    In fact, ahead of local governments, traditional rulers are closer to the grassroots. By the very nature of our cultural system, before the advent of the so-called Western civilization that destroyed our very efficacious traditional governance system and supplanted it with Western democracy that got literally forced down our throats by the colonialists, our society was governed effectively and efficiently by applying African cultural ethos and mores. As there is not enough time to elucidate on that , it is useful that we for instance, remind ourselves of our glorious past by highlighting the virtues in one of the notable traditional governance systems, the Ekpo masquerade culture of the Efik that abound around Calabar, etc in south-south Nigeria. In that regard ,our lawmakers must dig deep into how our forbears managed our societies such that the Portuguese who first came here were amazed that ancient Benin kingdom had street lights powered with palm oil.
    Members of NASS must therefore awaken their senses to recognize the value and strength intrinsic in our traditional institutions which need to be harnessed.

    Is it not being alleged in some quarters that our public office holders are always clannish by first being loyal to God, then beholden to their traditional rulers before the government to which they swore allegiance when they took their oath of office? Although the practice is more prevalent amongst our northern brothers and sisters, it is an existential reality nationwide.
    Why are our kings and queens not being given the opportunity to share their leadership wisdom via recognition for more strategic role in the constitution?

    The point being made here is that instead of swallowing Western administrative cultures and values hook-line-and-sinker, we are supposed to think out of the box by picking from the foreign systems, only what can work for us and graft them on what has been working for us, pre Western civilization.

    That is the strategy adopted by the Chinese hence they have been able to mesmerize the Western world and the reason they have risen from the bottom of development rung where they were located about four decades ago to being second only to the USA in terms of technology, wealth and influence globally .

    Like the womenfolk, perhaps our traditional rulers -kings and queens need to threaten to strip all public office holders, particularly politicians in the National and state assemblies , of their chieftaincy titles, so that they would, as we say it in local parlance — know who owns papa’s land.

    As we are all well aware, the demagogues covet their traditional titles which they proudly wear on their sleeves more than their academic titles.

    Not a few politicians who are bereft of academic or professional laurels (and are unable to acquire honorary doctoral degrees) make up for the inadequacy with traditional titles which they can procure for a price.
    Even those that have professional and academic laurels enhance them by enjoying being referred to as chief (Doctor) or chief (Professor ) and even chief (Barrister ) XYZ.

    That basically suggests that politicians prize chieftaincy titles highly. That being the case, how dare NASS try to cancel out such caliber of Nigerians without suffering the consequences?

    Should the traditional rulers in Nigeria decide to shun their ethnoreligious differences and band together as the female folks did by pulling their weight against NASS for taking them for granted, they would not only have their say, they would also have their way, otherwise they would vent their spleen.

    If that happens, the consequences on the lawmakers at the polls would be dire.

    As we say (in our neck of the country) to people who offend us without thinking first about our common root and consequences, ‘l will wait for you at the junction’.

    That simply implies that the fight has been put forward and it would be fought locally at home.

    As the conventional wisdom goes: a word is enough for the wise.

    So l will say no more.

    On a more serious note, (not that the case of taking women and traditional rulers for granted is not equally serious ) but frankly, it boggles the mind why the interests of such critical stakeholders in the electioneering process are being overlooked by politicians.

    If after this treatise, our lawmakers do not ‘wise-up’ and do the needful to borrow the lingo of our youths, their likely calamity would not be blamed on ignorance as it would be self-inflicted and at best, own goal.

     

    Magnus Onyibe, an entrepreneur, public policy analyst, author, development strategist, alumnus of Fletcher School of Law and Diplomacy, Tufts University, Massachusetts, USA, and a former commissioner in Delta State government, sent this piece from Lagos.

  • We’ll give equal opportunity to women in Kaduna-  El-Rufai

    We’ll give equal opportunity to women in Kaduna- El-Rufai

    Kaduna State Governor, Nasir El-Rufai, has said his led government would continue to give equal opportunity to women, saying that it had key women commissioners.

     

    The governor said he is hopeful of the possibility of a woman emerging as the Executive Governor of the state considering their numerical strength.

     

    Fielding questions from journalists in Kaduduna on Tuesday, he said there was a ‘50 percent’ chance of a woman emerging the next governor because women accounted for half the population of the state.

    The governor, whose deputy is a female, Dr Hadiza Balarabe, said the state government would continue to give equal opportunity to women, noting that it had key women commissioners.

    He said, “You cannot ignore half of your population; it’s like clapping with one hand; 50 percent of our women and young people make up the state.

    “We always feel that giving women the same opportunities will make them perform well, even better than men.

    “We have tried to identify competent women and give them an opportunity to show they can do better, and they have not failed us; they are giving us their contributions in Kaduna State.

    “We think the rest of the country should take note and give more women and young people the opportunity because that is what will move the country forward.

    “I might have my preferences but my wish always is for the people of Kaduna to join me in praying that we get a successor who will take the state to the next level.”

  • [UPDATED] Constitution Amendment: Finally, Reps rescind decision on gender bills

    [UPDATED] Constitution Amendment: Finally, Reps rescind decision on gender bills

    The House of Representatives on Tuesday backtracked after women groups vowed not to vacate National Assembly Complex until they get their bills initially ‘killed’ by both legislative Chambers last week rescinded.

    TheNewsGuru.com, (TNG) reports the House rescinded its earlier decisions on the three women’s bills due to their persistence.

    TNG recalls various women groups immediately their gender bills were killed made NASS their second homes to ensure Federal lawmakers give the bills a reconsideration.

    The move came after the House resume plenary few minutes it held an executive session.

    According to the presiding officer of the day Speaker Femi Gbajabiamila, once we rescind these three clauses and we take them again in the next few weeks, If we still at that point have a difference with the senate we’ll go for harmonisation.

    “Harmonisation might not be the practice when it comes to constitution amendment because I’ve heard this thing argued here and there but the constitution under section five allows the House to regulate its own procedure.

    “And we’ll be relying on the provision of the constitution to harmonize the differences between us and the Senate. Hopefully, this will go through”, he said.

    “In line with this, the Speaker called for voice vote on its decision and the majority of the House supported it.

    TNG recalls that last week Tuesday, the House while considering the 68 clauses submitted by the House Special Adhoc committee on the Review of the 1999 constitution failed to have 2/3 of the votes on these three bills relating to how to ensure inclusiveness of women in governance.