If your guy talks dirty with ease (and even if you feel totally awkward), you may have a leg up. When it comes to sounding sultry, women can easily sex-up the sound of their voice, while men simply cannot.
In fact, guys might actually seem less attractive when they try to sound sexy.
But when you do know what to say? The erotic payoff is huge. That’s why we’ve gathered a few basic guidelines to help you tap into your inner dirty girl, so prepare to arouse him like never before with your mouth.
See 5 amazing ‘Dos’ below…
- Find out what word triggers him
Chances are your guy has a specific term for his penis—as well as for sexual acts, like intercourse and oral—that turn him on the most. Start by sending dirty text messages back and forth.
This is a great way to figure out what words he likes.” Your line: “I can’t wait to see you tonight. Tell me all the places you want me to touch you.” He’ll use the words he finds most erotic, helping you create your bedroom vocab.
- Bring up-to-date on your arousal
“I’m so wet right now.” “I’m about to come.” “You feel incredible inside me.” These moment-by-moment updates help you tune into your own arousal—an often-difficult task for us—while giving him an erotic earful.
“When you speak about what’s happening in your own body, you’re bringing awareness to it. “On top of that, you’re arousing him even more, because he’s thinking, ‘Yes! I’m turning her on.’ That makes him feel more confident.” We call that a win-win.
- Stick with what works for you
The hottest words are the ones that get you in the zone, even if they’re comparatively tame. “If you’re not being authentic or you aren’t comfortable, he will feel that”.
And you don’t have to use a deep, throaty voice. “Your tone can be funny and joking. It can be cute or teasing, innocent, or absolutely naughty.” If you feel you’re best giving presentations at work, for example, a powerful bedroom vibe may be your go-to; if you love laughing with your friends, a fun approach may be better.
- Master the art of one-word dirty talk
Trying to string together a full, filthy sentence can actually compress your desire since you’re inside your head. Other sexy words that can stand alone: “faster,” “harder,” and “more.” One-word directives let him know he’s doing a great job.
They’re the verbal equivalent of a moan.
- Outline his qualities that excite you
Talking about specific sexual acts can be uber-intimidating. “It’s oftentimes easier to talk about attributes or objects—how sexy a piece of underwear is, or that you really like his beard growth. So start with descriptive statements of what turns you on about him. Most people like to be complimented. Plus, it’s almost impossible to flop when you’re telling him how much his body excites you.
